The Best Of The Pick Up - An Accidental Massage At A Brothel & Alex Warren Joins The Show!
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This episode was recorded on Camaragal land. Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany. And this is our pick up radio show where we package up all the best bits of the radio and we put it here for you to listen to. And let me tell you. Okay, this has been the highlight of my life. It's like the time when you got Hanson on the show, Britt. Do you remember? Oh, you can't tell me I'm not a good friend. Surprising you with Hanson. I mean you got Isaac though, so he was the one I liked the least, but...

It's fine. Wow, bagels can be cheeses, huh? You guys, okay, you might remember this, you might not. I, growing up,

was so deeply obsessed with Hanson. Like, mmm bop. She made out with the posters on the wall. Literally, I would have. I had whole folders under my bed of cutout pictures. I was really little. Like, I'm the same age as Zach Hanson. I think, I mean, don't quote me on it. It might not be. I think that's irrelevant. But I was like in love with him. Soulmates. Can't even speak. I was so in love with him. Got it. And he probably like that level of like my adoration for a band was

has not been matched in a long time. And I am not someone who knows names of many celebrities. We joke about it all the time. I don't know anyone. But we were at work this one day and Brad, who does like all of our music scheduling for the shows, he comes in, he's like, hey guys, I've got this musician, like do you guys want to interview him? Do you know who Alex Warren is?

Laura had to pick her panties up off the ground. Literally. I mean, her jaw. He's 24, so I didn't have to pick my panties up off the ground. But the thing is, is like, I know so little and so few musicians. You guys, if you don't know who he is from name, you absolutely will know his music. He's the one who sings the song Ordinary. Like, ordinary. He also sings Carry You Home. And for us...

His music has become such an everyday staple of our household because Marley's also obsessed with it that when the opportunity came to interview him, I was absolutely off my face with excitement. We did briefly chat before we interviewed him and Laura was like beside herself and I was like, play it cool, Laura. She gets on there. You might not even remember. I think you blacked out. I was like, I love you. You said, I love you so much. I'm obsessed with you. That was what you said. I think that's fine. Yeah.

That's fine. You know what? If I was a big celebrity and someone was interviewing me, I'd want them to be excited about me as well. But no, we interviewed him around his story. And for a musician who we were told would only speak about his music, he is so incredibly forthcoming. And what I loved about this is that his story is arguably more interesting than his music. He was a...

homeless orphan at one point in his life. So both of his parents passed away. He was living in a car and he climbed his way out of that to being the level of superstar that's akin to where Ed Sheeran is. Like it is honestly phenomenal. And he speaks so openly. And so even though we literally got six minutes with him, I think we stretched it out to about eight. It was such a great chat. And I felt, yeah, I felt really privileged to be able to speak to him. He's

also just a really nice guy and he's very funny he uses a lot of black humour and he uses a lot of what he's been through to talk on stage at his audiences and to relate to people and it was a great interview you guys are going to absolutely love it

We also had a really, one of my favorite chats as well that we've had in a long time. It is Mother's Day this weekend and we got the opportunity to give back to a mother, like a listener, someone that really needed something special in their life. And we had you guys write in to nominate someone in your life, like a mother that is either going through it or just doing spectacular things. For whatever reason, we had so many beautiful entries. I don't want to tell you too much about it. The friendship of the girl that nominated her was really, really beautiful. And I

The winner, her name is Tegan. She really, really has had a tough time the last 12 to 18 months and was very deserving of winning a prize for Mother's Day. And I tell you what, sometimes having these chats is what you need to put some things into perspective in your own life. Like when you hear somebody going through something and they're still so positive, it makes you

just sort of like reflect on yourself and your own life and want to go and cuddle those people in your life that you love or are important to you and embrace what you've got. And I really want you guys to listen to that chat. Yeah. And also, I mean, hopefully you're listening to this on Saturday, so you still have time. Happy Mother's Day to all of the incredible mums in our lifers community. And if there is someone special in your life who is a mum, go and celebrate them. But also if this is a really hard weekend for you, I just want you to know that

we also are holding space and it is a time that can be really heavy for a lot of people whatever your motherhood journey looks like and we're thinking of you too so yeah happy Mother's Day guys let's get into the show

Now, I am so excited to introduce you guys to the guests that we have on today's show. Alex Warren, he's one of the biggest singer-songwriters at the moment that is absolutely blowing up across TikTok. But also, he's our number one most played song here at the station currently. You guys would know this song, absolutely. It is Ordinary, this song right here. Show this world how.

