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I feel like it's been forever since I recorded because it kind of has. The last episode I recorded was with Meredith and we were in Michigan. And then before that, I recorded like a week early. So I honestly feel like I haven't talked to you guys in two weeks and I'm so happy to be back.
Also, I was totally not planning on making the theme or the title of this episode topic. That's the word I was looking for. I was totally planning on making the topic something different than what I'm actually making it, but...
I posted a TikTok and all the comments were like, oh, you should talk about this on the podcast, on the podcast. And I was like, oh, well, say less then. So that's what I'm going to do. But before I get into that, I feel like I need to give you guys a couple of life updates of what's going on and where I'm at and where my head's been at. Well, first of all.
I have been doing so much work in the duplex. Like lately, obviously I've been doing work for like a few months or so. I can't even process that I've been in here since I think April. Holy crap, I've been in here since April. Guys, it's July. Where did the year go? How are we, we're more than halfway through 2022. I don't know, but for me it feels like New Year's Eve was like yesterday. Anyways, I'll process that at a later date.
I've been doing a bunch of stuff at the duplex. It's finally feeling like it's really coming together. Like, I don't think that there's too much more that needs to be done. And another update, which might make me... I'm so excited to tell you guys. I got a kitten. If you know... Not if you know. You probably already know. I've posted him literally all over Instagram, but he keeps looking around and looking up at me. So if you're watching on YouTube, you might be able to see him in the shot. I don't really know. Anyways...
That's been fun, but I feel like I have been so Lazy not lazy. I just haven't been that productive because all I want to do all day is play with my kitty I mean, how do you not like literally he's only gonna be small for like a couple more weeks. He's already gotten so big that
that I just hang out with the cat all day. Honestly, I was going to record this this morning. I woke up at sunrise because I was like, you know what? I'm going to wake up at sunrise and then I'm going to go for a run. Then I'm going to record the podcast all before 11 a.m. Well, it's almost 7 p.m. when I'm recording this. I think it is already 7 p.m. But a bunch of other stuff happened today too. Like right when I sat down to record at like noontime,
Literally the guys who mowed the lawn showed up and it got so loud and I was like, are you kidding me? This is probably the last thing I need right now, but whatever everything happens for a reason and then since I couldn't record I went out to lunch with Lisette and her grandma, but this is so besides the point I guess I was giving you guys life updates. Anyways, I recently went to Michigan so much fun so healing and
Want you guys all to find yourself a friend who genuinely? Reminds you what a real friendship is because for me that's my Meredith and you guys know that like literally love love love this girl with my whole heart But everyone needs to find a Meredith or a Lisette like those two people are two people in my life who I don't think I could function without and I am just forever grateful for them, so
That's Michigan. I'm home now and my next trip is actually to Costa Rica. I cannot wait to tell you guys about Costa Rica, but I'm gonna wait till I'm there to do it. If you do know, I became a certified yoga teacher when I was 13 and I've been going on this little yoga retreat to Costa Rica for the past, I don't know, I think this will be like year eight or something, but I can't wait. I'll tell you more when we get to that point.
Um, what is another update? Another update, speaking of yoga, is that I uploaded a yoga flow on YouTube. Finally, it took me, how long did it take me? I don't know, forever. I said I was going to post a yoga flow probably in January. Didn't do it, but I did it. It's posted. It's a super, super beginner flow. So if you've never done yoga before, this is perfect for you. And it's only 25 minutes, so it's quick and it's easy and fun.
It's my way of getting back into teaching because I get super anxious when it comes to teaching in person. I don't know why. I know that I still know how to teach. It's literally muscle memory, but I just haven't in a few... Well, not years. In a really long time. So...
I'm getting back into it. We're starting small. Go watch the yoga flow on YouTube if you want to do it. It's really good for your mind even more than your body, but it's also just going to help you stretch muscles you didn't even know that you needed to stretch. And I promise you'll probably wake up sore. Your arms, your shoulders, your wrists, everything. Anyways, moving on. What I wanted to talk about in this week's episode was the overturning of Roe v. Wade. And I still want to do a podcast episode on this.
