Every Tattoo Has a Story: Here’s Mine
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There is something in the air today I cannot wait to jump into. Our topic is not only empowering, it's hilarious. It's fun.

And my husband is going to be joining us in just a minute. And I know you guys love IT when Chris is here on the show with me. And in case you're new, I just want to say, welcome. I melt robbins on a new year times best selling author and one of the world's leading experts on change, motivation and habits. And I have a neck.

This is my scale, my superpower, of taking highly complicated and scientific and research back topics and simplifying them so that absolutely anybody can apply the deeper wisdom into specific, actionable tools that will help you create a Better life. And I believe you can create a Better life. I've coached people for more than a decade, and there is a no doubt that locked inside each and every one of us, including you, there is a desire to create a deeper connection and meaning in your life.

There is a desire to be able to express yourself and live out of life. That is the trust expression of who you are. And that's why I started the male Robin's podcast, because twice a week, I wanted to nale remind myself of that.

I wanted remind you of that, too, that you are capable of creating more in your life, more happiness, more meaning, more love, more connection. And IT will require you to show up more as you to tap into that courage and confidence. And that's what we're talking about today, because there are simple things that you can do based on research that will help you express yourself and will help you dream bigger.

And today, where is your really fun example of that? And I got some amazing stories to tell you. But first, let me just welcome Chris Robins in the house. My husband, Chris robbins is here. Hey.

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And I had to get Chris here because I am going to answer one of the most frequently asked questions that I get. And IT is a question that is very personal. In fact, so many of you are curious about this that you've gone to google to try to figure out the answer to this personal question about male Robins.

Just like one of our listeners, JoNathan did. Hi male. Is JoNathan a big fan of the podcast? I often watched the video aversion on youtube.

I noticed in one of the recent episodes that you have a tattoo on your rist. I tried looking at up online. I found of budget people who have the five second rule tattoo.

I couldn't find the story behind your tattoo. So I know everything in your life is very intentional. So i'm curious, what is IT and why did you get IT? Thanks now, JoNathan.

I love that you ask this question. I love that you went to google and saw all the five second rule tattoos. And I get asked all the time about this tattoo that I on the inside of my right rest.

Just last week, I was speaking at this major event for all of these leaders that are figuring out advanced solutions for diseases like cancer. And can you guess, Chris, when I opened IT up to Q N. I, what the first question was that I was asked by this audience of pharmaceutical executives.

what's your tattoo?

So and even last night, we had three couples over. And what were we talking about? Tatooed tatooed.

And this morning, many of you know, if you've been listening with the podcast, that i've a really good friend and colleague name, amy. And amy always pulls cards in the morning that helps us set an intention. And this morning he pulled a card. And what was on the Carters?

All about tat.

all about your intention, and at being echt in the with like this permanent, like a tattoo. And i'm like doing something is going on here. The universe is saying, we have to talk about tattoos.

And so I have dragged Chris here, and our dogs are also sitting here sleeping at our feet. So we're going to dig in to the story about the tattoo. But I wanted just say something. The tattoo store is just the tip of the iceberg.

What we're really talking about today is a really important subject that both of us believe, and that is that there are simple tools that you can use that act like lifeline ines in your life. And those tools are meaningful montas temporary or permanent tattoos. Or there are ways that you can use even a simple posted note as a environmental queue.

That's what a researcher er calls IT. You can use a simple posted note to act like a lifeline to remind you that have the power inside of you to face something. And in those moments were really counts and you're trying to level up that, yes, you can show up in this moment and you can perform your best.

And so while we're going to start with the tattoo story, which is a great story, we're going to get to a deeper topic here. And by the time you're done listening to this episode, you're gonna a have a phrase that you've identified that will act like a life fine for you moving forward. And because I always say this is not just a listening podcast, it's a doing one.

I'm going to ask you to do something specific and know it's not to go get a tattoo. So on the top of that too, if you have a tattoo or you know someone who does, you know that every tattoo has a story. And mine begins just a few weeks before our fifteen th wedding anniversary.

We've been marry twenty six years. So this would have been eleven years ago, right? Eleven years ago, yeah, eleven years ago.

