How Your Words Shape Your Reality
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to tips and tricks to make you shift your perspective, to think different, to improve yourself, text me right now, 512-580-9305. Once again, 512-580-9305. Today, I'm gonna be talking about how the thoughts that you think, how the words that you say actually create the reality that you live in now and the reality that you will live in in the future. No matter what language you speak,

Your words are the most powerful or destructive tool that you have for yourself, but also for other people. Words can be very, very powerful. They can build you up. They can build other people up. They can be very powerful in the fact that they can just build, you know, take people down, destroy them and be very destructive. Not just the words that you use as well, but also behind all words is the energy behind words.

the energy that you're using behind your words to yourself, the energy behind the words that you're using to other people, that's what matters the most. Energy carries through your thoughts, through your words, through your actions and creates your reality. You are literally a magician. You see, you speak, you create. And I think too many people don't really understand how powerful of creators they actually are. I think...

that humans are probably about a million times more powerful than we have been thought to believe that we are. And if you go back, there's actually a word, and I've spoken about this before on the podcast, there's actually a word that is abracadabra. And abracadabra, when I was a kid, was like, oh, abracadabra is just the word that magicians say when they pull a rabbit out of a hat. But abracadabra is actually an ancient Hebrew word that means as I speak, I create.

As I speak, I create. As I speak out loud, I'm creating that reality. What is speaking in your head called? Thoughts. So also, as I think, I create. You, whether you realize it or not, whether you want to believe it or not, you manifest with every word that you speak. Manifest literally means to create. So you either create the exact same life that you currently have,

or you create a better one. And so many people take their past and because they want to predict their future, they take their past and they throw it onto their future to try to predict their future. And they're like, well, you know, this is just the way my life is. I was on a call with someone in my group mindset university this week. And the lady said, I know exactly what my future is going to be because it's always the same as my past.

And I said, you, you know what your future is going to be. And she's like, yeah. And I was like, you can tell me with 100% certainty, what's going to happen next Tuesday. And she's like, well, no, not really. And I was like, so can you tell me with 100% certainty, what's going to happen tomorrow?

She's like, no. And I was like, so then you can't predict your future. The thing that you're doing is you're taking an old version of yourself five years, 10 years, 20 years ago, you're throwing it into the future and going, well, this is what I've always been. So that's what I'm always going to be. You're taking old behaviors of the past, making it your identity of who you are. And then thinking that's, you're trying to predict the future. That's who you're going to be in the future.

So how are you thinking? How are you speaking about who you are, about other people, about what you're creating, about what's possible for you? You ever know someone? I have a friend like this. And I used to be this way until I realized like, I need to really change this. But I have a friend and you probably know somebody who just always talks about how poor they are. Like in a funny way, they always make, oh, I'm just so broke. I never have any money. They make all of these broke jokes.

They're going to be poor forever if they don't stop those broke jokes, if they don't stop talking about how poor they are. I have a friend who won't stop talking about it. He's been my friend since high school. We are now almost approaching 40 and he's still broke. And I remember when we were younger, we used to always make these jokes because we both grew up poor and without any money. And then I was like, hey, I need to kind of stop this if I want to be different. Abracadabra, as you speak, then you create.

They will continue to create that life. Anybody will continue to create that life until they change their words. So if you want to change your life, the first thing you need to do is change your thoughts and to change your words. You have to speak. If you want your life to be better, you have to speak above your current circumstances. You have to speak about yourself better than your current circumstances, better than your past. Don't ever identify with something. So often people will come and they'll say, Rob, I have anxiety.

I'm like, don't identify with that. Because if you say I have anxiety or I'm anxious, I'm anxious. That is me placing a label on top of myself. It's like saying, hey, I'm, you know, I'm Rob. Well, then I'm going to think I'm Rob forever because that's what I think I am. Right. If I say I'm anxious, well, then I'm just that's just that's my label. That's just who I am. That's just how I am.