Just because I feel so passionately about it and I feel so strongly affected by it. I mean, we all should because most of us listening are women. And even if you're not a woman, it still affects you. This affects everyone. But I really just don't think I want to get into it right now. I want to continue to do some research on resources I can share and things I can do and just make sure I'm talking about it in a way that
is kind just because I know a lot of people, me being one of them, are very passionate and very angry about everything that's going on in this country right now and what this issue might lead into next. It's a really scary thought. And I don't know if there's anyone who listens who has like an opposing view, who is celebrating what's going on.
When I talk about this, I don't want to come off as angry at you or upset with you because we all have different views and I can understand that. I just want to explain why this is more serious than just kind of what political side you're on or like what religion you are. Like this just goes way, way, way deeper. And I want to share the facts with you in a way that maybe you can like understand or shift your mindset. And if not, then there's nothing I can do about that. But
Besides the point, I'm not going to get into that in this week's episode, but maybe next week I will. I also want to have one of my best, best, best friends, Courtney, come do it with me because she is my knowledge queen. She is so smart and her parents are so smart and they tell her things and then she tells them to me and I just think that we could talk about it together in a really great way. I'm just kind of in a rambling mood, it seems, because I'm still on Life Updates and I've been talking for six and a half minutes already.
Another thing that I'm planning is I want to do a little meetup. Not like a meet and greet kind of thing, but more of like a let's hang out. Let's get to know each other. Just do something. Maybe I'll have like a yoga teacher come teach because, you know, I just filled you guys in on my teaching anxiety. So yeah, I won't be teaching, but I'll have someone come teach a yoga class and we can just talk. And I don't know, just, I really, I love you guys. And I want to hang out with you because you are my friends. And I think that that could be super cool. Last little update that I have.
I don't know why I'm giving you guys so many updates. I don't think I ever do this. I feel like I'm doing the announcements in school right now. And I also keep getting very distracted because my cat is doing basically cartwheels and flips on the carpet in front of me. Anyways, last update. The merch that I've been talking about for months, guys, it's finally happening. It's fully in the works. It is fully in progress. And I'm working on like a PR list. And we're working on pricing and details for fulfillment and just...
everything. So within the next couple weeks, it is coming. And you guys, this has been such a passion project for me. I have so many ideas with what I want to do. Like, I don't want to just call this merch. Like, I am doing my best to make Moments a brand. Like, I really want it to be...
something special and like a kind of community where I do drops like every couple months and it'll be like limited edition stuff and I'm putting my my everything into these designs and I'm making sure that they are exactly the way that I want them so if you're listening and you want to get the merch it's coming soon and it would also mean everything in the world to me if you guys support and buy it and just
I'm excited, okay? And I think I want to give some of the profits to a charity. I haven't decided which. Maybe I'll change it depending on what the drop is. I'm done rambling. Pause real quick.
How's your mental health? I just want to check in. Obviously, you can't tell me directly because as much as I wish we were having a conversation right now, I am talking to a microphone. But I want you to ask yourself how your mental health is. I want you to check in with yourself. How are you feeling? How are you doing? What have you been focusing on? Where are your priorities?
because every once in a while you just need to evaluate you need to really take everything in and that's kind of what I did this morning that's why I forced myself to wake up early because I've been having such a hard time with that like I've kind of been sleeping in a little bit and just prioritizing not the wrong things in my life but different things and I wanted to get back to a point where I was ready to work and I was focused and not only focused on work and career stuff but focused on myself and what I'm doing with my energy where I'm putting it I
I feel like lately I have just been doing a lot of talk but not a lot of action. Like I've kind of been talking about everything I want to do but I haven't been putting in the work to get it. And that's the shift that I'm making right now is getting back to putting in the work. And I really felt like today I got myself much more back on track. So check in with yourself. Do a little journal entry on it. Evaluate what your priorities are. We're halfway through the year. If you want to make a change, you have to take the steps to make a change.