Eleven years ago was two thousand twelve. And Chris, this just set the table for everybody, because seven years ago our life looked really different. Two thousand and twelve.

You were still in the restaurant business. We were eight hundred grand and debt. We were struggling with drinking issues, and we were trying to make the ends made.

We thought a tattoo .

was going to say, we thought I would distract us. We decided that was .

our anniversary versy.

And so we decided that I would be cool if we got tattoos on the date of our fifteenth wedding anniversary.

provided IT wasn't the same time.

Well, see, this is the thing I wanted to get matching that. I thought I would be super cool if you and I got the exact same tattoo on our fifteen th wedding anniversary. And what was your s never? I think IT was no fucking way.

I thought I think you said that is so easy. We are bound for divorce if we get matching tattoo, we are not doing that. And so that was kind of my idea. And Chris just shot IT out of the sky bomb, not happening. And so remember what .

my reaction was even getting. We had been talking about IT maybe a little.

I don't remember that.

Remember yours. Was that an out of the blue idea that, hey, let's do this for university? Or we had talked about IT.

I think we had talked about how we both wanted to get one, and then we decided we get IT for our fifteen. And I thought we'd get matching. You said, absolutely not.

And then all the sudden, we went in to our corners, and we were individually thinking about our tattoo. And as the date of our anniversary, August fourth, came closer and closer to the appointment, I started to panic because I had no idea what I wanted for my test two. And then all the sudden, you guys, Chris, walks into the room one day and says, I figured out what my tattoo gonna. Why did you tell me the story? Because I wanted to kill you when you told me what I was going to be.

I grew up as a ski racer and was competing in races every weekend in my teenage years. And I was always that kid in the starting gate that was shaking like a leaf and worried about not the race, but the outcome. You know, I was I was in my head thinking about what was going to be my time and how was going to line up. and.

And what to freak you out? Yeah.

IT was always about the result. Yes, you know, the end game, if you will, from me, or at least this was the observation that ultimately my day had had of me. And my dad was often at these races, and he helped me see the racing and the course a little bit differently by constantly suggesting that I just take IT one gated a time to, just rather than think about the big picture or the end game, just one one gated a time.

And along the years, my dad, I would converse about this, but without ever necessarily giving IT a name of a philosophy, if you will. But he wrote a letter to me about IT one day. And I decided to pull the handwriting off of a letter, my dad author, about just taking things, one gated the time. Even up until his last year, he was writing letters to me about taking life, one gated the time. So that became, that became my at to idea and .

and so described where .

IT is and what IT is. I put this tattoo on my forearm, on my left for ARM, and I didn't necessarily have a vision for having a kind of be oriented such that I could read IT really easily. But ultimately was the tattoo artist who suggested kind of the right placement of IT. But it's yet, he says the word one and the word gate. One gate written in my dance handwriting .

is beautiful. And so being the shallow piece of shit that I am at times when Chris announced city had figured out his tattoo and that he was going to take his dead father's hand written letter to a tattoo artist and have that tattoo artist lift those two words one gate in his father's handwriting, and put IT on his left for ARM, where he could see IT and have, as a reminder, I thought that is the best damn m idea.

And now I have no idea what the hell I am going to talk to on my body. I was so pissed and so jealous that you had such a good idea. And you guys, I freak out and stressed out until the night before we were supposed to get tattoos, the night before we were going to go into disappointment, are fifteen sweaty university.

I still had no idea what I was going to put on my body. And then, luckily, a friend of ours, who was one of my very first clients when I became a live coach, David, who owns the amazing store in boston called muscle SHE, stopped by to say hi. And we started talking about the tattoo and I said, I have no idea what I want.

He agreed, crisis idea. That was a really good idea, really good idea. And I, I don't know.

David.

the gin. What happened is I I started saying, I don't know what to do that and he said, why not what you do? What should be? And SHE said, I should say, h all be.

I said, what? What would you mean? I should say IT shall be.

He said, you say IT all the time. I said, no, I don't. SHE said, yes, you do. I said, no, I don't. SHE said, mell, you have coached me for years.

You always say, if you put in the work and you hold the belief that will happen at some point, IT shall be. I had honestly never realized that I had used that phrase when coaching other people. And as he said, IT, in that way, I just kind of went clunk. That's what going to do.

