Meghan, Duchess of Sussex in Her First Ever Podcast Interview! Exclusive Worldwide Premiere Episode of The Jamie Kern Lima Show
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- So beautiful. - Oh, I don't know, I wasn't expecting that one. Yeah, they're just the great, they're just, it's just so great. This is why it's so nice to not have makeup on for her. Thank you. We spend so much of our lives trying to prove something. To prove that you're enough. You have to prove that you're pretty enough. You have to prove that you're smart enough. You have to prove that you're a good wife or a good friend. And I was like, I am just so done with the prove it game. And if you can't see it,

I can't, I don't need to prove to you why that's your loss. Like, because I know that I'm a great friend and I know the kind of mom I am. And I know the kind of human being I am. I know how I show up and I love being able to be that person with the people that I love. So, you know, worthiness, maybe part of worthiness comes when you stop having to feel like you're in the proof of game.

I am getting emotional right now. Getting out of the prove-it game, like, feels like joy, tastes like freedom. Megan, Duchess of Sussex, in her first ever podcast interview. It's happening! It's happening! It's like all the roses are coming back in. They're coming back in. They're just sprung.

I'm so grateful you're here. It's gonna be fun. - Yes. - It's gonna be fun. - Hi, crew. - You made me cry. Good thing I have no makeup on. - You look so pretty. - I have not done a show with no makeup since my 1,000 QVC shows. Do you think I have? - What are you talking about? - You look exactly the same, though. These are some of the hot questions.

that everyone wants to know. Talk about your name. Do you use Markle anymore? What's your morning routine look like? Would you ever write another book?

People are often curious if I'm going to write a memoir. Would you ever run for office? Can you give us one hint on something exciting coming up for As Ever? I've had your jam in my refrigerator all year. No one knows. No one's seen it. I have not posted it.

In this incredible conversation, Megan shares stories and insights for the first time ever. It's not about the grandeur of a gesture. It's about I see you. I'm nurturing you and I see you so deeply and I love being able to see your growth. That man loves me so much and...

You know, look what we built. We built a beautiful life and we have two healthy, beautiful children. That's my husband. He's just out there just constantly. He's just going to do whatever he can to make sure that our family is safe and protected and we're uplifted and still make time for date nights. Are you in love now more than ever? So I feel like it's more of a honeymoon period for us now. He's also a fox, if you haven't noticed. My husband's very, very handsome.

that his heart is even more beautiful. I have a letter from your husband and your kids. No one's ever seen this before. Of all things, it's making me emotional. I have full body chills right now. For them to be able to look back and go, "Oh my gosh, she has loved us so much."

She's an American member of the British royal family, an entrepreneur, author, actor, founder of the lifestyle brand, As Ever, that just sold out of stock completely in the first hour of its recent launch into the world. Congratulations. Her new Netflix show, With Love, Megan, just debuted season one as a top 10 show on Netflix.

She's also a mom to her two beautiful kids, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet, and wife to husband, Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex. She's a mama of rescue dogs, and she's also an incredible champion of women and an amazing friend.

She just recently debuted her brand new podcast called Confessions of a Female Founder, where while Megan builds out a business of her own, she's getting advice and insights from amazing women who have scaled small ideas into successful companies

And guess what? I am so grateful to be one of her guests on her show as well. Megan and I just had the most incredible conversation on insights and stories that I've never shared before. From when I was a waitress at Denny's with big dreams, but a whole lot of self-doubt to starting IT Cosmetics in my living room, getting hundreds of nos for years. I share the stories behind the stories, some for the first time ever on Megan's brand new podcast,

Our episode comes out tomorrow. So make sure you listen and share it with everyone you know who it could help inspire, whether it's to keep going in their business or in their dreams. So we're going to link to that episode of her podcast in our show notes as well. Hi, and welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show. And if we're just meeting for the first time, hi, I'm Jamie. Welcome. Welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show.

- Oprah, how have you defied the odds? - Her show is unlike any I've ever done. - A revelation. When you listen, it feels like a hug, but your brain and your spirit and your heart is like, wow. - Melinda French Gates.

When I look into Jamie's eyes, I feel like I am on some other cosmic level with her. I could see the light around her. She's infused with light. Imagine overcoming self-doubt, learning to believe in yourself and trust yourself and know you are enough.

Welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show. I am so happy that you're here today for such an exciting conversation that I promise you is going to fill your soul today. And I want to share this concept with you of rocking chair friends. I've been obsessed with this idea. So right now, if you take a moment and imagine yourself at 90 years old,

Sitting, perhaps outside on a patio, in your living room or on the front porch, in a rocking chair where your time left is so precious. Who all would you want to spend it with? Who would you want to be chatting with in the rocking chairs next to you? Especially when it comes to friends. Are the friends in your life right now real, true friends? Are they rocking chair worthy friends?

Today is an episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show, unlike any episode we have ever done. See, one of my favorite spots at my house is my two rocking chairs. They're my favorite place to sit and pray or rest or connect with my closest friends. And over the past year, I have spent countless moments in these chairs with Megan.

sharing our day, talking about our kids, our goals, our dreams, envisioning the future of our projects and companies, and also talking about hardships, failures, pain,

We've shared ups and downs and laughter and tears. Usually when we're together, we're in our cozy sweats and no makeup. So that's how we are today too, sitting right here in our cozies with no makeup. And I'm inviting you into the rocking chairs with us.

Right now, I'm imagining you in a third chair right here with us because when we come together and open our hearts to each other and let love in to share all the real things as they really are, it helps us all feel less alone and more enough.

more inspired, more connected, and more alive. And it reminds us that each of us is fully worthy, fully enough, and deserving of love and belonging exactly and authentically as we are.

So in the studio today, I have my favorite rocking chairs for the first time ever. You are invited. Come as you are. Cozy up, lean in, and get ready. This is the worldwide premiere of Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, in her first ever

ever podcast interview. And she's doing it with you and me today right here on the Jamie Kern Lima show. I promise I won't rock too much. They don't really rock that much. Well, we're professionals. We're professional rockers. Jamie Kern Lima is her name. Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life. Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern Lima. Jamie Kern Lima.

I am so excited to say to my amazing friend, Megan, welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Thank you. Thanks for having me. I'm so happy you're here. We did it. We did it. This is...

I've never done this on my show before. We brought the rocking chairs in. I get so many messages where people are alone or like, how do you make friends as an adult? Or how do I feel more worthy or any of those things? And I feel like one of the ways is through friendship. I have a great friendship. You and I have been, you and I have had so many amazing days.

days and moments sitting in these two rocking chairs at my house, just talking about all the things and- For hours. For hours. Just watching the world go by, talking and talking. And I think, well, to answer when you're saying someone writes and saying, how do you make friends as an adult? It's such a great question to find that depth of friendship at the onset. I think it's kind of

When you're on a plane, and I remember like back in the day, you'd sit next to a stranger and sometimes you'd feel more comfortable telling your life story to a complete stranger. Right. Than the person that is part of your day to day. Yeah. And so you start with that immediate connection.

But I guess the difference is for us, it's just become so lasting. Yeah. Yeah. So lasting. And so just multi-layered. And I think trust is such a big deal. And this is your first ever podcast interview. Thank you for trusting. Isn't that wild? It's wild. Thank you for trusting me to be here. You haven't seen any of the questions ahead of time. And we're in our sweats. And you have your Archie and Lily on your...

