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Paperwork, Appointments And Repairs: Managing Adult Responsibilities

2019/9/25
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Chris Arnold: 我注意到,我们的生活中充满了各种各样的文书工作、电话中心和我们不想处理的垃圾,这感觉不像工作,没有人付钱给我们做这些,但这感觉像是一份工作,几乎就像成年人的家庭作业。 我们很少谈论这些家庭作业,它在很大程度上是隐形的,我们通常不会把它看作是劳动。 Elizabeth Emmons:我写了一本书来探讨这个概念,我称之为“生活行政”。生活行政是指所有那些无形的办公室工作,这些工作占据了我们的时间。这些工作在办公室里由经理和秘书付费完成,而我们在生活中却免费且隐形地完成。例如,汽车检查、安排孩子的课后活动和校车接送、修理坏掉的电脑等等。这些事情涉及到我们生活的方方面面,我们的社会结构在很多方面都不支持我们处理这些事情,而且往往在我们生活中最具挑战性的时刻,我们最需要帮助,却反而承受着最糟糕的压力。我们也没有帮助那些即将成年或正在过渡到成年的人学习如何处理生活的这一方面。我们需要在学校学习行政管理。 Chris Arnold: 我们采访了Elizabeth Emmons,讨论了生活行政,以及如何偿还学生贷款。这是一个既昂贵又费力的过程,而且容易出错。需要处理大量的文书工作,并且必须按时正确填写。这是一个非常重要的事情。 Elizabeth Emmons: 我在第二个孩子出生后,意识到自己被一种意想不到的劳动所淹没,这让我对这种隐形劳动产生了兴趣。起初我以为这只是我的问题,后来意识到这是每个人的问题。我写了一篇学术文章,然后把它做成了一本书,让更多的人了解它。 承认这是工作的第一步,它需要时间和精力。大多数人认为可以通过在做其他事情的同时处理一些短信或电子邮件来管理它,但任何持续的项目都需要时间,也应该得到认可。 人们处理生活行政事务的能力差异很大,这与个人的性格有关。有些人觉得很轻松,而对许多人来说,这是一个充满挣扎和痛苦的领域。在了解自己之后,才能找到适合自己的策略。 根据处理生活行政事务的态度,可以将人分为四种类型:超级行动者、勉强行动者、回避者和否认者。超级行动者乐于处理这些事务,勉强行动者虽然按时完成,但并不情愿,回避者则拖延,直到感到内疚或面临罚款才处理,否认者则完全不处理。 了解自己的行政性格类型,有助于找到适合自己的策略。对于回避者来说,将需要处理的事务放在显眼的地方是一个好方法;对于勉强行动者来说,拍照记录重要文件是一个好方法,即使没有及时归档,也能方便查找。 克服处理生活行政事务的羞愧感,需要意识到你不是一个人在战斗。人们在知道自己并不孤单时,会感到不那么尴尬。 了解自己的偏好,例如喜欢独处还是合作,喜欢短时间冲刺还是长时间马拉松式工作,有助于制定更有效的计划。 “行政学习小组”可以帮助人们更有动力地处理生活行政事务。与朋友一起处理生活行政事务,可以互相监督和鼓励。处理生活行政事务可以寻求不同形式的帮助,例如监督、陪伴或合作。 生活行政就像重力一样,无处不在,影响着我们,我们需要意识到它的存在。处理生活行政事务的关键是:承认它的存在,并给予足够的重视;了解自己的“行政性格”,并采取相应的策略;了解自己的偏好,并制定相应的计划;寻找伙伴,互相监督和鼓励。 Elizabeth Emmons: 我在第二个孩子出生后,意识到自己被一种意想不到的劳动所淹没,这让我对这种隐形劳动产生了兴趣。起初我以为这只是我的问题,后来意识到这是每个人的问题。我写了一篇学术文章,然后把它做成了一本书,让更多的人了解它。 承认这是工作的第一步,它需要时间和精力。大多数人认为可以通过在做其他事情的同时处理一些短信或电子邮件来管理它,但任何持续的项目都需要时间,也应该得到认可。 人们处理生活行政事务的能力差异很大,这与个人的性格有关。有些人觉得很轻松,而对许多人来说,这是一个充满挣扎和痛苦的领域。在了解自己之后,才能找到适合自己的策略。 根据处理生活行政事务的态度,可以将人分为四种类型:超级行动者、勉强行动者、回避者和否认者。超级行动者乐于处理这些事务,勉强行动者虽然按时完成,但并不情愿,回避者则拖延,直到感到内疚或面临罚款才处理,否认者则完全不处理。 了解自己的行政性格类型,有助于找到适合自己的策略。对于回避者来说,将需要处理的事务放在显眼的地方是一个好方法;对于勉强行动者来说,拍照记录重要文件是一个好方法,即使没有及时归档,也能方便查找。 克服处理生活行政事务的羞愧感,需要意识到你不是一个人在战斗。人们在知道自己并不孤单时,会感到不那么尴尬。 了解自己的偏好,例如喜欢独处还是合作,喜欢短时间冲刺还是长时间马拉松式工作,有助于制定更有效的计划。 “行政学习小组”可以帮助人们更有动力地处理生活行政事务。与朋友一起处理生活行政事务,可以互相监督和鼓励。处理生活行政事务可以寻求不同形式的帮助,例如监督、陪伴或合作。 生活行政就像重力一样,无处不在,影响着我们,我们需要意识到它的存在。处理生活行政事务的关键是:承认它的存在,并给予足够的重视;了解自己的“行政性格”,并采取相应的策略;了解自己的偏好,并制定相应的计划;寻找伙伴,互相监督和鼓励。