I want to put the words, IT shall be on the inside of my right rest and IT will be both a reminder to me that if I do the work, if I have faith, if I keep my head down and if I give up my timeline, IT shall be, it'll all work out. It'll be fine. And so that was that. Now, meanwhile, there's another twist to this story, because you remember what happened on our actual fifteen threatened.

Do I ever? That's the funny part of the whole story.

H, yeah, that's true.

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Marylin ch. Pierce, fenner and Smith incorporated, registered broker dealer, registered investment adviser member, S, I, P, C. Welcome back, I melt robbins, and i'm here with my husband, Chris, and we're telling you the story behind tattoos that we got on our fifteen sweaty anniversary.

Also gonna gg. In to the power of creating a meaningful monitor in life. And our story is now taking a very unexpected turn as we think we're gonna heading into boston to now go .

get tatus. And that's not I OK.

I'll tell everybody well.

you were in radio at the time.

Yeah was when I was a radio host. So you guys, Chris was still in the restaurant business, struggling .

financially. He was doing some show in boston, and you'd had some show talking about tattoos, right? Throw back.

And all these people called in.

and they suggested, like the best tattoo parlor in town, if you're gna get a tattoo, you have to go to this guy and you, of course, to IT upon yourself to book us the appointment, which was at that point, had have been six months out. Yes.

and they had a huge way less. So you couldn't even get in until, like, four months out. We book this thing. Six months out.

you guys on gas .

deposit for .

our and we have .

a baby sitter. We're going in the boston. We got our appointment, were about to pull on the mass pike. And what happens? Well.

now we're pulling out of the driveway and you you're like where where where we go let's get the address at this place and then say, well, let me just call him just to make sure let them know we're coming and you call and share enough the guy says, I don't know. We got to on the books for next week.

And I start pleading with them, or you can I? We made this? No, no, no, no.

It's next week. It's a week from today. But that's not a reversal.

I never would screw this. This must be a mistake. Can you just fit? So, no, no.

And we were going away. We like, we could even make the following.

You also, or thing was, I was supposed to be on the anniversary. So now here we are with a babysitter. We have our tattoo.

S you've got your letter. I've got my phrase. We have no appointment. I start calling tatti parler because we decide let's just had in the boston.

And like, how heart could this be? Do you know the first five or six tattoo powers that I called were booked? Like no openings? I didn't know. You couldn't just walk into a tatoo parler, who the hell is getting all these tattoo? S, so I finally call the sixth or seventh place.

And IT was a place that was right around the corner from this apartment that we used to live in, in cambridge, massachusets, when we first moved to boston before we had kids for you to go to graduate school. And the guy answers the phone and he says, sure, come on in. And then he says, what's the name? And I say, male robbins.

And he goes, you mean from W, T, K, K, male robbers? I thought, I recognize this voice. I love your show, my voice.

A huge failures caught in IT turned out to be a guy that listened to my old radio show. So we drive to this place. The guy is this amazing big bird. Teddy bear of a guy gives us a big old bear hug Christal s first, because here's the next twist that happened.

IT had completely been lost on me that I hadn't even picked out a foot or handwriting, and so I had the phrase that shall be, but I had no idea what I wanted you to look like, or how big IT was going to be. So, well, Chris K. T.

His tattoo. I pulled up microsoft outlook, and I started going through the font choices and ended up picking the only fond that looked somewhat cool, which turned out to be something called like pigs or db gs, or IT, was like a printed IT out on his printer. And that became what I permanently put on my body. And I was having, like, doubts and second guesses. And Chris is look so good, but I was just like, why did I think so that I should have, like.

thought about the font that looks a little bit like .

your handwriting? This, that's good. Yeah, it's okay. I mean, it's fine. I love my tattoo. I love my tattoo. And so i've got this curved, uh, IT shall be right on my inside risk if you're watching this on youtube you can see IT um i'll put IT on the stories um but um yeah that's our tattoo story. That's our tattoo story.

And the thing that i'd love about this and this is why it's so important for us to talk about meaningful montors today and environmental cues that you can use to help you stay steady, to help you tap into that courage and that confidence and that power that's inside of you. And over the years, I can't tell you how many times I ve looked at this tattoo. And these words IT shall be, they are a lifeline for me.

