Burning questions: do we miss Barstool Sports, when we’re getting married & are we still friends?!
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When his daughter moves back in. The last time you walked out that door, you looked back at me and gave me a double bird. I was 18. The double bird was how I ended all our conversations. The wheels come off. Can we try to talk to each other like rational adults? Have you watched the news lately? That's not a thing anymore. Series premiere Wednesday, 8, 7 central on ABC and stream on Hulu. You're going to hate me for asking this, but when is the second baby coming?

Have you and Pete ever broken up? Would you guys ever go to couples therapy? What does Pete's family think of your job and your presence online? When are you guys getting engaged? Do you ever regret any of the old clips that we used to have? Do you miss working at Barstool Sports? Welcome back to the other episode of Mean Girl Pod. Happy New Year, everyone. It's 2025. That's wild. It is wild, except...

The disclaimer. Do we give the disclaimer now? Right? Yeah. We can give the, we can give the folks the disclaimer. Okay. So while it is 2025 and mentally we've adjusted to that, it is 2025. Jordan and I are actually recording this the end, the last second to last week of 2024. Um,

Because like we're going on We're going to be traveling We're going to go out on holidays So that's why we did We're like we got to give You know we got to give them something So that's why we're doing The burning questions episode And then next week on the 13th We'll answer Like my number one question I want to know is like Jordan how was Colton's girlfriend Like how was being home with everyone So we'll talk about all that And I want to know how Hawaii was How Hanukkah was How Christmas was Like so we're going to get into that Next week

Yeah, which I can't wait for. But this week, it's going to be all of your burning questions. So we're skipping the roses and the thorns because we're recording a little early. I know. I'm excited for this episode because I feel like...

We get the exact same questions asked on our DMs over and over again. I just kind of like push them to the side. And then because I was like, I don't really know if that's like a good like a fun topic. Because it's a very like a lot of the questions are very like a couple sentences, not like topic worthy. And they're not really listener questions. So now it's like I compiled like all of the ones we get all the time. And I was like, okay, we can finally answer everyone's question.

They are quite literally your burning questions. But first, what's going to fuel your answers, Jordan? Oh, yeah. This is going to, my monster is going to fuel my answers. We ended 2024 with the Monster Zero Ultra White, and we're going to start 2025 off with it because it's my favorite flavor. I also like to color coordinate my monsters with what I'm wearing.

Yeah, you do. I'm also wearing the throwback. Someone messaged me and they're like, I love this sweatshirt. Where can I get it? And I was like, oh, this. You like this? Our first ever Mean Girl Pod crew neck. Wow. I mean, I love it, but it's like my like jamma top. You know what I mean? It's very though. It is just like the classic. But this is, I like that you're burning questions fueled by Monster. Yes. Yes.

And like I said, the Monster Energy Zero Ultra, a.k.a. the White Monster, which I love. And I'm going to be wired today because we're recording this at 4 p.m. And I'm drinking this whole thing at 4 p.m. I mean, it is a bold move on your part. But you know what? You got to pack tonight. So there you go. True, true. Okay. So what Alex and I did is we compiled a list of burning questions that we can answer together. And then we're going to end with.

questions that I have for her and then that she has for me oh can't wait okay so this first question I feel like we've gotten so much and I feel bad that we never have answered it but it's like I said it's so hard to sometimes just like bring these into an episode organically but the number one question we got is I want to hear more about just media where where are y'all headed and

What talent are you looking for? Are you bringing on other podcasts? Please give us a deep dive. And I feel like we never really talk about just media. So we're going to do it now. So basically, we have podcasts where...

They're like, okay, okay. So we have podcasts with creators that are big, so to speak. Um, and they're like established podcast or established creators and they come in and like, we either create the podcast on the ground up or like we take the podcast and we continue it or we rebrand it or we relaunch it, so to speak.

And those are like the established podcasts. And then we also have this consulting arm where we'll start new podcasts and we'll help creators that are starting new where they like pay us a consulting fee. And like we work with them and give them strategy and things like that. So there's like the arm. I don't know what to call like the grandfathered in arm or like the...

There's the consulting arm where they pay us. And then there's the arm where it's like, it will automatically make money off the jump because they have the listener base. Like for Mean Girl Pod, for example, like we had listeners already. Whereas opposed to starting it from scratch with somebody that wasn't, didn't have like a social media following or something, that's an example where they would pay us and we would help them with like a playbook of how to do a podcast. Yeah. And yeah,

I don't think we have a limit on what talent we're looking for. That's a big question. What talent are we looking for? Are we bringing on other podcasts? I don't think anything is... We don't have a bucket or cut anyone off. If we feel like they'll fit with the Just Media team, we want to talk to them. Wouldn't you say? I totally agree. And I think our only thing is we...

in terms of like scaling a startup, right? Like you don't want to, like one thing that we don't want to do is go too fast, right? And like spread ourselves too thin to where like we can't give proper attention to the podcast. So I would say like we are sort of picky on who we think would be the right fit. Who like you think you can sell ads for? Who you think will like want to put the work in? Like,

And then outside of that, like, yeah, we would talk to anyone, like anyone. I think that, I think one thing that happened at the beginning was people thought we were like all female, but like, we're not, we're definitely not looking for only female creators. We are just not,

We're just trying to make sure we can always dedicate the right amount of attention to podcasts. You guys, happy new year. And with the new year, that means we are all getting our finances in order. We're setting our budgets. We're hitting our budgets. And most importantly, we are shedding our unwanted subscriptions from last year that are reoccurring and they are costing us all money on things that we are not using. Enter podcast.

