Femdom Session Protocol
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Hello, my pets, and welcome into the dungeon, the podcast for submissives to learn, grow, and ultimately find empowerment through their submission and submissive lifestyle. I'm your host, Kat Nash, the Music City Dominatrix, and today we're going to be talking all about session protocol.

Now, I've talked about how each dominatrix and each sub, just like every woman and every man, every person is different and has their personal style, likes, dislikes. And this is going to vary somewhat wildly when it comes to dominatrixes and professional dominatrixes. So I'm going to address this session like you are coming to me.

as a submissive, and I'm going to base this all on my expectations and protocol. A lot of this is going to be basic shit that all dominatrixes are going to expect from you as well. And there are some things that I will give my personal preference and desire for, but it's, it's going to be slightly different with other dominatrixes. So session, first off, when you contact me,

And in our communication beforehand, which there should be communication, the sessions end up better if there's communication beforehand. I can feel you out. I can see what your likes and dislikes are. And I will be able to build a session that works for both of us based on that.

So I'm going to find out what sort of kinks you are into and if they vibe with me in the first place, because I will gently guide you to another dominatrix if I know that that's not going to work for me or that's not my thing.

I perhaps know someone else who can help you out with that. A lot of times I can give other recommendations for other dominatrixes that I know. For example, if you're into needles, blood play, sounding, stuff like that. Those are things that I don't do, but I do know some dominatrixes who that is their specialty. So don't take it personally, but we have to vibe first off.

So when you begin to address me in communication, I feel like you should always come from a place of submission and respect and find out what I want to be called. Ms. Cat, Mistress, or Goddess are my preferences. Each dominatrix will have something slightly different to their own taste.

So I expect during our communication, if it's like Snapchat chats or text messages, which I don't really do text messages, but if it's some sort of short conversation like that, there doesn't need to be the names beforehand or the like closing up your name or what you go by. But if it's an email or a DM, that's a longer form of communication. I appreciate the respect of using the chat.

Ms. Cat or Mistress or Goddess. And it just keeps the communication and the whole relationship in a nicely sort of encapsulated bubble of what the relationship is so that no one forgets it. And so there will never be a place of disrespect within it. Like you understand that you are a client coming to me as a professional dominatrix. And as such, you should address me that way.

So figuring out what your dominatrix wants to be called is number one, and then communication can go from there. You guys discuss what it is that you are interested in, wish to explore, or wish to experience. Now, I don't want this to be confused for topping from the bottom. Topping

Topping from the bottom in the kink world is when you are essentially telling your top exactly what you want them to do and exactly the experiences. Now they are somewhat similar in that me as your dominatrix needs to know you, your comfort levels, your interests, and I can build a session that works for both of us based on that. I will not be told what to do.

Okay, so that there's a difference. I will not be topped from the bottom. I do want to know your interests. I do need to know what your limits, your boundaries, both physically and mentally are to be able to build a safe relationship.

and pleasant experience for both of us. So I am going to need to know all that shit. Please learn how to fucking communicate. Don't come at me, say, oh, I'm new to the kink world. I want to try everything. And then you get in a session and you freak the fuck out. I've never had someone freak the fuck out in a session, but I do think that I have had a client or two go home afterwards and be like, holy shit.

And those sessions were not outrageous sessions. But this person, these people, if you can't communicate, then you don't know what you're getting. You need to you need to fucking communicate. Let's just leave it at that. Please fucking communicate what your interests are and your experience. And I can build something that works for both of us based on that. So

communication babies you have to learn to communicate and if you don't know let's just say you're a light bottom okay don't say you're a heavy bottom don't say i can take a lot of pain when you're a man and to be truthful most men cannot take a lot of pain just putting that out there it is the truth

So make sure that you know what your interests are and what you're interested in doing in the session. So communication beforehand is important. So then when we actually show up together for the session,

When you come to the door, oh yeah, beforehand, groom, groom, groom, groom, groom, groom, groom. Let's fucking scrub your balls. Like, scrub them four times. Wash, rinse, repeat, wash, rinse, repeat. Please, for the love of God, get under those suckers, okay? I'm not getting all in there, but from a perspective of somebody who has had many lovers before, y'all think that you're clean and you are not, okay? So scrub a fucking dub, babies. Scrub clean.

Everything. Some dominatrixes will want you to shave.

Um, and you know, this is also this is talking about vibing, you got to be able to vibe with them. And if if she wants you to shave your face clean, and you're like, No, I'm Grizzly Adams, let me be Grizzly Adams, you guys are gonna vibe. That's cool. Find another one. It's nothing personal. It's just personal preferences. It's not like personal against you. So for like my if I do mommy son sessions, I prefer clean shaven. It's I've done it that

that they weren't or at feminization sessions. I prefer if they don't have a big manly beard, but you know, if you love your beard, then cool. Keep your beard. It's fine. But check out what the grooming preference for your dominatrix is, but bare minimum scrub,

everything, wear your fucking deodorant. Do not just pile on the cologne to be overpowering. Literally scrub the hell out of your body everywhere. Wear deodorant. If you are going to a pegging session with a dominatrix, like I said, I don't do that. Some do. It's totally fine. I suggest having an enema like three, two to three hours before. Sorry, I got hair in my eye. Two to three hours beforehand. Do not eat spicy food the day before.

Have some foresight. Have some forethought. Okay? Think beforehand. Think what is about to happen and prepare accordingly. Okay, babies? Let's do this. Let's... Come on. Groom. Have some thought beforehand. Fucking brush your teeth. Rinse them. Brush them again. Just... You don't want to be bad smelling. It can... I mean, we'll still session, but it makes a big difference. Okay? So just groom.