You know, when I think about moments where I was fAiling at something, or life was going off the rails, I would see those words IT shall be. And i'd take a deep breath, and I put my head down, and i'd say, now you just got to keep believing it's gonna all work out. You gotta keep putting in the work.

If you're a good, kind person, it'll happen, maybe not on your time, mine, but just keep going. When times were tough, these three words IT shall be were reminded me that this is just a moment, and like all moments, this will pass. IT shall be no.

But really is thinking about the question that JoNathan brought in, saying how you're so intentional and everything that you do IT IT was a very thoughtful question. And and I would agree that your application of that in life is very pronounced and interesting how you didn't necessarily see IT like David. So 嗯 and how the only thing that was not intentional about IT was the scramble to get the right tattoo before the evening itself。 But you know.

it's great about this exception.

Say that because you book the appointment, we had IT on the universe like organized.

The entire story of the tattoo is a demonstration of the philosophy IT shall be because nothing went according to plan.

And yet we just took at one gate at a time, and I was fierce, and my belief that I was all just gonna out, what are the odds that the appointment is on the wrong date, or that the first five places I call are not available for appointments? But the one that is happens to be a guy that listen to my little local saturday radio show and recognized my name and voice. This phrase IT shall be.

It's just a little bit of optimism that acts like a lifetime for me. And IT reminds me that it's gonna work out, that I have the power within me to face things. That's how i've been using this phrase IT shall be over the last eleven years, because these have not been the easiest eleven years of our life.

I would argue some of the artist.

the artist, for sure. I mean, when I think about the state that you are in, when you left the restaurant business just two years after I got this tattoo and you just checked out life, like i'm getting sober, I have to heal, I have to take care of myself. And for two years you are just comes and i'm like in survival mode.

And I would look at this, my tattoo, H L B, H L B. And I gave me faith that if I just kept working hard, we'd figure IT out, that we'd figure out how to pay the bills, that I would figure out how to build this business, that you would figure out how to heal and find your way back to yourself, into me. And even things like moving appeared to southern vermont and how hard that was, and feeling like i've just turned my whole life upside down.

And yet there is a deeper knowing that drove our decision to move and to change our life profoundly, from living outside of boston to being in this tiny real town. And on those days that I just felt so lost, I would look at my wrist. And o IT shall be, it's gonna work out.

I can do this and even with the podcast, everybody was like, you know crowd that is you know there's five million podcast. I was like, you know what? I'm playing the long game. I'm not i'm i'm IT shall be i'm going to put in the work i'm onna go for IT and and are you even feel that like when our kids are struggling IT helps me this phrase IT shall be to put almost like a began out in the future it's a reminder that at some point the road ahead is easier and great things happen and IT gives me faith to keep going.

I think the location of that tattoos is also properly aligned with you and your own just being reminded of that, right? Because if you had that tattoo on the back of your shoulder .

where you .

weren't seeing IT all day everyday, you would always wanted to put IT right something.

Whatever IT was, you were thin. Why, you know, how has one gate as a phrase, a meaningful monta, a lifeline for you, a philosophy? How is that helped you on your journey in the last eleven years?

I mean, I would say just even write this minute as I am putting together this this online program for sold degree.

and what is sold degree for people who don't know.

So degree is immense retreat that i've hosted for the last six years, often taking place in the wilderness away from at all. And this year, i'm trying to Spark the conversation online.

So you're doing like an online program. Yeah, I love that. Know what you guys don't know is the Chris created this man retreat called sold degree six years ago, something that he desperately wanted for himself, he created, and the thing is filled up organically every time you lead an in person retreat for the last six years.

And so now Chris is trying something new, is going to create a web or and create a online course in a digital version of this for men, because you have a huge mission to help men discover themselves and to help men create deeper connections with other men. And you are so driven to do this. And yet you've never done that before. And I can tell that you're .

scared that, like, even the word weber makes me, I cried down like, are you fucking getting .

me Chris scared about this? This is why he is. He's in the starting gate, right? You're like the little cold, the starting gate going. Is anybody going to sign up for this digital course? Oh my god.

