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Why Is Adult Friendship So Hard? 5 Lies You Tell Yourself & the Truth You Need to Hear

2022/10/31
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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成年友谊的困难是普遍现象,许多成年人都有类似的感受,例如难以结识新朋友,现有友谊逐渐淡化等。造成这种现象的原因是人们对友谊的几种错误认知,以及成年后生活模式的变化。首先,人们常常错误地认为他人的生活都是派对,而忽略自身生活,导致自我否定和缺乏交友动力。其次,由于‘好感差距’,人们往往低估了自身受欢迎程度,害怕被拒绝而不敢主动与人交往。再次,人们错误地认为友谊应该永恒不变,导致无法接受友谊的自然变化,并对维持不合适的友谊产生怨恨。此外,人们还常常错误地认为自己需要成为所有人的朋友,以及自己太忙而没有时间和精力去维系友谊。为了改变这种现状,人们需要采取积极行动,例如主动创造社交机会,积极参与社交活动,并调整对友谊的认知。具体来说,可以将友谊分为原因型、季节型和终身型三种,并根据自身需求和阶段灵活调整友谊模式。此外,要相信自己值得拥有美好的友谊,并主动与人联系,维护和发展友谊。

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Mel introduces the topic of adult friendship, sharing her personal struggles and the viral response to her social media post about the difficulty of making new friends as an adult.

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A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult.

 

This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about.

 

From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that’s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade?

 

This is something I’ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering…

Where did all my friends go?

 

I know I’m not the only one because when I do see my friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore.

 

Let’s fix that.

 

I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I’m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic.

 

What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can’t wait to share it with you.

 

I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship.

 

These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life.

 

That’s why you need to hear them.

 

So did I.

 

You also need to hear the truth bombs I’m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up.

 

Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again.

 

You’ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends. 

 

And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life.

 

Today it’s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together.

 

So let’s go.

 

Xo Mel