He's also known for other incredible hits like Carry You Home, which has had over 345.7 million streams so far. But the thing that I am so excited to be able to talk to him today about and also to share with you guys is his incredible story of how Alex has come from being... He was kicked out of home. He lost his dad when he was a teenager. His mum also passed away and he lived in a car. And he was a teenager.

and he has gone from being a homeless orphan to being one of the most incredible artists of our time. It's really cool too, and I love to see it. His now wife moved in with him when he was living in a car, and I think it's really cool. It's like you loved me when I had nothing idea, and she's come along that whole journey with him to absolute superstar status. So I'm so excited to talk to him today. Alex, welcome to The Pickup.

Thanks for having me. We absolutely cannot wait for you to visit Australia in August. Everyone is looking forward to it. To the fact that I think you sold out in like two minutes, you need to start playing some bigger venues, let me tell you that much. But you've gone from living in your car to absolute superstar. How has that lived up to your expectations? Because you do hear a lot of people say like they finally make the top or they reach what they thought was going to bring them happiness and it hasn't fulfilled what they thought. What's been your experience?

It's been really cool. Honestly, it's been absolutely a blessing. And I think it's, you know, I've been meeting a lot of cool people these last few weeks and I've had a lot of pitch me moments. So it's something where I've always dreamed of this and it's everything I thought it would be. Alex, I've been following you on TikTok for quite a while. And like second to your incredible music is also following along your beautiful relationship with your wife. Firstly, can you just say her full name for anyone who hasn't heard you say it before?

Yeah, my wife's full name is Kovar Hoepo, I make a Macalani, Owen Ellico, Galani, Vincent, Ann and Hughes. It is the best name that has ever existed. You've been together since you were 18-year-old high school sweethearts and now you're married. You wrote your incredible smash hit Ordinary about your wife and about the truly extraordinary relationship that you have. How has it changed as you've gone from living in a car to being ridiculously famous? How does your relationship change over those years?

It's so funny. I don't think it's changed that much, honestly. You know, we just love to watch Grey's Anatomy and hang out with our dogs at home. And it's just now we do it on the road. I think relationship wise, I'm always striving to be a better husband and try to take her on more dates. And it's slowly becoming a thing where it's so difficult to find time. But yeah, you know, I try to mix it in. But other than that, it's been really cool, honestly. And she comes with me everywhere we go. So it's like we're traveling the world together.

How did you feel? Because I did see that your wife didn't actually know the lyrics to the song you wrote about her. What was that moment? She thought they were sexy, didn't she? Yeah, tell us what the actual lyric was and what she thought you were saying. All right, so she thought it was, all my life I'll do ya. Like, I'll do it, like I'll get down and dirty. Right, right. And it's, all my life how do ya? So like, how do you, because it goes into the next phrase, take my breath away.

So it's supposed to be, how do you take my breath away? It's like a sentence, but instead it's, all my life I'll do you. To be fair, both work because the first one is still a commitment. Like you're still committing to long-term sexy time. Yeah, the problem is the first one your mum has to listen to. Koba's mum's got to hear those lyrics. And the second one sounds a bit more romantic.

