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Hello and welcome to another episode of Telling Everybody Everything. Our tree is still up. It's January 8th. I know that it was meant to come down two days ago. I am working on it. But I'll tell you, I looked over at the tree the other day and I like it.

I would like to take the baubles off, the baubles in British English, and just keep the tree in the home as a feature. I mean, who doesn't like fairy lights year round? It's a vibe. And we have three trees in the house. There's one in the baby's room, one in Violet's room, and one in the foyer.

And I feel like keep them all. I don't mind. I like it. And I can't keep plants alive. So a fake Christmas tree. We do fake. We do. We did a fake tree after the fateful tree of 2019 that was real and that was cooked by our underfloor heating and really stank like before Christmas.

Never again. Never again. But I was looking at the tree and I had this weird premonition. I looked at the beautiful glowing lights and I, you know, the tree is getting covered with those amazing things that they make at preschool now because I have some of Violet's artwork on the tree along with the Selfridge's baubles. And then Fred has started making things at nursery. He goes two days a week and

And I just love all their little fingerprints and little sayings and the little ornaments that go on the tree. And we have quite a few of them now. And I looked at those and I said to myself, oh, I'll have another baby by next Christmas. And I thought of it like, what? No, I won't. Like it's already January. Like how am I going to get another baby by next Christmas unless I get pregnant again straight away? And I think that's highly unlikely at 41. You have like a 5% chance every month. But this voice was very loud just being like, yep.

you will have another baby by next Christmas. And I like a Christmas baby. Fena was a Christmas baby. You could just bundle her up in the cold and it was perfect. She's a Sagittarius. So far that's working out well astrologically.

Who knows? But sometimes I look at how the kids are getting on now. Like they're so affectionate. They're like best friends and they hug each other and they say two best friends. And then Violet comes home and wrestles with them. And she is so the older sibling role. Like she's more strict with them than we are, but she plays with them physically. Like she's really funny with them and has the youthful energy to chase them.

And it's just such a good mix now. And we're going to go on holiday for a little while at the beginning of this year before my tour kicks off again. And I was like, oh, wait a minute. My life is getting so nice without having a newborn. And it really takes you two years, I've read, to get just hormonally back to yourself after a baby. So you're like still adjusting not only your hormones, but your weight and your lifestyle and your breastfeeding. And then after two years, you're sort of yourself again.

And it's just like, I got that two weeks ago then when Fenna turned two. So why would I try to put it all up in the air again? Like it's, I think it's just something that no family can make a firm decision on. Everybody's like, maybe we will, maybe we won't. There are good reasons not to have kids, good reasons to have kids. I just don't know. But that premonition, I mean, it felt very real. Like, oh, it was just like a truth. Like, oh, we're going to have another baby by next Christmas. I was like, by next Christmas?

Let me live. Let me live a while. And then something terrifying happened. So Violet, Bobby, and I enjoy very few shows.

all at the same time. We get into different things that I don't think there's a lot to watch if I'm honest on television anymore. I wait and I wait for like another juicy documentary or something that Bobby and I can both agree on. And the Jerry Springer thing came out the other night and that was on Netflix. It's a two-part docu-series just about that genre of television. And it shines a light on how horrible we really were as young,

you know, viewers, consumers of that style of trash TV, but also the media and production companies really didn't give a shit about people or their aftercare, what happened to them once they left the show. And if channels tried to turn around and be like, well, this is trash, then the production company would be like, yeah, but look at the numbers. And they only care about ratings and advertising dollars. And that's fair. Like people have to do business. And they just weren't thinking the

really clearly. I know I wasn't, I would never watch those shows and think like, Oh, a man's married to a horse. I can laugh at this. And there'll be no repercussions on like his mental health after the fact. We just didn't think like that. And now we do. And it's good. And it's great. And any show that I've worked on has had either, um, like a therapist, um,

for the contributors who've been very well looked after and vetted and offered support even for a comedy show. I mean, we're not even talking about like Jerry Springer. You know, I'm cheating on my favorite stripper with my second favorite stripper. We're not talking about that kind of world. Intimacy coaches, like TV's really careful now, but we already knew that. Like the documentary, the Jerry Springer documentary was like, oh, look, TV was bad and this is what it was like behind the scenes. Yeah, we knew that.

