Laura was struggling with a severe Ambien addiction, taking up to five to ten pills per night, often mixed with alcohol. She feared losing custody of her children due to being deemed an unfit mother, which drove her to seek help.
Laura felt out of place and overwhelmed, comparing herself to others with more severe issues like multiple DUIs or repeat rehab visits. She felt like she didn't belong and considered leaving immediately.
Scott was initially annoying to Laura, with his casual demeanor and loud Hawaiian shirt. However, she noticed his kind eyes and calm presence, which later became a source of comfort for her.
Scott became a crucial emotional support for Laura during her rehab stay. He helped her through moments of intense grief and anxiety, and his presence made her feel less alone, ultimately helping her stay committed to her recovery.
Laura felt a deep sense of responsibility to help Scott, who had saved her life in rehab. She was concerned that without a change of environment and support, he might relapse, so she arranged for him to come to L.A. and live in a sober living facility.
The mediation went smoothly, with Laura's ex-husband not contesting custody. They both prioritized their children's well-being and agreed to maintain a family unit, with him moving out but still participating in family events.
In her relationship with Scott, Laura didn't feel the need to perform or hide her true self. Scott fell in love with her at her worst, and their relationship was built on authenticity rather than potential.
Laura and Scott have been together for 16 and a half years since meeting in rehab. They dated for six years before moving in together, maintaining a strong focus on their recovery and family.
When Laura Cathcart Robbins checked into rehab for a severe Ambien addiction, all she could think about was getting out and going home to her two young sons. Laura was also in the middle of a divorce and facing a possible custody battle so she wasn’t looking to make her life more complicated. Laura tells the host Anna Martin about the unexpected bond she formed during the worst 30 days of her life and what happened when she came out the other side.
This episode is adapted from Laura’s 2024 essay, “Marriage Made an Actor Out of Me).” Her memoir, “Stash: My Life in Hiding)” is available now, and she hosts a podcast called “The Only One in the Room).”
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