Thankfully, mine's dead, so she doesn't have to listen to either. Yeah, that's also true. Actually, do you know what? I do want to ask you about a lyric that you wrote. I might butcher it a little bit because I'm going from memory, but you wrote something in one of your songs about it being your mum's first time on earth as well. And I really resonated because I think sometimes as parents,

and as kids we can hold so much resentment for our parents and there was something incredibly beautiful in those lyrics. Why was that such an important thing to write for you? Well, I think growing up, I grew up in a broken home. My dad passed away and my mom ended up drinking herself to death and I think with that, you know, I didn't have a mom and I held so much honor. I kind of was like, you know, like you're supposed to be my mom, you're supposed to be my role model and instead you're getting drunk and falling in a safe way and that was something for me where I was like, you know,

She'd drive us drunk and she'd do all these things. And I always judged her for it. But now that I'm, you know, 24 and I'm looking at having kids soon, it's something where I realized I'm so in over my head and I have every resource possible. And I can't imagine losing my husband and having to raise four kids by myself. Yeah. And I can't imagine the amount of stress she was under. And I think that's something really important and why I kind of wrote that song. It's like, you know...

as I'm an adult and as I'm getting closer to that I've realized that you know it was your first time on earth too and I'm judging you for the decisions you made without being in your situation why was it so important to you to share those really personal moments in your songwriting and how has that helped you build your audience so I've had a lot of healing I still have moments where I break down crying like that's the thing and a lot of people kind of ask me if it gets better and it's

it's a hard question to answer, but I think with everything that I've done and everything I've worked on and the songs that I write, it kind of gives me perspective, but also you can see the growth from the first song to where I am today. And it's cool hearing people say that my songs have helped them, but I feel like they fail to see how the songs have helped me. And also this experience has helped me. And it's such a,

mind-boggling thing to get behind that I started with this writing songs about my parents and now I write love songs and whatnot and it's cool that you know there's people who love Ordinary and there's people who love Save You a Seat which is a song about my wedding but it's the I wrote two songs for my wedding a song that's a love song and a song that's mourning the loss of my parents and so many people relate with both of them and I think that's really powerful. I think that's why you have come up in such a unique new artist because I

you have the most incredible voice, but it's just not that. It's the way you relate to people as well. And I see so many people at your concerts with signs that are like hashtag dead mums club, like dead parents club. There's so many people that- Crazy, yeah. And it's crazy because it links back into your black humour. But I think that that's why so many people relate to you because not only are they obsessed with your music, but they're obsessed with you and your story. Were you surprised with how many fans you had down here in Australia? Yeah.

Yeah, I was f***ing mind boggled. I couldn't tell if you saw, we were trying to fill up a thousand cap rooms. Yeah. And now we've gone up to arenas and it's insane and it's also terrifying. Dude, let me tell you, I mean, you have no idea the range of your audience and your fan base. Like we've been in your orbit for a long time, but my five-year-old Marley is obsessed

with you. Like to a point where I was like, how did this even? So she came home one day from school and she was like, mommy, I heard the song that I want to play at my wedding and it was Carry You Home and we put it on in the car and she is fine.

five years old I was like yeah well there's probably some therapy we need to go through for that as well but it's amazing and honestly you guys sold out in 30 seconds definitely need some arenas next time not pavilions what I will say Alex is I know people think that we work in radio and we get access to tickets we were two people that missed out on your tickets so if you know anyone that can slide us in a ticket would love to come and see you while you're here I'll make it happen before we let you go who's your dream collab you get to perform with anyone who is it

Miley Cyrus on the girl front and on the guy front. It's got to be it. I love it. Yeah, amazing. Two very tall ginger men together is what we want to see in the world. There we go. Alex, it's an absolute dream. Good luck with the tour. We're so stoked to have you on the show. Ordinary is such an incredible song. We can't wait to see you and to hear from you again. Thanks for having me, guys. I'll catch you later. See you, Alex. See you, Alex.

The other day I was on Instagram and I was looking through the news, not for anything hard hitting, let me tell you, but I was like flicking through a couple of news sites. And then I saw a familiar face pop up. So there's an article that's going viral at the moment about a woman who went and had a massage. Unfortunately, it wasn't a massage parlor that she walked into. But as I was watching it, it literally came up first and I was like, hold on.

