Having one person handle all finances is risky because if that person becomes incapacitated or passes away, the other partner may be left unaware of financial details, such as accounts, income sources, or bills. It also creates an imbalance in decision-making and reduces the opportunity for shared financial goals and connection.
The four money types are avoiders (who consciously or unconsciously avoid money discussions), optimizers (who focus on saving and investing but can become overly frugal), worriers (who constantly stress about finances), and dreamers (who believe success is always just around the corner and may fall for get-rich-quick schemes).
The annual Rich Life Review is a structured process where couples reflect on the past year, identify memorable moments, discuss what they want to do more or less of in the future, and set financial goals for the upcoming year. It helps align their shared vision and priorities.
Ramit Sethi recommends allocating 50-60% of take-home pay to fixed costs, such as rent, mortgage, groceries, and debt payments.
High-earning couples often focus on saving and investing but neglect spending on things that bring them joy. Learning to spend meaningfully ensures they are using their wealth to enhance their lives and create memorable experiences, rather than just accumulating money for its own sake.
Ramit suggests that couples should first establish a shared vision of their 'rich life' and align their financial goals. They should also set up joint and individual accounts to avoid nitpicking over small expenses, allowing each partner some financial freedom without judgment.
Including a buffer in financial planning accounts for unexpected expenses or deviations from the budget. For example, Ramit recommends adding 50% to travel budgets and 15% to fixed costs to ensure financial flexibility and reduce stress when overspending occurs.
As people earn more, they often complicate their finances with multiple accounts, credit card hacks, or unnecessary investments. Ramit advocates for simplicity to reduce stress, save time, and focus on what truly matters, rather than chasing marginal gains.
Episode 665: Sam Parr ( https://x.com/theSamParr) ) talks to Ramit Sethi ( https://x.com/ramit) ) about money rules for couples in their 30s and 40s.
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Show Notes:
(0:00) 5 rules for money in your relationship
(5:25) the 4 money types: avoider, optimizer, worriers, dreamers
(10:15) The Annual Review
(23:00) Monthly money meetings
(26:00) There is no "money person"
(31:09) 4 benchmarks for high-earning couples
(35:03) Learning to spend
(41:01) Investments vs purchases
(43:39) Troubleshooting partnership disagreements
(49:00) Spending to solve problems
(53:00) Fight for simplicity
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Links:
• Money for Couples - http://iwt.com/moneyforcouples)
• Ramit on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@ramitsethi)
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