I would switch it to I've had anxiety in the past or I'm getting over my anxiety or I'm getting better with with my anxiety So back when I was 27 years old, I went to a physical therapist and the physical therapist had shoulder issues and hip issues And he's like you should go get an mri So I got an mri and it turned out that I had four torn labrum so I had one in each shoulder and one in each hip and They're like, oh my god, we've never seen this before. We should do surgery and

For years, I listened to people who were wearing white coats and thought there was something wrong with me. And then I ended up going to my uncle who lived in Florida, who's a physical therapist. Like, yeah, people tear labrums all the time. Actually, a lot of people don't have labrum or they have labrum tears and they go through their entire life and have no idea. And so...

Because I was listening to people in white coats, I had thought there was something wrong with me and I stopped working out as much. I started thinking I needed surgery because I went to a surgeon and told me I needed surgery on both of my shoulders and both of my hips. And I was like, man, I shouldn't be this way. I'm only 27 years old. And then one time I was at my friend's house and I was talking to his wife and I was talking about how I literally said it. I go, yeah, I just have shoulder...

And I take a step back and I go, I've had shoulder issues in the past. And she's like, whoa, you just stopped yourself.

in order to change your belief about yourself, didn't you? And I was like, yeah. I started saying to her, I have shoulder issues, which is now me speaking my reality into existence. Like these seem like little teeny tiny things, but this is what really makes a difference in people's identity and what they think is possible for themselves. So I was saying, I have shoulder issues. And in the middle of saying, and I switch it to, I have had shoulder issues. I had shoulder issues.

Because for years, my shoulder issues, my hip issues that I had created a view of myself as if there was some sort of a deficit. And because I thought I was at a deficit, I didn't work out as hard. I didn't do as many sports as I wanted to. I stopped playing intramural basketball, intramural football, all of those things. And we will be right back.

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And now back to the show. So I woke up one day and I was like, I'm not going to listen to anybody else. I'm not going to identify with an injury. I'm going to start speaking differently. And I started saying every time I go to a gym and I would work out every rep, I am strong. I am healed. I am strong. I am healed. I am strong. I am healed. Fast forward 12, 13 years later, I'm probably in the best shape I've ever been with still four torn labrum in my hips and in my shoulders.

People could be like, well, that's just, well, that's kind of cool. That's pretty, pretty neat, I guess. Abracadabra. As I speak, I create. If I think something's wrong with me, I will create my reality where something's wrong with me and I won't take as much action to create myself to be stronger. If I think that I'm strong, if I think that I'm healed, if I say that I'm strong, if I say that I'm healed, I will create that. I mean, if you look at the placebo effect,

More than 33% of all medical healings come because people think that they've been healed when in reality they've been given a sugar pill. People heal themselves with their mind. People also make themselves sick with their mind.

So what are we doing with our mind? How are we speaking? How are we thinking? You've got to be very, very clear as to what you want in your life. You've got to be very, very clear of what you want in your life. And you've got to be very, very diligent to make sure that your words and your thoughts line up with that and nothing less than that. You're a magician. If I ask you to take a word and tell me every single letter of that word, if I say, hey,

Take every single letter of that word and say it out loud. What's that called? It's called spelling, right? You're casting a spell with all of your words. It's not a fluke. That spelling something out is the same thing as casting a spell. You're casting a spell with all of your words. Abracadabra, with your words, you can create and you can build an amazing life, but it's also a double-edged sword. If you're not paying attention, you can destroy yourself,

but also others. One of my favorite books, I think it's like one of the very first self-help books ever is from like the 1920s. It's called As a Man Thinketh. And in the book, he talks about how your mind is like a garden and every thought is like a seed that is planted and you're constantly planting seeds. You're constantly planting seeds. So what are you planting? If you're sitting there and you're planting strawberry seeds, you're going to expect that strawberries are going to grow.

How crazy would it be if I was planting strawberry seeds and then I was watching strawberries grow and I turned to you and I go, I don't understand. Why are there not tomatoes growing? And you'd be like, well, what did you plant? I planted strawberries. I don't understand why tomatoes are not growing. And you're like, well, that guy's got to be insane. Why does he think that he can grow tomatoes from strawberry seeds?

