851. Q&AF: Dealing With Stress, Setting Healthy Boundaries & How To Find A Mentor
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If it entertains you, if it gives you the giggles, do us a favor. Don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right. What's up, dude? What's going on, man? Nothing. Yeah, we were just talking. I really do think for some reason this daylight savings kicked my ass. Yeah. I don't know why. It's fucking ridiculous. I've been doing it for 30 years, but it's just like this one for some reason. It got me. Bro, I was thinking about this. Mm-hmm.

I think that the powers that be intentionally make it dark during the winter and

So that we're all depressed. Yeah. And we're less productive. Less sunlight. I am way less motivated, way less productive in the winter months than I am in the summer months. And way less happy. Yeah. It's that seasonal depressive disorder, whatever. I need a light, bro. LGB something, yeah. Yeah. Of course.

Oh, bro. Did you see the comments on that short? On which one? On the, well, we'll talk about it tomorrow. Okay. Yeah. It was funny. No, but yeah. I mean, so I don't know. So maybe that's what it is. Like it's getting us out of that ick, you know? Yeah. I don't know, dude. But I can tell you this. I would like it to be Sonny.

Until 9 o'clock at night. Dude, that'd be nice. I like that. That's my favorite time of the year, dude. It doesn't get dark until like 9, 15. Yeah, bro. That's the shit. Yeah. I feel like days were longer when I was a little kid, man. You know, because we were out until the streetlights came on. Yeah, what were you doing? Shit. You know, stuff. Yeah, stuff. Stuff you can't talk about. Stuff you can't talk about, you know.

What was your, what was your, what did you like to play? Like what kind of games did you guys play when you were kids? So we had this one game where we would, so like my, where I grew up at, it was an apartment on a hill. I'm being serious. I'm dead ass serious. And so there was like, you know, my apartment, four family flat, there was an alley and then there was this elementary school next to me called gun lock. Okay.

And so my friends, you know, because we was on a hill, like we had retained like this massive retaining wall. Right. And then the elementary school was their recess yard, which like dropped fucking 30 feet. Yeah. And so what we would do is we would like go up on our porch and usually every day around like, you know, after school, about an hour after school, we call it the crackhead parade.

Because. Or crack head off the. No, they would like come by. You would throw it off a 30 foot drop? No, we just throw shit at them. Oh, okay. Yeah. That's the game you would play? Bro, who could hit it? And then we would run because they were fast. They're all hopped up on crack heads. Bro, listen. That's like 110 octane, bro. You're asking me about my childhood. I'm telling you what we did. We threw shit at crack heads, man. They were in front of them.

You guys didn't play any games, man. No, that was it. That was it. You didn't like. That was it. Then we take our bikes and stuff that we would get ownership of, and we put bottles in the back tire. So basically, everybody's bike was a community bike. Yeah, it was a community bike. Yeah, that's why we didn't care. We leave them outside. We didn't care. That's a nice way to say it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And put little plastic bottles in the back tire, roll around like a little gang and stuff. Oh, yeah. Make it sound like a motorcycle. Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Yeah, my friend put it in his front tire once and then like it's kind of the same stuff we did Yeah, it's the same stuff. We did it. We did the same thing ride our bikes build like a little ramps and shit Yeah, you know and then we play a lot of baseball, but we would mattress flip You ever like do acrobat shit on mattresses that were like, you know people threw out now and shit. No. Yeah Well, we play baseball regular kids

Dude, we probably played five million games of fucking baseball in my backyard. Like, that's all we did. Yeah. Played baseball every fucking day with tennis balls and a broomstick. There's a name for that. Like, there's a name for that. Well, there's cork ball. Is that what it is? Which is where it has like a little bitty cork ball. It's like the size of a golf ball and then a wooden stick. It's really hard to play. Okay. Because I've seen it played with tennis balls and they burn them.

i never seen like a torch and stuff i don't know it's weird yeah it was awesome yeah but i mean you know like i said bro i mean cultural differences same same yeah yeah all right

Well, let's make some. I was trying not to make any jokes today. I'm proud of you. Today is serious. Yeah, it's a good day. Tomorrow's joke day. So let's get on with it. Holding them all in until tomorrow. Yeah, that's right. I got a lot. Guys, Andy, I got three good ones for you, man. Let's knock these out. Guys, Andy, question number one. Andy, whenever I'm stressed...