Yeah, I made that on Etsy last year. It's faded, but this is what I would wear if I come to your house. All the time. And you look the exact same with no makeup as makeup. And we're just, that's very, and you still love me even when we get together. If I haven't showered, it's still, it's still all the same. And so today is just,

Today is special. And I want to just open up by, you know, because we've had so many conversations about this where like we've talked about how special and important it is for friends to check in on each other and say, you know, are you okay? And I think so many women,

watching and listening, you know, they maybe are the strong one in their family or they're the one that has it all together or they're the one everyone goes to for advice or they're maybe like crushing it at work and on the outside everything looks great. And so people just assume they're great. Like they just assume they're great. So my very first question, because I think in friendship it's so important to

And I think so many people also have this question for you is, you know, Megan, how are you? And are you okay? That's so kind. I am. I'm better than okay. How are you?

I know you always make it about me. Today, which by the way, I just have to say, you are the most generous friend. You show up for your friends. Today, I just get to talk about you, which I'm excited about. But how are you doing? There's so much going on. I'm good. I'm good. There's a lot of pinch me moments right now. And at the same time, I think because I'm so busy, I'm

with so many different things. And for each of those projects, as you mentioned, the show or the podcast or the brand, the business, the most important thing that I work on every day, my practice is trying to really integrate it, to integrate the joy, to integrate, like we say, like, you have to be thankful. Like, yes, you're thankful. Yeah, yeah, I'm thankful. But I have to go to this next meeting. It's like, no, can you just take a minute to really like signal and cue that,

oh, happy thinking more, please. This feels really good. This is what I worked so hard for. So that's my practice of being still in the midst of how busy it is. But I'm happy. I'm happy. And the kids are healthy and H is great. And so, you know, that's the stuff that fills my cup. But I'm trying to also enjoy these big wins right now. Yes. Enjoy them. Yes.

I, uh, I remember one of the, one of the few things I regret about my journey building at cosmetics is I was just like, oh my gosh, I almost couldn't believe everything happening. And also I was so busy. And I, when I look back, I'm like, I forgot to have fun and I forgot to celebrate it. And, um, this morning I was talking to your husband and I said, this is going to be my goal is this is her favorite interview ever. He goes, he goes, well, my goal is you guys just have

fun. Just have fun. And I'm like, you're right. You're right. Do you feel like you're able to have fun being so busy right now? I think so. And also it depends on how you define fun. Yeah. Right. So when we were in our twenties, fun is something very different than now. Now fun is we go have a really nice dinner and drink some yummy wine or fun is just, can we just...

carve out a couple hours. Well, last week, though I had lots of meetings, I made it a point to still go and see a Broadway show. I hadn't seen a show. I hadn't seen a Broadway show in so long. I mean, we saw Hamilton when Lin-Manuel, they came to London for a premiere, but that still, I probably haven't seen a Broadway show for over a decade. And it was so energizing to watch. And for me, that was a really great

experience of fun, but also affirmation that why is this lighting me up so much to watch creativity and action? It's like, oh, because that's what I get to do again. That's what I'm doing with all the projects I'm working on. I had missed being creative and I had missed being able to just have my hands in the granular of time-coded edits and

bringing a vision to life. And when you watch artists do that and do that with such passion, I think it was just the most inspiring. But that for me was fun. So yeah, carving that out and not saying, no, I can't go to New York. Yes, you can go to New York. You can make time to do that and go with friends and you can go have a fun dinner and still all the rest of it will be there and you can still hit your deadlines and actually you might hit them even better because you feel full and balanced. Yeah. Yeah.

I saw so many photos different people had posted from you at the Broadway show. I saw little girls crying.

Oh. Little girl, so excited to meet you. So sweet. You and I are great friends. And also for any interview I ever do, I prep like crazy. And one of my favorite parts was just reading so many letters and posts and messages of little girls who are like, oh, wow. Like whether it's they're talking about your humble beginnings or talking about their dreams and like through you and through everything you've done, they believe it's possible. Yeah.

I love that. Whether it's to be, you know, have a very different life than the one they were raised in or to launch a business. How do you feel about that? I take it really seriously. Yeah. I think it's – I always check in with my 11-year-old self. Yeah. And how important it is to have people that you look up to and role models. I'll tell you –

Oh, gosh, how silly. This is a very, you'll think this is a very bizarre example. But when I was 13, my first job was at a frozen yogurt place called Humphrey Yogurt. Great name. And

That was in the 90s. So what were the big shows and things that were on then? Baywatch. Nice. And so it was like Carmen Electra, Jenny Garth, like all these people, Yasmeen Bleeth. And I was taking the trash out from my job and I see Yasmeen Bleeth. And I cannot believe I'm seeing Yasmeen Bleeth and I'm holding this bag of trash. And I was like, um, the courage that it took for me to go up to her. Yeah. And I went up to her and I said...

"Hi, I love you in the soft and dry deodorant commercial." That's all that could come out of my mouth. And she was so gracious. This was such a pivotal moment for me because I never knew I was gonna become an actor or someone that people would go up to. But this moment was so influential for me because she turned around and she goes,

"Hi, sweetheart, what's your name?" First thing I learned, I was like, "I'm Megan." And that moment I was like, "She cares to know what my name is." And then she's like, "Hi, I'm Yasmeen." I know who she is, but she introduced herself.

those years later. No one teaches you how to be an actor once the show becomes successful. No one teaches you what to do when people recognize you. That moment with Yasmine Bleeth taught me how important it was for someone to make me feel seen and not brushed off. And she might've been asked a hundred times that day for a picture or anything else. And it always stayed with me. I go, hi, what's your name?

Good to meet you. I'm Megan. You always do that. I see you do that all the time. Yes. Because I know how much it means. Yeah. So I guess that's a really small example of at this scale, I check in with my young girl self because I want to know how I would want to feel in that moment. Yeah. I want to know who I would want to look up to in that moment and how I could mimic that behavior or echo that and...

Yeah, it's a big privilege. It's a big privilege. It comes with a lot of responsibility. And I just, I want everyone to feel like they matter. Yeah. Do you think our lives are divinely ordered or like our steps are divinely ordered when you think about that moment and sort of like seeing that example and now it's part of your life all the time? Someone said to me last year when I sat down, they said,

you know, this is your sole contract. You signed up for this. You signed up for this before you were here. And he's like, well, I didn't read the fine print. Okay. To be clear, like, can I redline this and amend the small print? Because I signed up for this. You're like, no, you signed up for this. You signed up for this. This is your hand and this is your lap around the sun or whatever you want to look at it as because you can do this. And, um,

I guess on days that are hard, that's really grounding and affirming to remember. And then some days I'm just like, oh my gosh, what is this life? I would have never predicted it, but I'm grateful for it.