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I feel like, gosh, it's so funny to think about like then versus like now I'm like a mom with like a baby that like lives in a house, you know, I'm like, oh my gosh, you know, so you really like listen Barstool was a blast. We learned so much there. I'm so thankful for it. Like I met you there.

We started creating content there. Like we started Mean Girl there. It was a wonderful two years, but like I'm really happy where I've landed. And so, no, I don't, I definitely don't miss it, but I really am thankful for that time. But like, I love, I love this season of life that I'm in more now.

Than any season of life I've ever been in. But a lot of that is the family component. Like this phase feels really me and feels really sweet.

I love that. I could not agree more. I am so grateful for everything it brought us because without that, we would not have met each other, started Mean Girl Pod. Who knows what this would be right now? It was the best stepping stone for our careers, but I'm so grateful for the place I'm in right now in my life. It's so peaceful and stable, and I've never had...

this little anxiety and just happiness and peace. So I'm so happy where I'm at. So like I said, yeah, grateful. Don't miss it. I also, this is kind of like a weird thought, but I was thinking something I'm grateful about Barstools. I feel like the two years we were there, we went at a hundred speed where almost like it got everything out of my system to want to live a very peaceful life. If that makes sense. Yeah.

Yeah, well, we got to travel. We got to participate on like reality shows. Like it's it. It was so cool to have worked there. And like Dave was incredible. And like we that was such a cool season of life. But like it really it's like living in New York in general. Right. We always say like you live there, you go, go, go, go, go. And you get it out of your system and then you go and you appreciate more the other life, this life, you know.

But I do think like you and I as people in general, I've noticed about myself, like I'll always have a social component. Like I'll always want to go out to like restaurants or like crave going to Miami and like I need to go and do those things because that's just like a natural part of who I am. And then like come back here and do, you know, like get in bed and light a candle at seven and watch a movie and journal and go to bed. You know, like I really think I am both of those things.

Yeah, I'm not as much of like a social as in like going out in my city, but travel wise, I need it to survive. I need to be traveling at least once a month to feel fulfilled. That is something that I learned with myself. Just like having like one trip to constantly look forward to. It doesn't matter if it's work, pleasure, solo. I need that to survive. Totally agree. And yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And one more thing on the Barstool thing was like also that Dave did give us the IP was like so, so incredible and kind of him and like made a huge difference from like our jumping off point. Oh my God. Yeah. I forgot about that. Yeah. Very grateful. Oh my gosh. Okay. Question number three.

Okay, what is it now? Okay. Let's see. Is it technically question number two? Technically question number two, yes. How do you feel about couples joining couples therapy to strengthen their relationship? And would you guys ever go to couples therapy? I think any form of therapy is fine.

Okay, I think there's a negative connotation to like they're in couples therapy where I know a couple here in Austin that I've met that the second or third time I was out with them, Harrison and I, we both love them dearly. And they were referring to their therapist that they go to as a couple. And I, these two would have shocked you that they went. It wasn't, they're not fighting. They have a great relationship.

And they're like, oh yeah, we've always gone to couples therapy. Like it is such a great thing to have in your relationship. It just helps with your communication. And I was like, there we go. Right? Like people think if you go to couples therapy, it's because you've got so many problems, but it's like, no, it's just like emotionally mature people knowing it can make their relationship even better. It can make their communication even better. So like, yes, I would go. And I think it is an awesome thing.

I agree. I feel like that's my response to everything. I agree. But like, I really do. I hate how therapy has such a negative connotation to it. Like if you go by yourself or if you go with a couple, like especially if you go with your partner because people automatically assume you're doomed. You're trying to fix what's so broken. You're on the verge of breakup, divorce, this or that. But it's like, no, it just...

it's just something that you need to be doing you need to be talking to an unbiased person on a regular basis and I don't know how Pete feels about it but I would like to go like I think more so once we're married and have kids and kind of experience more roadblocks in our life but I think it's just such a powerful thing and it's therapy is the best thing I've ever done for myself so I feel like it would be so great for a relationship too

Yeah, I think you see how beneficial it is for you as an individual that, like, why wouldn't it benefit a couple too, you know? And it's, like, crazy to assume all couples just –

can communicate perfectly and that there's no you know if if Harrison was a copy paste of me of my emotions and Pete was a copy paste of your emotions like that would be so boring and we wouldn't even be attracted to them but so like our communication styles are inevitably different so I think that couples therapy is like a really good thing and not it just has this negative connotation but like yes stop making it taboo okay I love that question three

How much would you guys spend on a wedding slash do you guys want traditional weddings? What? So my first wedding was, because I like have done one. I'm just kidding. So I...