Like, it's not going to be a shock to anyone that the Jerry Springer contributors were vulnerable and taken advantage of. And of course, we don't have shows like that anymore. There is no Jeremy Kyle. There were pieces of those shows, though, that I think could come back and that were compelling. And people like to look at a freak show. They like it. But is there a way to conjure up a freak show without actually hurting anyone? We'll see.

So we like The Traitors. That is the show right now that we all enjoy at the same time. And it only airs Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays now in the UK. From memory, other series was Monday to Friday, but now it's not. So it must have been last Friday. We were sat in the living room watching The Traitors. And you will know from previous episodes of this podcast from years gone by that we were attacked by a home intruder years ago.

He came in through the first floor window. He had climbed up, I don't know how, I don't know what he climbed up, like a side wall and then maybe a drain pipe. I have no idea. It was very athletic. And he got in through the upstairs while we were in the kitchen.

Since then, we have sensors, we have automatic lights, we have cameras, we have alarms, we lock the windows, we have all these security precautions because we learned, oh, someone is able to get in from the first floor. We didn't know that at the time. We were like sitting ducks. We had a random cleaning company at the time that would send like four different people every week, which I never really thought was safe. I was like, I don't know these people coming into my home. I don't like it.

And I don't want to blame the cleaning company. I'm not pointing fingers, but I'm just saying we had no eye on the ball of security whatsoever. Like that is an example of a very non-secure thing to do. And then we would leave the windows open because it was September. There was still lovely fresh air. We didn't really think about intruders getting up that high. So now we know. So we're sitting downstairs watching the traders and we hear boom, boom, boom from upstairs.

And all the animals are with us. Both babies we can see on the monitor are asleep in their alcove beds, a level above that. So we're like, what was that? It could be a number of things. If it's windy, which by the way, it was not, it could be a tree falling or a branch hitting that side of the house. Sometimes Bobby doesn't shut the side gate when he's doing gardening or taking the bins out. Perhaps it was that, but it didn't sound like that. It really sounded quite like someone was upstairs.

And so Violet gets a knife, which, you know, Violet is nearly 16. I don't advocate a teenager wielding a knife around the house trying to defend her home from intruders. Like, this really is Bobby's area. But if it makes her safe to hold a butter knife, like, go ahead.

And then Bobby went straight upstairs. This is what is wild about Bobby. Bobby did defend our home from the intruders last time. He went straight up there. He didn't know there were intruders. It was a whole different story. You can listen back to it if you want. He went up there and was surprised by an intruder. So that time nobody made any noise. Bobby just went up there to change his shirt. And there the intruder was. He wrestled him. He got him to go out of our first floor window, then chased him down the street.

So Bobby has no fear when it comes to like confrontation or sports. When he tells me about that night, he talks about it like sports. Like he was just like had to get the ball kind of thing. He didn't think about anything else. He just went into autopilot. And on this occasion, he was very much the same. He wasn't scared. He wasn't aggressive. He just walked up the stairs. Okay. I go into the garage and I get one of his golf clubs and I'm stood downstairs like I was with the first intruder situation with Violet.

And Bobby looks around the rooms. None of the light sensors had come on. He could tell because there was no breeze that none of the windows were open. And he was just kind of quietly looking around the upstairs. And he looked through every cupboard and in every shower and under every sofa and under every bed. And he was like, you know, it's all clear. He came back down. We think, well, what could that have been? And we check again. All the animals are with us. All right.