Even on the hardest days. Yeah. Even on the hardest days. You know, in my life, I have so many friends of all different faiths. I have friends that love everything. I have one of my friends who's the strongest Catholic I know also sees every psychic, every meeting. Like she's like, God made them too. We're going to cover our bases and all the things. That's funny because most people, one or the other. Right. Yeah. Right. And I'm so open. Like I've had so many different people on the show. Obviously, I'm, you know, I'm pretty open about my faith and, um,

and how much I believe in God. And I wanted to ask you this also just in the beginning. I feel like why I'm so grateful this show is connecting with so many people is because it's just everyone needs connection. They want to feel connected and they want to feel seen, to use the words you just used. And they want to feel like less alone and more enough. And I asked Oprah this when she was on the show, why did you say yes? And she just paused and she said, I felt it was divinely ordered.

And I was like, so I want to ask you this question because your trust is such a sacred thing. Anybody's trust is a sacred thing. So why did you say yes to doing this show? Because it's you. And to me, that means, of course, I trust you. Yeah. But because I think you feel really confident that it was divinely ordered. Maybe all of this, our friendship, you becoming our...

our neighbor, the depth of our friendship, and then these opportunities that we both have to be able to uplift each other and celebrate the work that we're doing. But to have never done a podcast, I mean, and then to say, great, let's do it. Like, literally, let's let people who are watching this feel like they're just sitting with us as at your house as we would do. Great, we've done drop off.

Okay, the day is done. The kids are in the bath. Can we just carve out time and sit and relax? And I liked the idea of being able to be so authentically myself with someone who knows me in such a deep and profound way. And I think that's where you can meet people on a really, really pure level.

level when you were saying, do you want to just do like cozies and no makeup? I like the idea of like, okay, great. Let's let them see us. See our friendship. See us. See what it's really like. Our friendship has been such a journey. And what I mean by that is, you know, when I sold it to L'Oreal and even before then,

One of the things that caught me off guard was when we were then part of L'Oreal, so many celebrities entered my orbit. So a lot of them wanted contracts with L'Oreal, which was why. But it was this whole thing. And so I've seen inside so many different worlds and I've seen how the press is part of all the things. Getting to know you for who you truly are, why I felt

So passionate about this is like I want people to see that yeah, you know what I mean I'm gonna get emotional if I talk about it But like I that's that's my intention and that's I think that's what I feel called to do in this interview So for me, it feels divinely ordered for that reason is like I feel you know, I think that it's um it's a gift to celebrate my friend hmm with the world and

I think I've seen a lot of things in my life. I have never seen anything like what you go through on a daily basis. I have never seen anything like it. I know. I think what's so beautiful is when people connect who are listening or watching, connect with the truth and they'll know it's true in their soul when they hear and listen to this. And that's what I think is so special. And so I love that. And I appreciate it because, you know, if it's

you know, the newness of our friendship, you're able to see that and think about the friends I've had for a really long time and their experience of watching it and going, oh my gosh. And then people that I reconnect with all these years later who literally can go, but you're the same. You're the same. Like, I know. Yeah. I know. Yeah. And how hard that is.

When I'm like, but I'm the same. But that's not what gets clicks or sells papers. So they need to do something else. But you're like, hey, guys, I'm still just still here doing the same stuff. I'll never forget. You and I were at a business conference together. Amy's. And Amy Griffin's. Yeah, our friend Amy Griffin's. And afterwards we got back and I think there was like lots of different just group photos from all the different people there on social media. No big deal. And I'd spoken at it. You're so supportive. All the things. Yeah.

Get back. I'm like, great. All of a sudden. You told me about this. Within like five, I'm so glad you don't see it. So in the five seconds, there was thousands, thousands of articles. I was like, and what was wild to me about it was like,

none of them were true. And I was like watching this. I'm like, this is wild. I'd never experienced that before. And I thought I'd seen everything. I really did. Um, and then I remember my, one of my aunts called me and she's like, I'm so sorry. Are you okay? I'm like, what do you mean? She goes, I heard that you and Megan were in a huge fight. I'm like, what? I'm like, what do you mean? I'm like, no, she's amazing. What are you talking about? And she was literally so worried for me that, that, that maybe like, cause we got in a big fight. I'm like,

I know. And it was wild to me that, you know, regular, and she's a teacher. Like she's not looking at all this stuff. So regular people are getting these articles everywhere and it's thousands of them. Yeah. Thousands daily, daily. Yes. And like none of these are true. Yeah, we didn't get into a fight. No. We've never been in a fight. I know. Oh my gosh. It was the most empowering, inspiring. I know. And I'm just watching this. And so it was interesting because I,

I mean, nothing surprised me. We've all heard about tabloids for years. None of that surprised me. But what surprised me was it was the first time I was part of it to see just how absolutely incongruent it is from the truth and then also to see how other people get it. So I was just like... Yeah, and how it breaks through. Yes. And that people can't decipher what's real or what's not. Yes. And I think it's really hard for people to understand that even in this day and age,

that things can be printed that just aren't true. I think that's really hard to wrap your head around, especially the volume that it happens when it comes to me. How often do you see stories, whether they're in magazines or online?

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deserve. Jamie's Book Worthy is incredible. The gifts are going away, but they're all free right now on worthybook.com. And now more of this incredible conversation together. How often do you see stories, whether they're in magazines or online? I just have created such a strong boundary for myself. And even when you're like, no, no, but it's a good one. It's like,

There was this quote that I had up in my trailer when I was on Suits. Talk about being a soothsayer if it's divinely ordered. How on earth would this be the quote that I had printed up in my trailer? And I was on that show for almost seven years. And it says, I've already settled it for myself. So flattery and criticism go down the same drain. And I'm quite free. And it's a very hard thing to put into action to actually integrate. Yeah.

But it's become so ingrained in my mind because it was there before it actually applied to me on a level like this. I've really tried to distance myself from all of it. And that has challenges too. It does. I'm oblivious to a lot of things, but that allows me to live my life really authentically, make choices authentically.

But it also allows me to be really detached from the outcome. I go, I can just show up. I can put good work out there. I feel confident with what we've created and then let it go. So to answer your question, maybe 1% of what's in the world I would see and only if it's brought to me and said like, you should really read this. You will learn something from it or this is really good insight or I think you'll appreciate

how this writer or journalist really wants to get the story right or the text of like hey just sending love and checking in and you're like your hackles go up about what what now what is it now what are they reading now why are they sending love and checking in yeah you can make yourself a little bit nuts with it as opposed to maybe they are just sending love and checking in which is why your voice notes are helpful because i can always hear your tone yeah

Yeah. I'm always like, are you enjoying this? Yeah. Are you celebrating? You remember, I didn't celebrate that much. Are you celebrating? I'm celebrating. You have to celebrate. You have to enjoy this. Huge. This is huge. This is huge. It's big. It's big. It's big. It's big. You just launched as ever. Sold out. Everything sold out in under an hour. Everything. Yeah. And- 45 minutes. Well, and so many entrepreneurs. Yeah.

They don't realize how hard it is until they do it. And the world now can see these wins, which is really exciting. But you've been working so hard. You've been working so hard for so long. And all of a sudden, it's all coming. Everything is blossoming right now. Yes. With actors, that happens a lot too, where they say, this overnight success story.

And they're saying, I have been on this grind and auditioning for 10 years and hearing no after no after no after no after no. So yes, 10 years and a night. Yeah. But to the world, it's just what has she been doing? Does she work? As opposed to, oh my gosh, I work so hard and I appreciate what hard work looks like. I like working hard. Yeah.

