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Dating A More Masculine Woman? Here's What To Do

2024/12/19

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Conor Beaton: 本期节目讨论了与性格更男性化的女性建立健康关系的策略。节目指出，越来越多的女性展现出男性化特质，这与社会文化、家庭环境以及个人经历有关。社会鼓励女性独立自主，部分女权主义思潮也促使女性更像男性。一些女性由于成长环境或过去经历的影响，从未学习过或难以展现更女性化的特质，例如温柔和关怀。另一些女性则由于过去被男性伤害或控制，而选择以男性化的方式保护自己。针对如何与这类女性建立健康关系，节目提出了几点建议：首先，避免与伴侣争论输赢，因为这会将关系变成对抗性的。男性试图在关系中占据主导地位的行为，会加剧冲突，并使女性更加男性化。与其争夺主导地位，不如尝试保持冷静和稳定，以自身的情绪稳定性来应对女性的强势。保持冷静，而非以火还火，才能更好地应对女性的强势。其次，引导女性表达情绪而非解释，有助于建立信任。女性的男性化特质往往是她们试图回避自身情绪的一种表现。通过引导她们表达情绪，而非要求她们解释，可以帮助她们从男性化的状态中转换出来，并建立更深层次的连接。最后，男性自身的情绪稳定性对关系的和谐至关重要。男性应提升自身情绪管理能力，在冲突中保持冷静，才能更好地引导伴侣，建立更健康、更和谐的关系。 Conor Beaton: 节目中还强调了关系的意义，指出健康的亲密关系应该成为个人成长的机会，帮助双方共同成长，成为更好的自己。

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Why are more women adopting traditionally masculine traits?

Society has incentivized women to embody masculine traits like assertiveness and ambition, often through feminist rhetoric encouraging equality by promoting women to be more like men. This has led many women to adopt the characteristics of the men they want to attract, such as being ambitious and direct, which can create challenges in relationships with more traditionally masculine men.

How can men handle relationships with women who have a more masculine energy?

Men should let go of the need to win arguments and avoid power struggles. Instead, they should focus on grounding themselves and not competing for the masculine role in the relationship. By staying calm and present, men can help their partners express emotions, fostering a deeper connection and trust.

What are some reasons women might embody a more masculine energy?

Women may adopt masculine traits due to societal pressures, being raised by dominant women who lacked feminine qualities, or experiencing trauma from men who embodied hyper-masculine behaviors. These factors can lead to mistrust of men and a need to maintain control as a form of safety.

How can men evoke emotions in their partners who are more in their masculine energy?

Men should ask questions that encourage emotional expression rather than explanation, such as asking how something felt rather than why it happened. This helps redirect the conversation from a masculine, logical space to a more feminine, emotional one, fostering trust and connection.

Why might men feel the need to compete for the masculine role in a relationship?

Men may feel intimidated by a partner who embodies more masculine energy and may try to assert their masculinity by competing for dominance. This often leads to adversarial dynamics, pushing the woman further into her masculine orientation and creating conflict instead of connection.

What is the importance of emotional stability in men dating more masculine women?

Men who are emotionally unstable may struggle to ground their partners, leading to a lack of trust and connection. Developing emotional stability allows men to regulate their emotions and create a safe space for their partners to express themselves, which is crucial for building a fulfilling relationship.

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This chapter explores the societal factors, family dynamics, and past experiences that contribute to women adopting traditionally masculine traits. It highlights how societal incentives, upbringing, and past trauma can influence a woman's behavior and relational patterns.

Society incentivizes women to embody masculine traits like assertiveness and ambition.
Some women lack exposure to feminine qualities due to upbringing.
Past trauma or abuse can lead women to adopt masculine traits for self-protection.

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Talking points: relationships, masculinity, culture

This is a question I get all the time from men. They date a woman who takes on what feels like a very masculine energy, and they're not sure how to handle that without doubling down on battles, roles, and standoffs. Here's how to build a grounded, fulfilling, satisfying partnership instead.

(00:00:00) - Intro and the reasons women adopt traditionally masculine traits

(00:08:40) - What do you do? Number one: let go of “who’s right” battles

(00:12:12) - Stop fighting for the “masculine role” in the relationship

(00:16:54) - Evoke emotion

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