I numb myself with distractions, scrolling through my phone, porn or drinking. I'm fully aware that these things don't actually help, but they're my default. I want to learn healthier ways to handle stress, but I don't know where to start. How do I stop turning to quick fixes and start dealing with stress in a productive way?

Okay, well, first of all, this is a really good question because a lot of people struggle with this. And I think if you put it in different terms, it's very easy to make the adjustment that you're looking for. And the terms that I would put it in is that you have to realize that you are losing the game of life to a fucking screen. Okay, you are losing the game of life to a screen.

You are losing the game of life to women who have no idea who you are and don't give two shits about you. You are losing the game of life to an inanimate object of alcohol. All right? What this means is that you have to develop discipline. You have to develop the ability to recognize when it is you fall into this trap and

and how to get out of it. So the answer here is twofold. One, it's awareness. If you don't know that you're falling into these things, they can capture you and you could get sucked into the vortex for half the day. And that happens. But since you're asking the question, I would say you're already aware that it's a problem. Okay. So you've already conquered that. That's a great thing.

The next part is the part of action where the first time that you think of it, the first time that it arises, the first time you're like, oh, shit.

I'm scrolling or I'm letting it distract me. You need to get up and go do something that is productive towards your goals. And the reality here, guys, is that the reason this happens so frequently to people is because they don't have a clear cut plan for their day. All right.

They set a goal and they say one, three, five year goal. And they don't actually break that down into critical tasks that you need to execute on for that day. And so if you have a plan and you have a,

Five critical tasks like we talk about in the power list, which you can get for free. It is the ultimate productivity method. It's the only method that I know of. And by the way, it's free. That will guarantee you that you get where you want to go in life. Guaranteed. Okay. If you execute it. So if you bring it back to a day by day by day plan, you're going to get the most out of it.

Now, you know what you have to do and if you haven't done the things that you have to do, you shouldn't be scrolling, you shouldn't be drinking and you shouldn't be looking at porn. Okay? I'm not here to judge any of those things. I'm just saying you want to get here.

You've got to eliminate these distractions because you're competing against people who have already figured that out and are giving all of their effort to this. So you have to understand you're already behind because you're doing these things and you're competing against people who have already solved this problem and got it under control. So, uh,

Be aware, understand how to recognize when this happens, work on your discipline, work to develop your ability to make the right decision when you know the decision needs to be made and it's not the thing that you want to do and you can use 75 hard to do it. Everybody that uses 75 hard and does it the right way, they understand what I'm talking about. This will fix that problem for you.

And then know what you have to do for the day. And if you know what you have to do and you execute on all five tasks, then scroll on your fucking phone. Okay? Like, just understand it's okay to do some of the things. You don't have to work 40 hours out of 24, man.

It's okay to do things that are a waste of time that you enjoy after the things that are critical to getting you where you want to go are checked off the list. And so this is how you solve a problem like that. Ultimately, dude, it should piss you off that you're losing the game of life to literal inanimate objects. Like that's like to me,

That's where my mindset changed, all right? When I was 350 pounds and I realized that I was losing the quality of my life to literally food and beer. And all I had to do was to not do something to change my whole life, which was me not to reach out and put that shit in my mouth, okay?

And that thought process, like I can handle losing sometimes to somebody who's really good and really works hard. I don't respect that, but I can't respect myself when I know I'm losing the game of life to things that have no literal power at all. And I'm giving them all my power. So,

I don't know if you're wired like me, but that pisses me off and that makes me want to, you know, get in control of my game. And then you have to understand too, guys, that discipline is a perishable skill. If you don't practice it regularly, it goes away. There's not one thing you're going to do that's going to develop discipline and then it's just going to stick for your whole life. Okay? If you don't practice it, it goes away. When you practice it, it gets stronger. It's no different than training for an event,

or training to play an instrument or training your body, you're training your mind. And, you know, the more you train it, the stronger it gets. And if you cease to train it, it gets weak and that'll go on your whole life. Let's let's talk a little bit about stress, right? Because he's mentioned that he does these things when he feels stressed. How do you look at stress? How should people look at stress? Like what's the what's the thing about stress nobody really wants to talk about?

That they're not actually stressed. Most people are stressed because they have anxiety about things that they know they should do that they lack the ability to do and it drives them crazy and then causes stress.