Now, that being said, one piece of advice I have for you if you've been feeling kind of down in the dumps or just like all over the place, wake up early. I don't know if it's just a personal thing for me, but when I wake up early, I feel like I can take over the world and I get so much more done in the day. And I'm always just happier. And maybe it's because I'm more productive. I don't know what it is, but I'm just happier. And then I'm more tired when it comes to bedtime, so I'm not staying up until 4 a.m.
And that's the cycle that I'm working on. So if you want to do that with me, let's do it together. Now, 10 minutes later, I'm finally going to tell you the topic of this episode. I'm so sorry that I just gave you guys so many updates. I hope there was something valuable in them. We're talking about FOMO. Now, don't laugh. Actually, I know you guys aren't laughing because if you're listening to this, you guys know the vibes. We all think the same. We all have the same brain in some way, shape or form.
Anyways, the reason i'm talking about this is was because is was okay. Nice lexi The reason i'm talking about this is because I posted a tiktok literally on my spam account just talking about how I never get FOMO anymore and like nothing bothers me when it comes to missing out on things and I got tons of comments that were like, how do you do this? I need to know how to do this like my FOMO is so bad. I struggle with it so much yada yada yada I've been there. Um
I personally believe that there's like two kinds of FOMO. There's FOMO. I hate saying FOMO. This sounds like such a stupid topic, but it's really not like it actually it's a real thing. You'll understand more as I get into it. But FOMO is basically just the fear of missing out. Like your friends are hanging out without you. You have FOMO. Everyone's going out, but you can't for whatever reason. You have FOMO.
Anyways, the two kinds of FOMO I would consider are like self-inflicted fear of missing out, which is where you choose not to do something yet you still kind of wish that you were. And that's always a tough one. And I'll get more into it as we keep going. And then the other one is just if others cause it. Like if people don't invite you to things that you want to be invited to or your friends kind of suck and you don't get invited and then you wish you were with them.
I'm gonna kind of get into both, but it's all basically the same thing. It's all fear of missing out, fear of creating memories or fear, not fear of creating memories, fear of missing out. Do I know how to speak right now? Because I really don't think so. Anyways, backtracking to my little struggle with FOMO is that I used to get it so bad that I would say yes to every single thing. Like even if I would just burn myself out, kill my social battery,
I wasn't going to say no to something because I just had so many fears that I'll get into the fears in a second. But then there was a phase where I didn't really have any fear of missing out. So I just said no to things like I wouldn't go out. I would just have no problem saying no. And all my friends called me like the lame friend, the boring friend, the one who doesn't go out, the one who works all the time. And I
I guess at some point that got to me because I eventually started saying yes to everything again, burning myself out again. And it happened a lot when I first moved to Hawaii. And I would just say yes to everything. We were going out, we were drinking all the time. And I don't know, I totally drained everything that I had in me. And then that's kind of when I started to make that shift again to where I'm like, you know what? Does it really bother me if I miss out on something? No. So...
I stopped saying yes to things. And the thing is, for a lot of people, like what people say to me often when I don't go out or I don't go to social events, they're like, it's not even that big of a deal. Like it's just one night, like YOLO, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. People say all these things. But the thing to remember is that everyone is different. Like I consider myself to be a huge introvert and I wasn't always that way. Like in high school, I was the life of the party. I would be out every single weekend, whatever.
Don't call the cops, but I would black out in high school my senior year like I had a social battery that was so high like nothing could drain my social battery and Now I have a social battery of like one day one day with a lot of people I'm done I'm out. I need to check myself out self isolate for like a week and I
I just had to remind myself for the longest time that like, that's okay, that that's who I am. And if I can't do something every single day, it's not the end of the world. And once I started to remind myself of that, I noticed that it was a lot easier to say no to things and, um,
The reasons I think that I struggled with fear of missing out or FOMO for the longest time, I wrote a little list down on my, I made a little outline for this week's episode and I'll read them to you. So the reasons I would get FOMO so bad is because I wanted to be fun. And by I wanted to be fun, I mean I wanted other people to think I was fun. Like I wanted to be viewed as good enough for my friends. And the next one kind of,
goes along with that is that I was scared I'd be replaced. Like, I was scared that other people would be more fun than me and my friends wouldn't even want to hang out with me at all anymore. And...