That's Sophie. Sophie's someone I work with through my business, Tony May. She's got a small business herself called Talentide. Beautiful. But have a listen to this. Guys, guess what? I accidentally had a massage at a brothel. So currently, Sophie is blowing up news sites all across the country because of an unfortunate mishap in a massage parlour. Sophie, welcome to the show. Hi, how are you going? We're good. Good. Sophie, how does one end up in an adult massage parlour, shall I say?

Oh, well, I had hurt my neck going for a swim. That's what happens when you're over 30 and had been to the gym and was desperate to get my neck fixed. I literally just went into my small coastal town. There was a massage place open. I walked in. I didn't really think too much of it until like three weeks later. There was a lady asleep in the window, but I just thought she was tired. Hang on, a lady asleep in the window and that wasn't to tell what?

No, not at all. I just thought, oh, tired. We've all been there. Working hard. Yes. Yeah.

Great. So what happens? So you walk in, you like ask for a massage. Did everyone look confused? Was it like, you know? Everyone seems really surprised to see me there. And then I went in to explain how sore my neck was. They kind of rushed me through the process really quickly. I had to do pay ID rather than like cash or card, which I also didn't think was like that out of the ordinary. Everyone has tech issues. In

In hindsight, there were so many red flags like waving right in my face. Like I'm a busy mum. I have three businesses. I was desperate for a massage. I had 45 minutes before a meeting. I just didn't even think. They would have been so confused. So how was the massage? I want to know what the red flags were that you saw. Okay. Bed on the floor.

Well, the lady asleep in the window and she was like done up to the nine. She looked so beautiful. Then once I'd paid via pay ID, the massage therapist called a man and got him to confirm that my payment had come through. The biggest red flag at the time for me was like they

They didn't change the bedding once I'd left. She was like, out, out, go, go. And I was like, she didn't leave the room. I was there with my top off and everything. And she didn't change anything and she just shooed me out. But I was like, well, my neck feels heaps better. They did a good job at least. Yes, you did an amazing job. And then in hindsight now, I'm like, oh, you were like –

touching my bum a fair bit. Do you think that they were waiting? Yeah, maybe they were waiting for you to turn around to actually ask for more of a full service. I thought, oh, I mean, I'm a biggest believer in other people are professionals in their profession. I thought this is a new technique that you're really good at. Look, I feel for you. I've sort of accidentally done it as well. I was in this massage parlor once, just a random one that I went into, and there was a man massaging me, which I only ever usually get females. And

And I remember thinking like he started to massage me in a really funny way. Like he would massage up my back, but he would lean his chest onto my back. Really? No, but his chest wasn't actually on it, but I could feel... The closeness. I could feel the closeness and he kept going up and up and up. And I was like, I was so uncomfortable, but it was so many years ago where now I would have run out of the room, right? I would have said stop. But then I was like, oh, it was overseas. I was like, just see it out. Yeah. And then towards the end, he started whispering in my ear. So every time...

This is horrifying. Yes, every time he went up my back from like the top of my butt all the way up, he was like, sexy lady. And I was like, and I was so awkward. I was like planking. You know when your body goes so stiff? Britt, this is like evilly, horribly predatory. I can't even laugh at this now. Yeah, I feel like that's definitely a line drawn there. Yours was more than red flags. I wonder if this is not as like, you know... Infrequent. Yeah, infrequent as what maybe we might think it is. The comments on my video would...

Yeah, I remember when I was in my 20s, I went in to get a massage. I didn't think anything of it, which just shows how naive I was. I was so young. I was with my boyfriend at the time and I walked into a massage parlour. Thinking back, it was just two mattresses on the floor. So let me tell you, I don't think that that was a qualified massage parlour either. But nothing bad happened. Yeah.