So, when we think about like how stress affects us, it's a very negative thing but the reality is you're far less stressed when you're executing on the things that you know you need to do than you are when you're not doing those things and there's basically like a paradoxical type of thought process here because people think that when you're stressed you need to take a break and then by taking the break it pulls you further from the things that you know you need to be doing which creates anxiety and creates more stress.

So it becomes a cycle that you can't break out of unless you actually go do the things you know you're supposed to do. So that's...

what stress is really about for most people and i understand there is stressful situations there's things like you lose your job or you go through a breakup but those are temporary things those are things that happen to everybody um and that's called life man and so life's not gonna be easy and also i will say that the expectation of being stress-free

amplifies people's stress level. Okay. So when you start to expect that you should be able to go out and achieve something and then feel no stress, the minute you feel stress, you get

This amplification that happens because it's like the expectation is that I should feel good. I should feel not stressed. I should feel easy. And this should be and I should be able to do this and not feel these things. And then the minute you start feeling it, you're like,

Oh shit dude, I'm so stressed. There it is. Yeah, so dude we end up in this cycle and the cycle can only be broken by having the proper expectations, okay? Life is fucking hard. Building something is hard. Becoming something is hard. Creating something is hard. These are all hard things and having the expectation that it's going to be easy only makes it that much harder because every time the expectation is broken you freak the fuck out.

All right. So we have to understand that there's going to be stress either way, dude. If you're going to go down the path of working hard, building something, creating something, becoming something, it's going to be fucking stressful. And it's also going to be stressful sitting at home, not being able to pay your bills or know how you could fill your car with gas. Okay. So there is no path to anywhere in life that doesn't

come with stress and anxiety and the expectation that's created by all of these, you know, internet wizards who know everything about everything, but, you know, magically haven't done anything. They try to tell you that you're supposed to go through life feeling peaceful and calm and all this shit. Well, dude, I'll be real.

Don't know anybody that's built anything Relevant to what you guys want to do with your lives that has built You know anything that you know, we would any of us would say oh man, that's fucking amazing that walks through life You know like Buddha stress-free. Yes Bro, cuz stress drives you to action. All right, most people don't do their best work until they have to do their best work and

They don't execute properly or at the highest level until their back is against the wall and stress is bearing down on them. And then they have no other opportunity or choice but to act. Okay. And this is what I call zero options mentality. When you are a young person and you are not young in the game of entrepreneurship, you could be 50 and you start out trying to build these things. You don't have an option right now.

Okay. So you have to go out and you have to survive. And then as you become more successful and as you start to make money and as life gets a little comfortable, you have to trick your mind into believing that there is no other option but

to execute. You have to. And that could come from a lot of different places. That could come from putting extra pressure on yourself so that you do feel like your back's against the wall. That could come from taking the focus on self, I want to make all this money, to putting

The team, I want my team to be successful. I'm responsible for their families. I'm responsible for their kids' schooling. I'm responsible for what they eat. I'm responsible for what they live. And as you, as the owner of the operator, when you take all that pressure and put it on you, think it makes you more stressed?

Absolutely. But do you think you produce better results? Absolutely. So stress is not necessarily a bad thing. It's just how you leverage it in the proper way and then understanding you're going to have it no matter what you do in life. I love it, man. I love it. Let's roll to question number two. Andy.

I've always been the nice one. Uh, the person who avoids conflict and goes along with whatever makes other people happy. But lately I've realized that I let people walk all over me, uh, both at work and in my personal life. I struggle to speak up for myself. And when I do, I feel guilty afterwards. How can I start setting boundaries and being more assertive without feeling like I'm being selfish? Yeah. Like a true type B personality here. Uh,

Don't know what the type would be but I think we all deal with this at some point in time, you know You have to be like a sociopath to not care about how other people react to the way that you react to them So I could understand how someone who is naturally passive and easygoing Can feel awkward about setting boundaries because I think we all struggle with that in certain areas of our life. So Here's the reality dude

You are responsible for you and you are responsible for your actions and you have a right to set boundaries to where people cannot walk all over you, take advantage of you. And when they try to make you feel guilty for setting those boundaries, you have to realize that that is a red flag for their character. That's saying these people are trying to manipulate me. They're trying to get me to do something that I don't want to do. It doesn't feel good to me.

for their benefit. And so when you start to set boundaries around things, really what happens is it kind of shows you who's who in your life. And a lot of people, you know, they never set boundaries and they do end up getting walked all over their whole life. And I can tell you, people that get walked all over their whole life, they can't make any money, they can't get successful, they don't have respect from their peers because they don't respect themselves. So you have to understand that when you set a boundary, it's not...