We watched the traders for a few more minutes. Boom, boom, boom. Another. And this time it was right above us in Violet's room. And Bobby's like, that is coming from inside your room. So now all three of us go up. I don't know what we thought we were going to do. Violet has 999 ready on her phone, but she hasn't hit send, which is a classic move. And we're like something like what though? An animal, something is in Violet's room. Like, how can this be?

We do another check, nothing. But now Bobby's not satisfied because it's like, okay, something's up. And the dogs are now even acting strange. The dogs can hear it, but they weren't, you know, they're not great guard dogs. They're not going to go up and actually defend us, but they were acting weird, but we were eating. So like sometimes they just act really strange when we have food because they're not trained against begging.

So anyway, so now Bobby's like, all right, I'm checking like all evidence all around the house. So he goes outside. So now Violet and I are in the house with the babies, the dogs, the cat and the noise, the mysterious noise. And Bobby's outside walking around with the golf club, the perimeter of the house.

And when he's in the back garden, I hear the loudest I've heard yet. Like, boom, boom, boom from Pilate's room. And I was like, Bobby, you got to get back at this house. We scream out the back door. He comes running in and again goes straight upstairs, no fear. But this time he does have the golf club.

And there's nothing like that. We do not know where this house, this noise in the house is coming from. And Bobby's like, well, you know, sometimes the vent makes a weird noise. There have been occasions where just settling of the house makes a weird noise. And I said, Bobby, you were not in the house for this one. This was like thumps and bangs in Violet's room. 100% like it is coming from Violet's room. Something is in there.

And so Bobby was like, "All right, I will sit in Violet's room for the rest of the night then. And you girls can like watch 'Traitors on the Sofas' or like go to bed yourselves, do what you want, but like I will sit in here." And he took his golf club in and he just did some like practice chipping in Violet's room and we didn't hear the noise again. And we just thought, wasn't that strange? Like no one is in the house. We checked again, like all the cameras, all the alarms, everything in the house was secure. None of the motion sensors or light sensors, nothing had gone off. So what the hell was happening?

And then I thought to myself, hang on a minute. Like this is an hour goes by of Violet just like sit with me and Bobby chipping in Violet's room with his golf club. And I said, Violet, did you not tell me the other day

that you purchased off TikTok shop, some like suction shelves for your shower. It just came into my head. I said, that's what it was. Like those suction cups have given way and like Bed Bath and Beyond body scrubs have like one by one been crashing to your shower floor. That's what it is. I thought it was like,

Oh my God, that is it. So we went and we looked in Violet's shower. Surely enough. Yes. The suction cups from TikTok shop had given way and it was one by one. Like the thumps were these heavy tubs like Violet's shower. I would say she has about 45 products in that shower, which is fine until they come crashing to the ground. And we think that we've got another intruder.

But I was really encouraged to see that Bobby, after all these years, after his like PTSD from fighting off the first armed intruder, by the way, with his bare hands, he still just went up there. 41 years old, just walked like first with no weapon, just like walked up toward the noise. And there are many drawbacks to having a husband, of course.

But if I lived alone and I was in that house with my children and I heard those bangs, I really don't know what I would have done. I suppose rung the police and then what, waited for God knows how long. No offense to the police, but they're underfunded and overworked. So like who, and then someone comes and does what, looks around and is like, no, no one's here.

In the interim, would I have felt safe, like sat in the ground floor of my house with noise on the first floor of my house, knowing my sleeping babies were on the second floor of my house? I don't know. We have a panic room. Like, would I have rounded up all the children, woken the sleeping toddlers from their beds, and put them in the panic room until someone could come investigate the noise? I don't know.

I suppose there are a lot of single women who are brave and would just face that stuff head on. I'm very lazy and that's not me.