No. Well, look. And I just feel like egg on me, you know. Everyone else on the internet was like, there's so many tells, you know, if they've got a flashing light out the front. And I was like, I didn't even notice. It's a massage place. So all I have to say is I really hope that your neck is feeling better. It's not, and I want to go back. You go back. Because it's gone viral all over the internet. I love that. Thanks, Sophie.

We recently were talking about the fact that my two daughters, Marley and Lola, five and four, are both still sleeping in my bed, which is not ideal. It's not good. That is insane.

It's insane to me. Yeah, and it's only a queen bed as well. So like no one's sleeping in our household. Too big. Five's too big. So Marley only gets in sometimes because she realises that her little sister, because they share a room and they share bunk beds, she realises her little sister has come and gotten in our bed. So she's like, well, stuff this. I'm not going to stay in here by myself. So then she finds her way into our bed as well. She's got FOMO. She does. But the problem is Lola. Lola is ground zero because up until recently...

Lola, since she was like, I'm talking 18 months, since she could get out of her own cot, she has not spent a night in her own bed. It doesn't matter where I am. It doesn't matter what I'm doing. She will sniff me out and she will find me in the middle of the night and she will climb into bed. And it just means that no one gets good sleep in our household. So we had a paediatrician named Dr Golly come on the show a couple of weeks back and he was talking about a method to get your kids to sleep in their own bed called the campout method. Have a listen to this.

Put Lola in her bedroom, in her bed where you intend for her to sleep the way you're currently doing it, but then at the same time, you go to bed in the same room. So you actually move a single mattress into her room, but ever so slowly, you move that mattress closer

closer and closer to the door, eventually on the other side of the door in the hallway and then again you inch it every night or two further away until eventually it's in the corridor and then magically just returns to your own bedroom. You have to edge away. Okay, my fear is that this is an absolute stitch up and we will both be sleeping in a trundle bed in the hallway. I did source...

Dr. Golly for you I did bring him for you and I did think that I was you know not all heroes wear capes I thought you'd be celebrating me thanking me but it's not quite what happened no because when I heard this and look I am not an expert let it be known I'm the woman who's had a child sleep in their bed for the last three years five years

But the thing is, is I just know that if I did this method, Lola and I are both sleeping on a pull-out bed in the hallway. Like she'll sniff me out. It doesn't matter where I go. If I inch 10 centimetres further away, she'll just roll there. She'll find her way. Yeah, she'll leave at 18 when she graduates. So I was actually in the park and this woman came up to me who'd listened to the show. She heard it and she was like, did you try the campout method? And I was like, I can't do it.

So what I want to share with you guys is, look, I haven't done the campout method. And if it's worked for you, amazing. But I have come across another thing that is working fantastic in our household. So we have started the rewards chart. Now, it's not a new theory. It's just bribery, but it works really well. So we've created a chart Monday through to Friday.

And every night she sleeps in her own bed, she gets a stamp. It is amazing how excited kids get about a stamp. Like this is the best thing that's happened to her all day. Well, it can't be the stamp. It's the idea of what the stamp brings, right? It's the prospect of the future. What is at the end of the stamp? Well, it's not even that. No, the stamp is pretty enticing. She gets to pick which stamp she wants, bought a whole pack on Amazon, all these different animals. Every day she's like, tomorrow it's going to be the turtle mum. So like she's pretty stoked about the stamp system.

And then when we get to Friday, so once she's done six sleeps from Sunday to three to Friday. Oh, not even five. You've gone the whole heart. I'm stretching it, guys. Next week it's going to be seven. We get to go for Yochi. The thing is though. So if I don't see you for 24 hours of the day, you will get...

So we take them for yochi on a Friday afternoon. Like a yoghurt. Yeah, like frozen yoghurt. It's like going to the ice cream shop. The thing is, though, is that we always go to yochi on a Friday afternoon. We've been going to yochi on a Friday afternoon for almost a year. That's just a little thing that we do. So I'm bribing her with something that she already gets to do. She just hasn't cottoned on that now it's a bribe. What?

