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“Dating Roundup #6” by Zvi

2025/6/5
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Previously: #1, #2, #3, #4, #5

Dating Roundup #4 covered dating apps. Roundup #5 covered opening without them.

Dating Roundup #6 covers everything else.

** Table of Contents**

  • You’re Single Because You Can’t Handle Basic Logistics.

  • You’re Single Because You Don’t Ask Questions.

  • You’re Single Because of Your Terrible Dating Tactics.

  • You’re Single Because You Refuse to Play Your Role.

  • You’re Single Because People Are Crazy About Age Gaps.

  • You’re Single and You Need Professional Help.

  • You’re Single Because You Never Close.

  • You’re Single Because You’re Bad at Sex And Everyone Knows.

  • You’re Single Because You Are Only a Fan.

  • You’re Single Because of Preference Falsification.

  • You’re Single Because You Have Insufficient Visual Aids.

  • You’re Single Because You Told Your Partner You Didn’t Want Them.

  • You’re Single Because of Your Terrible Dating [...]


Outline:

(00:26) You're Single Because You Can't Handle Basic Logistics

(01:39) You're Single Because You Don't Ask Questions

(04:18) You're Single Because of Your Terrible Dating Tactics

(07:49) You're Single Because You Refuse to Play Your Role

(13:24) You're Single Because People Are Crazy About Age Gaps

(13:54) You're Single and You Need Professional Help

(16:20) You're Single Because You Never Close

(21:49) You're Single Because You're Bad at Sex And Everyone Knows

(26:21) You're Single Because You Are Only a Fan

(31:10) You're Single Because of Preference Falsification

(36:51) You're Single Because You Have Insufficient Visual Aids

(40:00) You're Single Because You Told Your Partner You Didn't Want Them

(46:25) You're Single Because of Your Terrible Dating Strategy

(49:05) You're Single Because You Don't Enjoy the Process

(50:33) You're Single Because You Don't Escalate Quickly

(52:58) You're Single Because Your Standards Are Too High

(56:36) You're Single Because You Read the Wrong Books

(01:00:05) You're Single Because You're Short, Sorry, That's All There Is To It

(01:01:45) You're Single Because of Bad Government Incentives

(01:04:02) You're Single Because You Don't Realize Cheating is Wrong

(01:05:15) You're Single Because You're Doing Polyamory Wrong

(01:08:00) You're Single Because You Don't Beware Cheaters

(01:09:48) You're Single Because Your Ex Spilled the Tea

(01:13:42) You're Single Because You're Assigning People Numbers

(01:14:54) You're Single Because You Are The Wrong Amount of Kinky

(01:17:06) You're Single Because You're Not Good Enough at Sex

(01:21:00) You're Single But Not Because of Your Bodycount

(01:23:59) You're Single Because They Divorced You

(01:28:11) You're Single Because No One Tells You Anything

(01:31:51) You're Single And You're Not Alone

(01:32:18) You're Single Because Things Are Steadily Getting Worse

(01:36:29) You're Single Because You Didn't Go to College

(01:37:41) You're Single But This Isn't About You

(01:39:33) You're Single so Let's Go to the Videotape

(01:39:43) You're Single Because You Don't Seek Out Good Advice

(01:40:46) You're Single So Here's Some Hope


First published: June 4th, 2025

Source: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/fnBGz2dTJJDExofTj/dating-roundup-6)

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