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If You Struggle With Anxiety, This Episode Will Change Your Life

2023/2/16
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Oakley Robbins: 在高中阶段,我经历了两次焦虑发作,一次在高一,一次在高二。高一时,焦虑持续了三周,我当时没有告诉任何人,因为我认为自己能够克服。但实际上,我经历了严重的恐慌,甚至产生了自残的想法。高二时,一部关于气候变化的电影引发了我对人生意义的思考,这导致了更严重的焦虑和精神崩溃。我开始质疑人生的意义,感到绝望和迷茫。 幸运的是,我得到了家人的支持和专业的帮助。我开始接受心理治疗,并服用抗抑郁药物。治疗师帮助我理解焦虑的成因,并引导我寻找人生目标。他告诉我,即使生命本身可能没有意义,我们也可以通过追求目标来赋予生命意义。这个过程帮助我逐渐走出焦虑的阴影,并开始积极地面对生活。 我建议那些正在经历焦虑或类似困境的青少年,不要独自承受痛苦,要勇敢地向家人、朋友或专业人士寻求帮助。及早寻求帮助,可以预防问题的恶化,并改善生活质量。 Mel Robbins: 作为Oakley的母亲,我分享了他的经历,希望能帮助更多的人。我意识到,即使孩子表面上看起来一切正常,内心也可能承受着巨大的压力和痛苦。因此,我们应该关注孩子的心理健康,并为他们提供必要的支持和帮助。 Oakley的经历也让我明白,及早寻求心理治疗非常重要。如果我在Oakley高一时就意识到他的焦虑问题,并及时寻求帮助,或许就能避免高二时更严重的崩溃。 此外,我想强调的是,经历严重、可怕和难以承受的想法是很正常的,几乎每个人都会经历。重要的是要区分想要结束痛苦和想要结束生命的区别。如果遇到严重、可怕和难以承受的想法,应该告诉别人寻求帮助。 Mel Robbins: 作为Oakley的母亲,我分享了他的经历,希望能帮助更多的人。我意识到,即使孩子表面上看起来一切正常,内心也可能承受着巨大的压力和痛苦。因此,我们应该关注孩子的心理健康,并为他们提供必要的支持和帮助。 Oakley的经历也让我明白,及早寻求心理治疗非常重要。如果我在Oakley高一时就意识到他的焦虑问题,并及时寻求帮助,或许就能避免高二时更严重的崩溃。 此外,我想强调的是,经历严重、可怕和难以承受的想法是很正常的,几乎每个人都会经历。重要的是要区分想要结束痛苦和想要结束生命的区别。如果遇到严重、可怕和难以承受的想法,应该告诉别人寻求帮助。

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Oakley reveals his hidden anxiety struggles during freshman year, marked by panic attacks, overwhelming thoughts, and a brief suicidal ideation. He explains why he didn't share his feelings with his family, attributing it to a desire to handle it independently and past negative experiences with therapy and medication. Despite the intensity, the episode highlights the temporary nature of such feelings.
  • Hidden anxiety during freshman year
  • Suicidal ideation
  • Reasons for not seeking help
  • Temporary nature of intense thoughts

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In this episode, you’re invited to sit in on a really personal and raw conversation with our 17-year-old son, Oakley.

 

Whether you experience anxiety yourself or you’re just worried about someone you love who does, this episode is a powerful gift from my family to you.

 

What Oakley shares based on his personal experience is life-changing.

 

You will hear Oakley describe two periods of anxiety and some pretty scary and overwhelming thoughts that rose up freshman and sophomore years of high school.

 

I am sharing this with you because Oakley is not alone in what he experienced.

 

According to the CDC’s most recent data, anxiety in teens and adults continues to rise, with nearly half surveyed reporting persistent feelings of hopelessness. 

 

Whether you’re an adult or a teen, depression and anxiety are two of those mental health conditions that leave you feeling isolated from everyone because it can seem like you’re the only one having these kinds of overwhelming thoughts.

 

Today, in real-time, Oakley shines a light on what he experienced and how he worked through it.

 

And don’t worry, this isn’t a downer. In typical Oakley fashion, he has me laughing as much as I was sighing.

 

Two really important things come out of this conversation:

 

#1: You get an inside view of what anxiety can look and feel like, and #2, you get to learn about the healing process Oakley engaged in with family, a therapist, his doctor, and medication to work his way through it and back to a clear, confident, and happy state of mind.

 

I want to be clear. Oakley has chosen to share his own personal experience. With his therapist’s help, Oak feels more connected and empowered to ride the ups and downs of life and create deeper meaning in his life. And that’s what we want for you.

 

So many of you write in to thank us for sharing these conversations with my adult kids because they help you open up conversations.

 

Well, today’s conversation is meant to serve the same purpose. You may want to listen to this with people you love. 

 

And please, share this.

 

Share it with teachers, coaches, nieces, nephews, and parents who you know could use these insights.

 

Too many of us try to deal with anxiety on our own. Let Oakley inspire you and the people you love to open up.

 

You are not weird or messed up if you have fleeting dark thoughts, but if those thoughts persist, please reach out to a therapist, family, or friends. You don’t have to go through this alone.

 

And if this topic is not for you right now, bookmark this episode and come back to it at another time. But it is a deeply powerful one you won’t want to miss.

 

Xo Mel 

 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

 

  • 2:20: Is your loved one resistant to therapy? Here’s what to do.
  • 4:15: My son schooled me on therapy and why I should have done it for myself sooner.
  • 6:30: I had no idea he was feeling this way.
  • 8:40: Oakley describes his panic attack and dark thoughts.
  • 14:00: Here’s why Oakley didn’t share his feelings with us.
  • 19:30: This is what everyone has to know about big, scary thoughts.
  • 23:15: Here’s what Oakley suggests for those struggling.
  • 28:00: Oakley’s existential crisis that led to his breakdown.
  • 32:30: My panic attacks and anxiety felt like this.
  • 33:30: Here’s what we did to support Oakley.
  • 34:40: The John Mayer song that had a powerful impact on Oakley.
  • 46:45: Here’s where Oakley is now that he’s been working with his therapist.
  • 53:00: Two profound quotes that really resonate.

 

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