What are you going to do when she realises that like that's already a given? Hopefully by then she's gotten pretty good at sleeping in her own bed and it becomes like habit for her. Everyone tells you that bribery is not a good idea for kids but it's just so effective that I think if it works for you, lean in. But maybe this bribe is different and I think it is because it's not like if you stop screaming I'll give you this. It's more of something that they're working towards themselves and it's a prolonged new habit that they're forming. So like...

six nights a week she has to do this one thing to get it. So I think it's different than like, please, if you stop screaming, I'll give you an ice cream. Absolutely. I know, I joke and I call it a bribe, but really, I think that the word reward system is the best way of going about it. It's building resilience. It's building a sense of self-confidence that she can achieve something all on her own. A bit of a stretch. We've gone from ice cream bragging to self-confidence. She is resilient.

for Prime Minister. Well, I'm glad you just got your life back, Lois, just in time for the third baby to arrive. Well, this is why we're doing it. We're trying to get to a place where both our kids sleep in their same bed so that way we don't have two other children in a bed and a newborn baby because I just, I don't think I'll survive that. Where's your newborn going to go? Back in the hallway where Lois used to sleep? You've got a pretty crowded house. Yeah, that's a whole other story because at the moment we don't have a nursery because I turned that into like a little workout room. Yeah.

Now, I hate, Laura, that we even have to have these conversations. We are talking about something far more serious than we usually talk about on The Pickup, but I think it is so important that people are across this. And I guess this is a bit of a PSA for anyone right now.

The Australian Federal Police have just come out and issued a warning about the increase in drugs hitting our shore in Australia. They are colloquially known as fantasy, but otherwise known as a date rape drug. Now, this year alone, more than 3.8 tonnes of this drug, which we can call fantasy, have been seized so far. So 3.8 tonnes seized.

imagine how many haven't been seized. Like imagine how much is making it onto our shores and we're seeing an increase in sexual assault cases from these date rape drugs. And the reason I wanted to talk about this is because it personally has happened to me three times. I have been drugged three times and by all different kinds of people. And this is what I think is important. A

in terms of this drug or this happening to them, this incidence happening to them, that it's usually by a stranger at a bar that slips something into your drink and that's it. You don't know them. And that does happen. Absolutely. But often this happens by people that you know as well, which is so sad to think about.

But I want people to be super aware that it is not just a stranger in the bar when you're out that you have to be aware of. It's not just like making sure your hand is over your drink. It's being hyper aware of the increase that this is happening and also...

what to look out for. Yeah, I mean, firstly, it's horrifying that like a federal warning has to be released in the first place. But we were just talking about it. I mean, the pickup team is a 100% female team. Like, you know, there's four of us that work in this team. And of the four of us, three of us have experienced an incident where someone has used or tried to use one of these state drugs against us.

Britt, you've been incredibly generous in sharing the things that have happened to you over the years and how this has been something that hasn't just happened once, but it's happened three times to you. My experience of it, I feel so lucky that I caught the person who was doing it in the midst of them making my drink. And this wasn't,

a stranger. I was at a friend's house. This was my ex-boyfriend at the time's best friend who I had lived with. I didn't even fully comprehend what it was that was going on until pretty shortly afterwards. I knew it was wrong, but I didn't actually realise his intention, if that makes sense. I didn't put two and two together because it was someone who I trusted so much.

And I left and I felt so weird about the whole thing and it wasn't until the next day when I was completely sober that I realised actually how close I came to something that could have been so much more horrendous. And I think for anyone, like if you have daughters who are going out and they are, you know, potentially mixing with new people, if this isn't something that you've thought about, it is just so crazily prevalent. And I hate that it has to be an issue and a warning for women. I know it does happen to men as well and it can happen in same-sex relationships as well.