It's the same thing. It's like, how can I think to myself that I'm going to create an amazing life, that I'm going to create positivity in my life, that my life is going to be amazing when I'm negative in myself, when I talk down, when I say I've got these fears, when I've got these limiting beliefs, what I plant and what I water will grow in my life. You cannot have a negative mind and a negative view of yourself and think that magically your life is just going to be fucking unicorns and rainbows. Every word is

And thought is a spell that you're placing onto yourself. You're casting spells on yourself, but also very important for you to understand, you are casting spells onto other people, whether you realize it or not. You are. You have to understand that if a child is told that a fat man in a red suit is going to come down their chimney on December 24th, they think that Santa exists.

If a child is told that a fairy godmother comes in with wings whenever they lose a tooth and takes their tooth from under their pillow and then puts a $10 bill under it, they're going to think the tooth fairy exists. If a child is told that they're stupid every single day, what do you think they're going to think about themselves?

They're going to think they're stupid. If they think that they're stupid and they truly believe it, they will take stupid action or they won't put as much effort forth into creating the life that they want because they're stupid or they're not good enough or they're not smart enough or they're not lovable. What you think you create, what you speak, you create. So if that's the case, so many people out there have children.

What are you saying to your children? What are other people saying to your children? You've got to be very aware because children will believe almost all the time whatever it is that they're told. So we're casting spells on ourself, but we're also casting spells on the people around us. Children, the people that you love, people that you're in a relationship with, employees, coworkers. Why don't we start casting positive spells on other people? Start giving people compliments. Start building people up.

telling them how much we appreciate them, telling them how important they are to us. You're a magician. With every single word that you say, you're creating your reality and you're helping somebody else create their reality. As you speak, you create. As you think, you create. This is also why I don't really follow the news. People are always like, how do you not follow the news? Think about the news and all of the information that's going out there right now and all the stuff they've been trying to make you think for years.

Anything that you watch is also casting spells into your mind. It's like why I don't watch reality TV and why I don't watch murder mysteries and why I don't watch the news is because I want to pay attention to the shit that goes in my head. I'm not letting anybody cast a spell into my own mind that I'm not the bouncer, the door for.

I'll walk out of the room if somebody's watching something that doesn't seem like I want it to come into my subconscious. No way. It's like thinking that you can eat a giant meal of shitty fast food and not have diarrhea later on. It's coming out.

You can't act like it's not going to affect you in some sort of way. You consume that food, it's going to affect you. You consume content throughout your entire day, stuff that you watch on TV, the people that you follow on Instagram and TikTok, the news that you read. You cannot think that you can consume content

You know that if you consume a bunch of trash food, something's going to happen to your body. If you consume a bunch of trash content, something's going to happen to your subconscious. I don't want anybody else to cast a spell on me. There's no way. I'm the one that I want to be in control of it. So I'm very diligent about who I follow, what I pay attention to, and what type of content comes into me, my conscious and my subconscious mind. And once again,

It's your thoughts. It's your words. It's your actions. All of that. But also, once again, it's the energy behind all of that as well. We're all energy. Everything is energy. This entire universe is energy.

So we shift the energy with our thoughts, with our words, with our actions. We shift our energy when we shift the energy of others. We shift the energy of others when we come in in a different energy. You ever just have somebody come through and like, they look like they're okay, but they feel like their energy feels off to you? Pay attention to that.

Now, you can't tell me that if you walk into a room and your energy is off and you've had like a real shit day, but you're trying to act like you're okay, or maybe you've been talking down to yourself, you've been negative yourself all day, and now you walk into the room and at work, you can't act like people don't notice that.

And so it's really about being very particular about trying to be flawless with our words and trying to be flawless with our thoughts. Will we be perfect? Absolutely not. But when I always say you can't control your first thought, but you can always control your second thought. When the first thought comes in and it's not the first thought that you want, immediately replace it with the thing that you do want to think. You're a magician with your thoughts and with your words. And your thoughts and your words will create your reality.

As I speak, I create. Abracadabra. Pay attention to your thoughts. Pay attention to your words because it's casting spells over your entire life. So,

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