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Nick Pollard - The Real Cost Of People-Pleasing

2025/4/7
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Nick Pollard discusses the negative impacts of people-pleasing, including resentment and existential crises. He explores the origins of this behavior, often rooted in childhood experiences with absentee fathers or overbearing mothers. People-pleasing is described as selfishness disguised as kindness, leading to transactional relationships and burnout.
  • People-pleasing can lead to resentment, existential crises, and sadness.
  • It often originates from childhood experiences, such as having an absentee father or a devouring mother.
  • People-pleasing is described as selfishness disguised as kindness because it stems from one's own needs rather than genuine generosity.
  • It creates transactional relationships that can lead to feelings of being unappreciated and resentful.

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Talking points: relationships, masculinity, mindset, nice guy syndrome

A bunch of you have reached out requesting an interview with Nick, aka The People Displeaser, and I'm happy to say we finally got the chance to talk. Nick's practical, no-nonsense frame is a breath of fresh air. If you're looking for ways to combat your own people-pleasing tendencies—and some really good reasons why you should—this is the episode for you.

(00:00:00) - Is people-pleasing really that bad, and what creates one

(00:08:39) - How “needs” turned into a form of manipulation, and the nuance of privilege

(00:14:15) - Does people-pleasing show up differently in men and women, and what the true cost is

(00:24:59) - Where does a man start dealing with people-pleasing

(00:38:31) - The importance of rejection, and do women play a role?

(00:48:55) - Nick’s hard truths for introverts

(00:54:22) - What you’re going to face when start putting yourself first

Nick Pollard, aka The People Displeaser, is a world-renowned coach and speaker who specializes in addiction, codependent behavior, and people-pleasing. Overcoming his own struggles—a deeply difficult childhood, his own addictive tendencies, and more—he now works tirelessly to support others wanting to break free. With tens of millions views on his social media channels, Nick has become a thought leader in personal growth and change, and now ranks in the top 10% of coaches worldwide.

Connect with Nick

-Website:** **https://thepeopledispleaser.com/)

-YouTube: www.youtube.com/@peopledispleaser)

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepeopledispleaser/)


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