I can't say my answer is going to be the same because I'm not engaged. But at this point in my life, I would be really okay with, not necessarily, I don't want to elope, but like having a very small wedding. I don't want to spend a lot of money on it. I think people who have beautiful weddings, that's great. I think people who elope, that's great. Do whatever makes you happy. But I'm just not really someone who wants to spend a ton of money on weddings.

eight hours of your life like I'd rather take that money and go on a ball or honeymoon or have like a really sick house um so I don't know exactly how much but I would really love a cheap wedding um and not do traditional like I just want to get married on a beach with like 50 people there I don't even really want a wedding party like simple what about you are you gonna have a second wedding I'm I'm with you on on the simple on mine will inevitably be non-traditional like

you know, I don't even know what we would do. Um, like what it would look like, you know, if it was like an elopement, if it was, you just go to the courthouse, like, I have no idea. So I guess to answer the question, like how much would you spend on a money on a wedding? Probably not that much. And it would definitely not be traditional at this point. I don't know a lot of people anymore doing traditional weddings and I love it. I, I went to one, two this year.

But other than that, I'm really seeing these non-traditional, you know what I love? The surprise weddings. Have you ever been to that where they invite everybody over for like a Christmas party and boom, it's like, actually, we just got married? No. Wait, that's a thing? I've seen a couple of those. I think those are really cool. Like, yeah, I think they're so cool. I love that. The last time I went to a church wedding was probably, oh God, 2018, 2017, 2018.

Yeah, and they'll go out of style, you know. We'll get so far away from the church wedding, and then in five years, it'll be like the most formal church weddings are back. Like, it just comes in these waves. Yeah. So we'll see. We'll see. Okay. Next question. Are you going to combine finances while married? We combined and separate. Like, I... So I...

speaking from experience, will never fully combine my finances again with somebody, nor would I recommend that you 100% combined. But we do have a baby together. So if you're assuming that Harrison, like if I'm speaking from a place where Harrison and I are married, we do have things together, but definitely, definitely like things apart. I guess that's a good way to

We're not operating from like a Venmo me because you went to the grocery store by any means, nor do I think you should. Right. Like Tate, we pay for together like a lots together, but like definitely investments, savings, all that stuff is like separate. Yeah. Yeah. I was going to ask like how you guys even split things now that you have a baby. I think that'd be a lot more difficult. Yeah.

We're also just like not wound up about it. You know what I mean? Like when it comes to diapers, when it comes like the hospital bill, it's just like honest to God a lot of times which one of us has our card nearest. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And like there's no tab keeping like no one's keeping tab and like no, no tallies. Yeah. No, we're not keeping score. I mean, it's so hard to say like because I'm not.

Pete and I aren't engaged or married, but we've talked about it a little. And I think we'll combine the majority, but we'll also each have a little pocket where we use that to spend money on ourselves. I love to buy myself stuff, so I'll use that to buy myself my clothes, my skincare, this or that. And he'll use his if he wants to buy golf clubs, this or that.

We just split everything right now, and I just could care less who pays for things, and he could care less. So I just like... I'm like you. We don't even really... I don't even think about it. The only time I can think when we put two cards down is if we go to a really nice dinner. I'm just like, just throw both cards in. I could care less. But other than that, it's like I couldn't even tell you who pays for what when. But I know everything is very equal. Yeah. Yeah. It's...

I will throw this bit in there. I do think in terms of the baby, Harrison has absorbed a very large amount of like paying for things because I think he saw too, like when it comes to like feeding her and things like I have to do that, you know? And so there was like a sweet element where I, I definitely saw he wanted to like take on more of that, which I,

I thought was just a nice thing that I just wanted to include. Yeah. And like, yeah, it's, it's, I mean, you guys have a baby together, which is a whole different element. Yeah. Yeah. We, we definitely like, you just go so fast sometimes. I just was thinking, I'm like, who's been paying for what, where, right? No, literally like, yeah, it's actually wild. Um, it's like a blur.

Did I ask you? Did I ask? Yeah. You asked the last one. Yeah. Okay. How do you like being coworkers and friends? I feel like so many female duos show shows end or explode. Well, I feel like we've gotten that. I a little bit more lately than usual due to the nature of just like what's been happening on the internet, but don't, but so we're, we're unique in the sense of,

We weren't friends before we were co-hosts. Correct. Right? Like, we didn't start the podcast because we were best friends. We were, like, paired together. Mm-hmm. So our friendship, we were business partners, co-hosts, first, and then we became best friends, right? So, like, don't you think that's a really unique dynamic? Yes. Actually, now that I think of it,

I would say that's probably the most important dynamic. And when I think of other successful female duos, they were business partners before they were friends first. It shapes your mind in a different way. And when you start, you have like...

