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Yeah, long-time listener, first-time caller. None of that. Man said, I need help. All right, say less. All right. So I've been married to this girl for three years. This was all great until she got pregnant and her lust died out. Okay. It died out. Okay. We're talking sex every day to nothing at all. So I decided...
I don't know what this guy's on, but I love his honesty. So I decided to find a girl, in brackets, without my wife knowing, that I could smash until the baby came out. Wow. He said that with chest. Wow. I decided to find a girl that I could smash until the baby came out. And it worked fine. Yeah.
ah and it worked fine and i told the girl basically i have a wife and this isn't a long time thing and she was on board she has no problem with it now to the problem now to the problem yeah their baby's here and i don't need deciding anymore i tried ending it this bitch went off
She started threatening me that she would tell my wife about us and how she would fuck up my new baby's future. I said, what should I do? Wow. If my wife found out, she would leave me instantly and it was going to fuck up my little family. Should I hire a contract killer? Should I tell my wife? Should I call her bluff? I don't know what to do.
He's in a pickle. He's in a pickle-ickle. Wow, he's in a pickle. Is that it? That's it. He's in a pickle. So recap. Homeboy is married for three years. He's in a lovely relationship. Him and his wife just want to bang. She gets pregnant. Her desire just...
Just dies out, which is normal. And he needs a little something, something to get, just get him through until the Ute arrives. So he finds something, tells her, look, this is my situation. I'm just trying to nut. Are you down? She says, I'm down. Cool. Does this thing. Baby arrives, tries to lock her up. And she says, nah, she says, nah, I'm spilling all the beans. What do you do? I think not necessarily. He can't necessarily call her bluff.
But he obviously can't fucking hire a contract killer. He has to play it by ear. Like, oh, what does he do? Fam? What does he actually do? Because the problem is not going to go away. Yeah. You know? You might have to set her up a little standing order. Yeah. Yeah. Little PayPal transaction. I don't know what your funds are saying. Yeah, it's going to have to be. Yeah. Or unless you just keep piping her forever. Yeah.
Until she gets cancer or something. I don't know. He can't keep piping her. Of course he can't. These are all short-term loans, whatever you want to call it. These are all short-term, bro. Bro? Wow. That is very sticky. That's very sticky.
Oh, hard dicks make you do dumb things sometimes. Terrible things. Fuck, man. He's locked. He's locked down. There's no way out. Right, let me think about this logically. How does he get out of this situation? And that, okay, as a premise, this is not us condoning his behavior. This really is not us condoning his behavior. We're just discussing the subject at mass. He's in it now and he needs help. Yeah.
We're here. He's done the dirty work and he needs help. So we can't judge him at this point. It's too late. It's way too late. Yeah, he's done what he's done and he just needs our help. Yeah, homeboy is easing that sturdy one. Right, realistically, okay, if it was me, what would I do in this situation? Right.
I need my wife at home. I'm not losing that. Your wife and newborn. My wife and newborn. I'm not losing that. But this hoe on the side, she's saying, keep banging me or I'm telling everyone everything. You're not locking me off. But it's also one of them ones where you're going to keep banging her. She's eventually still going to tell someone.
True. She will. Of course she will. And if you pay her, she's always, the thing is I can never pay her. Yeah, I'm not paying her. Because if you pay her, she's probably going to say, keep paying me or I'm going to tell. Yeah, it's double. The rent's double now. That's it. And plus having a new kid. Nah, man. His finances, regardless of your finances, it's a piss take. Right. I'm trying to figure out what is the better option. Because he's literally got two options. Tell your missus the truth or call her bluff.
Those are his two fucking options. That's literally it. There are no other options, in my opinion. I was thinking he just needs to pack his shit and move. Tell the whole family, let's relocate. We got a newborn. Let's start a new life.
That's easier said than done, bro. I know, but the panic state in me, that's why I'll suggest. Oh, but I'm assuming, the way I see it is that's not even an option because this is 2022. I doubt this hoe knows where he lives. Mm-hmm. She's coming to her as a woman on an Instagram team. Mm-hmm.