Today, and the 2025 Golden Globes, belongs to Nikki Glaser, the hostess with the mostess. She really puts 100% effort into everything that she does. I have loved knowing her a little bit, watching her career, really admiring her work ethic, her natural talent, her drive, her sense of humor, the people she surrounds herself with. I just think Nikki Glaser is

takes risks, but isn't afraid to get her hands dirty and like really grind on the tour as well. And a lot of people have been sending me her monologue. She was the first ever woman to solo host the Golden Globes in their like 82 year history. And I think she did a better job than anyone. I think she did better even than Ricky Gervais in his day. And I know how difficult it would be to host an awards like that because

There is a network, there's CBS and all these producers and publicists of the celebrities you're roasting presumably who don't want to lose their jobs and America is kind of on edge at the minute. It's a very difficult time to be funny in America though like I think a lot of the population is gagging for it. A lot of the population are not in a good place and they're ready to be offended and

And so it's difficult to get the jokes through that you want to get through. It would be difficult even without those gatekeepers. I think someone like Nikki and her team, they would write like 200 jokes and then whittle them down, see what was the most current, what's the funniest, what everybody gets, what's the most appropriate. But then let's say you have a list of your favorite jokes. The network is going to come in and go, you can't say that. You can't say that. Ariana will get upset if you say that. Though probably not Ariana. She's probably a bad example because she is

Very funny. But yes, stars came out on Sunday for, quote, Ozempic's biggest night. And a lot of people are sending me clips of Nikki Glaser's monologue. And they're like, we'll see what you said about the top 10 grossing male standups being men. Like the tides are changing. All right.

Nikki Glaser's actually been around for 20 years, and I mentioned Nikki Glaser in that episode as someone who should have been on that list this year because she's touring and she's funnier than any of those men. They're all say it. And that list was never about who's the funniest. That list was about highest grossing, and those are two very different things.

So I definitely think that having someone like Amy Schumer, having someone like Tina Fey and Amy Poehler, who've hosted the Golden Globes in the past and who've been really funny throughout their entire lives, having someone like Ali Wong, who won a Golden Globe for her special, having these people

being very visible, like when Nikki did the roast of Tom Brady and was amazing. Like I had drivers after that in different countries who knew who Nikki Glaser was for the first time. Like there are breakthrough jobs that will move the dial. And I think you're absolutely right. Like people will start to go, oh, maybe I'd like to go see a female comedian's tour show. I want to see Amy Schumer on tour. I want to see Ali Wong on tour, Nikki Glaser. Like that is great. It's just incredible.

When I read that list about highest grossing, it isn't about the best. It's about like the most people who are physically buying a ticket and going. And I mean, sometimes the best does not inspire the most people. Sometimes the best is too smart and funny for most people.

But anyway, more on the Golden Globes. The big winners of the night were drama victor The Brutalist, a three and a half hour movie about architecture starring Adrienne Brody, and comedy musical recipient Emilia Perez about a Mexican cartel leader who dreams of leaving the powder behind and living her truth as a trans woman. 62-year-old stunner and MILF blueprint Demi Moore gave a touching speech about coming back from the brink as a written-off popcorn actress.

Colin Farrell's black Irish eyes were smiling as he accepted a trophy for best wearing of a fat suit in The Penguin. And Baby Reindeer took home the gold for best limited series and best supporting actress for gorgeous Jessica Gunning. I don't know if it's appropriate to say about Demi Moore. She looks great. She is one of the transformed this year, like Lindsay Lohan.

Christina Aguilera, Demi Moore, people have speculated that all of those women are going to some 2024 magician and just turning back time. But I wonder about plastic surgery and trends like using Ozempic and all these different things. I wonder if we're ever going to be able to transcend them when we are materially rewarding their use.

Like, yes, Demi Moore is very talented. She's always been talented. But kind of two years ago when you saw her walk that runway with her face looking strange, like had that not been corrected, would she be winning a Golden Globe today? If Demi Moore had not been to this magical surgeon and looked like a million bucks the way she does today, would she be winning that Golden Globe today? I don't know.

And I just couldn't get that out of my head. I'm like, oh yeah. So you tell people not to get a facelift, not to go on a Zempic, not to do this, not to do anything drastic. But then here we see Demi Moore, 62 years old, winning this Golden Globe, looking the best she's ever looked in her life. It's a lot of mixed messages.