Some of that is present, but some of IT also is just in the act of having to put something out there and to do something that makes me feel uncomfortable, which is being in that market or seat and having to speak out loud and be in front of a microphone and a camera, which is really IT, makes me, yeah, i'm in the starting gate for sure, looking, wondering about whether i'm gonna make IT to the bottom. So but no one gate is a perfect example of just one foot m from the other. I just take IT one day a time and get up and think about what I what I want to share or how I want to write IT or and not get wrapped around the axle about how it's all gonna play out.

And now we can't wait to see what you create because all I what is Chris Robins like? So what does one gate do for you? How does I even help you? That flows me .

down and allows me to just take IT one step at a time, one gate at a time, just one foot in front of the other, like I said, and not losing myself in what it's going to a look like, but instead just being present to the experience I in right now, putting the pieces together.

I love that. I absolutely love that. So I now want to turn the mike over to you when we come back from a word my sponsors, you are gonna arn.

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Welcome back. I ml robbins. I'm here with my husband, Chris, and we're talking about meaningful montreal and how they can create this really grounding force and they can help you tap in to your power and your optimism and your resilience in life. So I now wants to pass the mike to you um wherever you are listening in a car, taking us on a walk with you, doing errands, wherever you are right now, I want you to think about your own guiding phrase, your own mantra that's very meaningful to you and I want you to stop and ask yourself today, at this point in my life, what is a mantra that i'd really love to live by something that could act like a lifeline, some form of reassurance, something that maybe you wish somebody else would say you you is interesting that we're having this conversation because candle, who is our middle child who's twenty two, she's about to graduate from college. She's been talking about getting a tattoo, talking about getting a tattoo when SHE graduates, but he doesn't know so what IT might be.

And she's been thinking in the farmer symbols, but for the purpose of this conversation, I really want you listening to us as I pass the mic over deal to be thinking about a phrase, whether to phrase like Chris, one gate that maybe one of your parents would say to you, or it's a phrase like itch, all be that a friend of mind reminded me that I say all the time to her when i'm trying to get her to push through her fears and to believe in herself as you start to formulate your own mind. What could that phrase or that word be for you? And I find this to be really interesting.

Sep montas cut both ways because there are good monitors and bad montors. There are monitors that work and monitors that don't. So here's the interesting thing about montas.

Monitors are powerful, but they don't work unless you believe what the montreal or the phrase says. And i'm going to unpacked this because I think this is super important. It's why so many of us get positive self talk or self law completely wrong.

A mont is only gonna a work if you believe intrinsically in what the monta means. And I ll give an example, if you've been beating yourself up for forty years, there is no way you can stand in front of a mire and say, I love myself. Or if you've been just hating on your body for decades, you're not going to be able to stand in front of the year ago. I look beautiful. I want you to feel those things.

But if your behavior in your own mindset proves day in and day out that you don't love yourself, that you not only don't think your body is beautiful, you think it's thing, or you think it's gross, or you think it's this, or you think it's that, simply saying a montreal because you think you should IT will not work IT actually makes things worse because your mind is like, oh, what you mean. You know, you said yourself all day yesterday, no is not true. And your mind starts to fight against IT.

And so IT makes your negative beliefs worse. And so one of the things that I want you to think about is that as you come up with this phrase for yourself, rule number one, IT has to be meaningful. And what I mean by that is a meaningful mantra is one that you can get behind.

It's one that when you say IT or somebody else sees IT to you, you're like, yeah, I can get behind that. So for example, if you struggle with how you look, instead of saying i'm beautiful, when you don't quite feel IT and believe IT yet starting, I deserve kindness. I'm trying my best.

I deserve to feel Better. My body needs me to take care of IT. Those are all things that you can get behind.

And so often times, one of the things that I say, if you're just kind of new to thinking about some guiding phrase or a meaningful montral or some sort of word that you're going to use as your theme or your feline is like bring you down, just a little like, don't jack the monitor up like the post, because sometimes, and I could feel that way. And so if you have that tattooed on your wrist, you really like, I feel like the best right now. You want to wretch IT down just the little as you can always get behind IT.

I'm trying my best. Anybody can get behind that. Here's some other ones.