You should everybody should have healthy boundaries Everybody else has boundaries and one thing you should realize is all these people that you're afraid of hurting with your boundaries They don't give a fuck about taking advantage of you because you don't have any do they so you should think about that If these people were really good people, they wouldn't press you the way they press you they wouldn't step on you But they're not okay. Most people have a human nature of how much can I get or?

Until they hit that wall of a boundary and that's where the respect starts. So if you want respect and you want to be treated properly, you have to stand up for what you believe when you believe it. And you could do that in a very polite way. You know, this isn't.

Like you said, you know, I want to be nice. All right, bro. But you got to be nice to yourself. All right. And being nice to yourself starts with not letting other people step all over you because you're an easygoing person. Don't let your easy going natural personality.

Get in the way of having healthy boundaries because if you do nobody's gonna respect you so we have to understand dude Say no is a skill and a lot of times say and no you could say it a nice way But like if they're pissed off or if they have a problem or they get weird fuck them who cares You got to take care of yourself first bro. You could drive yourself crazy. They supposed to be there anyway, then I Think that's what I think. Yeah, I think there's natural respect I think the best quality human beings

can sense other people's boundaries without them having to be set. And I think when really good people are starting to encroach on a boundary and they feel it, they will say something like, hey, dude, look, I know this is a little bit extra, but can we do this? Or can I do this? Or can I, they'll tread lightly because they care about your boundaries. And usually they're reflective of their own boundaries. So like, if I'm going to ask somebody something,

That I know they're gonna be a little uncomfortable with I'm going to acknowledge that upfront. I'm gonna say hey man look I'm not trying to make it weird but

Right. And and if they say no, you say, OK, cool. Totally got it, dude. I respect that. But that's the way adults communicate. And you need to learn that or you will continue to get stomped on your whole life. And if you do, you're going to be at the end of the totem pole or the bottom of the totem pole everywhere you go. I think I think a lot of times, too, a lot of people kind of build these monsters up in their head of like what these situations are going to be like right now. Like for this person, you know, I don't

I don't know how old he is. He didn't say, but let's say like, this has been him his entire life. And he's just now having to start setting these boundaries.

Can we clear the monsters? I mean, what would you say the percentage of people that are going to respect him setting these new boundaries for the first time ever? What's it actually going to be versus what he might be thinking in his head? 99% of people are going to respect it. And there's going to be 1% of people that are like, what the fuck, dude? I thought we were blah, blah, blah. Those people aren't your friends. Okay. And then here's the other thing. You got to understand, dude, if you do not respect

Set those boundaries what ends up happening is is you end up bitter because you look at the world as the world is Abusing you you look at the world as the world is taking advantage of you You look at the world as if they're they hate you and it causes you to get super pissed and the reason That you're super pissed and you feel this way isn't the world It's because you're not naturally standing where you should be standing on your limits. Mm-hmm

Right. Nobody don't give a shit about you like you give a shit about you. Well, you know, unfortunately, there is a lot of people who are very selfless. There's a lot of people who are so selfless and so good that they allow themselves to be taken advantage of because they think they're not trying to rock the boat. And, you know, they're like, well, you know, so and so struggling with this or so they make an excuse for everybody. And dude, like, I'll be real, dude. I used to struggle with this big time. And, you know,

You got a big heart, dude. Yeah, bro. I care about people, you know? And dude, like I've learned at this point in my, in my life that like almost everybody, almost everybody I'm around now is respectful, but it wasn't always that way, dude. I learned that by getting taken advantage of, uh,

for years and years and years. And, and dude saying no is a skill that is necessary for you to be a leader, for you to be great at anything you do, for you to be respected. And most importantly, for you to respect yourself. Okay. If you go home every day and you look in the mirror and you're like, fuck dude, I let all these people step all over. What, how can you look in the mirror and respect that dude?

You can't. It's impossible. So we have to understand that respect for self comes first and respect for self comes from developing discipline, doing the right thing, executing on what we need to execute when we don't feel like executing on it, and then having boundaries and saying no to things that you don't want to do. And your life gets a lot easier when you get comfortable doing that. Yeah, that's real, man. I love it.

Well, guys, let's get our third and final question in here. We got question number three. My question for you, Andy, is about business mentors. How do you locate a mentor?