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Nicole Kidman is here, nominated for Baby Girl. I love that movie. I gave it two fingers up. And her clothes are. This is going to be a very memorable evening, and maybe not in the way you think. I predict five years from now, when you're watching this show on YouTube, you'll see someone in one of the crowd shots, and you'll go, oh my god, that was before they caught that guy.

We could be making history tonight and we don't even know with whom. He knows or she. It could be a woman. I think 100% of the time it's a man, but it could be a woman. It won't be. It never is. Kind of like Best Director. I love Nikki. I've made no qualms about that in my lifetime. I loved what she brought to the Golden Globes and I'd like to see her host it forever. Host everything forever.

There's a woman who is formidable in the UK. She's called Gina Martin. She changed the laws against upskirting many years ago in the UK. And people who are found to be taking photos up women's skirts in public are...

are regarded now as very dangerous, which, thank God, because that is how Gisele Pellicote's husband was caught. He was taking up skirting photos in public. Police looked into it further. Oh, he's organizing this entire sexual assault ring against his wife, and now he's been put into prison. So Gina Martin is so smart in so many ways. I really like her. She's usually right. She saw this way ahead of anyone else. But she made a video kind of...

really lamenting parts of Nikki Glaser's monologue. And she said, just because you see a woman doing something, it doesn't make her a feminist hero. Like, yes, Nikki is in that position she's hosting and it's wonderful to see, but Gina Martin took issue with some of her jokes, specifically the ones aimed at sex parties or making light of the P. Diddy situation in any way. And I get that, but

But I think as a comedian, I would just remind people that a lot of comedy is incident adjacent. So it would have been really weird, I think, not to mention the P. Diddy stuff at all when it's been like the biggest news in Hollywood of the year. I don't think that any of Nikki's jokes made light of sexual assault or would encourage further sexual assaults.

or would be damaging to any survivors of sexual assault, though maybe I'm not in a position to say that with 100% authority. But I do believe in finding the lightness in dark, and I like dark jokes about dark things. For me, it lifts it away from the obvious darkness of it. Do you know what I mean? I wonder if I have any examples of these jokes that she didn't like.

This is the last time all of you will be in the same room together until the Diddy trial. Nikki later explained a lot of the jokes she didn't use on the show. She said, we had another Diddy mention that worked better and you only get one Diddy mention. Isn't that interesting? You're also accusing the people in the room of being involved in that and then they might turn on you.

a follow-up to her joke calling adrian brody a two-time holocaust survivor for his appearance in two holocaust movies the pianist and the brutalist she cut this part if adrian brody could go back in time he would thank baby hitler for his career and nikki said i loved that one so much but my assistant is gen z and she was like i don't get it due to the time travel kill hitler reference being apparently a bit dated

So Nikki said, oh, we're going to lose a whole generation on that joke. And then I said Hitler for nothing. So she lost that joke. Glenn Powell is nominated tonight for Hitman. Who would have thought you'd only be the second hottest hitman in America? And that is, of course, in reference to the recent health care CEO murder. And she said that whole Luigi Mangione story has faded and it just washed out of the news cycle. So she didn't use it. She kept it current.

The Wild Robot is nominated tonight. And by that, I mean Nicole Kidman after two white wines. I love that. And Nikki said, I wish we could have done that. But if she makes a face, it's interesting, isn't it? To roast these celebrities but not lose the room. I think that I would...

be happy to lose the room because they got to sit there anyway and wait for their awards. Like you're not going to offend them to the point that they're like fuming and they're walking out. I don't know. Maybe Nicole Kidman is a lot more precious than I think, but maybe next time. Michael Keaton was so great in Beetlejuice Beetlejuice and Alec Baldwin sadly did not come back to play a ghost because he was too busy making them. I mean, and that is about a woman's death. So she decided to lose that one too.