I don't know. These things were really hard at the time. I read them now and I'm kind of like, dude, why were you worried about that? But I was at a place at one point where it was a constant fear of mine, even with my best friend. You guys know Lissette. Obviously, she's been on the podcast. If you don't know Lissette, I feel like you don't really even know me. She's been my best friend since literally 2005. Inseparable ever since.
when she first went to college, I just struggled with it so much. Like that I think is when my FOMO was the worst because no matter what, even if I wanted to be out with her, I couldn't go out with her because she was at college and I was at home in my senior year of high school. And I was constantly worried that someone else would become her best friend or she would like someone better than me and just never want to hang out with me again. And now that all the time has passed, like literally nothing changed. Um,
Your friends are going to stay your friends no matter what so let go of that fear please because You don't need to fear that anyways. I'm gonna get more into that as we keep going I want to finish this list off first I also constantly thought that like I wasn't doing enough like I wasn't going to enough social events So I would just keep going and keep going until I couldn't even go if I tried because I was just so mentally drained like for me
When I'm going out a lot, like, I literally drag myself into a deep, dark depression where, like, I have no motivation to do anything. I have no motivation to even get out of bed. Like, I just wouldn't work. I wouldn't take care of myself. Like, I just overeat and drink and all these things. So...
just listen to your listen to your social battery listen to your heart listen to your mind if you know that something's not going to be good for you and it's going to drag you to a dark place I promise you're not actually missing out like you are creating this FOMO for no reason because if you did go you're only going to be hurting yourself more like you know anyways I wasn't supposed to get into that yet I was supposed to just finish this list this episode of the moments podcast is sponsored by better help quick
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Moving on. The next reason I would get FOMO is because
Everyone else seemed to be doing it. Like if everyone else can go out every single day, then why can't I, you know? And the last one, I literally wrote this twice is that people wouldn't need me anymore. Like they wouldn't even care to have me around because they had so much fun without me. And I also noticed that when I struggled the most with FOMO was when I was the most, um,
insecure because I would constantly just be it wasn't even FOMO. It was just jealousy and insecurity. I was always like, well, they're gonna have fun without me like that's not okay. I have to be there, you know, and I just feel like that was a little bit toxic. So I don't know. That's kind of just how it happened. But
I guess the main point of this episode is to kind of talk about how to shift that because that is what the whole, we all know how FOMO happens. We all get FOMO for different reasons of different things. We all understand that part. The hard part to understand is how do you shift it? Like how do you go from missing out on everything to not feeling bad at all when you don't go to something or being able to just brush it off if you don't get invited or whatever the case may be.
So, we all know that that starts with mindset, that starts with shifting the mindset, but how do we actually fix it? How do we do the shift? So, a couple of my favorite ways to think about it are, you didn't get invited, okay, well, it wasn't on your path anyways.
cheesy as it is everything happened to a reason you weren't supposed to go out that night for whatever reason you weren't supposed to go to that dinner and the thing you have to come to terms with is you may never have that answer on why you weren't supposed to go out that night and that's probably a good thing because who knows you could have gone out that night and the worst thing that could have ever happened to you could have happened to you but you know what it didn't
And when I can shift my mind to think like that, instead of thinking about, oh my God, well, what if it would have been the best night of my life? You'll never know. So might as well find peace with the idea that you didn't miss anything and that there was a reason that you weren't invited. And the other one is, this is, I will still struggle with this kind of FOMO sometimes. Like if I can't go somewhere, but I wanted to go, that FOMO is a little bit harder, but
It's again, just shifting the mindset. So what you couldn't go, you had more important things to do. And again, for whatever reason, there's a reason you couldn't go because maybe that trip you went on instead was the best trip of your life. And maybe if, if you went to this one that you wanted to go, it would have sucked. Like those are the kinds of shifts that will bring you so much more peace than you will ever realize. Well, actually you will realize it when you apply them to your life. The next one is,
Like the shift, okay guys I'm so sorry I'm glitching between the kitten and trying to read this outline in my really messy handwriting and it's also really hot in my house right now. I don't think my air conditioning is working but that's a problem for a later date. I'm getting back to it. I'm just apologizing in advance for the fact that I get a little bit stressed and my ADHD is really going crazy right now. Okay so the next shift is so what? Everyone's going.