I don't even know how to describe it, but it removes like the pettiness and like the competition. It's like you see success together more than separately because you started something together where you both want it to be successful.

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Visit betterhelp.com slash mean girl today to get 10% off your first month. That's betterhelp.com slash mean girl. Yeah. Like I remember very early on when we were setting up like our social channels and we were like dividing up the days. Remember like you, I think you were Monday through, through Wednesday and I was Thursday through Sunday and I had one more day because you sent out the calendar invites or something. I can't remember. Yeah.

But it was like a pretty exact division of labor, call it. And it's like, if you're doing that with your best friend, one, you might not like... I don't know. I don't know. It was just... I'm just thinking about this. I thought about that earlier. I was like, well, hold on. We weren't best friends that started a podcast. No. We were like literally paired together. We didn't even really know each other that well. No. I mean...

We had hung out maybe once, not ever alone before that. No, never. Like we, I barely even had your cell phone. I think I only had texted you in like a group chat a few times before we got paired together. Yeah, I think so too. And, and so I think like, it's funny because what we started at, like this says coworkers and friends, but like, you got to remember we started as coworkers and we became friends.

Where that didn't have to even happen. What we could have done was just stayed strict coworkers. It allowed us to set up really great boundaries with each other because we started setting boundaries as more so business partners versus... Like, when you become, like, good friends with someone, you don't really...

have boundaries. Like I remember you and I, like we started setting boundaries and like how we wanted this to work and what we needed to do in order for it to work. And we had those conversations of like, if one of us needs or if one of us needs a gut check, maybe we should reevaluate that episode. And we put each other's like morals and values first based off of a business partner and the success of a show versus like

Oh, but come on, like, whatever. You're my best friend. Like, just we'll post and get through it together. Like, I don't know how to describe it, but we just like the way we started the foundation was how you start a business or how you are with like a coworker you trust.

That's such a good point because I remember specific. I remember I was in, I was in a, like a small town in New York. And I remember we got like a set of clips back from like a certain episode where like, I, I did not, I had like a pit in my stomach and I was like, Oh, like I don't feel good actually talking about this. And I remember you responded back and you were like, if she doesn't feel good talking about it, let's cut it. And I thought maybe you'd be like, Oh, but it's really good. And it was like the first time we ever cut something.

And I remember feeling like, wow, I can do this if she'll always have my back on like what we cut. And it's like, if one of us has ever wanted to cut something, I truly do not think there has been one time where the other has been like, no, but keep it in. You know, it's like we've always put that sort of like secure and trust above anything else, which I think has created like a really good dynamic. Yeah. And we also have such different interests too outside of the podcast where we

I think sometimes other female duos, they get a little catty or competitive because they're, I don't want to say competing, but they're like falling in the same circles of doing the exact same things. You and me could not be any different when it comes to interest. Like even at Barstool, like I would do pop culture. You would do like NASCAR, this or that. You would go here, I would go there. And it's like,

There's just, we're such different people and on different, it's almost like a boy and a girl or two boys. Like we just have such different interests where we, there was just never the cattiness competition. We only wanted the best for each other and each other to succeed in those other fields because we knew it would just make our show stronger. Right. Yeah. One success for one was success for all kind of feeling. Yeah. Like if you look at what we did at Barstool, it was so different. Like you did Rough and Rowdy, NASCAR. I would do like,

dating and pop culture like it just we ran in different circles outside of the show yeah we definitely like think we definitely just yeah we have different interests totally totally agree it's rare that we both it's rare that we put the same top even remotely the same topic on these topic lists like it is a world apart yeah and I think too if if you are looking to start a business with someone I don't think I would ever recommend starting a business with

someone you're friends with first. I have not seen that be very successful and I just don't think it's worth it. Like I really think you should look at, look for your partner as a good business partner first. Then like, oh, I just really like this person. I think they should be a good, they would be a great business partner. And instead be like, this person's a great business partner. Maybe I could like learn to like them, but it's more important that they just be like a really good business partner. I agree with that. I also think it's sad that,

To lose a best friend and a business. Yeah, I'm just thinking about it. Like, I don't know. I don't know. Were Hannah Berner and Paige DeSorbo, they were friends on the reality show? But not on Summer House? No.

Their podcast brought them a lot closer because Hannah quit, or I think she got fired from Summer House. But they started it once Hannah was off the show. So Paige was still on it, but Hannah was pursuing comedy. So two very different paths. And the show brought them close together. But I think they're so successful because they are such different people. Hannah is a true comedian. That's her dream. Paige is this fashionista...

Like that is her dream. Like they just their worlds never collide. Yeah. They to me also when you were saying like how different our interests are they to me spark is like different interest co-hosts like you know even even with like what they wear you can tell. But I didn't know then I was thinking like were they friends beforehand. I don't know.