But the vast majority of sexual assaults that happen to women off the back of this, and the problem is, is it's so underreported because when it does happen, you wake up not knowing what it is that you've just experienced. And so we really wanted to drive this message home because it's something that we all here care about so deeply. And if that can make someone a little bit more alert to it...

and save them from an experience that could be truly horrifying, then it's an important conversation to have. Well, I want to take it a step further and tell you what it feels like and what sign to look out for so you know if it's happening to you. And I want to tell you what to do. So it has happened to me with someone from a bar, like the barman. It has happened with someone I was on a date with from like an online dating. I don't remember the site, but it was just online dating. I've been speaking to him for a week, met up with him. He did it on the first date. And it's happened with someone that I knew.

Now, I'm very lucky by the third time it happened. I say lucky, I'm unlucky, but I'm lucky that I was able to recognize what was happening to me because it had happened so many times. And you could get out and get to safety. Well, a lot of people say like if you start to feel unwell, like make sure you get yourself to a hospital. In my experience, you do not have time. Like it happens so quickly, it is scary. It goes from zero to 100 in sometimes potentially minutes, right?

If you are out, you need to tell someone immediately that what is happening to you or what you think is happening to you and get help. So if you are out at a bar, the second you don't feel right, you go to someone behind the bar or you go to a friend or whoever it is and you just tell them. And one time I was with my sister, we were overseas and I straight away, that was the second time, so I was pretty sure something was happening.

And I said to her, something's happening to me. I think I've been drugged. We need to go now. And minutes later, she was physically, she's smaller than me. She was, I was unconscious on the street. She was like dragging me into a hostel. If I hadn't had the recognition to know something was wrong and tell her, I don't know where I would be or what would have happened. But I just want you to recognize that it is for me, and I can only speak about my experiences, but they've all felt pretty the same.

You feel very, very drunk very quickly, but it's not a normal drunk. So you start, for me, the first sign was like when I would move my head to the side just to look, everything was taking too long to catch up. So that's...

my sight wasn't moving in line with my head, if that makes sense. And it started to get blurry. Like your vision was blurred. Yeah. And then that is literally, you don't really have a lot of time to think of other signs and symptoms because it just starts to happen. You just start to feel really unwell and really, really intoxicated. So the second you feel that, all I can say is...

just tell someone that you're with what is happening because it's only minutes away from you not being in control of your own body. And it's disgusting that we are having these conversations. And even the way I'm talking about it now, in my mind, I'm back in that situation trying to remember what it felt like. And it's horrific. It's truly, truly horrific. And I don't want anyone to ever experience it. But I think it's important now that we know the

the level of drugs that are coming in and the level of people that are doing this for sexual assault, also for theft, like some people are just using it to rob people. I mean, that would be the best case scenario. But please just like talk to your daughters about it, talk to your sons about it, talk to your friends about it. Be hyper aware of what can happen and make sure everyone knows what to do in that situation.

Yeah, and look, if this news has affected you in any way, help is always available on 1-800-RESPECT or you can contact Lifeline 24-7 on 13 11 14.

Now, it is Mother's Day this weekend, and I love a lot of things about being a radio host. But one of the things I love the most is when we get the chance to give back to people that really need it or might have gone through a hard time or just make someone feel good about themselves. And that's what we're doing this Mother's Day. Well, I also think as well, like, I mean, mums are the matriarchs of our family who keep everything ticking over. It is often such a, I

I don't want to say it's a thankless job because it's not. You get thanked in so many ways. 90% of the time it is. Yeah, often like the people who love you the most sometimes forget to tell you how appreciated you are for everything that you do as a mum and Mother's Day is such an important day for so many people for so many different reasons. Yeah. And we know even on this show and from all of you who listen, there are so many incredible mums out there that we want to celebrate too. Well, you're not my mum, Laura, but I appreciate you. So we did... I'm the only mum in this show, goddammit. Yeah.

That is true. We did want to ask you guys to let us know, to write in and call up and let us know a mum in your life that you think really deserves something, something really special. And can I just say like, wow.

this was way harder than I thought. There were so many incredible entries and so many people that are doing so many amazing things and really going through it. And I do wish I could give something to everybody. Yeah, it was insane, the response. Yeah. And so we did have one entry from Lauren and Lauren wrote up to nominate her sister-in-law, Tegan.