Some dominatrixes will want you to wear like panties under your session or pantyhose or perhaps some form of loincloth. I particularly like that idea. But you know, whenever maybe she'll just be like, I don't give a fuck what you wear. You're going to get naked. I'm going to beat your ass. Anyway, I don't care what you're wearing. It's coming off immediately, which is where we get to the next step. When you show up for a session, I will typically have you get on your knees and

And kiss my feet. I'm not a foot person per se, but it is a sign of subservience. You kiss my feet. Kiss at once. Thank you for allowing me to serve you. Kiss him again. I generally will have a crop there and I will tap.

the part on my leg or on my feet that I want you to kiss. And every single time you say, thank you for allowing me to serve you, kiss. Thank you for allowing me to serve you, kiss. Thank you for allowing me to serve you, kiss. And what this does is it gets it in your head, this mindset is you are here to serve me. You are here to be my pet, my plaything, my fucking submissive. You are on your knees in this position. So it starts the session out.

really well, in my opinion. So then a lot of times I will have you get naked, blindfold, maybe not blindfold, handcuff, maybe not handcuff, but you're going to be standing there for a little bit naked while I check out your body. And then from there, the session, if it's impact, I'll generally like to tie you up

handcuffs, either from chains in the ceiling, a St. Andrew's cross, generally won't go directly into a spanking bench or anything like that. But you will be restrained in some way unless you actually have an issue with that. That's totally cool too. Something that should be discussed beforehand. And then we'll begin the session.

And safe words are essential as well. And if you don't have a safe word like pineapple upside down cake or turnip greens or grandma's panties, whatever the fuck, I suggest that you use the typical ones used in the kink world, which is yellow or red, just like stoplights and stop signs. Yellow is slow down. If someone says yellow to me, we're definitely taking applause.

I'm going to check in with him, which I'm constantly doing anyway as a great dominatrix, checking in energetically, monitoring breath, monitoring just everything. But if you say, yellow, we're going to take a pause. We're going to take a breather until you want to continue and I'll go lighter. Do you need just a breath to chill? Or sometimes I will take it upon myself to be like, all right, we're done with that for now. We're stopping that for now. Maybe there's a slight snuggle in order, but

If you say red, we're stopping. I'm probably going to be like hugging up on you and making sure that you're okay and telling you how fucking awesome you did. You did wonderful. That was so good. Checking in to make sure that you're okay. I have had clients that their goal is to get to red. So that is what they are seeking in a session. They are seeking to find their limits and

and cross those fucking limits and thresholds to get to the point where they cannot fucking stand it anymore. And I find that hot.

I personally find that fucking hot. I like it. But that's not for everyone. And I like it that you know your limits, period. It's hot to know your limits, your boundaries and your thresholds. That's fucking sexy. And what makes it super sexy is the communication that goes with it. So communicate, communicate, communicate.

So that's kind of what a session looks like. And afterwards, if you require aftercare or not, that's totally up to you. It's something that should be discussed beforehand as well. And you might change your mind. But I feel like definitely drink lots of water after the session because it really does help

um sort of like jog loose stuck emotions and feelings and physicalities in your body that you probably don't even think about or recognize but it does and drinking water helps you usually even if you're just bent over taking spankings you are sweating you know it is a workout taking it so

Drink lots of water, eat healthy foods, take care of yourself, nurture yourself. Sometimes there needs to be some, like a little bit of first aid on the bottom, on your bottom, like if there's a little bit of bleeding or something.

some soreness, bruising, some ice packs might be in order. So take care of yourself the rest of the day. Like I said, aftercare can be anything from snuggles. I personally like snuggles. I've had people, especially like in the like mommy dumb sort of situation, suck on my breasts, which I do not let a lot of people. These are personal loving clients of mine that that's not a typical thing. So shh.

Shh. I did not do that. I did not say that. But anyway, a little bit of like breast...

That broised play as they snuggle up to me is precious, in my opinion. I like it. And some people do not want any aftercare at all. They just want to go and be in their own sort of sub space in their head. Some, I had a client last week who was like, I would love to just chill out and smoke a cigarette or two afterwards and maybe a little bit of conversation. Just don't shove me out the door afterwards. And it was beautiful. It was fun and wonderful. That session was...

Fucking awesome. But anyway, so afterwards, it's always good to have a little bit of follow up. Ideally, the dominatrix will contact you. I like to contact my subs afterwards to make sure that they're doing okay a couple days after or the day after or later in that day, just to check in with them and make sure that they're doing okay. There is such thing as sub drop.

I have never heard of this from any of my clients that I've had, but I have friends in the kink world that experience this generally two to three days after a session where the amount of like adrenaline, dopamine, oxytocin, all this stuff floods your body during especially an impact session. And you can keep this high for a couple days and then those levels drop and then they experience some sort of a

like a mild mental depression. So being potentially prepared for this and having something set up in your life to mitigate those potential issues is smart. I have subs that their high peaks like two to three days after a session. I think it has to do with feeling the bruises on their bottom for a couple of days every time they sit down and there's just something about it that two or three days after it peaks.

everybody's going to be slightly different. However you feel and experience it, it's good. It's okay. Learn from it. Learn how to mitigate any issues that might come up for you so that you can maintain a level of health

Mental health, especially regarding this, because it is a heavy thing, but also I think it's a really important thing. It's a form of meditation for many subs, especially when it comes to impact and bondage. It's an escape from anxiety. There are so many benefits to it. I'll do a whole different episode about that. But I think that pretty much wraps up this episode.

And I hope you learned something. I can go into detail, even more detail, spicy detail about my session sometimes, but just let me know if you're interested in it. Drop a like, follow along. If you love this podcast, I love you. If you think that this could be better, me too.

I'm just starting and learning, but I'm fucking excited about this. So follow along. Thank you for joining me. And as always, enjoy your fucking life, my pets.