But then like you have like Ashley and Raina on Girls Got Eatin'. They started as business partners first. And I would say like they're the most, when I think of like a successful female duo, I think of them. But I know that they barely knew each other when they started their podcast. And look at them today. Yeah.

Wow, that's a crazy example. Good for them. They met on like a brand trip and Ashley was like, I want to start a podcast. You're funny. Do you want to start it with me? And like they, their friendship blossomed through it like ours. But yeah, they were, they started as like true business partners. Wow. And then what about, do you know gals on the go? I think there's three of them. Oh, gals on the go, Brooke and Danielle, the two of them. Yeah. I think they are another thing.

They're unique, I guess, because they do fall in the same circle and they are best friends. They kind of are the exception. They are best friends. They're both influencers. They're both YouTubers. The only thing I can think of is one's a little older than the other, but they're probably the one exception to a female duo that are best friends. But I don't know if they were best friends before they started.

Because people love that. They love them, don't they? They love that podcast. Yeah, I love their friendship. I followed both of them, like, pre-COVID. Oh, really? Oh, that's cute. You like their friendship? Okay, I'm going to look them up because I love looking at friendships. Yeah, like, and it was when Danielle was still in college and Brooke had moved to New York. So maybe they kind of, like, started the podcast as friends and then became, like, best friends through the podcast. Yeah, it is interesting, though, like, to look at the dynamics of, like,

um, female podcast duos. Like it is, it is something really like interesting to look at, but yeah, I think the, I think the most notable thing to answer there is like, we started the podcast barely having each other's phone numbers. Literally. I love that. Um, should we do our burning questions for each other? Yes. Do you want to go first or second? I can ask you first. Um, okay. Okay. I have four, but they should be pretty easy to easy to answer. Excuse me.

And I'm sorry if these questions annoy you or if you've been asked a lot, but you know what? They're burning questions. So what are you going to do? It's the name of the episode for a reason. Okay. Who said I love you first and how did it happen? I think you told me, but I can't remember if you told me on the podcast. So I jokingly said it when you guys were over, remember? That was the first time? Two weeks in. But like, that was like the first. I remember that. Julie was there too, right? Yeah.

Yeah, yeah, I started as a joke though. Remember he was like leaving and I was like, love you. And I remember like you guys just got silent. I think you don't, I don't think anybody said anything. He didn't say anything. The door just like shut. But that was like the first time that was a complete, like that was a joke, but not like a super joke. Like I wouldn't joke about that with somebody like I didn't mean it to, you know what I mean? So did you say consistently after?

No, no, no, no, no. He caught the joke though. And then I said it as a joke like two weeks later again. And so then he, when he took me to Hudson Valley, like up the river, you know, when we took the train up there.

That's where he said it. But then afterwards, he was like, I mean, you kept joking about it. So like I did. I was kind of like, I mean, I did kind of mean it. So me, but him like him for sure. He like took me up there and like told me in like a purposeful way. But I like jokingly the words did come out of my mouth first. Did he do you like do you remember where you guys at dinner on a boat walking? We were walking off the train. We were walking from the hotel to a restaurant. He's just like, I love you.

He said, do you know how much I like you? And I said, I hope a lot. And then he was like, so much so that I actually love you. And I was like, I think I literally was like, ah! Like, I was like so excited. Like, I love you too. I've been telling you that for the past two weeks.

finally like a kid in a candy store oh i know i i that's funny i know your answer to that question this is gonna be tough because it's like i can't this episode will be 17 hours long if we ask each other the same questions back but ask them back you're in a taxi cab and i'm and it's funny too because pete literally also said was like i like you so much and i was like how much um okay burning question two when are you guys getting engaged

That is the burning question. Have you talked about it? We have talked about one specific thing, which is what bothers me is that I don't have the same last name as the family, right? So that's like the current... And we kept saying like...

We, we kept having these conversations recently, which are not recently. Sorry. The conversation recently has changed before Tate was born. And like the first month that she was born, I was like, when are we even going to have time to do this? Like, this is so on the back burner. But now one thing that's coming up more is like, you go to the pediatrician and it's like, you know, you know, your husband. And then it's like, like, I don't ever correct anybody, nor does he, but you know, you make friends here and they're like husband, wife. And like,

And what's awkward is people will be like, what's your husband think? Oh, sorry. I'm sorry. What does Harrison think? And it's like, can we just call him the husband? Right. Like, I don't want people to have to feel weird about that. And neither does he. And like, so it's becoming kind of a conversation again of like, what do we want to do about it?

But it's more so like to solidify the family component of it. Yeah. I can't imagine. Less of like the engagement, you know? Yeah. I can't imagine having a different last name than Tate. Like that sucks. Yeah. I'm like, that's my little girl. Yeah. Excuse me. So you don't have, you don't have a timetable for us or a timeframe for us. No, I don't have an exact timeframe for you. All I can say is it used to be, it would have been like two, three, four years away. Okay. Yeah.

