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I Will Do Better feat. Charles Bock

2024/12/19
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Nora McInerney: 这段访谈围绕Charles Bock的回忆录展开，讲述了他成为单亲父亲的经历。他的妻子在女儿年幼时去世，这让他不得不独自承担起养育孩子的重任。Nora McInerney对Charles Bock的坦诚和对养育挑战的描述表示赞赏，认为他的经历能够帮助更多人。 Charles Bock: Charles Bock讲述了他与妻子Diana的相遇，以及Diana强烈渴望成为母亲的愿望。他本人起初并不想成为父亲，但为了妻子，他同意了。在女儿六个月大时，Diana被诊断出患有白血病，这彻底改变了他的生活。他描述了妻子患病期间的艰难时刻，以及在妻子去世后独自抚养孩子的挑战。他坦诚地承认了自己在养育过程中犯下的错误，以及他努力成为一个更好父亲的过程。他强调了女儿对他的重要性，以及女儿的存在如何帮助他度过最艰难的时期。他分享了女儿生日派对的经历，这既是悲伤的，也是继续生活的象征。 Charles Bock: Charles Bock详细描述了他对成为父亲的最初想法，以及他和妻子最初的计划。他坦诚地承认自己起初并不渴望成为父亲，更专注于自己的写作事业。他与妻子达成了一个协议：妻子负责怀孕和分娩，而他则会在周末帮忙照顾孩子。然而，妻子的白血病诊断彻底打破了他们的计划。他描述了在妻子患病期间，他如何全力以赴地照顾妻子和女儿，处理各种事务，包括与保险公司沟通、安排保姆等等。他回忆了在妻子去世后，他如何独自面对养育孩子的挑战，以及他如何努力适应新的生活。他强调了女儿对他的重要性，以及女儿的存在如何帮助他度过最艰难的时期。

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What was Charles Bock's initial attitude towards parenthood?

Charles Bock was not interested in parenthood. He moved to New York to be a writer and had never thought of himself as a parent. He wasn't motivated to live in a way that involved raising children, though he wasn't against babies.

How did Charles Bock's life change after his wife Diana was diagnosed with leukemia?

Charles Bock's life changed drastically when his wife Diana was diagnosed with advanced leukemia six months after their daughter Lily was born. He became a single dad while also grieving the loss of his wife, shifting from his focus on writing to taking care of Diana and their baby.

What was the significance of the title 'I Will Do Better' in Charles Bock's memoir?

The title 'I Will Do Better' serves as a mantra and a promise to his daughter. It reflects Charles Bock's journey of admitting his flaws and missteps as a parent and committing to improving himself for his child.

How did Charles Bock describe his wife Diana?

Charles Bock described Diana as a tall, open, and encouraging woman who was deeply loved by everyone she met. She was a licensed massage therapist with multicolored hair and a strong desire to be a mom. Her kindness was not naive, and she was not someone to be taken for granted.

What was the emotional impact of Diana's illness on Charles Bock?

Diana's illness had a profound emotional impact on Charles Bock. He had to balance taking care of her, managing their daughter, and dealing with the logistics of her treatment. The experience was marked by grief, stress, and chaos, and he struggled with the reality of her impending death.

How did Charles Bock handle the immediate aftermath of Diana's death?

After Diana's death, Charles Bock had to navigate the surreal reality of planning her funeral and memorial while also organizing his daughter Lily's third birthday party. The party was a mix of exhaustion and life moving forward, with children playing and celebrating despite the absence of Diana.

What role did their daughter Lily play in Diana's fight against cancer?

Lily played a significant role in Diana's fight against cancer. Diana's maternal drive and love for her daughter gave her a focus and purpose, propelling her to stay alive for milestones like Lily's third birthday party. Charles believes Lily kept Diana alive longer than she might have otherwise.

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Charles Bock met his wife, Diana Colbert, at a party in Brooklyn. Diana was a kind and encouraging person who had a strong desire to be a mother. Charles, on the other hand, was not initially interested in parenthood, prioritizing his writing career.
  • Meeting at a party in Brooklyn
  • Diana's personality and desire to be a mother
  • Charles's initial reluctance towards parenthood

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Charles Bock) was not interested in parenthood. He moved to New York to be a writer, not to change diapers. But when he met his wife Diana, all she wanted was to be a mom. So he said yes, thinking he would be part of a parenting team. But in the first six months of his daughter’s life, Diana was diagnosed with advanced leukemia and died. Charles became a single dad to a little baby, while also grieving the person he loved.

In this episode, Nora interviews Charles about this experience and writing about it in his memoir, I Will Do Better).

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