This relocating thing ain't going to solve no issues. It's always an away game for him. So he's always going to hers. Yeah. Okay. So I don't think she's threatening to come to his yard. I think she's looking to drop a local DM team. I'm coming to you as a woman. Okay. So he can't run away from that. He can't run away from it. Yeah. So I'm saying he's got two options. Tell your missus the truth and see what you can pattern or call her bluff.
and let's take it from there take it from there the only issue with the call in the bluff is that obviously if you go to your wife with your heart in your hand and just be like i fucked up there is a small chance you might there is a small chance there is don't do that that's not fair there's a small chance he can make it out small because you're a cheat cheat
But that's what I'm saying. Let's, before we conclude your synopsis or however you want to call it, let's flip the scripts, right? You say there's a small chance. We know there's no chance. Because if the roles were reversed and let's say, for example, it's one of them ones where you're in a relationship or I'm in a relationship and she's gone through my phone. The trust is broken. I'm never going to view this relationship the same, regardless of what you say and how you want to
It's you fucked up. You have fucked up regardless of where you say, okay, I forgive you. We're going to start again. You're always going to second guess if I've left my phone somewhere. She's probably going to go through it because she's done it before. She's got the means to do it again. So the hope and the chance, you can sing that to the cows come home. You can sing that to the cows come home, brother. She's not going to forgive you.
Okay. Whilst she was pregnant. Oh, I know. Your first youth together. Yeah, I know. Married to a home. But that's what I'm saying. There's no chance. But that's his justification. I know. It's also the worst thing you can do. But it's not like he just decided to cheat while she was pregnant. He was cheating because she was pregnant. He just needed a hole. Because she was pregnant. Yeah.
Fuck. But yeah, he's ruining it. He's ruining it. Ruining the whole thing. You're probably right. There is no way out. There's no way out. Call her fucking bluff then, to be fair.
That's the only option. There's a small chance. Because if she's like, I'm going to ruin your future baby's life, just repeat what she's saying to you and be like, rah. So that's what you want to do. You want to ruin my family's life because you're upset. Why? Why do you? Okay, you need to interview this girl. Yeah. You need to reflect her own craziness back at her and be like, look,
I understand you're upset. I understand you're upset. But you knew what the situation was. I told you from the jump. And if our lives were different, maybe we could have been a real something. But our lives aren't different. I've made a commitment to my family. And I really sincerely hope you can appreciate that. I really fucking do.
from the sounds i know you're upset i know you're angry and it sounds like you don't appreciate that yeah you're a good girl with morals you're a good woman you're a good woman background with a great upbringing and a great background selling the dream yeah you have to sell it yeah you have immovable morals and that's what attracted to me you in the first place come on come on this is what i was here for in the first place you're an amazing woman and like i said if
If I wasn't already married and I didn't have this kid, it would be you. Times would be different. But I can't change the past. And my kid can't grow up without a father just because I really want to be with you. Because I do actually want to be with you. I do actually want to be with you.
But I just can't circumcise one of that because I'm a good man and I need to be there for my son. I really hope you understand that. And if not, and if you want to ruin everything, you have every right. Because I'm a human being and I've made mistakes in my life. And if you've got all the cards, if you think I deserve to be punished for the mistakes I've made by falling for you, falling for you, then hey, I'll have to accept that fate. But,
If you can see it in your heart to understand where I'm coming from and why I need to stick by my commitments, then I'd really appreciate support. And I hope we can remain friends moving forward from here. Because I do appreciate it as a person. And the tum-tum. Snatch. That snatch? That's juicy. That's when you give her a little smack on everyone. That's it? I'm going to miss that.
I'm gonna miss that. - I think that's the best answer. That's the best answer you've given for a five request period. Period. You lied through your teeth and it made sense.
If I was to you, I'm thinking, aye, aye, what am I even thinking? I'll let you off. I understand. Fuck. What was I thinking? I was just upset. Yeah, bro. That's the only choice you've got. Damn. That's tough. I think so. That's the only choice you've got. There's no other way. Because like I said, if you tell your missus and be like, I'm coming to you as a, not even coming to you as a man, I'm going to pull up my cousin and tell her the truth.
Your life is done. Your family's hood is... Everything's done. It's true because it sounds like a very moral thing to do until you say, look, right...
Here's what it is. You got pregnant and we weren't having any sex. And in my head, I was just like, I thought maybe I could just find a sighting. As soon as you start talking it out loud, you're like, what am I doing? What am I saying? What am I actually saying? I'm going to hell. What have I done? Fam, yeah. Oh, that's crazy. It is crazy. But yeah, I feel like that's the best possible way to deal with this situation. Yeah, good luck, brother. That's all I can say. Good luck, brother. That is a sticky situation. That's one of the stickiest situations I've ever heard on this podcast. Mm.
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