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95. The Power of No: How Boundaries Help Us Live More Empowered Lives

2023/6/20
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Vanessa Patrick: 本书的核心观点是，说不并非对别人的拒绝，而是对自身价值观、优先级和偏好的肯定。通过赋能式拒绝，即基于个人身份、价值观、优先级和偏好来表达拒绝，可以有效地避免因说不而产生的负面后果，例如破坏关系或损害声誉。她建议使用肯定性语言（例如“我不...”）来表达拒绝，并结合积极的肢体语言，以增强说服力。此外，她还提出了ART框架（Awareness, Rules not Decisions, Totality of Self），即提升自我认知、制定个人策略以及整合自我，作为掌握赋能式拒绝的三大要素。她强调个人策略与界限的不同，个人策略更侧重于引导行为，而非防御性保护。在面对坚持不懈的请求时，她建议可以使用技术手段（例如邮件）作为缓冲。最后，她还指出，赋能式拒绝同样适用于自我约束，通过肯定性自我对话来抵制诱惑。 Matt Abrahams: 作为访谈主持人，Matt Abrahams 主要通过提问引导 Vanessa Patrick 阐述其观点，并就一些关键概念进行深入探讨，例如赋能式拒绝的具体方法、个人策略的制定和应用、以及如何应对拒绝后的潜在反弹。他还与 Vanessa Patrick 探讨了从战略制定到执行的过渡，以及沟通在其中的作用。

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Introduction to the concept of saying no as empowering, featuring Vanessa Patrick's insights from her book 'The Power of Saying No'.

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Saying no can seem risky. We worry about offending others, damaging relationships, or hurting our own reputation. But as Vanessa Patrick says, no is an empowering word that gives us greater agency in our lives.

Saying no “is not a rejection of the other person,” says Patrick), a professor of Marketing at the University of Houston. Instead, it allows you to set boundaries and “[give] voice to what you believe and what you care about.” In her book, The Power of Saying No, Patrick introduces what she calls “empowered refusal,” a way of saying no that’s rooted in one’s identity, values, priorities, and preferences. “An empowered no,” she says, “is about us, not a rejection of the other person.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Patrick and host Matt Abrahams explore how to use the power of no, how to move from strategy forming to strategy implementation, and how to resist momentary pleasures that distract us from our larger goals.

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