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552: Need To Know Basis

2015/3/28
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Ira Glass
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Josh
著名财务顾问和媒体人物,创立了广受欢迎的“婴儿步骤”财务计划。
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Michael Leviton
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Zoe Chace
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Josh在公园巧遇携带死鸟的大学生,但他没有询问,因为他觉得贸然提问可能会导致不好的结果,体现了在不确定情况下选择不干预的策略。 Michael Leviton从小在极度诚实的家庭环境中长大,成年后发现这种生活方式与社会格格不入,导致人际关系冲突不断。他经历了漫长的适应过程,最终学会了在必要时选择不说实话,以维护人际关系和避免冲突。他总结出诚实并非万能,需要根据情境和对方感受调整沟通方式。 Demetrius在社区大学学习期间,隐瞒了自己在上一所大学的失败经历和经济困境,试图独自解决问题。然而,他的父亲最终发现了真相,并通过强势干预的方式帮助他重回正轨,体现了不同类型的家庭教育和干预方式对个人发展的影响。 Stephanie Foo讲述了她作为家庭宠儿成长的经历,以及成年后发现自己被宠爱的真正原因:家人目睹了她母亲对她的虐待,为了保护她,他们选择对她格外关照。这个故事揭示了谎言和真相背后复杂的人际关系和家庭动态。 Josh在公园观鸟时,遇到一个携带死鸟的大学生,但他没有询问,因为他觉得贸然提问可能会导致不好的结果,体现了在不确定情况下选择不干预的策略。 Michael Leviton从小在极度诚实的家庭环境中长大,成年后发现这种生活方式与社会格格不入,导致人际关系冲突不断。他经历了漫长的适应过程,最终学会了在必要时选择不说实话,以维护人际关系和避免冲突。他总结出诚实并非万能,需要根据情境和对方感受调整沟通方式。 Demetrius在社区大学学习期间,隐瞒了自己在上一所大学的失败经历和经济困境,试图独自解决问题。然而,他的父亲最终发现了真相,并通过强势干预的方式帮助他重回正轨,体现了不同类型的家庭教育和干预方式对个人发展的影响。 Stephanie Foo讲述了她作为家庭宠儿成长的经历,以及成年后发现自己被宠爱的真正原因:家人目睹了她母亲对她的虐待,为了保护她,他们选择对她格外关照。这个故事揭示了谎言和真相背后复杂的人际关系和家庭动态。

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Josh, a birdwatcher, encounters a college student who reveals dead birds he collected, leading Josh to question whether he should have disclosed this information.
  • Josh discovers a college student collecting dead migratory birds, which is illegal.
  • Josh decides not to disclose the incident, fearing potential negative outcomes.
  • The college student claims ignorance about the legality of keeping dead birds.

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Even when you're not trying to get one over on someone, it can be useful to keep the truth to yourself. Or conversely, to not know why people are lying to your face all the time. This week we'll tell you the whole truth about not telling the whole truth. Including the story of a guy who learned to lie for the first time in his life at age 29.

  • Ira talks with a guy in Chicago named Josh who likes to spend time going bird watching. But one day, Josh was out in a park with his binoculars and he discovered something he definitely did not want to know about. (6 minutes)
  • Act One: Michael Leviton was raised in a family who encouraged him and his siblings to tell the truth all the time. They believed it was better to be honest and work things out. Even when it was uncomfortable. But as Michael tells Ira, when he became an adult, he discovered that the world his parents created had its limitations. (19 minutes)
  • Act Two: Producer Zoe Chace tells the story of a community college student named Demetrius who seemed like he was doing exceptionally well in school. But as Zoe followed Demetrius over a semester, she discovered that there were things about his academic past that he had kept a secret. And not just from her. (20 minutes)
  • Act Three: Growing up, producer Stephanie Foo was the favorite child of her family in Malaysia. Particularly of the matriarch of the family who everyone called "Auntie." But as an adult, Stephanie found out the complicated truth about why she was the family favorite. (13 minutes)

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