What if that works out? Talk a lot about that on the podcast. I love that one.

What if IT works out? So many people don't even realize that they're guiding philosophy. Now is, what if he doesn't work out? Imagine adopting the meaningful monta.

What if IT works out? Another one that I love is courage. Courage, we often sit around and feel self doubt or feel unmotivated in those moments.

Courage, that courage inside you to act, to say something, to show up when you don't feel like a courage, is what you need first. And so courage is a beautiful reminder. You got this.

You got this is just encouragement. I believe in you. I love that. I believe in you. One day of time that sort like one gate is in at on .

yeah is a little bit like that but I think what you're speaking to also that um like everything that you just mentioned, almost a to a way of being or an attitude certainly a reminder what do I really need in those times to be reminded or to be encouraged?

You just give me a huge breakthrough. One way that you could figure out a meaningful mantra, or this sort of guiding phrase for you is think about the future, you, the person that you wanna become. And just assume that IT all works out. Just assume that you become the person that you dream about becoming.

How about you let the future you give the present you that assurance and that advice so that the tattoo or the posted note or whatever IT is the monitor that you say to yourself over and over that IT is a reminder from the person you're becoming that you got this believe, courage. All of that is incredible. Wow, I love that you tracie who's also a friend in a college.

SHE is a great one that's been on her bedside table for a year every day. I'm learning and growing and love that every day. I'm learning and growing everyday. I'm learning and growing. And by simply repeating IT over and over and over again.

you will because what you on yes, that's an option to for anybody .

here because that's that's the reason why tatoes can be so powerful is because a tattoo is what researchers call an environmental trigger. An environmental trigger is something that you encounter visually in a space that cues a certain thought or behavior. And a lot of us are aware of triggers in the negative sense.

So you trigger me, oh, that sound triggers this, but you can use environmental triggers in a very positive and profound way. And I talk about environmental trigger extensively in the episode that we did called five essential hacks to make new habits stick. And I love environmental trigger.

And so for sure, this tattoo and your tattoo, that is a visual reminder that trigger a certain positive way of thinking. But you can use a posted note. In fact, this is the assignment. everybody.

I want you to come up with a phrase, and you can borrow one that you've heard us say today and try IT on for size because it's sort of like you've tt a see if that fits and how do you know if the phrase fits? You're not resisting IT. You're not arguing against IT.

You're not saying the phrase i'm beautiful, yeah but no, you've gotta come up with something that feels right IT sort of like goldrock ks and the three bears, right? Ones too little, ones too big. One feels just right. That's how you try this on.

Then I want you to take a sharpie, a permanent pen and write IT on a posted note and stick that sucker on your mere, or on your laptop somewhere in your physical space that you're gona bump into IT your bedside table the way that Tracy does. Heck, you're thinking about a tattoo before you get a tattoo makes a tattoo in a sharpie on your ARM. I so believe in this. done.

You believe in this. absolutely. Yeah, mean, the environmental trigger pieces to make such a difference.

Yeah, you have an interesting environmental trigger on your bulletin board. It's a photo of you. Why you and I knew .

somehow you are going to raise this topic again. Why .

guys, he is the cutis photo that our friend Jenny mooney took and it's a black and White photo of Chris and he's looking after the side and he's sort of smiling. And he posted IT. He pended to his bullets and board.

Any wrote in a sharp y you with an error pointing at himself, and IT sits right on his bulletin board at his desk, and I can see you tearing up. What does that photo mean? What does IT trigger you to think?

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Just to A I was prompted to print the picture and tack IT on my board as A A piece .

of a homework .

assignment in a class that i'm taking. Where I just need to be reminded that I am, that i'm perfect the way I am, that I am, yes, i'm good enough for that who I am is who I am. And so IT was a spontaneous response .

to work that .

I was doing in this class. To say this was one of those hacks or habits I was going to develop was to look at that picture every day and see me as I am and embrace and .

love that person. H, this is for your masters and psyche. That's pretty cool. I think everybody, he's going to steal that one too.

I mean, I don't have a mirror in my office, so I put a picture of myself.

Environmental trigger, everybody. I'm really serious about this. Positive triggers in the environment triggers positive thinking patterns and positive physical change.