So Loz says, Tegan lost her husband to bowel cancer when her baby was only six weeks old last year. And this weekend will be her first Mother's Day. So not only...

Is it her first ever Mother's Day ever? Like she is a new mom, but it is such a huge day to be celebrating when you've lost some, like you've lost your husband the year before. I can't imagine. It is the person that you're supposed to be celebrating Mother's Day with. With, yeah. It was so hard to read through these and so many people that love and care about other people in their lives was like truly incredible and I cannot imagine it.

Lauren goes on to say, Teagan is so brave and incredibly resilient. Whenever you see her, she just has a smile on her face and you wouldn't even know what she's been through. That in itself takes a lot to not want to put your pain and hurt onto other people as well.

Loz wanted to celebrate her first Mother's Day and make sure she knows how loved she is and to take some time to celebrate how wonderful she is. I mean, I thought this was amazing. We thought this was an amazing person. So we do want to call Tegan and just give her a really beautiful package for her first Mother's Day just to make her feel that little bit more loved and that little bit more special. So we're going to give her a call now. Hello? Hi, Tegan. Is that Tegan on the phone? Yes.

Yeah, it is. Tegan, we wanted to give you a call. It's Britt and Laura here from The Pickup. Oh, hi. Hi. Surprise. How are you? Well, firstly, we wanted to say a very, very happy Mother's Day to you and also to let you know that your friend Loz had nominated you as being an incredible mum.

Oh, that's so sweet. Yeah, so we, I mean, just to fill you in, we wanted to find somebody really special to give a really special prize to, like a beautiful spa weekend for somebody. And we had people call up to talk about who they think should deserve it and why. And your sister-in-law, Loz, just had such beautiful things to say about you. Can you tell us a little bit, like what have you been through the past year? Because from all accounts, you've been through it.

I have, I have, yeah. Sadly, yeah, July last year, my husband, Luke, he passed away from bowel cancer. I'm so sorry. After, yeah, 15th month battle and we had a, yeah, six-week-old baby at the time. So she's now 11 months tomorrow, so...

absolute light of my life but yeah it's been a really really tough time um over the past little while so sorry tegan yeah tegan we were just saying now you were everyone sorry we were just saying you know firstly happy mother's day for it being your first one but also how deeply sorry we are that you're celebrating it not with the person you should be thank you i'm a bit starstruck i love you girls i'm listening

I want you just to hear what Loz did say about you. She told us a bit about what you've been through, as you just said. And she did just say, you're so brave and so resilient. And whenever you see you anywhere, no matter who it is or where it is, you always have a smile on your face and you wouldn't even know what you've been going through. And she just said you deserve something really beautiful. So

we're really happy that we get to give you something to help. And I know we say happy Mother's Day and it seems to be the thing that rolls off people's tongues, right? And I do hope it's happy for you, but it's not necessarily a happy day. You know, a lot of people go through a lot of different things and a lot of people have lost people in their life and

if we can just give you something small and it is nothing into comparison to what you've been through. But yeah, so. Thank you. That's really sweet of you guys to call and very kind of you, very generous. Tegan, you're so welcome. And we hope that, yeah, it is a special weekend for you after all. And you have people around you who love you so much.

Thank you so much. Oh, it's so lovely to chat to you both. And please hang around because we're going to get that all sorted for you. And yeah, try and have the best Mother's Day that you possibly can. Your little one is really lucky to have you. Thank you so much. Really appreciate it.

I think it's an important one to remember because, you know, Mother's Day is a celebration for so many people, but there are a lot of reasons why it is an incredibly hard day for others as well. And not just for people who are doing it on their own, but for people who maybe don't have the babies in their arms that they thought they would on Mother's Day or for whatever version Mother's Day looks like for you. We know that it is a

A wonderfully happy day for some, but in order to kind of celebrate that, you also have to hold space for all the people that find Sunday a really, really challenging day as well.