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Kyle Creek - Regret, Resilience, And Reinvention

2025/4/14
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我经常因为犯错而自责,这让我感到无力和愚蠢。这种感觉可能源于我从小在宗教家庭长大的经历,在那里我被教导不能犯错。 在职业生涯早期,严格要求自己对我的成功有益,但现在我意识到这种方式并不适合我的儿子。男性文化中存在一种不成文的规则,即不允许自己原谅犯错。 我认为男性感到有力量时才会感到最满足,犯错会让他们感到无力,并因此自责。 过去,我会把错误转化为创作灵感。但疫情后的财务困境让我开始过度谨慎,并因此感到后悔。现在的后悔主要源于感觉自己迷失了自我。 通过羞耻感来激励自己虽然短期有效,但长期会影响生活的各个方面,难以维持。 最近我接手了一个代写回忆录的项目,这个项目让我身心俱疲,因为我过度投入工作,忽略了生活中的其他方面。 我对监狱系统的研究让我认识到自己不想进监狱,也让我试图理解一个年轻人如何从一个被爱的小男孩变成一个在监狱中感到自在的人的过程。 Netflix 的纪录片《Adolescence》很好地展现了互联网对青少年的影响,缺乏男性榜样会导致年轻人寻求其他替代物来填补空白,这很危险。 我通过散步和锻炼来管理自己的愤怒,但需要改进压力管理。我经常在工作之外的时间里仍然思考工作,这让我感到压力很大。早起工作能帮助我管理压力。 我写了十多本书,其中包括一些儿童读物和代写作品。我坚持完成代写项目是因为我信守承诺,并且相信这个故事和我的工作。 我认为在有稳定的工作时,我的写作更有创造力。对于代写项目,我应该提前做好财务规划,并进行更充分的调研。 我后悔过早地辞去工作、投资失败以及买房决策失误。 我认为心理治疗让我感觉更糟糕,因为我需要的是解决问题的方法,而不是被安慰。独自散步和一次为期八天的公路旅行比多年的心理治疗对我更有帮助。 我认为现代心理治疗模式更适合女性,而不是男性。 我的新书《Speech Therapy》提供了一些快速简便的建议,帮助人们应对生活中的小问题,包含轻松和严肃的话题。我的写作风格自然流畅,像朋友间的谈话一样,目的是与读者产生共鸣,而不是扮演专家。

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Talking points: masculinity, regret, anger, culture

It's been too long since I sat down with The Captain himself. I am continuously grateful for Kyle's honesty about his own life, his process, and his opinion on things. Which means this conversation is as refreshing as it is frank. Strongly recommend sharing this one, team.

(00:00:00) - Why is regret such a thing, are men conditioned to beat themselves up, and should it impact our decisions?

(00:10:47) - How a recent writing project nearly broke Kyle, and what he learned

(00:18:28) - On Netflix’s “Adolescence”, social media, and male role models

(00:26:24) - How Kyle manages anger

(00:31:38) - On maintaining discipline and motivation for creative or side projects, and what Kyle would’ve done differently

(00:41:41) - Why therapy didn’t work for Kyle

(00:49:38) - Kyle’s new book

As is tradition, I'm share Kyle's unedited bio here because it's...well, it's just fantastic.

"As a kid, I wanted to be a cowboy. Then, my mom bought me a skateboard and I got on with my life. In college, I decided copywriting was the career move for me and, for the last decade, I’ve held a variety of creative positions both in-house and within agency settings. I’ve also published five books, spoken at events around the country, and educated the masses about shark dating as the host of “Shark Sex 101” for Discovery Channel’s ever-popular Shark Week series.

My work has had its share of recognition — but nothing will ever mean as much to me as the “2016 AAF People’s Choice Show Winner” award that I received for tattooing a former employer’s face on my ass as part of a charity auction.

My only regret in life is being just a grammar gunslinger and not an actual cowboy. I don’t even own a horse."

Connect with Kyle

-New book: Speech Therapy: https://m.cmpgn.page/QDc2tx)

-Website: https://www.kylecreek.com/)

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sgrstk/)


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