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Cut the Apron Strings

2025/1/2
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Angie "Pumps" Sullivan
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Jennifer Welch
以幽默和讽刺风格主持《I've Had It》播客的室内设计师和电视人物。
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Angie "Pumps" Sullivan: 我厌倦了在Instagram上购买那些根本无法正常运作的产品。我的For You页面全是法国斗牛犬的玩具,我买了一堆根本没用的东西。这些广告都是些随时可能跑路的公司,退货也极其困难。我既生气于这些虚假广告,也生气于自己总是上当受骗。 我认为自己应该为反复购买无效产品负主要责任,因为我知道这些东西很可能不好用,但我还是买了。这就像心理学家说的那样,是种疯狂的行为。我需要改掉这个坏习惯,但一想到小狗可能会喜欢这些玩具,我就忍不住下单。 Jennifer Welch: 我讨厌"妈妈心"这个说法。最近有人用这个词来形容我因为工作和照顾孩子而面临的困境。这让我很生气,因为这完全是成年人的现实问题,很多职业女性都会面临这种工作与生活之间的艰难平衡。 这种"妈妈心"的理念是理想化母职的一部分。那些总能参加孩子所有活动的妈妈,她们拥有这种时间和资源是一种奢侈。而我因为工作错过很多孩子的活动,我独自抚养孩子,没有丈夫或父母的帮助。那些离婚或未婚的母亲,她们要工作多份工作才能养活孩子,听到这些理想化的母职言论会多么痛苦。 我认为,这种对完美母亲的追求是不现实的,它会给孩子带来失败感。我们都是普通人,都有自己的挣扎。成年后,我们才发现自己对生活的应对能力不足。我总是很坦诚地告诉我的孩子,我无法参加他们所有的活动,因为我需要工作来维持生计。我的儿子们也表示,他们很高兴我不是那种事事都参与的母亲。

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Why are the hosts concerned about college parents' involvement in their children's lives?

The hosts are concerned because they see this over-involvement as a form of helicoptering that prevents young adults from developing independence and crucial life skills. They argue that such behavior can be detrimental to the children's ability to handle adult responsibilities and can lead to a lack of resilience and problem-solving skills.

Why does Angie think the phrase 'mama heart' is problematic?

Angie finds the phrase 'mama heart' problematic because it reinforces idealized and unrealistic expectations of motherhood. She believes it contributes to the societal pressure on working women to balance career demands with the idealized role of a perfect mother, which can be particularly challenging and stressful.

Why do the hosts think it's inappropriate for parents to email their child's professors?

The hosts believe it's inappropriate for parents to email their child's professors because it undermines the child's autonomy and responsibility. They argue that it can make the child appear incapable and can damage their relationship with professors, who may view the child as needing excessive parental involvement.

Why do the hosts find it concerning when parents want to install cameras in their college student's dorm room?

The hosts find it concerning because it represents an extreme level of parental intrusion and a lack of trust in the child's ability to manage their own life. They see it as a violation of privacy and a sign of unhealthy enmeshment in the child's life.

Why do the hosts think it's important for parents to step back and let their children handle their own problems?

The hosts believe it's important for parents to step back and let their children handle their own problems because it fosters independence, resilience, and the development of essential life skills. They argue that constant parental intervention can hinder a child's growth and ability to navigate adulthood successfully.

Why do the hosts have mixed feelings about intervening in their children's relationships?

The hosts have mixed feelings because they recognize the importance of letting their children make their own choices, but they also feel a responsibility to protect them from harmful situations. They would intervene if they saw clear and present danger, such as involvement in a cult or abusive relationships, but would generally try to avoid creating a wedge between their children and their partners.

Chapters
This chapter kicks off with Angie and Jennifer sharing their pet peeves. Angie is frustrated with unreliable products purchased from Instagram ads, while Jennifer discusses the pitfalls of impulsive online shopping and the cycle of repeating the same mistakes.
  • Angie's frustration with Instagram ads and ineffective pet products.
  • Jennifer's criticism of impulsive online shopping.
  • Comparison of online shopping frustration to the definition of insanity.

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