Grace Dent believes that comfort food is deeply personal and saturated in memories because it often reminds us of specific times, people, and emotions from our past. Foods we eat in private, like secret snacks and naughty nibbles, are tied to our childhood experiences and the people we love, making them a form of emotional connection and nostalgia.
Grace Dent suggests sending food instead of flowers when someone is grieving because food is practical and can be consumed, unlike flowers which need water and a vase. Food, especially comforting and familiar dishes, can provide a sense of solace and normalcy during difficult times.
Grace Dent thinks that butter is important in comfort food because it is hardwired into our enjoyment of food. Butter adds richness and flavor, making dishes more comforting and satisfying. She notes that restaurants often use a lot of butter to make food taste better, and it's a key ingredient in many of the foods that bring us joy and comfort.
Grace Dent's mother and her generation had a complex relationship with butter and margarine because they grew up in an era where butter was often off and margarine was promoted as a healthy alternative. By the time they had more spending power, margarine was marketed as lasting longer and being better for health, which influenced their dietary choices and led to a deep-seated belief that butter was wrong.
Grace Dent believes it's important to eat things that bring joy, even if they are not the healthiest, because our psychological well-being is a crucial part of our overall health. She emphasizes that being happy and living fully, rather than just focusing on longevity, is essential. These foods are often tied to positive memories and can provide comfort during tough times.
Grace Dent shares a story about her father's care home menu to highlight how the elderly, especially those in care, often enjoy simple, comforting foods. The menu at the care home included items like sponge pudding with pink custard and gypsy creams, which provided a sense of living and comfort rather than a focus on strict, unenjoyable diets. This reflects her belief that comfort food is essential for emotional well-being at all stages of life.
Grace Dent feels a connection to tinned pasta because it reminds her of her childhood holidays and the simplicity of meals shared with her family. Tinned pasta was a staple during her family's static caravan trips, and it evokes memories of togetherness, laughter, and emotional bonds. She sees it as a constant that helps her remember and relive those special moments.
Food critics often prefer to eat with each other rather than review the same restaurant at the same time because they enjoy the company and the gossip. Despite their often irascible and ego-driven personalities, they are good fun to be around. Eating together allows them to share stories and experiences in a more relaxed setting, which they find enjoyable and bonding.
The 'Sex on the Beach' dessert at the expensive tasting menu was unsettling for Grace Dent because it was a sugar-replicated used condom, which she found to be a violation and a betrayal. Despite her willingness to try unusual and experimental dishes, this particular dessert crossed a line by being both gross and insensitively presented, especially since it was offered as an add-on for charity.
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The deep connections between food, memory, love and life.
The foods we turn to behind closed doors are deeply personal, saturated in memories and topped with a healthy dollop of guilty pleasure. In Comfort Eating, Grace Dent throws open her kitchen cupboards to reveal why we hold these secret snacks, naughty nibbles and hand-me-down recipes so dear to our hearts. We were joined by the author, critic and broadcaster – and one of our best loved writers on food – live at Union Chapel in October 2024 to discuss the deep connections between food, memory, love and life.
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