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Bonus #100 - Halloween Edition w/ Brendan Sagalow and Mike Recine [PATREON PREVIEW]
2024/11/2
Stavvy's World
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Stavvy (主持人)
女
女听众
女听众：我的男友自称异性恋，并且非常爱女人。然而，他与一位马来西亚男性朋友关系密切，每周都会进行数小时的视频通话，内容涉及到生殖器尺寸等私密话题，这让我感到非常不安和困惑。我试图理解和合理化这种关系，但我无法接受这种亲密程度。
Stavvy：从你的描述来看，你男友的行为确实很奇怪。男性朋友之间通常不会如此频繁地进行长时间的视频通话，更不会讨论生殖器尺寸等私密话题。这超出了普通友谊的范畴。
Brendan Sagalow：你对男友行为的解释是站不住脚的。你试图用‘他喜欢被崇拜’、‘他只是朋友’等理由来合理化这种关系，但这并不能掩盖其异常性。最坏的情况是，他实际上正在与这位马来西亚男性约会，而你只是他众多伴侣中的一个。
Mike Recine：如果你的伴侣对这种关系的异常性视而不见，那么你应该结束这段关系。与朋友进行长时间的视频通话并讨论私密话题是不正常的，这已经超出了普通友谊的界限。你男友的行为至少表明他与这位马来西亚男性之间存在情感上的不忠。
Deep Dive
Why is the caller's boyfriend's relationship with the gay Malaysian man considered unusual?
They have weekly Zoom calls discussing personal topics like dick size, which is not typical for straight male friendships.
How does the caller feel about her boyfriend's relationship with the gay Malaysian man?
She feels cucked and uncomfortable, despite trying to rationalize the situation.
What is the worst-case scenario suggested for the caller's boyfriend's behavior?
He might be bi and using the caller while fully dating the Malaysian man.
What is the best-case scenario for the caller's boyfriend's behavior?
It's still considered bizarre and unusual, even if not as extreme as the worst-case scenario.
Why do the hosts find the caller's rationalizations problematic?
They see multiple irrational justifications for a clearly unusual and potentially threatening relationship.
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