It was very much on the back burner. I will say now it was just ironic. Like last week we were like, I do kind of want to do something about this. I didn't want to, I really didn't want to, but now like looking at her and we're like getting more in the swing of things that I'm like, let's look at that. Here's the thing. Like, I don't even know.

would we do this is something I should talk to him about actually I'll circle back with you what happens but like do we even do an engagement period or do you just do the marriage right like I don't know yeah once you have a kid so many things just don't matter anymore I don't need to be engaged for six months and then get married you know like for what like we have a kid

Yeah, like that's what we're waiting on. So that part will be interesting. But in terms of the engagement, I don't know. Kind of like, do you even do the engagement or do you just do the wedding? I'll be interested. You never know what Harrison has up his sleeve.

That's the most true thing. Who knows? That could be my Christmas present. Right. Or like when Tate takes her first step, she's like walking with the ring. Yeah. She's like, mommy, marry daddy. Which I think, I do think it's cute when people have weddings like with like, just like the baby's the flower girl. I die. That's so cute. Yeah. Okay. You're going to hate me for asking this, but when is the second baby coming? You're like, I literally just had the first. Yeah.

But I am from the school of thought of like why, you know, like get back in shape and blah, blah, blah, just to like do it all over again. Yeah. So I would, I definitely want a second baby. I definitely like need a minute. Right. But I don't, I don't,

There is one school of thought of like, do you want to be pregnant and miss any of her first year? You know, like, cause then you don't necessarily feel as good. Um, and the first year I feel like is so special. But then I also think about the second thing, which is, you know, I don't, I don't want to be pregnant over a span of 10 years, you know, like I do kind of want to crank them out when I'm already in the headspace of like babies. So,

I don't know when the second baby's coming. I just know I do want one. And those two things go back and forth in my head. Like, do I want to really enjoy this time? Or like, do I just want to crank them out? I don't know. I forgot. Do you guys want three or four kids? Oh, I don't know. Now four, because like we just love her so much. And like, we think it would be fun to like have them have siblings. You know, I really like that dynamic, but also it's like, if the second pregnancy is just as rough as the first, I bet we do three. Yeah. Yeah.

I'm very excited and curious to see how your second pregnancy will go. Like I'm hoping so much better. Me too. I even think it will be better because like we won't be moving. I will have a kitchen to cook in. So like I just won't be eating shit all the time. And like I think there's a distracting component to like chasing a little baby around while you're pregnant. But that also if I'm as sick as I was the first time that will suck. Yes. So we'll see. Okay. Last question.

Um, do you see yourself in Austin forever? And if not, where do you see your end home being? I definitely think Austin for a good amount of time and I could see this being the end. Um, so as of now, if I'm betting, if I'm betting, I mean here, I would say, you know, but I

Yeah, I would. I don't know. I don't know. I could see her going to high school here. Like, I love the people here. I like this culture here. I like the schools. We really love it. So, yeah, I would say here. That would be my bet, you know? Would you guys ever move to Canada? Yeah, that would be the one place. It would be like Vancouver. And that's a very realistic situation. So I want to hold space for that. That could happen.

especially you know what hey one year if like his green card doesn't get renewed like I am moving you know but like I definitely have three more years on that um but I would say this is a high this is a top three contender Austin and she she's automatically a dual citizen right of Canada and the United States just because hair with Harrison yes okay yeah yeah so yeah I think I would say here but honorable mention of Vancouver situation okay love that those are my questions

Okay, great. Okay, number one. When did you know Pete was the one? Oh, gosh, that's a good question. I remember the moment I – it kind of goes hand in hand because I remember the moment I fell in love with him, and I feel like that was also the moment I knew he was the one because I knew the next person I would love would be the one. Like, I never dated just a date. I always dated with intention. So when I, like, fell in love with him, I was like, okay, well, I see a future with him.

But I can't remember the exact date, but I remember it was when he lived in Connecticut still and we were hugging. And I almost said like, thank you. I love you so much. But I said it in my head because I was like, oh my God, I can't. But there's been a couple moments. But that's like the biggest because that's like when I knew I loved him. And I feel like when I knew I loved him, I like knew he was my future.

Okay, that's a good one. So it was like an evolution kind of? Yeah, like I just, I never would have kept dating him unless I saw a future with him. So like I remember the moment where I was like, oh, I really like him. Oh, I remember the moment where I was like, I want him to be my boyfriend when I loved him. So it was kind of like an evolution of like continuously he always just was the one as long as I love him for or for as long as I love him. You know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, that makes sense. That makes sense. Yeah.