Finally, as an elegant callback to the all-male top 10 top grossing comedian list that I spoke about at length, when pressed by Stern about how much Nikki was paid, she said, there was a past host who revealed how much he got paid in his monologue, referring to Jared Carmichael. He was paid $500,000 in 2023. And that was a performance that was panned almost as badly as Joe Coy's, by the way. So,

So Nikki said, I got a lot less than that. It's okay. I'll get more next year. I honestly would have done it for free. It's such an insane platform, but next time I'll ask for more money. Glazer said she's not been formally asked to host again next year, but confidentially predicted. I can't imagine they wouldn't. It's hard to find people to do these shows, but I'd never be able to live with myself if I turned it down because I'm scared of bombing.

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Move over, Manosphere. Make way for Josephine Rogan, Andrea Tate, Jordana Peterson, and Tony with an I, Hinchcliffe. Welcome to the Femisphere.

Something that sounds very attributed to friend of the podcast, the iconic slumflower herself, Chidera Egeru, 2025 is already fixing to be the year of the fem cells. Female dating strategists and so-called dark feminine influencers who encourage women to find men to expressly support them financially.

In the femosphere, as in the manosphere, there's an overarching belief that life is about survival of the fittest, that men will always hurt women, and that will never change. So strategies are needed to conquer the opposite gender. Our slash female dating strategy, which started as a Reddit forum,

250,000 members strong and expanded into social media and a podcast has a six-point ideology for its sistren to subscribe to, which includes ideas such as men should always pursue women, women should seek financial contributions from men, and the majority of men have no idea.

Value. We didn't say it. Beliefs discussed and shared in online forums and via social media influencers that echoed the logic of the manosphere, particularly when it came to dating and relationships. Ideas like men are the gatekeeper of relationships and women are the gatekeepers of sex. So women's currency in the sexual marketplace resides in her withholding sex from men. And you diminish your value if you have casual sex.

Or the idea to counter women's lesser earning power, the gender pay gap in the UK was 14.3% last year, though a lot of people choose to believe it doesn't exist. Rather than fighting for pay equality, a man should provide for a woman financially and women must, quote, embrace feminine energy to secure a husband. It all sounds incredibly conservative to me, but it's trying to reframe it as being this empowering strategy.

There's so much to unpack here. And I, as a strident feminist, just have to say that I am ultimately confused by this entire argument. And this is why I'm so interested and curious about Chidera Agarwal's entire ethos. Like I watch with...

great admiration because in a lot of ways she's absolutely right. And I would be doing her a disservice to take like 10 minutes on this podcast and just try to explain all the reasons why. But I am someone who has been

stupid enough because you have to take accountability. You can't change how anybody else behaves by yourself. I have been foolish enough to be exploited both financially, emotionally, sexually, probably all my resources, my empathy, my care, my commitment, my devotion, even my like star power. Like I've had every resource that

historically by men who gave me really nothing in return, like no money, no emotional support, really. I'd,

have sex with these men. I suppose if you want to say I got, I did get some laughter and affection from them and there were good times too, but like mostly fucking problems. So I would love to sit here as a feminist and say like, oh, well, you need to be earning for yourself. You need to be independent, autonomous, paying for yourself. It's not right.

just to do the same, like two wrongs don't make a right just because they'll marry you and expect you to split the bills 50-50, but then you carry the pregnancies and you risk your life in childbirth and then you take on the mental load of the house and you do all the laundry and you do all the cleaning and cooking and you raise the children. Doesn't mean it's okay to do it to them back.

I don't know. I don't know what to say. Because a lot of you might find a really good arrangement that works for your family and a really nice man who doesn't mean to exploit you and who is generous. And I would caution that when you marry for money, you earn every cent. I know a lot of women who married a lot of rich men and they deeply regretted it and the money wasn't enough. And I would love...

to say that relationships should be based on mutual trust and respect and love and sexual attraction. But like, there's a lot going on this year. A lot is going on. Things are moving around politically.