And I want to keep inspiring you. So i'm going to share a couple things that some of our listeners have shared with me on social media. And the first one is from denis.

Hi man. It's sinis from pen ix. ona. The meaning of my tattoo, which says, love yourself force is a reminder that self love is not selfish. IT is necessary.

As a single mother, I have learned that in order to be present for them, I first need to be present for me to sew up for me. Love yourself first. That's a great one.

That's a great one that doesn't hit for me though. I mean, it's great for Dennis, might be great for you, but this is why it's important to right on love yourself first. When I think about IT on my wrist, that doesn't like give me the tangles.

Well, I think what you had said earlier was really cool about just that. This is. That a montreal like this can help you on your path of becoming rather than the tattoo, needing to be a reminder of the n game, or being symbolic of something that you aspire to complete rather than just this is, this is my evolution.

I love that that sort of shifted how I feel about love yourself first for me, because, right, IT is part of the becoming.

I believe in you is a good one.

I believe in you. I believe in you for years, though, that probably, well, if I think about IT from me in the present moment, IT wouldn't sink because there have been plenty of moments where I didn't believe in myself. But if I think about IT as a message from the future male, the person i'm becoming as if he was sing to me, I believe in you meal and I know what's coming and that's why I believe in you that what do you who I love that actually, maybe that'll be my next stat too.

But it's interesting how you describe that as though it's something outside of you or a voice or something external. Like I don't think of one gate as like I don't hear my dad talking to me persue。 Like I don't see my dad all the time. I think of IT whether what you are just describing .

is some larger voice.

which is profound and and can be powerful, but it's IT counters up a visual .

IT shall be as a large voice for me there and IT doesn't have to be attack to you guys again. This is not an epo de about tattoos. This is an episode about using research to create a lifeline to your power and to optimism, and to resilience and belief and self.

And I love this example from another listener name, Monica. Hi man. It's Monica from italy.

I don't have the tools, but I think the best sentence for me right now would be the little things IT helps me keep going when I think that my goal is too big for me, too far away and that i'm just waste time. And IT also reminds me to enjoy a small, beautiful things of my life. I, O, that's a good one to b.

that reminds .

me of the thing that oakley said at the end of the episode that we did just recently about anxiety, where he refers to your ordinary, extraordinary life, finding the extraordinary in the ordinary, the little things, if you will, wow, love yourself first. The little things, one gate IT shall be the little .

things is it's got a calm tone to IT a little bit.

I'd love that we're kind of dissecting this because I I think it's really important that you truly pick a phrase that feels a certain way to you, whether that's coming or uplifting or energizing or IT just feels like the truth that no matter what's going on in your life, you can count on that. This phrase is true.

I think that's what makes IT also somewhat hard. Is that that feeling like I think most people's reaction is to react swiftly to how that phrase or montreal sounds or fields in that moment, and then they move on, as opposed to, as you say, kind of sitting with IT, letting IT marine posting IT on a wall, putting IT by your bedside, but allowing him to seep in over time a little bit to see truly like, how does that feel?

Try IT on. You know, i'd now want to a.

get another tattoo because of this.

maybe able to get my mom to write .

something this, remember, this show is not about getting a text. Okay.

now listening you saying I shouldn't. A.

no, not necessary. Well.

I will tell you what I do want everyone to do. I do want you to take us, pass in you to make very seriously. And I want you to try the power of creating a meaningful montral, or a word or a phrase that you can turn to everyday.

And I do want you to get a posted note, or a piece of painters tape or something that you can write your phrase, word or mantra that's meaningful to you on IT. And let's take a step further. I'd love to see this.

So take a photo of you in your posted note, or you in your sharpie and share your face or word or montre and tag me male robbins. Tag this podcast, the male bans podcast. You might even be featured on our social media channels, but mostly I just want to see you and give you a virtual hugg and a high five.

And I want to get inspired by you. Speaking of meaningful monitors that you say to yourself. There's something I want to be sure to say to you in case nobody else tells you this today, I wanted to tell you that I love you.

I love you too, and I believe in you, I believe in you.

and I believe in your ability to create a life that you love one day of the time. And if you do get shall be. Oh, let's go get tatters.

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