That sucks. That never feels good when everyone's going to something and you're not. But think about it. There's literally 7 billion people in the world. I can promise you that not everyone is going. So it's okay. Let it go. And then I just wrote down like a list of a bunch of reminders and I'm just going to talk about them a little bit deeper. And I think that these will definitely be some really good things to take away. So if you are journaling, speaking of journaling, that is also in the works. It's finally getting sent out.
to publishing companies like the rough draft, the outline, the proposal, and hopefully that's coming soon. I'm really working on patience with it because that one has been in the works for a long, long time. Anyways, getting into this list of reminders.
If you lose friends for choosing not to go to something or for not going out, I can promise you that those were never meant to be your friends anyways. They're either using you for something or whatever the reason may be, that is the universe, that is God working his magic in some special way. Because if people are upset with you for taking care of yourself and choosing to focus on your own mental health, that's a red flag.
And you did not need those kind of people in your life anyways. The people that you need in your life are the ones who are going to support you through every decision that you make, even if that is not going to set event. And that, I really, really feel strongly about that one. The next one kind of has to do with that. Sometimes you have to prioritize your own mental health. Now this falls into that, I don't know, I guess you could say the category of self-inflicted FOMO. Trust me when I tell you.
Every once in a while. It's nice to take a break It's nice to let go and to focus on different things and for me personally when it comes to this one I briefly touched on this just a few minutes ago or seconds. I don't know how long it's been on how I'm an introvert they will put myself into a depression if I'm constantly going out or if I'm constantly drinking and I've heard this one so many times before well, Lexi you could go out and not drink and
I don't want to go to the bar and not drink. Like, I personally won't enjoy that. And not only would I not enjoy it, I'm going to end up drinking. Like, I am... I fall into the peer pressure trap really easily. Not with, like, really bad things. But with drinking? Oh, yeah. I'll be drinking if I'm at a place where they serve alcohol and all my friends are drunk. So...
in order for me to prioritize my mental health and make sure that I'm taking care of myself, a lot of the times that's just not going at all. And I struggled with it for so long because, I don't know, again, it might have been the insecurity, it might have been the jealousy, it might have been the fear that someone was going to replace me or be better than me or be more fun than me. Like, I really had to let go of that. And once I realized that that was just deep-rooted insecurity, that's when I made it
I started to understand that if someone loves me for me and wants to be my friend because of who I am, that's not going to make a difference. You know, no one is going to replace me. No one is going to replace you. The people that are meant to be in your life are going to stay in your life. And I don't know. I just kind of lost all my thoughts talking about that one. I kind of like mixed up the two.
But everyone's different. Some people are extroverts. They thrive on going out. And that's okay. You can still be best friends with someone who's an extrovert. Literally, Lissette could go out every single weekend, both nights of the weekend, and be thriving and be the happiest person ever. I personally, if I do that, I will not recover until, like, Thursday of that week and then have to do it all over again and just never really feel better.
Fulfilled or happy or successful because the days I wake up hungover. I do not do any work I'll kind of just sit around and lounge and rest and relax which is all good every once in a while Which is why I go out once in a while, but it's not good for me all the time moving on to the next one Sorry about the rambling again. Next thing I need you to do is look at the bigger picture. Okay Think about the reality. What are you really missing out on if all your friends go do something one day and you're not there?
