In three-person friendships, one person often feels marginalized because the other two may share more similarities or interests, leading to a natural closeness that excludes the third. This dynamic can make the third person feel like an outsider, especially if their personality or preferences differ significantly from the other two.
Common experiences include being left out of conversations, activities, or inside jokes, feeling like the third wheel, and noticing that the other two have a stronger bond. These situations can make the third person feel invisible or unimportant in the friendship.
The speaker expressed their feelings of exclusion by crying, questioning their friends, and even writing letters to them. Their friends responded by acknowledging the issue, writing heartfelt letters, and making efforts to include the speaker more, which helped restore balance in the friendship.
Experiencing exclusion can teach individuals to recognize and value true friendships, set boundaries, and prioritize their own well-being. It also encourages self-reflection and the understanding that not all friendships are meant to last, leading to healthier social connections in the future.
In the workplace, the speaker felt excluded as their two colleagues bonded over shared interests and activities that the speaker didn’t participate in. Unlike in school, the speaker didn’t express their feelings openly, as they feared being seen as immature or overly sensitive by their colleagues.
If a friendship no longer feels right, it’s okay to gradually distance yourself or end the relationship. This can be done by reducing communication or addressing the issue directly if the other person is open to discussion. The key is to prioritize your own emotional well-being.
Someone might feel like they are intruding if they perceive that the other two have a deeper or more established bond. This can happen when the third person is introduced to the friendship later or when the other two share more common interests or experiences.
Signs of an unhealthy three-person friendship include constant feelings of exclusion, lack of communication about issues, and one person consistently feeling undervalued or ignored. If the friendship causes more stress than joy, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
Rebuilding confidence involves recognizing that the exclusion is not a reflection of their worth, seeking out supportive and inclusive friendships, and focusing on self-care. It’s also important to set boundaries and communicate openly in future relationships.
Self-reflection helps individuals understand why they feel excluded, identify patterns in their friendships, and recognize their own needs and boundaries. It can also lead to healthier relationship choices and better communication with friends.
友情里的小心思,可不比爱情要少。
在本期节目中,我们将探讨在三人友情中,为何有时会感到被边缘化?旺旺和晓宇,都曾亲身体验过那种失落和不安,正如阿桑在《一直很安静》中所唱:“明明是三个人的电影,我却始终不能有姓名”。这种感受,你是否也曾有过?
三人行的友情是否注定要牺牲一个人的感受,被边缘化是否是我们真的做错了什么,我们分享了那些快乐和难过交织的故事,以及这些经历如何教会我们识别和珍惜真正的朋友。通过这些对话,我们发现这种不平衡的友情并不罕见,但它也给了我们一个机会去重新审视自己的社交圈,去建立更深层次的联系。
本期你会听到
3:29 忍受不愉快的友情还是选择孤独一个人?
10:15 另外两个人关系更好,我作为第三人怎样和ta们相处 ?
16:18 我为什么总是陷入友情三人行?
23:54 如果你慢慢发现跟某个人不再适合做朋友了,会怎么办呢?
27:55 当从一份友谊中被忽视,我总是陷入自我反思
35:24 友情三人行让我觉得自己介入了别人的感情
39:16 明明我想帮助朋友,为什么却让我们之间有了裂痕
48:47 遗憾收场的三人行,只剩你们两个在朋友圈互动
58:34 我们从那些让难过的友情中收获了些什么?
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