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#194 Abigail Shrier: The Parent-Therapy Trap

2024/5/21
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Abigail Shrier: 本书的核心论点是当前流行的心理治疗方式存在缺陷,这种疗法常常适得其反,加重儿童的心理问题,甚至引入新的问题。她认为,过度关注儿童的情绪,将感受视为最重要的东西,以及将普通行为病理化,都是导致儿童心理问题加剧的原因。她还批判了学校的社会情感学习项目,认为其在实践中会加剧儿童的情绪失调,并导致对父母的批评。她提倡权威型教养方式,即父母负责制定规则并执行纪律,同时保持爱和关心,这才是培养孩子身心健康和成功的最佳方式。她还指出,许多成年人长期接受心理治疗,即使客观上疗效不佳,他们也会感到治疗有所帮助,这说明我们对心理治疗的感受并非可靠的判断标准。她认为,社交媒体加剧了儿童心理健康问题的恶化,但并非唯一原因,生活方式和文化中的过度治疗也是重要因素。她还批判了学校过度干预儿童心理健康,认为学校与心理健康专业人员之间存在严重的利益冲突,学校有动机将学生固定在座位上,并将有问题的学生转介给医生开药。她认为,新冠疫情期间的封锁对儿童造成了严重的负面影响,而心理健康组织对此却缺乏应对措施。她认为,成功的父母是指那些养育出身心健康、有责任感、有价值观的孩子的父母。 Shane Parish: Shane Parish 作为访谈主持人,引导 Abigail Shrier 阐述其观点,并提出一些质疑和补充。他探讨了如何培养孩子的韧性和独立性,以及当前社会对心理健康疗法的普遍接受是如何形成的。他还探究了学校中社会情感学习项目对学生心理健康的影响,以及学校是否为了获得更多资源而鼓励对学生进行心理诊断和提供特殊照顾。他还探讨了科技和社交媒体对当今儿童心理健康挑战的作用,以及父母和治疗师如何应对这些问题。他还探讨了韧性在应对逆境中的作用,以及它是否可以被视为预防性心理健康措施。他最后探讨了成功的父母的定义。

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Abigail Shrier discusses how modern parenting and therapy practices may inadvertently contribute to mental instability in children by overemphasizing emotions and neglecting traditional authority and discipline.

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Over the last decade, therapy has become the de facto solution to solve all sorts of problems for all sorts of people. Everyone has slowly accepted that therapy is normal and a net benefit to society. But instead of helping kids work through difficult circumstances, what if it's just making the problems worse? That's what Abigail Shrier thinks is happening, and in this conversation, she reveals some surprising reasons why. Shane and Shrier discuss the real reason therapy is "bad," how we got to this point of acceptance as a culture, and what you can do as a parent to get back to normalcy. Shrier also shares her experiences with lifelong therapy patients, who should actually be in therapy, and the one thing that makes someone a successful parent. Watch the episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/theknowledgeproject/videos)

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Protekt: Simple solutions to support healthy routines. Enter the code "Knowledge" at checkout to receive 30% off your order. https://protekt.com/knowledge) (00:00) Intro (05:44) Inverse: How do we raise mentally unstable kids? (08:29) How we got to now (11:45) Bad therapy...or just social trends? (13:21) Being your kids' friend: good or bad? (15:55) The parenting type that raises the BEST kids (21:35) Is this all the parents' fault? (29:53) Is "Bad Therapy" a world-wide problem? (32:57) Talk to your kids' therapist about these things (42:09) The importance of facing adversity in childhood (47:06) Can we blame grad schools for all of this? (49:14) On technology and social media (51:03) Schools should "never" have gotten involved in mental health (54:43) Did COVID accelerate "bad therapy?" (56:07) How to return to normalcy (58:21) Why Shane shares negative YouTube comments with his kids (01:01:23) Shrier's experience being "cancelled" (01:04:13) On prestige media (01:07:47) Small steps parents can take to return to normal (01:11:02) Dealing with schools saying one thing and parents saying another (01:13:32) Why is the silent majority...silent? (01:16:32) If this continues, what happens? (01:18:19) What makes someone a successful parent?