Trad wife culture is very dominant on social media. We've got these Andrew Tate sort of forums telling men that they need to behave a certain way and they need to work out and they should conquer this and that. I mean, I don't know exactly what's going on in those forums, but, um, and now this let's address the elephant in the room with the B4 movement, which I previously mentioned another podcast in Korea where you don't give men the time of day, um,

It's well and fine to withhold sex, but isn't the natural conclusion of that that men will be more motivated to take something by force that you are withholding? Anytime I see online language about like give sex, offer sex, like gatekeep sex, there are feminists who get really upset about it because...

It's supposed to be something that you both enjoy. So like, this is an area that I am going to be monitoring this year. I don't know where we're going as a gender, but I'm interested. And I think Chidera Egeru is a very, very good source for information, whether you agree with her or not. She did an entire episode one time on married men and why they were problematic and

She spoke to sex workers about what loads of married men are getting up to. And again, I hear that left, right, and center from so many of my friends that these men are very volatile and they can't be trusted. And a lot of them are unfaithful. I just don't know. I will say this about men and women.

I've been thinking about this a lot because a good housekeeping cover, actually, I love good housekeeping magazine. It's a beautiful little magazine to have in the home. It's lovely to buy as a print edition. I'm on the cover of it this month. Uh, if you want to have me on your coffee table, smiling back at you in a velvet red pantsuit, um,

The headline they chose for me, well, it looks like the headline is "Taking Ozempic ruined my sex life," but that's just like another headline that's pasted over my face. But down below in the like bottom right hand corner, it says like, "Why should I trust my husband?" And that's something that we do explore on the new series of At Home with Katherine Ryan, which I think is coming soon. It feels like a really heavy thing to say, like, "I don't trust my husband."

I think what I mean by that is I'm 41. I have lived a life of, you know, trial and error experience and learning. And I don't think that I am capable of ever 100% trusting any romantic partner. And Bobby knows that about me. And I put my cards on the table and I think he likes that about me because I'm very honest and truthful person, even in my relationship, even when it hurts. I'm like, no, I will never 100% trust you.

But this is the other thing about most women's bodies. Look back to the other night when Bobby marches up the stairs to confront what we assume is another armed intruder. I don't have that in my body. I'm not strong enough to fight an intruder, nor do I have the courage that it takes to fight an intruder. And if you are a woman like me, maybe you're not, but if you are a woman like me,

Your partner is maybe more athletic than you. He's certainly bigger and stronger than you. He has more of a competitive, like combative piece of his DNA in there somewhere that you don't have. He's willing to walk towards danger. If you choose to marry and live with a man like that, you're already putting so much trust in him. I have to trust Bobby 24 hours a day that he's not just going to kill me with his bare hands because he could.

I could maybe hurt him if I was very fast. I got it right the first time he was asleep or I poisoned him. But like, why would I do that when I've never even hit one of my sisters with my hand? I just don't have any violence in me. So when we're in these relationships, I think this is why a lot of women have like low level autoimmune disease and inflammation is because every day we're like living with someone who could easily,

end your life if he was like so possessed by a demon I choose to trust that Bobby would never do that because he's kind he's gentle I've seen how he is but like it's in him it's in him to march up the stairs and beat an intruder to death with a golf club so maybe like get from them what you can we we need to even the playing field somehow I think and if getting them to buy you like

you know, properties in your name or cars or designer handbags, if that works for you. I mean, I'm just here as a quiet observer who's definitely, definitely not an authority on the subject. If you have any information or insights, or if you've noticed this trend, either the four Bs or the femiverse or fem cells, not that I'm advocating any of that. Why can't we all just get along? You know, that's been my position from the start. But let me know.

Let me know your thoughts. Do you listen to the slumflower Chidera Egeru, who may or may not be making a special appearance in season two of At Home with Katherine Ryan, which is coming soon? Let me know your thoughts. Please email me, telling everybody, everything at gmail.com. Please look after each other. I'll see you soon. Bye.

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