Good answer. Okay. Okay. So when do you think you and Pete will get engaged? That's a great question. I have an assumption and he's probably going to listen to this and roll his eyes. I assume I have like a feeling August of 2025. Oh, okay. Why? Just like a gut feeling? I just, I feel like two years is perfect. Like we'll be together for two years. I picture it for some reason being in the summer and yeah,

I know it won't be before that because it's just like we're in the time where it's like wedding, wedding, wedding, wedding. And August is a pretty empty month. I don't know. I just feel like it's going to be summer 2025. No sooner, no later. I don't know. That's just what my gut's telling me. Okay. I think that there's something to be said for like a feeling of timing. Yeah. But he might be listening and laughing at me because I think he has it all planned.

Oh, you think it's planned? Oh, that's big. Okay. So that should have, maybe I should have reworded this. Do you think he knows? Yeah. Yeah. He definitely knows. Yeah. Like when I'm saying like, do you think he knows when I'm like, I don't know if he has like the exact day in mind, but I think he's pretty confident on like the time of year when he will. Like, I think we just, we have a few things we need, you know, if you know what I mean, to get settled.

um and figure it out and once that happens i think we'll have a better idea of what the future holds okay fabulous next one number three what does pete's family think of your job and your presence online oh they they're so sweet about they actually love it um they think it's a very cool job

I love it because his mom, she loves like reality TV and like I met a few people that she really likes. So it's fun to talk about that with her. But I think overall, like really cool with it and think it's cool that it's like a non-traditional job and they know I'm happy and they love seeing Pete when he comes on the show and like in my content. So they really like it. Okay. That's a great answer. I'm happy to hear. I knew that they did, but I just, I think that people want to know. That's a good question. They always want to know.

If you have a presence online. Okay. Do you, number four, do you ever regret any of the old clips that we used to have? Because I think inevitably this question should be in here because our show obviously used to be a bit more graphic in detail. And obviously we don't have those conversations anymore. So what do you think about that? Uh,

No, I have no regrets. Like, I feel like everything happened for a reason and it got us to where we needed to go and like taught us so many things and without certain things that we said, like we wouldn't have grown as people. And like, it also teaches you so many lessons. Like everyone has to say things that they regret online to like learn what to say going forward. And I think every clip that we've said, I could like,

literally laugh at and be like yeah I did say that do I think it's still absolutely not but in the moment I was young dumb and living in New York City and single like what do you expect from me but no I don't regret anything I still see some of them and I'm like that's hilarious but now I can confidently say I don't think that anymore

I just think I like love your answer and I smile thinking about it. And I think we've just evolved, like the show's evolved as we, as any like person does anybody in their twenties evolves up. You know what I mean? And like your thoughts evolve, your conversations evolve. And like, I think it's cool that the podcast has to. Yeah. Better. I'm glad we said it when we were, when I was 26 versus almost 30, like totally better than the now. Totally agree. Exactly. Exactly. Um,

You can skip this one because I have two here. If you do want to skip this one, I have a backup. Okay. No, it's not a bad one. It's just have you and Pete ever broken up? No. And that – was it this episode that we talked about that or was it – oh, it was two episodes ago technically when we did the listener question. And no, I can confidently say that I've never once even had that thought in my head. And like it makes me so sad when I hear people say that.

Because if I ever thought about breaking up with Pete, he wouldn't be the one. Like, I have never once doubted. That's why I have, like, such a hard time answering your first question. Because it was so organic that, like, in my head, I was like, as long as I always love you and see myself with you, I'll, like, it was just, like, so organic. And I've never not seen myself with him nor ever pictured my life without him since pretty much, like, meeting him.

Right. Okay. There's just some people I feel like that break up. Like we did break up for two weeks or even three days, right? Like we had like some knockdown drag out fight, but like you're saying no, like never even that, which is amazing. We've been very grateful to not have any massive fights where like we don't talk or anything like that. Like obviously we argue and we have thought, but thankfully I've gone to enough therapy to...

help my brain walk through that but he's like the best person with conflict and deals with me when i get a little crazy sometimes as all the good boys do don't they yep he just laughs oh but no we've never broken up nor will we ever break up he better not okay will you answer this will you answer the um the sixth one just i have one more for you in case you next to that one okay what's the most embarrassing thing you've ever done in front of pete

Um, so it's, I wouldn't consider this embarrassing now because we've been together for over a year and I do it all the time. But earlier on in our relationship, I accidentally tooted on him and it was loud. And I remember I mean...

I immediately like plugged his nose and started laughing because I didn't know what to do. But it just like came out and I was like sitting on his lap and I was mortified because I think this was like three months in. He still lived in Connecticut. And he was like, did you just fart on me? I was like, I'm so sorry. It just happened. I like Alex. I literally was like, I plugged his nose and I was like, you didn't hear that. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. So that I would say that for sure.

That's like that. That's a good one. You know, it's always so you're like, did I just give them the ick forever? Like, did I just ruin it? But that's like how, you know, because he's probably like thought it was cute. But now I'm like, I always to around him. I don't, I could care less. But back then that's like, you know, the first time you always do that in front of your partner, it's like mortifying. Yeah.