And I'm still working hard, right? The moment that everything sells out, it doesn't mean that we're done. It means we're working on replenishment and what are the next SKUs and what's the next tranche of products and what's the timing on that and writing the newsletters and writing the social media captions and making sure that all that feels in line and what's the cadence of it and what's the photography that we want to do and what do I want to wear for those shoots while also editing all the time-coded notes for season two of With Love, Megan and then being in edits for the podcast and making...

And being a mom and a wife and a friend. Yeah. Those are all jobs. I mean, I love being that busy, but I do think it's really interesting when people have no sense of what goes into the thing. Yeah. And then when the thing seems as though it's like, oh, wow, huge. The thing's not done. Right. The finish line was really the starting line. Yes. Yes. Yes.

I feel it's so funny. And, you know, in the past, gosh, 15 years, I've had so many people, whether I mentor them or they're mentors of mine, and then they're going to start a business in a different way for the first time or they're friends or, and they are so excited to launch a business. Then they do. And they're like,

Oh, oh, I had, it never stops. When you have your, and everyone listening who has this experience, whether you've launched your own business or you are right now, it never stops. Like you got to be ready. Like I feel like entrepreneurship and parenting, those two things are like the hardest. You shared in a New York Times interview recently, you said that you need to work and you love to work. Okay.

Can you share more about that? Well, I've loved New York Times cooking and New York Times food for a long time. So that was a fun one for me. No, I need to work because it fills my cup. Also, we need to work for practical reasons. You need to work, pay your bills. You need to work. But it fuels me in such a huge way. Your eyes sparkle when you're talking about creating and watching other people create, like at the Broadway show. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And that's what, you know, I also love being with a crew and a team. So Suits, that was seven years of my life. And that's a crew of over 200 people. It's a lot of people on a team. And even on the series that I just did for Netflix, you know, when people are saying, why wouldn't you film this in your own kitchen at your own house?

That's a crew of 80 people. Yeah. Would you have 80 people in your house when your kids are coming home from school or for lunch? No. I want my home and my kitchen to be a sacred place that my kids associate with me cooking for our family. Yeah. So finding a place and really trying to not have to explain those choices, but be really confident in the choices that I've made that are in the best and highest good for me and for my family. Yeah. I've always loved to work.

I remember when IT Cosmetics was in my living room and I had no separate – my whole home felt like an office for so long because we couldn't afford a separate place. And then when we finally could, I was like, okay. Did you like it or did you miss having it at home? No, I don't miss it. I don't miss that part of it because, Megan, I had thousands of product samples all over my living room. I look like – it looked like an episode of like – Oh, I've got damn memories of Sunday. Yeah, exactly. Like, oh my gosh, I look like a –

At Costco or something. There's just boxes everywhere. So do you even work? Yes. And then also you have to keep in mind, so that the actual brand and business is happening with all of these products that we've tested and tested and tested to scale it to what I'm making on my stove. Yeah. You're a hard worker. There are times we get together and I'm like, I just want to have DoorDash come in. And you're like, let's make some. And I'm like,

I know, I just want a glass of wine and to hang out. No, but it's like, it's in you. I was going to ask you that actually, because, you know, just to share some kind of fun moments, because I really want to take people behind the scenes into this. The first time, so I know you look at all the data, it is impossible to have a true friendship or a true relationship with anybody, right?

a true connection if you don't show it fully authentically. And I remember one of the times you're at my house and I've seen all the beautiful stuff you make. And it's just like, it's in you. You just like make these things. And you and I were raised with TV dinners on a TV tray, right? And somehow you just, it's like in you. And I remember you came over. I'm like, I'm gonna make Megan a charcuterie tray.

Which I just learned that word a few years ago, charcuterie. Anyways, like I'm making a charcuterie. So I put it all together and I looked at it and I remember you came over and I was like- I was very proud of you. The effort was-

A for effort. It was an A for effort. And my daughter, who is six, can make one way better than I make. She loves to cook. But I just remember just being like, if we're going to have a real friendship, this is who I am. And I remember you just loved it. And then I asked you, I'm like, okay, just so I know, what would you do to make it a little bit more...

Welcome. Aesthetically pleasing. And then like, I felt like somehow you had this magic wand and in like 10 seconds you go in my pantry, you go in the fridge and you like do these things and I look down at it and I'm like, what in the world? It looks like the cut all of a sudden, like it looks like a cover of a magazine, like it's just in you. And so two questions. One is,

you know, where did that come from? And, but also probably a year ago now, I remember, um,

someone else's kid falling on the playground, tons of people there. You're the first one to run over there. You don't even think about it. It's like you're over there. You're taking care of that child like right away. I've seen you do this in multiple places. You speak of strawberries. When I was like super stressed out one time, I had in-laws and all these people visiting. You had a very full house. Very full house. And all of a sudden I get word that, you know,

And drop something off. All of a sudden you dropped off this gift basket with ice creams, homemade strawberry sauce to put on top of the ice cream just to see if that helps lighten my load. It was like as if you're in my shoes feeling what I was feeling without me even needing to tell you anything and you're doing something that adds value to my life. And when I see the joy of

Like my daughter loves cooking and you all of a sudden – She makes very good charcuterie boards. Oh, my gosh. Yes, she does. Yes, she does. That's what six years old. Six years old. She makes amazing crudités and charcuterie boards. And she wants to be a chef when she grows up. And you drop off this board that says Chef Wonder on it. Like so –

And do you feel – because I think also when people watch with Love Megan, whether they know how to do any of that stuff or not, whether they're learning by watching the show or I've read a lot of people also just love it because it just helps them feel calm. They don't want to watch whatever's going on in the news. They just want to like –

You know, be in that world. Knowing how to do all these things, like is it just – is it a passion you've studied hard for or is it just sort of like this innate talent? I think I have a really classic passion.

in terms of how I see things. I've never ever considered myself artistic. So it's really odd to voice that now as all this is people are like, "Copy my handwriting," or "How I put a plate together," or "How I put an outfit together." I've never thought of it, like I don't paint. I don't, I would love, love to learn how to knit. Oh my gosh, I just can't figure it out. I've tried forever. I'm as bad as knitting as I am at playing tennis. I'm just terrible at certain things. And I found an old report card.

Oh, from when I was at Hollywood Schoolhouse, maybe I was probably Archie's age. Oh, yes, because our kids got their report cards. So I was thinking about memory lane with that. I'll get back to your question in a second, but you'll like this, where you're going through and that's when grades weren't A, B, C, D at that age. That's right. Like satisfactory, unsatisfactory, or I don't know what the best one would be. But it came to ability to throw and catch a ball. Not applicable. Oh, my gosh. Like, well.

I'm a great runner if someone is chasing me. Otherwise, just not the most athletic. So there are certain things that we have built in as strengths and then there are certain things that are opportunities for growth. And I've just – I love when things look beautiful. And even when you don't have a lot, you're able to make things look beautiful. And I think about –

small apartments that I've had or, you know, small tiny kitchens that I had. Or even when I had my first apartment and I went to Northwestern in Evanston and when I moved out of the sorority that I lived in for a couple years, then I had my own little apartment. It was tiny, great little studio apartment. And that's when I would sit there and watch Food Network all the time and learn how to make certain things and make really like

how to make a pasta more special. And you would see plating. You would see someone drizzle the olive oil on top.

