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Why Gossiping Could Help Your Love Life

2025/2/19
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Anna Martin: 我认为闲聊比我们想象的要复杂得多,它可能是积极的,也可能是消极的,取决于闲聊的内容和方式。好的闲聊可以帮助我们建立联系,增进友谊;而坏的闲聊则可能伤害他人,破坏关系。 在节目中,我们讨论了闲聊在爱情生活中的作用,以及如何区分好的闲聊和坏的闲聊。我们还探讨了在一段关系中,如何处理来自前任的信息,以及如何保护自己的情感和利益。 Kelsey McKinney: 我认为任何两人之间关于不在场第三者的谈话都算作闲聊。这其中既包含负面评价,也包含专业人士之间的讨论。近年来,人们对闲聊的看法发生了转变,不再将其简单地视为负面的女性行为。分享信息可以帮助人们建立联系,这在人类学和社会学研究中得到证实。我从小就喜欢闲聊,但我的宗教背景告诉我这是罪恶的,这让我感到内疚和羞愧。我曾经经历过一个事件,让我开始重新思考闲聊的定义,它并不总是负面的。恶意中伤和闲聊是不同的,前者是有意伤害他人,后者则不然。人们会在生活中进行自我调查,这是一种复杂的行为,既有益也有风险。 在节目中,我分享了自己对闲聊的看法,以及它如何影响我的生活和人际关系。我还与Anna讨论了如何区分好的闲聊和坏的闲聊,以及如何避免在闲聊中伤害他人。 Linda Button: (通过文章) 我通过与前男友的前任们闲聊,了解了他的一些行为模式,这帮助我更好地认识了他,也让我对这段关系有了更清醒的认识。最终,我决定结束这段关系,并找到了更适合自己的伴侣。 我的故事说明,有时候,闲聊可以帮助我们更好地了解自己和他人,从而做出更明智的选择。

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For Kelsey McKinney, the author of the new book), “You Didn’t Hear This From Me: (Mostly) True Notes on Gossip,” spreading a good story occupied a morally gray zone throughout her childhood.

McKinney, who is also the former host of the podcast, “Normal Gossip),” talks with Modern Love’s Anna Martin about navigating the ups and downs of gossiping in her own life.

McKinney also reads the Modern Love essay “We Were a Party of Two, but Never Quite Alone)” by Linda Button, who tells the story of how gossiping with her rich suitor’s exes brought the euphoria of her relationship back down to earth. While reading Button’s essay, McKinney fields questions from Martin so they can do some gossiping of their own.

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