It's mortifying. The first time like a piece of lettuce falls out of your mouth, you're just like, no, I'm supposed to be perfect. But you know, you're going to get to where you're just like, don't care. But no, the first time sitting on his lap. That is so funny. Oh my God. Yeah. I vividly remember that to this day. Oh my God. Oh yeah. Those are good. Um, should we end with, am I the asshole? Yes. Yes. This is a good one. Like I read it and I was like, we have to answer this.

Okay. I have an am I the asshole for you? Okay. Am I the asshole? I haven't seen my best friend who lives two hours away in almost six months since she started dating her long distance out of state boyfriend. I'm traveling to see her for the first time since before they were officially dating. And I asked if he knows it's a girl's weekend and won't be calling her.

She said, yes, he knew, but then added he might still call. I told her it would feel disrespectful to me if she took a call from him since I haven't spent time with her in so long while she's prioritized seeing him. In parentheses, she's traveled out of state to see him several times during that time. She got really defensive about it, but after I reiterated that I would feel disrespected and would appreciate her respecting my feelings, she finally said she would tell him not to call, but that it hurt her.

Am I the asshole for expecting quality girl time to be respected by her and her boyfriend? I think she's an asshole for asking that. I think she is such an asshole for asking that. Like, why can't she talk to her boyfriend for five minutes? To say no phones, like no phone calls from your long-distance boyfriend? Like, I'm sorry, but...

That is wild. I remember when I went to Italy with Madeline. We're technically long distance best friends. She was in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend at the time. And they FaceTimed every day. I loved it. I was like, I get an hour to sit on my phone. I made TikToks. I'd like relax. I was like, this is great. I get an hour to myself. And then also like, of course she needs to talk to her boyfriend. We're in a different, I mean, granted we were on different times, but I'm like,

she doesn't she's doing long distance with them even if she lived with them I could care less like if someone you love wants to talk to someone they love let them talk shocked by this question like she then the friend was like I'll tell him not to call but I feel hurt of course you feel hurt like you should be able to take a phone call from anybody that you want if you're going to visit somebody for the whole weekend like phone calls are allowed this isn't you're driving three hours to have dinner with somebody and then leave

Right. It'd be one thing. Yeah. If you're at dinner and she picks up the phone answers, but like, come on girl. Like if you set this unrealistic boundary with this friend, she's never going to want to see you or pick you first. Because as soon as you give ultimatums to your friends, like that's when the friendship stops becoming a priority because no one wants a friendship with an ultimatum.

Yeah, that's a like that is such a good points when she doesn't pick you first and she's going to need a place like she's going to want to talk to you about her boyfriend who she's probably excited about. Why don't you even take it as far as being like, please have him call. Please put it on speaker so I can talk to him for a second. Like, let's make this a group activity, right? Like now I'm sure the friends like, well, can I even like talk about Brad in front of you because I feel like you hate him.

And I don't even know if this girl does hate him, but she's sending the message that she does. Yeah. I've had friends, like, not to this degree, but I've had friends who are like, you always pick your boyfriend over me. You never prioritize me. And I'm like, guess what? I'm not friends with those people anymore because they always made me feel so bad and guilty that I stopped choosing them. And I'm not with that boy anymore either. Like, this makes me, like, mad. I'm getting, like, a little heated answering this question. Yeah.

I totally agree. And the way it was written was very kind of like a little entitled. Like, am I the like? Yes. Yes. That I'm with your friend on this one. Like, let him call. Of course. It takes literally 20 minutes out of your day. There's like there's going to be like she can call when you're pooping. Like, I don't know. But you're not going to be hip to hip for 24 seven.

Exactly. And like, if, listen, if they're having phone calls that are three hours long, that's disrespectful. Yeah. But to say he can't call crazy. Like that's weird. And it's giving possessive and I, I don't like it. So unfortunately giving possessive, you are the asshole. Sweetheart. Yeah. Comma sweetheart. Totally agree. Um, okay. Well, that's a fun one. Cause usually they're not the asshole, but yes, in this case, I know. Right. Um,

Okay. Anything else you'd like to add? Just a reminder, next week's episode, we'll be back to our regular scheduled program where we'll give you all the tea on what happened over Christmas break. Yeah. I can't wait to catch up with you and hear all about it. Oh, my God. Wait. She might be too young. I was going to say, does Tate have like a cute little swimming suit? Can she wear a suit?

I will send you some photos. She can. She has these big sun hats. She has to wear like a long sleeve swimsuit, but it's really cute. Cute. Oh my God. I can't wait. I love pictures of date. Oh yeah, she'll be...

She'll be swimming. She won't be swimming. She will not be swimming. She will not be swimming. Everyone get that in your head. But I do want her to wear, she will not be swimming. She will be so in a life jacket. She will be so safe. But I do want her to wear the swimsuit. Thank you. I love that. Okay, well, we love you guys so much and we'll see you next week. Love you guys.

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