And somehow it elevated it beyond what I thought were, which still are, by the way, kind of like great dinners at Olive Garden, right? Like loved a never-ending pasta bowl. But no one was drizzling and finishing a plate. No one was making it present as beautifully as it was going to taste. And I loved watching people get excited about that when they'd see it.

And I guess that translates into a lot of different things, but it's attention to detail. And what does attention to detail for me mean? It's kind of rooted in what people's experience of it is going to be. So it makes them happy to receive it. It makes me happier to give it to them. It does. Like I knew when I dropped off

that strawberry wasn't even preserves. It didn't have time to set. I just made a quick one because we had a lot of strawberries at the time. And I heard what you were saying and how many people were there. And I just knew that even if we never talked about it, that it would brighten your day in what was probably a really overwhelming day that made me feel excited at the possibility of being able to have some offering that would

make you feel good. And I guess over the years, like again, back to wanting to feel seen and wanting people to feel seen, it shows that you're really listening to what their needs are. It shows that you can show up for them no matter what you have going on. And a lot of that's probably doing the things for other people that I had missed for so long when you don't feel seen or when you feel lonely.

And you just want someone to like reach out in a meaningful and thoughtful way, not with a huge gesture, but something of like, no, I really like, I see you. I'm thinking about you over there. Tiny, tiny things that really just move the needle. It could change someone's life. So yeah, it brings me a lot of joy to do that. That to me is not work. That's complete, complete joy. You sharing that.

me of a moment. I remember, you know, yeah, we have a lot of fun in the rocking chairs. Yeah, we have all the things. Yeah. And also I'm thinking about one moment where I was having the worst day and I was so sad. And I remember you canceled a date night, came over, sat in the rocking chairs. And I was like, sorry. I was like, I was like crying. I had no makeup on my bright red rosacea. And I was like, ah,

And I could just tell you just need, I was like, I don't think we have a date night. You're like, okay. What you just shared is the most powerful advice. It's like when you have felt unseen or you have felt like maybe you had needs and friendships or this or that, it's like be the friend that you want in your life and you do that. Your close friends and family are

So many of them call you M and Harry H. Yes. How did that start? And tell me about that. Probably at the beginning of us dating when everything was in code. Code, yeah. People didn't know we were dating for, talk about memory lane.

So long ago. I mean, it'll be our seven-year wedding anniversary soon. I couldn't tell anyone who I was dating and who was keeping. So I think we were just on a letter basis. Yeah. And then it stuck.

It's stuck. It's stuck. Yeah. And still to this day. Yeah. I like it. We'll all be on a play date or there'll be, we'll be somewhere. There'll be tons of people there and he'll say M and you'll say H and your friends say M and it just is a thing. It's a thing. And do you both love it? Like it's just, or it's just natural. Yes. And I like nicknames a lot. I love nicknames.

You are such a big proponent of women, of female founders. Yes. For my birthday, you shared this incredible handbag by this amazing company. You recently wore a Valencia Key bracelet. And holy moly, her business, she shared her business story.

She had an 11,000% increase in sales like for a week straight. Everything sold out. I'm so glad. So, you know, there's this thing known as the Megan effect. How does that make you feel? It makes me feel really great when specifically it can help uplift brands that have a great ethos and female founders and –

There was a long time where I wasn't out talking. So if you couldn't hear me, how could I be heard through what I was wearing, if that's what people were focusing on, or the choices I was making that

you didn't have to say a word, but it would move product for small companies or allow, you know, even when we were living in the UK, small company in Scotland able to, you know, I don't know, hire 50 more employees or small businesses who would take women out of positions of being trafficked and instead give them jobs. And by wearing those jeans, I knew it was going to allow them to save more women. So all of those things end up becoming a

a touch point that's really, really high value to me. And then being able to hear the stories of how it has helped them or their businesses. And even just, it could have been the day that they were going to give up. Could have been the day that they're just going, why am I doing this? It's not worth it. And if I can come in with a little sprinkle of fairy dust just by wearing a bracelet or doing something, and that changes the course of their business,

That's a huge honor to be able to have that kind of impact for someone. Someone that most of the time I would never even, I won't even know. Yeah. I never ever realized that, that during seasons where maybe you felt like you couldn't use your voice, that was a way to use your voice. Yeah, to still be heard. And allow, and in that, allow other people's voices to be heard. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That was, that was a really...

That's always meant something to me. And then, you know, because I love a handwritten note, when I would end up getting handwritten notes from people from all over the world saying what it's done for their business. Because again, if I'm not reading press even back then, someone would say like, oh yeah, that's sold out, but you had no metrics for it. What was helpful is if a letter would get to me, I'm very sentimental, so I have most of them saved. Just like, wow, how it really changed their lives. That to me, it's worth its weight in gold. Yeah. I know you...

We're raised in California. Yeah. And you've now lived in a few different parts of California. What are your favorite parts of California? Oh, I should be a California tourism ad because I love the state so much. I used to watch those Visit California commercials. And I remember when I started auditioning, I was like, I just want to be in a Visit California commercial. I just want to be there talking about how great this state is. I just love that within two hours, you can have access to

snow or beach or desert. I love the diversity of it. We have an amazing food scene. I feel really, really lucky to have been born here. I love just being able to connect to outside and outdoors and being able to hike. And I think there's something really powerful about being connected to nature and the elements. Even if you don't go to the beach, just seeing the water, I think is really powerful. So I like the openness that it brings.

It's so funny. My best friend, Jackie, and you are both the best hikers. Oh, my God. When we went on the hike. The time I went on a hike with you, I'm like, can you slow down? No. No. The best was like, we're going on a hike, like a real hike. And Jamie gets out of the car. She's like, yeah. And you have your little to-go coffee cup. My to-go coffee. Do you want to put that in the car? You're ready to go hiking. And I remember you said like, oh, when someone's at a hike, you're just walking around a reservoir or something.

I thought so. I've gone hiking with friends and we just, and it's like, yeah, exactly. It's like around. We go and I'm like, I have my to-go coffee. And, you know, my rosacea is red right now with no makeup on. But by the time you and I got to the top, I was like, oh.

You did great. Oh my gosh. You did great. Yeah. You were so patient. And then I feel, it's so funny. It reminded me of my best friend, Jackie, of 25 years. I was a waitress at Denny's. She was a waitress across the street at a steakhouse. And she's like, you will go hiking. And she could do it twice. Ooh.

In the time I do it once. Oh. And she's not even sweating. And I'm like drenched in sweat. You're glistening. You're just glistening. I'm glistening. I'm glowing. She's glowing. I'm glowing. She's all blown up. You know what I want to do? I want to go to Denny's with you and show you my favorite things that I ate when I was there. The Grand Slam breakfast. All of it. And I'll drizzle fancy syrup on the pancakes for you. I will do that. You have so many...

amazing big wins right now, things you've been working so hard on. And your husband just shared publicly for the first time, he said, I'm so happy for my wife and fully support absolutely everything she's done and continues to do. When did he say that? This week. It's everywhere in the press. Yeah, it's beautiful. But how does it, so, okay, so you don't know this. Okay, so you're hearing, you're hearing this for the first time. That's sweet.

