If you are the kind of person that is very nice, or if you want to make sure you don’t hurt other people’s feelings, or if you really want people to like you, chances are you dread conflict and confrontation.

Ironically, by avoiding conflict and not bringing up important issues that bother you in a timely manner, you may end up hurting people, being mean, and pushing people away from you.

Sooner or later, you’ll feel misunderstood, stressed, and taken for granted. Which means that over time you’ll start to feel resentful and frustrated towards others. And even if you don’t say anything it can come across in your mannerisms, micro expressions, tone, and body language which means you’ll trust people less, assume they’re trying to take advantage of you, and to be more difficult.

Not only that, but you’ll also start to have the “poor me” mindset, which most people don’t find pleasant. All of this non-verbal and verbal negativity will come across and push people away from you.