For background, I am 25. I run a small, fast-growing business in the auto parts industry. I'm about five years in business. I've started to get this feeling of no man's land. I don't necessarily have a business mentor. The closest thing for me is continually listening to your podcast and using the tips and advice to provoke my own thoughts and relate that to where I am day, week, period of time in business.

Is there a point in business where you feel it's crucial to have a mentor or is it not necessary? Interested in your thoughts on this. The easiest way to get where you want to go, the fastest way to get where you want to go is to talk to someone who's already been there. All right. If you're trying to forge a path to this goal,

destination that you've never been to it's like trying to cut the path through the forest with an axe it takes a long time it's really fucking hard it's really exhausting but if you can find the guy who's already been there that guy's gonna say hey no no no

Here's the path, bro. And he's already cut all the trees on the way there and he knows the path. So having someone who's been where you want to be is invaluable. It's very, very important that you find someone to follow, even if it's passively following them, meaning like you're watching from a distance. That's what it was like for me. Okay. We didn't have social media. We didn't have podcasts.

The ability to you know learn from people who have actually built businesses I had to find people and sort of watch them and analyze them from afar and I'm glad it was that way because what it did was it taught me how to think I would look at someone I say

I wonder why they're doing this. I wonder why are they doing that? How is this affecting that? Did they make the right decision? What if they would have thought that? So it created this analytical business habit of thinking through all the options, which I think today is probably my best skill. I wouldn't have learned that as effectively as I did if I had someone telling me exactly what to do. So,

You can have one just like you listen to me and there's other people out there who have done what you want to do. I'm sure on social media, they probably done exactly what you want to do. I would pay attention to what they do, how they do it, try to figure out why they do it on your own.

then I would go out and I would make an investment in your own education. Now, people go out and they spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to get a education, quote unquote, from major universities that are taught by motherfuckers that have never done the thing they are teaching. And that's very much so how the internet is today too. We have thousands of people out there teaching education.

skills about how to do things that they've never done. Okay. And in a university, it's the same. It's the same shit. All right. So it's nothing new for someone who's never done something to resort to teaching and then taking the money for teaching versus making a business that actually works. So a lot of these Internet quote unquote business gurus are full of shit and you shouldn't listen to them.

The ones you should listen to are people who have built actual things, who sell actual products, who have been doing it for a long time, who have hundreds of thousands, if not millions of customers, who have employees, who have built actual businesses, who understand how to market because they've built big brands marketing. All of these things can be vetted out by paying attention.

Is this person making all their money selling coaching or is this person coaching because they've been successful in other businesses? One of them will make an amazing mentor to you. The other one will be a waste of your fucking time. Okay. So,

Ask yourself qualifying questions, figure out who you need to talk to and resonate with and learn from who's actually done the thing or something very close to what you have done, right? Maybe they didn't run, what do you say, auto parts? Yeah, auto parts. Maybe they didn't run auto parts, but maybe they ran a different kind of business that sold widgets and then they vertically integrated all the widgets and then you can look at that model and say, well, this will work over here, all right? So,

Business, doing business and talking about business is two different fucking things. The internet is totally infested with frauds who charge money for things they don't know and you can't find their companies. You ever notice that when you see these guys and they talk about all these businesses, they're

You can't ever see them. They're never there. They're never at their headquarters. They never show their actual businesses. That's a red flag, bro. You follow me, I'm here every day, dude. I'm showing you all the shit I got going on. So you just got to be smarter than these fucking predators, dude. And there's a lot of them on the internet. Let me ask you this just about, because you've been in business 26 years.

Well, hold on. The point I'm trying to make here is there's two ways you can fucking learn from it. You can learn from observation or you can actually get hooked in by making an investment in your education. And the answer is you should do both. Yeah.

Now, let me ask you, because you have been in business for 26 years, and I guess my question is more about the evolution of business transparency, we'll call it, right? Has it always been this way where you have these owner-operators, these CEOs that are so willing to show the deal, right? Was it always like that? Because, I mean...

I don't know. I mean, you've been in business. What do you mean always like that? Like were business owners always so eager to share, you know, the past? Business owners usually aren't eager to share because they're busy running their businesses. Okay. I'm probably one of fucking five people on the internet that actually operate real businesses. Yeah. Real talk. Yeah. All right. Now I understand, you know, there's ways to get started, right? I'm not knocking, you know,

The kids that are going out there and trying things and then failing and, you know, learning how to do e-com and all. These are valuable skills and you can do these things. But what I am knocking is the 19-year-old motherfucker that thinks he knows everything about business teaching 17-year-olds to do it. Or the guy who doesn't actually have an actual business but he's got a big flashy lifestyle and he's like, hey, let me fucking, you pay me and I'll make you a millionaire. Like, dude, that's bullshit.