I love that you're hearing this for the first time. He says, I'm so happy for my wife and fully supportive and support absolutely everything she's done and continues to do. How does that make you feel? Oh, he's such a great partner. I feel that, right? I feel that every day in how supportive he's been and is. But I didn't know he said that. So that's really nice because I...

I think having a partner, I mean, I asked you this when you were on my podcast, like, do you think that you would have been able to get through all the no's and the challenges if you were doing it solo, if you didn't have the support of Paolo? And there's something that is not to be taken for granted when you have a partner and a spouse who is just so behind you. You know, I mean, H, that man loves me so much. And...

you know, look what we built. We've built a beautiful life and we have two healthy, beautiful children. And, you know, and I always think about it like the end of Super Mario Brothers when you get to the final, final level and what's the goal in Super Mario? They're like, slay the dragon, save the princess. I'm like, that's my husband. He's just out there just constantly. He's just going to do whatever he can to make sure that our family is safe and protected and we're uplifted and still make time for date nights.

Are you in love now more than ever, more than you've ever been? Yeah. I mean, you have to imagine at the beginning, everyone is like butterflies. And then we immediately went into the trenches together. Yeah. Right out of the gate, like six months into dating. So now seven years later, when you have a little bit of breathing space...

You can just enjoy each other in a new way. And that's why I feel like it's more of a honeymoon period for us now. Yeah. Do you think you'll be married forever? Yes. I have a letter. He's also a fox. If you haven't noticed, my husband's very, very handsome. But his heart is even more beautiful.

I love that your eyes are sparkling right now. Oh. You have a letter from him? I have a letter from your husband and your kids. Oh. It's actually from them. Was this in the press also? Via him. No one's ever seen this before. Okay. And I would love to share it with you. And if you feel comfortable- Is this from this morning? Share it with all of us. Oh, okay.

From Archie and Lily via Papa. We love your cooking. We love your pancakes. And we love, love, love your hugs. You're the best mummy and we love you. So sweet. I also love that it's mummy, which is very British instead of mommy. Oh, yeah, they're the greatest. Noon, we, so it was kind of fun reading that to you about just how much, how much he supports you and how proud he is with everything you've

he's doing with Invictus Games and all the projects he's so passionate about. What are the best ways that you support him that he needs with all of this? I think a lot of it is being a soundboard, especially because I don't read media or press. I'm a good barometer of just sometimes maybe just...

a very removed point of view because I'm only looking at it through the lens of loving him. What's in his best and highest good? What's in the best interest for us as a family? What will help nurture him and help him find balance? So I think in that regard, I can hear it through a different lens because my opinion is not

My opinion isn't colored by anything other than what I know from him and what I can see for our future. So, you know, I really love making him breakfast before I left. I told you Archie's homesick today.

So I made him lemon, ginger, manuka honey tea, and he just really wanted bacon. So I made a lot of bacon. And then I made H a breakfast sandwich with a fried egg and two slices of American cheese all melty and lots of bacon in there. Nice.

You and I in the rocking chairs have talked a lot about, you know, like mother figures in our lives and our mothers and family. When Lily grows up, what are your hopes that she would share and say about her mother? Oh, what a great question. I hope she says, I know that they'll feel good.

Like, oh my gosh, no one has ever loved someone more than the way our mom loved us. And I put that in practice, you know, that's part of every day how I show up for them. And I read a lot of parenting books. I really want to be good at it. I think a lot of stuff comes naturally and a lot of stuff you can also just, we can all use tools. But one of, um,

One of our mom friends, she had said to me last year that she just created sort of secret email addresses for her kids that she'll give to them at some point in their life. And she would just send to them, you know, random pictures. The pictures that you aren't going to put in a frame. Yeah. I thought it was such a great time capsule to create for them. Because I used to love scrapbooks and photo albums, but we're past that generation now. And so I'd created for the kids these email addresses that...

sort of like names again that you would never guess that I will give them at some point in their lives when they're older. But before I go to bed almost every night, I email them. Wow. I email because it doesn't have to be a heavy lift and you email them like,

here's your report card from today oh my gosh was it the funniest thing this morning or here's a picture of you two having breakfast or here's you playing with the the things that you're not going to frame the things that you're not going to put pen to paper in a journal but they will end up one at one point in their life maybe when they're 16 or when they're 18 that i say here's an email that i've been keeping for you i have full body chills right now for your whole life

And here's everything and every moment that I wanted to tell you how much I love you and like how proud I am of you and of all things that's making me emotional. For them to be able to look back and go, oh my gosh, she has loved us so much.

And that's, I think, the best part about being a mom. And we go back to like a love language or gifts. It's not about the grandeur of a gesture. It's about I see you. I'm nurturing you and I see you so deeply. And I love being able to see your growth and just so proud of them. So beautiful. Oh, I wasn't expecting that one.

Yeah, they're just the great. They're just it's just so great. This is why it's so nice to not have makeup on. It's the greatest gift you can give. That's the gift that will cost you nothing. And it will mean everything to your children. You do for your partner too. Yeah.

That is so beautiful. No, you should do it for the kids. Yeah. I'm having these like aha moments right now thinking about doing that and also about how many people are going to start doing that. Yeah. Start doing that because that's so beautiful. And I think about like my, the closest person to me in my entire life is my mom who adopted me. And when she passed away, like the things she said to me toward the end, when she was basically like, whatever you do in life, don't change. It'd be so sad if you changed. And I'm like,

I always, I thought she was always going to say to me like, you can do anything and you can, you know, and she's like, you know, basically what she is saying is who you are is enough. Like I felt like seen and loved and I'm thinking about, I'm thinking about your sweet kids when they get that email and they just read it and that's there forever. Like,

Like that is the most beautiful. It's time capsule. All the things. And I do a lot. And it's your heart every day that you're giving to them in that way. Yes. And it becomes meditative for me too, but also like I do a lot of voice notes of the kids. So I'll just have my phone on as I'm putting them down to bed because their voices are going to change so much. So it's like they went through that stage where they were so little and they would go, mama, can I hold you? Because they didn't know. It was like, mama, can you hold me? Mm-hmm.

And I knew one day it would change, but I have it. So I send them those voices like, here you are too saying this. Here's you singing a lullaby tonight. Like you got the voice note and then you emailed it? Yes. It doesn't have to be a video. It doesn't have to be something. It's just you're capturing these moments, these tender moments that are going to go by like this. And also I find that when I do it, like, you know, one of the things with parenting, you watch as you're building their confidence and their self-esteem. A word that I use a lot with them is yet.

you know, and how to reframe things for a kid when they're like, I can't do it. I can't do it yet. No, I'm not good enough. I'm not good enough yet. And the more that you put into practice these ideas of like, put yet at the end of nearly every sentence and you feel like there's still hope and a promise that you can do it. Yes. But when I type that to my children before I go to bed, guess what? Like I'm teaching that to them or I'm reinforcing that

But I'm also reinforcing it for myself. Yes. Like, I don't know yet. Yet. I'm not sure. I was just going to say that applies to every adult. That applies to me right now, all of us. Yeah. Yeah, yet. I don't know what I'm doing yet. Yet.