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Key Insights

What is 'Life Admin' according to Elizabeth Emmons?

Life Admin refers to the invisible office work that steals our time, such as managing paperwork, organizing schedules, and handling repairs. It’s the kind of work typically done by managers or secretaries in an office but is done invisibly and for free in our personal lives.

Why is Life Admin often overwhelming for people?

Life Admin is overwhelming because society is structured in ways that don’t support individuals in managing these tasks, especially during challenging life moments. Additionally, there’s no formal education or training on how to handle these responsibilities, leaving many unprepared.

What are the four admin personality types identified by Elizabeth Emmons?

The four admin personality types are: 1) Super Doer (does admin tasks and feels good about it), 2) Reluctant Doer (does tasks but wishes they didn’t have to), 3) Admin Avoider (avoids tasks and feels guilty or ashamed), and 4) Admin Denier (avoids tasks and feels fine about it, often relying on others to handle them).

What strategies can help people manage Life Admin more effectively?

Strategies include making admin tasks visible (e.g., placing important documents in obvious places), understanding your admin personality, using tools like bullet journals or digital reminders, and collaborating with others through study halls or accountability partners to make tasks less daunting.

How can understanding your admin personality improve your approach to Life Admin?

Understanding your admin personality helps identify strategies that align with your natural tendencies. For example, a Reluctant Doer might benefit from setting aside specific times to tackle tasks, while an Admin Avoider might need to make tasks more visible to avoid procrastination.

What is the significance of naming and recognizing Life Admin as work?

Naming and recognizing Life Admin as work is crucial because it validates the effort and time spent on these tasks. It helps individuals acknowledge that these responsibilities are real and deserve attention, reducing feelings of guilt or shame for struggling with them.

How can social support help in managing Life Admin?

Social support, such as study halls or accountability partners, can make Life Admin tasks more manageable by providing motivation, structure, and a sense of shared responsibility. Collaborating with others can also make the process more enjoyable and less isolating.

What is the analogy used to describe Life Admin?

Life Admin is compared to gravity—it’s always present and affects us, but unless we recognize its existence, we’ll struggle to manage it effectively. Ignoring it can lead to problems, much like trying to hang a picture without considering gravity.

Chapters
This chapter introduces the concept of "Life Admin," defining it as the invisible office work we do for free in our personal lives. It highlights the lack of societal support and education regarding Life Admin, emphasizing the need for better management strategies.
  • Life admin is the invisible office work we do for free in our lives.
  • Society lacks support and education on Life Admin.
  • The need for "admin ed" in schools is highlighted.

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Life seems full of ever-increasing piles of paperwork – bills to pay, appointments to make, school forms to sign, carpools to organize. Here's how to conquer all the responsibilities on your to-do list so you can get back to real life.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoices)NPR Privacy Policy)