Okay, so I don't think that it's ever been in my 26 years that

It's just different bro like I had to read books about people and that's what I would recommend that you guys do like I read books about Sam Walton about Warren Buffett about Phil Knight, you know all these different guys who were I mean dude I'm talking dozens and dozens of them. Yeah, all these entrees and by the way war or um, I

Sam Walton's fucking you guys should all study Sam Walton that dude that dude was a true business innovator He was obsessive about being better everything that that guy did is really the the substance that creates massive success and

I learned a lot from him. It was actually the first book I ever read. It was like, it was called, uh, the American way or Walton's way or some shit. It was, uh, it was a great book. And, I read it when I was a kid. I've read it many times since, but you can read dude about all these guys and there's tremendous dude. I've read a lot about Trump, you know, like people said, Oh, Trump got a million dollars, bro. Compared to what Trump built a million dollars is like, if someone would have gave me a thousand dollars, right? Um, it's, uh,

There's just a lot you can learn from the information that's out there, dude. And I wouldn't rely on AI. A lot of the shit on AI is not even accurate, dude. You guys don't understand that. It's given information that isn't true, and then you guys listen to it, and it's not there. I mean, it's good for some things, but I can identify things that you ask it that are highly inaccurate because I'm an expert in that field. So we got to be discerning about where we take the information. Yeah.

And there's plenty of information to either find a mentor or create one in your mind who is sort of like somebody that you look up to, that you try to learn from, that you try to emulate. And, you know, I would do all of those things. I would read books, obviously. Okay. It's part of the Live Hard program.

Every fucking day you should be reading something that is going to be geared towards pushing you down the road further I'm not talking about 50 shades of fucking bullshit. I'm talking about I'm talking about stuff that you're gonna learn things from yeah, right You should be reading ten pages a day that keeps the mind stimulated. It keeps you creative It keeps you focused on where you're going. I would find I

People who are doing things and then I would like stalk the fuck out of them not like literally like I would show up their house legally Yes, I would read everything you can read. I would learn everything you can learn I will watch every move they make and I would try to dissect why they're making said moves All right, you can this is valuable because it teaches you how to think and

If you're watching someone and they're making moves and you don't understand it, you should be like, well, why are they doing that? Why did they do that? Because you know that the interest of them making that decision is in their best interest in their mind. So what are they thinking? Why would they do that? Right? That can teach you more than anything, in my opinion, because it teaches you how to solve problems. And it also teaches you how to steal good ideas from your competition because

before they ever hit the market, right? There's a lot of companies that would be smaller than you that make really good decisions. But when you're a bigger company, you have much more audience. You can look at that and say, well, that's a great idea. And then when you do it, it's going to seem like you did it first. And that's something that is very, that's a whole nother topic because bigger companies do it to bigger companies all the time. So, um, there's a catch 22 there. Like you could do it to some people, but they're going to do it to you too. Right. Um,

But you know analyzing like we're talking about and then also, you know spending your money on fucking learning more You know, a lot of people are unwilling to make simple investments in their future like bro If you're you know, a lot of these programs are a hundred, you know, 200 300 bucks a month and you say oh my god I can't afford that well, that's two nights out a month

The fuck you talking about? You're not willing to stay home for two nights or three nights a month and learn how to get better so that you don't have to worry about going out to eat and looking at the menu or worrying about putting gas in your car. Like, bro, you have to make those investments and you have to equate them to what you're actually giving up. Like, bro.

what are you giving up for 100 bucks a month one night out maybe what do you uh two pizza deliveries versus what do you stand to make that's what i'm saying bro like and there's lots of little programs that you can get into um that can help you know that's what arte is we we deal with you know small medium and large business owners who you know they pay a monthly fee and we get in there and we teach them how to do things and then they connect in the community so like

you know, I would be open to that. I think that's a good thing if you're learning from the right people. And if you're learning from the wrong people, it can be a very bad thing. Yeah, I love it, man. Well, guys, that was three. All right, guys, let's go out, kick some ass. We'll see you tomorrow. CTI. Don't be a hoe. Share the show.

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