Like two years down the road from now, one year down the road from now, one month down the road from now, do you really think it's going to matter that much? Because I can pinky promise you, my throat keeps getting really dry, so sorry if my voice cracks. I can promise you it's not going to matter and no one's going to be thinking about it. No one's going to remember it. Nobody's going to remember if you were there. Nobody's going to remember if you weren't there. It doesn't even exist. So take that into note too. Next one.
Save your freaking money. Like for some reason, this one hits so hard for me. Like anytime I'm sitting down and I'm like, dang, I really wish I was a part of that. Like, or I really wish I went. I'm like, oh, well, you know what? 300 extra dollars in my bank account that I probably would have spent if I did that. I love saving money. I love making money and spending money, but on the right things. Like I...
Don't like spending money on alcohol. But again, I'm the kind of person where I don't have the self-control. If I am out and you give me alcohol, I will be the one who's like, hey, round of shots on me, all 10 of us. I'm like, you know what? Give me the good tequila too. I wish I had more control over that. But when I drink, I just do not. So I drop a lot of money that I don't want to spend. And then I also...
Will Uber Eats Taco Bell? And you guys know those Uber Eats charges are like really high. And then of course I'm going to tip them. So money just goes down the drain. So when I have FOMO, I'm like, you know what? I'm saving a lot of money. So then I'm, it just makes it easier on me. And it helps me let go of that fear of missing out. Cause you know what? I might be missing out on that, but I'm not missing out on the money in my bank account. You know what? You know what I'm saying? Okay. Next one is you're still fun. I promise you.
Who you are to your core doesn't change just because you don't go out or just because you skip the event, you know? I'm saying you know a lot again. I think I was doing that in a recent episode, but I'm going to work on it. I promise. I'm sorry. I don't want to be annoying, you guys. You're still fun. People are still going to love you. I promise that you are still you. You don't want to change who you are just to make other people happy. And...
It's a hard pill to swallow sometimes because, again, this goes back to that first one. Sometimes you're going to lose friends when you become true to yourself. But those aren't the people that you want in your life. And I've said this 10 million times before, but if you have to change who you are for someone to like you, then they don't actually like you. And as harsh as it is, wow, glitching queen. As harsh as it is, it's true. It's the reality. Like, you don't want those people in your life at all.
Next one. It's okay to have different priorities. A lot of people prioritize different things in their life. And huge example of this is, again, me and Lissette. Like her and I, as much as we are the same exact person, we are completely opposite people. Lissette's an accountant. She works an 8 to 5. She's a badass. She's so smart.
But again, she works an 8-5. So she is going hard Monday through Friday. She's ready to go out Saturday, Sunday. I kind of work on an opposite schedule where I am working a little bit all the time every single day. But
It's not like I'm zoned in. I can kind of create my own schedule, which I'm super blessed to be able to do, but it puts us on different schedules because I will have tasks and things that I need to do on a Saturday, a Sunday, or Friday night that are work-related, whereas that's her rest and relax time. That's her go out and have fun time. But I can have fun time Tuesday morning, Wednesday morning.
I don't know if you're picking up what I'm putting down, but we're on different schedules. And you're going to notice as you get older, especially as you move into your more adulting years, you and your friends' schedules are going to move around. And they may not align perfectly. And it's a blessing if they do. But if they don't, that's okay. And it's not going to change anything. It's just going to make the moments that you do get to go do things together all that more special. Next one is...
Oh, I wrote this one twice again. It's not going to matter in five years. Like literally let it go because it's not going to matter. You're really not missing that much. Next one is to stay off social media. If it is something where...
another one of those situations where you really wanted to go and you couldn't go or Even if you wanted to go but you knew that it wouldn't be good for your mental health if you went Like just stay off of social media. You don't have to see it. You're not gonna want to see it just go do something else go outside or go for a walk or read a book or Cook something. I don't know just
Do something to keep yourself busy that is not on your phone. Start a new movie. Watch a new Netflix show. Just throughout the time of when your friends are doing whatever they're doing. And a good example of this, and I also got on that TikTok that kind of blew up on my spam account about FOMO. So many people were commenting, oh, is this about Meloche Summer Camp? Did she not get invited to Hannah's 4th of July party? Guys, first of all, it's not that deep.
