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Episode 402: The Secret To Finding A Compatible Partner

2025/6/3
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Justin Lehmiller: 我认为很多人在处理浪漫关系的方式上都存在问题,尤其是在寻找一个可以长期相处的伴侣时。我们常常过于注重最初的激情和化学反应,而忽略了真正重要的事情,比如财务价值观。我们甚至很少在做出长期承诺之前讨论这些问题。我认为,在关系中尽早讨论这些实际问题至关重要,因为这有助于建立更热情和更充实的关系。 Lindsay Jill Roth: 我认为很多人都认为最初的火花和激情可以维持一生,并且化学反应可以克服其他问题。但事实并非如此。我认为最性感的浪漫是基于实际的,通过诚实地了解某人来实现情感上的亲密。这不仅仅是最初的身体吸引力,而是通过深入的对话来了解彼此的价值观和需求。我认为,即使没有最初的身体火花,通过亲密的对话也可以激发吸引力。

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This episode challenges conventional wisdom on finding lasting love, arguing that many prioritize the wrong aspects of relationships. It introduces Lindsay Jill Roth and her book, "Romances & Practicalities," which offers a research-backed approach to finding compatibility.
  • Many approach romantic relationships incorrectly by prioritizing the wrong factors.
  • Initial chemistry is often prioritized over long-term compatibility.
  • Practical issues are rarely discussed before long-term commitments.

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The way that many of us are approaching romantic relationships is all wrong. We’re not prioritizing the things that really matter when selecting our partners. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about the conversations you need to be having with a potential partner in order to develop deeper connections and establish long-term compatibility.

My guest is Lindsay Jill Roth), an award-winning television and live-events producer who has created and developed a wide variety of programming globally. She is also author of the new book Romances & Practicalities), which is based on a set of 250 research-backed questions designed to help you initiate tricky conversations and find lasting love.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • What are we doing wrong when it comes to selecting relationship partners?

  • How can being more pragmatic in your approach to relationships help to build a stronger foundation for love?

  • Why is money management a vital issue to discuss with a potential partner?

  • Beyond finances, what are some other key topics we should be discussing?

  • How do you initiate conversations about topics that many people are uncomfortable discussing?

You can check out Lindsay’s website) to learn more about her work.

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