The hosts are concerned because they see this over-involvement as a form of helicoptering that prevents young adults from developing independence and crucial life skills. They argue that such behavior can be detrimental to the children's ability to handle adult responsibilities and can lead to a lack of resilience and problem-solving skills.
Angie finds the phrase 'mama heart' problematic because it reinforces idealized and unrealistic expectations of motherhood. She believes it contributes to the societal pressure on working women to balance career demands with the idealized role of a perfect mother, which can be particularly challenging and stressful.
The hosts believe it's inappropriate for parents to email their child's professors because it undermines the child's autonomy and responsibility. They argue that it can make the child appear incapable and can damage their relationship with professors, who may view the child as needing excessive parental involvement.
The hosts find it concerning because it represents an extreme level of parental intrusion and a lack of trust in the child's ability to manage their own life. They see it as a violation of privacy and a sign of unhealthy enmeshment in the child's life.
The hosts believe it's important for parents to step back and let their children handle their own problems because it fosters independence, resilience, and the development of essential life skills. They argue that constant parental intervention can hinder a child's growth and ability to navigate adulthood successfully.
The hosts have mixed feelings because they recognize the importance of letting their children make their own choices, but they also feel a responsibility to protect them from harmful situations. They would intervene if they saw clear and present danger, such as involvement in a cult or abusive relationships, but would generally try to avoid creating a wedge between their children and their partners.
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