Second of all, I was invited to go to Michigan and honestly yeah it is part of the reason that I'm talking about this because as much as I love love love each and every single one of my friends and everyone who was on that trip with my whole heart there were a bunch of reasons that I didn't go. I was trying to save money because I have a bunch of other trips planned this summer. I'm going to Costa Rica really soon and then right after that I'm going to St. Martin with my family and then right after that I'm going to Greece. So
I needed some time to really get work done and really zone in and really focus and going on a trip like that with just so many people and so much energy and probably would have been so much fun. I would have just set myself back and I really needed to, again, just prioritize myself and my mental health and my work right now. That's why I didn't go. But this kind of leads into keeping myself busy.
I missed my friends. I wish I could have been there. I wish I could have gone, but I knew that long term it was better for me not to go, to stay home. I didn't want to sit there and watch everyone's stories over and over and over again, so I kept myself busy. I had my own little family stuff for the 4th of July. Lissette was in town, and she's never in town because she's working her big girl job right now in Jacksonville, and I didn't want to miss out on my one week that I had with her to go spend money in Michigan. You know what I'm saying?
I hope that makes sense because I was sad that I wasn't there. Don't get me wrong, but there's a difference between being a little bit upset that I didn't go and didn't get to see my friends versus having FOMO. Anyways, I just thought it was super weird that people really feel the need to comment those kind of things.
It just doesn't make sense for me.
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You are the only person you are going to have in your life long term forever. You need to learn to be comfortable with yourself. You never know what is going to happen in life and as scary and as sad as it is, you never know who you might lose in life. You have to be able to be there for yourself. You can't rely on other people to fix you or to make you feel okay or to make you feel better.
And I mean this in a good way. Alone time is a blessing. When you learn to be comfortable with yourself on your own, you will notice how different you feel. You won't feel the need to find validation from other people. You won't feel as much jealousy. You won't feel as insecure because you will be confident in the person that you are because you are friends with her. You know what I'm saying? Moving on.
Remember that it's a highlight reel. Please remember if you're having FOMO from what people are posting on social media, it is literally a highlight reel and it is for all of us. I mean, think about yourself. You use social media as a highlight reel. There's nothing wrong with that. That's literally why we have it. And when I tell myself that, when I remind myself of that, I'm like, oh, you know what?
It's okay. It might look picture perfect on camera, and even if it was picture perfect, that's awesome. But still, it's a highlight reel. Simple as that. Don't forget it. What's the next one? I'm reading, I'm reading. Oh, I was reading some articles because I wanted to do some research before I...
Did this one, but honestly, there's not many articles on FOMO. I can tell you that right now. But one thing that I did read is that FOMO originates from unhappiness. And I know it sounds kind of harsh, but I talked about it a little bit before. I noticed that when I was having really bad FOMO and I was forcing myself to go to everything so that I wouldn't have it,
I wasn't happy with my life. I wasn't content with my alone time. I didn't really want to be alone because I didn't want to sit with my feelings. I didn't want to think about other people having fun while I was just miserable with my life. It makes a huge difference when you can learn to enjoy everything that you do in your life. The mundane things, the small things, the sitting in your house or reading a book. Like,
When you learn to enjoy those things and when you find a way to make those things in your life make you happy, then the FOMO will kind of just dissipate on its own. I don't even know if dissipate is a word, but I felt like it was kind of fitting right there. Pretend it's a word if it's not. If it is, all right, nice one, Lexi. You have to find the happiness within yourself and the FOMO will go away. I can pinky promise that.
