cover of episode 212. "He's terrified of losing it all—so she's losing him"

212. "He's terrified of losing it all—so she's losing him"

2025/6/10
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George
广播和播客主持，专注于财务教育和咨询。
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Vanessa
通过分享她的故事，Vanessa 为那些遭受家庭暴力和虐待的人提供了支持和鼓励。
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Vanessa: 我感到George在财务上对我不信任，这让我感到孤立和焦虑。我理解他在过去婚姻中遭受的财务损失，但这不应该成为我们之间建立信任的阻碍。我希望我们能够共同面对财务挑战，而不是让我独自承担。我需要他能够坦诚地表达他对金钱的恐惧和担忧，而不是沉默不语，让我独自猜测他的想法。我渴望我们能够像在生意上一样，在个人财务上也能成为一个团队，共同规划我们的未来。 George: 我承认我对金钱存在恐惧和不安全感，这源于我过去的经历。我害怕失去一切，害怕无法保障我和Vanessa的未来。我意识到我的恐惧影响了我的决策，导致我在财务问题上回避和退缩。我需要改变这种状况，学会信任Vanessa，与她共同面对财务挑战。我愿意努力克服我的恐惧，与Vanessa建立更加开放和诚实的沟通，共同规划我们的财务未来。我希望能够像在生意上一样，在个人财务上也能与Vanessa建立紧密的合作关系，共同实现我们的财务目标。

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Vanessa and George, married for five years and co-owning two businesses, maintain separate finances, causing tension and instability. Their contrasting approaches to money—Vanessa's risk tolerance versus George's risk aversion—create conflict. The episode explores their communication patterns and the underlying fears driving their financial decisions.
  • Separate personal finances despite shared businesses
  • Significant debt ($482K) and low savings ($28K)
  • Vanessa's risk-tolerant approach vs. George's risk aversion
  • Communication breakdown and avoidance patterns

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Vanessa (48) and George (59) have been married for five years and run two businesses together, but still keep their finances separate, leading to recurring tension, resentment, and financial instability.

Vanessa is a risk-tolerant entrepreneur who sees money as a tool for growth. George is nearing retirement, risk-averse, and clings to financial security. They split everything 50/50, even when Vanessa stopped drawing a paycheck from their business. Now, with $482K in debt and $28K in savings, George’s retirement is looming, making their financial foundation feel unstable. His fear-based money spirals derail productive conversations, while Vanessa feels alone, unsupported, and afraid their misalignment could threaten their future.

Can they learn to trust each other, merge their financial lives, and build a shared vision before retirement kicks in?

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