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Why the Kids Aren’t Alright with Abigail Shrier

2024/5/21
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Abigail Shrier: 心理治疗的过度关注情绪,忽视了培养孩子独立性和解决问题的能力。许多治疗方法反而加剧了孩子的焦虑和不稳定,将普通行为病理化,并将其视为大脑问题,会让孩子缺乏改变现状的主动性。 父母对自身养育孩子的能力缺乏信心,导致他们过度依赖所谓的专家,并接受了错误的建议。“创伤论”的流行使得父母不敢对孩子进行管教,从而削弱了父母的权威。 学校的社会情感学习项目,过度关注孩子的情绪,反而加剧了儿童的心理问题。学校与心理健康机构的合作存在利益冲突,学校有动机将更多孩子诊断为有心理问题,从而获得更多资源。 社交媒体加剧了儿童心理健康问题,但并非全部原因。技术和社交媒体的过度使用,以及文化中对情绪的过度关注,导致孩子们无法应对生活中的挑战。 我们需要重新设计心理健康系统,减少对心理治疗的过度依赖,培养孩子的韧性和独立性,让他们能够应对生活中的挑战。 父母应该让孩子承担家务,培养他们的独立性和责任感。我们需要控制自身的焦虑,让孩子尝试承担一些风险,培养他们的解决问题的能力。 学校不应该过度干预儿童的心理健康,应该将重点放在教育和培养孩子的能力上。 Shane Parrish: 通过与Abigail Shrier的对话,探讨了如何培养心理韧性和独立性的方法,并反向思考了如何培养出心理不稳定性强的孩子。 探讨了社会情感学习(SEL)项目对儿童心理健康的影响,以及学校在儿童心理健康中的作用和存在的利益冲突。 探讨了技术和社交媒体对儿童心理健康的影响,以及父母和治疗师如何应对这些问题。 探讨了父母权威的重要性,以及如何平衡对孩子情绪的关注与培养他们的独立性和责任感。 探讨了如何与孩子的治疗师沟通,以确保治疗能够有效解决问题,避免治疗师过度干涉家庭关系。 探讨了如何帮助孩子们恢复到正常状态,以及父母可以采取哪些措施来帮助孩子建立心理韧性。

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Investigative journalist Abigail Shrier reveals an uncomfortable truth: our culture's overwhelming embrace of therapy might be harming the next generation. In this thought-provoking conversation, she challenges conventional wisdom about mental health, drawing from extensive research and disturbing patterns among lifelong therapy patients.

Learn when therapy helps, when it hurts, and how successful parents navigate emotional resilience in their children.

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(00:00) Intro

(05:44) Inverse: How do we raise mentally unstable kids?

(08:29) How we got to now

(11:45) Bad therapy...or just social trends?

(13:21) Being your kids' friend: good or bad?

(15:55) The parenting type that raises the BEST kids

(21:35) Is this all the parents' fault?

(29:53) Is "Bad Therapy" a world-wide problem?

(32:57) Talk to your kids' therapist about these things

(42:09) The importance of facing adversity in childhood

(47:06) Can we blame grad schools for all of this?

(49:14) On technology and social media

(51:03) Schools should "never" have gotten involved in mental health

(54:43) Did COVID accelerate "bad therapy?"

(56:07) How to return to normalcy

(58:21) Why Shane shares negative YouTube comments with his kids

(01:01:23) Shrier's experience being "cancelled"

(01:04:13) On prestige media

(01:07:47) Small steps parents can take to return to normal

(01:11:02) Dealing with schools saying one thing and parents saying another

(01:13:32) Why is the silent majority...silent?

(01:16:32) If this continues, what happens?

(01:18:19) What makes someone a successful parent?