My business hasn't gotten traction yet. No one's picked up my book proposal yet. I haven't found my soulmate yet. Everything is yet. The power of yet. The power of yet. I get so many questions about self-worth. Like, when am I going to finally feel worthy? And it's like, yet, yet. You know, when you talk about self-esteem and all the things that we try so hard to pour into our kids, it's

And you look at the data right now, 80% of women don't believe they're enough. Like you look at all of the data or feel unworthy. And it's such a journey. I've gone through such a journey in my own life of like for the longest time I thought, oh, I just have to accomplish it more. I have to do more and win this and do that and do the thing. Then I'll feel enough. For you in your life, have you ever felt unworthy? Oh my gosh, of course. Yes. Yes.

Yeah. Yes. That's where the yet comes in. The yet. Right? And what about now? Like in your life now, do you ever feel unworthy? Not unworthy. Sometimes I feel very self-conscious. I don't know. I think I'm at a very different chapter. We've talked about this when you're out at the prove it game. Yes. Will you share more?

I don't know, what were we texting about one night? You texted me something. And I said, no, there comes a point where I don't even have that text. And you said, you have to email that text to yourself. You have to remember that. That should go in a book one day. Yes. But this idea that we spend so much of our life trying to prove something is

to prove that you're enough. You have to prove that you're pretty enough. You have to prove that you're smart enough. You prove that you're a good wife or a good friend. And I was like, I am just so done with the prove it game. When you get to the place where you feel, I don't have to prove anything to you anymore. I don't have to prove that I'm a good person. I don't have to prove to you that I'm a good wife or mom or friend. I don't have to prove that I work hard

And it can be really freeing when you stop playing the prove it game. You're proving nothing to anyone other than to yourself. And that takes a lot of time and that takes a lot of pain and at least in my own experience, but to just really go and not with an energy of like, I'm over it. I don't care. No, I care, but I don't have to prove it to you. And if you can't see it

I can't, I don't need to prove to you why that's your loss. Like, because I know that I'm a great friend and I know the kind of mom I am and I know the kind of human being I am and I know how I show up and I love being able to be that person with the people that I love. So, you know, worthiness, maybe part of worthiness comes when you stop having to feel like you're in the prove it game.

Hallelujah. I am getting emotional right now because the number of girls and women who are going to watch this, who are going to just take those words that when you text that to me one day, we're talking about something and you wrote all that about not being in the prove it game anymore. And I'm just like, this is so profound and it's so simple, but so profound and so true. And I feel like when every one of us like actually just sees it from that perspective, like,

I know I'm a good person. I know I'm a great friend. I know, you know, all the things. And you know you did your best. I did my best. I did my, I'm doing my best as a mom. Yeah. I don't, getting out of the prove it game,

Like, yeah, it feels like joy tastes like freedom. All of the above. All of the above. That's so beautiful and so powerful. And I just I'm thinking about every person listening or watching right now who's going to rewind that part of the show and watch it over and over and over and like and like let it take root because it's a it's a tool that you can lean on. Yeah.

Because how much time, I think about my own life, how much time I've wasted in the prove it game. Like, I want to make everyone happy or I want to make sure that they know, like, you know, all the things. And it's like that, yeah, that's so beautiful. And that's going to matter so much to so many people. I probably texted that to you while I was typing to my kids. Probably.

Can you please start an email account for me and daily? Because you don't have enough going on with all of your- A really cute, clever name. With all of your stuff. Yeah. I love so much what you and Gwyneth Paltrow did recently. Oh, how funny. Because out there, they love to pit women against each other or compete or this or that. We need to pause for a super brief break. And while we do, take a moment to share this episode with every single person that you know who this could inspire.

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And now more of this incredible conversation together. I love so much what you and Gwyneth Paltrow did recently. Oh, how funny. Because out there, they love to pit women against each other or compete or this or that. And, you know, we've all seen it. We've all had experience like that in our own life. And I know that you don't really see almost any of the press, but this thing had been going on. Well, I didn't see it. She texted me. Oh, did she? Oh my gosh. She's like, yeah. Yeah.

She texted me and she said, oh my gosh, like I did this interview and I can't like, I can't remember verbatim what she said, but she was like, I give up. I don't even know what to say anymore. And I said, well, I didn't hear about it. Hadn't heard about it at all. And then because not, you know, not because people are hiding things from me, but maybe because it's not something that anyone felt needed to be on my radar. Yeah. And I just texted her back. I was like, I hear there's something about like pie. Yeah.

And then we ended up, she was doing something on Instagram. So I ordered some pie on Instacart. We sat there and ate some pie and laughed and caught up a little bit. And then I came back home. I was so, when I saw it. Yeah, people, I think women were really fired up of like, yes, clap back enough. Yes. And also because that's who you are. You're like, you know what I mean? And, and, and, and.

I loved it. I loved it. And also with the sense of humor. Yeah. Because it really diffuses so much of it. There's only so many statements you can make or things you can say on the record or this didn't happen. As it was like, you guys, it kind of really defines the age we're living in right now. Where that, if you're saying that was like a week or however long that cycle was going on of this, like, that would have kept going, I would imagine. They would find some other iteration of this cycle.

fake conflict

Just like us fighting. Yeah. But there is something really disturbing about the need for people to pit, especially women against each other when you're like, but you're my neighbor and everything's fine. Yeah. Like, I don't know. It's wild. So yeah, I was glad that we could just have some fun with it. I love that you did it. Yeah. This is so fun because all the things people know about, we now get to like hear them in your words. So Harry said publicly so much of what Megan is about.

and how she is is so similar to my mom. She has the same compassion. She has the same empathy. She has the same confidence. She has this warmth about her. How do you feel about him sharing that? It's beautiful. I wish I could have met her.

I'm feeling viscerally so happy because I feel like people are, I feel like they're really here with us in the rocking chair. You know, there's stuff about you. I had no idea. Like, and I think I know a lot. Yeah. And I had no idea. But just like the essence of, of, of a person, even one of my friends, you know, Marcus, but

Marcus will see certain things and he goes, oh, there's my friend. Yes. And gets so excited when you can see me reflected in a way that's the me that you know. Yes. And so what a gift that is. It's just so... Yeah, letting me be. Thank you for letting me be. That's like the best thing a friend could ever say to me. Oh, well, and you think even as I said it, I was going, wow.

Growing up, you would hear people going, just let me be. But with a completely different intention and intonation, I'm like, thank you for letting me be. You made me cry. Good thing I have no makeup on. You look so pretty. Oh my gosh. I don't even. Okay, so I have not done a show with no makeup since my thousand QVC shows. Do you think I have? I don't know.

You look exactly the same, though. You look exactly the same. So, OK, these are some of the hot questions that everyone wants to know. Oh, OK. Do you watch the royal shows on TV like The Crown or Bridgerton or any of them?

I watch Bridgerton. Yeah? Yeah, Bridgerton's a great show. That's a period piece also. And I love Shonda Rhimes shows. So yes. So much talk about your name. And for me, I'm like, gosh, a lot of families, when they have to pick up their kids from drop-off or have medical records. I have a lot of friends that don't even still have that name, but they've kept that name because it's important for all the other reasons. Continuity. Megan Sussex.

