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Toolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)

2023/3/6
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins: 本期节目将重新定义自信,它不是天生的性格特征,也不是外向者的专利,而是一种可以掌握的技能。通过尝试,即使失败也能积累经验,建立自信循环。冒名顶替综合征是好事,意味着你在尝试新事物。自信的人并非总是外向且声音最大的,自信是行动的意愿,而非感觉。自信是在困难时期建立的,你无法失去自信,只是停止尝试而无法感受到它。 建立自信的五个工具:1.采取行动,运用五秒钟法则打断自我怀疑;2.创造替身自我,获得客观视角;3.准备,练习提高能力;4.改变思维模式,专注于尝试的价值;5.专注于自己,谨慎选择社交媒体内容,避免负面影响。 Heather: 希望了解如何提升自信,尤其是在工作中承担更多责任时。 Alex: 希望了解如何在不是天生外向的情况下,在大学里取得成功,并提升自信。 Sky: 希望了解社交媒体对个人成长和自信的影响,并分享了其删除社交媒体的积极经验。

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Confidence is redefined as a skill anyone can master, not a personality trait. It's about being willing to try, grounded in decades of research.
  • Confidence is a skill, not a personality trait.
  • It's about being willing to try, not about feeling ready.
  • Confidence is built through action and trying new things.

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In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of confidence.

This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built.

Confidence is not what you think it is.

It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts.

Confidence is a skill that anyone can master.

And today is the perfect day for you to start.

You and I are breaking down the science together, and you’re invited to join in as I coach several listeners who are struggling with self-doubt.

By the time this episode is done, you will not only have a brand new definition of confidence, but you will also know how to put that definition to use to start building unstoppable confidence in your own life.

Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it.

Let’s get that back.

If you are willing to get up every day and put one foot in front of the other, you, my friend, will not only be practicing and building confidence, but over time you’ll start feeling more confident too.

Xo Mel 

Check out research and other resources at melrobbins.com/podcast).

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

  • 2:00: The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have.
  • 3:50: Honestly, here’s what happens when you have more confidence.
  • 6:00: This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment.
  • 8:30: This is what you and I were getting wrong about confidence. Until now.
  • 8:45: Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research.
  • 13:45: Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success.
  • 14:40: Did you happen to catch my 21-minute panic attack on TEDx?
  • 16:50: Neuroscience says it gets easier to feel confident when you do this.
  • 21:40: Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why.
  • 23:30: Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence.
  • 24:20: Here’s a surprising fact about confidence.
  • 25:55: Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest.
  • 27:00: Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3.
  • 28:10: I’ve loved this TED Talk for years. 
  • 29:00: Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of..
  • 31:25: Confidence does not come before action; THIS does.
  • 31:00: There are two types of people when it comes to action. Which are you?
  • 33:30: Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits.
  • 35:45: Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence.
  • 38:00: Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary.
  • 40:50: I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this.
  • 42:45: If you’re willing to feel this way, you’re guaranteed to keep growing.
  • 44:15: Do you like this person you’re spending your life with?
  • 46:00: Be careful who you give your number one commodity away to.
  • 49:30: Ultimately, here’s why you’re not feeling confident. Now change that.
  • 51:00: This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear.

 

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