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Episode 407: How Men Can Become Better Lovers

2025/6/20
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Justin Lehmiller: 我认为性高潮的强度和快感会因多种因素而异。饮酒会降低性高潮的感觉。除了减少饮酒，还可以通过改变生活方式来改善性高潮，例如保证充足睡眠、均衡饮食和规律运动。此外，尝试不同的性活动也有助于获得更多性高潮。 Joshua Gonzalez: 我认为性高潮的强度会受到性伴侣、性活动、以及性行为频率的影响。情绪状态也会影响性高潮的强度，例如情绪联系、性吸引力、以及是否分心。激素水平也会影响性高潮。保证充足睡眠、均衡饮食和规律运动有助于改善性高潮。心理健康对改善性高潮也很重要，包括管理压力和治疗心理健康问题。增加射精量可以提高性高潮的强度和快感。可以尝试使用性玩具来体验新的感觉，从而引发更强烈、更愉悦的性高潮。

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This chapter explores the meaning of sexual confidence, separating it from dominance. It emphasizes a grounded awareness of capabilities and limitations, promoting self-acceptance as the foundation for building confidence. Practical steps toward achieving this are discussed, including physical and mental exercises, and addressing the impact of unrealistic comparisons and cultural conditioning.
  • Sexual confidence is defined as a grounded awareness of what one knows and doesn't know, can do and cannot do.
  • Building confidence involves honest self-reflection, identifying skill gaps, and working on physical and mental well-being.
  • Overcoming performance anxiety requires addressing unrealistic expectations and cultural conditioning that pressures men to constantly prove their masculinity.

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If you want to get better at sex, what do you need to know? In today’s show, we’re talking all about how men can become better lovers, including how to build sexual confidence, how to deal with performance pressure, as well as tips and tricks for improving your sexual technique.

My guest today is Caitlin V), a sex and relationship coach specializing in helping men overcome sexual difficulties. With over 150MM views on YouTube) and nearly a million subscribers, she has become a leading voice in the field. Her TV show, Good Sex), is available for streaming now on Discovery+ and Max.

Some of the topics we explore include:

  • What are some things men can do to cultivate their sexual confidence?

  • How can men focus more on pleasure instead of getting fixated on performance?

  • How can changing up your masturbation routine help when it comes to having better partnered sex?

  • What are some ways you can get better at using your hands during sex?

You can check out Caitlin’s website) to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.)

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I’m excited to announce a new online course I’m teaching on the topic of fantasies at the Kinsey Institute. Be sure to register for “The New Science of Sexual Fantasies” workshop,) which will take place on July 19th, 2025.

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