Yeah. Yeah. Great. Now I heard there are Sussex chickens and I need to get a couple of Sussex chickens to add to my flock. I'm so excited. Got my girls. Yeah. And so do you use Markle anymore? No, not since I got married. Not since you got married. Yeah. Good to know. This is what everyone wants to know. Okay. What's your morning routine look like?

Well, this morning was different because Archie has a cold, so he's home from school. But I get up at 6.30 and it gives me a minute to – I wish I could say I woke up and meditated. I don't do that. I have the monitors on so I could hear both the kids. They get up at 7. So I give myself a little bit of time to either put on workout clothes, brush my teeth, get both of them up. I get them dressed, get them downstairs, make breakfast, etc.

And then if I haven't done their lunchboxes the night before, then do that. I love doing lunchboxes. It makes me very happy. And writing a little note in their lunchboxes. Remember when you were doing your first lunchbox? I told you, little tips there. And then if I don't have meetings in the morning, then I try to do school drop-off. So they're at two different schools.

So that's our big circuit. So from 6.30 in the morning on drop-off mornings for me, I'm not home till 9. And then after that, I'll just jump into meetings. And then on other days, then I'll wake up and get them all set. And then our amazing nanny who's been with us for five years, she'll take them to school.

for us. And then, yeah, we always try to, I know that's morning. That's the morning. That gets you to 9am. You're a New York Times bestselling author. Would you ever, thank you. Would you ever write? Twice. Twice. Would you ever write another book?

Yes, maybe for sure. I think, you know, I love right now working on everything in the space of hospitality and home and entertaining and food and those sort of tips and something like that I think could be really fun. Of course, children's books are great. And then, you know, I think people are often curious if I'm going to write a memoir, but I've got a lot more life to live before I'm there. Would you ever run for office? No. Never? No. Never? Never.

Never. Oh, God. I mean, you could say never say never. No, I'm not interested in that. No. Can you give us one hint on something exciting coming up for As Ever? Oh, gosh. Yes. I mean, there's so much in development. Let's say this. If it started with what I was just making on my stove and it starts in your kitchen as these sweet offerings, actually sweet, and

And then the extension of what do you pair that with? For me, as we've talked about a lot today, what are these small gestures? What are these thoughtful details? What are these ways that you can show up for someone? Hostess gifts and hospitality is a big category that I'm really excited that we're developing. So yeah, lots to come. And more, of course, jam drops. Jam drops? Think of them like sneaker drops. Just a...

One flavor away. Jam drops. I have had your jam in my refrigerator all year. No one knows. No one's seen it. I have not posted it. I have so much. And I just like all of it. Anything you drop is so good. I'm going to speak on behalf of other girls, women, men, et cetera, who are like me, who try to make a charcuterie board or do something. And you're like looking at it and you're like, um,

What I love is you're doing the work for us. You're doing the work for us. With As Ever? With As Ever. With As Ever and with your show, but with your products. And I'm telling you, when I built It Cosmetics, that was one thing I was really good at. Because I don't like to do makeup. You see my rosacea, nothing ever worked. I knew if it worked for me, it's going to do the work for someone who does not want to learn how to do makeup. One of the things I love most about As Ever...

My daughter, who's six, just made cookies with flour sprinkles. Like, we look like we know what we're doing. You do. I mean, we could open a bakery. You could. And it's because you're doing the work for customers in your products. That is huge. That, to me, is like...

a one in a billion key to success. Yeah. I appreciate you saying that. It doesn't need to feel complicated. Yeah. And that's the piece that I really want to get across is what can you do in your every day that I don't want to just buy the thing. I do want to have my hands in it. Yeah. And that's part of this. When I was doing the kids' birthday parties, I would say, I remember someone's like, are you going to get a planner, a party planner for a two-year-old's birthday? I don't know. No.

okay, you could go buy all this stuff. I don't want to buy the stuff, but I also don't have time to make all this stuff. So where's the hybrid? Where's the piece that as a mom or as a friend or as a spouse, you can have your hands in the creation of the joy? Yes. Not just the purchase of the joy, but the creation of it. And it's not a heavy lift, that it's enough that you can go like,

I did this for you. The cookies, it was add butter. I'm like, oh, I've got this. Just add butter. I've got this. I want to read this quote in closing. It's a very famous quote and I want to read it and I'm going to try not to get emotional because as your friend, as another woman, as a person who's had the gift of seeing

inside of what you carry and deal with every day, like I'm so freaking proud of you. And I just hope, I don't want to get emotional, I hope every girl and woman who's going to listen to this and watch this who maybe is tempted to sit on the outside and think they don't have what it takes or they can't face the battle that might come with them putting their life

idea out there or their heart out there or their friendship out there and saying, do you want to be friends or their book out there or their story or who they are on social media? They're scared of everything that comes with it. And so, you know, Brene Brown wrote this beautiful book called Daring Greatly. There's this really beautiful quote by Theodore Roosevelt. Oh, inside, in the arena. Man, in the arena. And I want to, I want to read this with a slightly like paraphrased version because I

One of the things amongst many that I love so much about you is you're in the freaking arena. You are. You're in the arena. And so many girls and women, I have women in my family, multiple generations, who sit back and they're like, gosh, I wish I would have. I wish I could have. I wish I put my idea out there. I wish I told that person I forgive them or I wish I went for it.

You know, and so, or if you're watching Jeopardy, even if you don't know the answer is right, still shout out what you think the answer could be. Shout out what you think it is. And it's okay if it's not right. Yes. Raise your hand. I remember for me, it was like six, the first time I knew the answer and I didn't raise my hand in class. And so many of us have moments like that. And then now we're grownups and we're on Zoom and we have an idea, but we don't share it just in case. And I just, you are a living, breathing example of,

of going for it. You're putting yourself out there and anybody living or breathing right now who puts any part of themselves out there, it doesn't matter what it is. It comes with critics. It comes with opposition. It comes with failure. I think about the number of times I failed in growing at cosmetics or the no's that I got or the times where it would have been so much easier to give up. Millions of times it would have been so much easier to give up. And you are

In the arena. So I want to close on this because I just know there's somebody listening to you and me right now, watching us right now who needs this in their life. And we've never talked about this quote. I love this quote. When you said it, I was like, arena. We never talked about it. And when I was literally praying before this interview today, and this is what kept coming to me. And I think that all of us together collectively pray.

in our own lives can almost like lean into this quote. So this is by Theodore Roosevelt. It's not the critic who counts, nor the man who points out how the strong woman stumbles, I'm going to paraphrase here, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the woman, to the woman who's actually in the arena,

whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who comes up short again and again because there's no effort without error and shortcoming, but who does actually strive to do the deeds, who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends herself in a worthy cause,

who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if she fails, at least fails while daring greatly. That is you, my friend. I love you. Thank you for trusting me with your first ever podcast and with your friendship and with, yeah. It means a lot to me.

Yeah. I love you. I have something for you. Oh, gosh. You're the one always giving gifts. Why am I so emotional? I don't know. Why am I so emotional? We're just – but we do kind of always get emotional in the rocking chairs. It's true. Because we're in the rocking chairs. It's the energy of rocking chair friends. Remember, this episode's not just for you and me. Please share this with every single person that you know because it can impact and change their life too.

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