One thing to think about is watering your own front yard. Water your own grass instead of looking across the street to see what your neighbor's grass looks like. And by that I mean be so focused on taking care of yourself and making your life as beautiful as you can. And then you won't have as much time to look around at what other people are doing. And that is something...
Huge that I've implemented into my life. Don't get me wrong. I still go on social media all the time I will watch all my friends stories. I will see what they're up to but there's a difference between Watching and investing myself. I have found myself at times especially when I first started doing social media that I would just Be so invested in what other people were doing like how can I do that? Can I do it better? and
I don't even like admitting that. Like, that's not something that I'm not proud of that at all. It was like literally gross and I was so jealous all the time. It's just because I was freaking insecure, you know? I was unhappy with what I had in my own life. So I decided to take control of my own life and make my life what I want my life to be. Because when you make your life what you want it to be, you don't give two shits about what other people are doing with theirs.
And that is facts. I don't know if you could tell in the shift in my attitude right there. I mean that. Like, if you're going to take anything away from this, make your life so damn good that you don't care what anyone else is doing. Not in, like, an obsessive or unhealthy way. Like, please still check in on your friends and watch what they're doing and make sure they're having fun. But don't try to do something better than them just because they're happy.
Oh, tickle in my throat. Hold on. Okay, I had to pause. I got the tickle out. Anyways, never feel embarrassed if you want to focus on your mental health. I saw a couple comments that were talking about, like, my friends make fun of me because I don't want to go out because I'm staying in and prioritizing my own energy and health. I've been there. I've dealt with that. Now I will gladly take the title of the lame friend because you know what? I'm freaking happy. I am so happy. I am...
working so hard to become the version of myself that I want to be that I don't really care what you have to say about me and That's another one. That's facts facts facts facts. Where was I going with that thought? Anyways, next one is just to be kind to yourself give yourself space to Feel to heal to grow to go to not go just be kind to yourself with any decision that you make trust your heart Trust your gut trust your intuition and I mean that last one is live in the moment and
If you're spending all of your time and all of your life watching other people and wishing that you were with them, no. You're losing the moment. You're losing your own life. Be here. Be now. It doesn't matter what everyone else is doing. It matters how you feel. Now, that's kind of all I got in the FOMO spectrum. That's all I wrote down. But what I really just want to tell you guys is that
Every day is a learning process. Every day is a learning curve. And some of the best things in life and some of the biggest lessons that I've learned in my life have taken me years and years and years to understand. Like, I know. Maybe I sound like I know what I'm talking about. And the only reason I know it so well is because I've been through the worst of it. Like, I didn't just wake up one day and never have FOMO or always feel confident in myself just after one night of telling myself these things. Like,
It is a work in progress. Still, even now, we're all moving at a different schedule. We're all moving at our own pace. You just have to understand that the only way to learn the lessons is to go through them and to feel everything and to take it one step at a time. As long as you're putting one foot forward in the right direction, you're eventually going to make the progress that you want to make.
And I can promise you that. So whether this relates to you in FOMO or in literally any other aspect in your life, trust the journey, trust the process, you will get there. And eventually, you won't give a shit about what anyone else is doing because you're going to be watering your own grass. And you're going to feel good and happy just being with yourself or doing whatever it is that makes you happy. We're all different.
Another thing to take away is never judge anyone else for the way that they live or doing what makes them happy because it's just not right. Anyways, that's all I got. I love you guys. I don't think I've done an episode 40 seconds, 40, 40 seconds, wow, 40 minutes long in a while.
Hope I gave you something valuable to take away from this. I really love you guys. And I, again, I'm so excited for the future. And if you don't follow the moments podcast, Instagram, please go follow it because I am going to spend hours working on graphics for that, um, Instagram today. So it means so much to me when you guys like take the graphics and you repost them to your story because almost all of them, I, I like make by myself. Some of them I find on Pinterest, but I,
Besides the point, I'm just so grateful for you guys supporting me and loving me and just know that I love you so much more than you'll ever know. And thank you for listening. I will talk to you guys next Monday. You're the best. Goodbye.