25: It’s Quite Nice at my Age
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You know what I have to say about that theme song? Yes. Jake, hello. Oliver Raleigh, an old friend of mine, really did a great job with it.

it yes that's a great theme song I love it I do I do and it's also we were just saying that we thought something was coming our way with the theme this week because now we play it live every time and we stare at each other as it's going on to see if there's going to be something but I've never done it I've never de-intro'd you

No, but I haven't either. It's been Dustin. I don't do them. Yeah, I know, but you're... No, I don't. You just don't check the emails. Stop it. That's the facts. Welcome to We're Here to Help, America's number one podcast. Don't look that up. We are very excited. We have a great show today, as we do always. This is a... The first one's a brutal one. The first one is really...

But it's got a fun end. It's a fun end. We were excited for you guys to check it out. There's a lot of yeah, it's a dive into, dare I say, the male ego. But as well as a 20 year old culture. Yeah. Yes. Yes. Something you and I relate strongly to. And the second one is I don't even understand the second problem because it's just it's kind of a feline problem. And I'm.

I don't know. To me, I never really saw the issue with it. But sometimes in the show, there are problems that we have and we kind of work them out with each other, sometimes in the intro. And today's no different, Jake. You little snake. I thought we were about to get out. I was going to without further ado. You've been a bit of this has been a thing you've been doing a lot lately. And on the show, you've brought into the world of the show talking about this kind of relationship between you and my mother.

And and I just don't think it's fair. And so now, unfortunately, Jake, it's time to confront you. Oh, no. So I've actually invited my mother to be on the show. This is humiliating. Well, I just she she and I are both just a little bit furious. Mom, are you there? I'm here. Hello, Mom. We can't see you, but that's OK. Should we do some video, Pam?

Oh, hello, Jake. Can't you see me? No, do you see? I can't see you. And I would love to, Pam. There we are. Righty-ho. Hey! There she is. So, Mom, as you know, welcome to the show, Mom. Thank you. Welcome to the show, Mom.

Thank you. As you know, the reason you're here is to confront Jake for the way he's been. He's just been so rude. Pam, can I jump out before you do? Can I say something to you? Certainly can, yes. Thank you for joining. It's great to see you again. I have not seen you since the pandemic. You look great. You look healthy, and it's wonderful to see you. How are you doing? Stop it.

Oh, I'm doing extremely well. And I hope you are too and all your family. Everybody's doing really great. It's awesome to see. I was really happy to hear that Garfield was living with you for a while. It made him very happy. He was better on the show. Staying with very different terms. Mom, we're confronting Jake. Remember, let's kind of stay on brand. Jake, the way he talks, right? He's very flirty with you.

Oh, I wouldn't call it that. Oh, it's quite nice at my age, really. It's very easy for me to do. Okay, no, we're not turning this into a... No, no, no, this is not becoming its own flirt. That is not... The opposite of the point of the call is this. Would you ever... Pam, would you ever want to come on and give advice with us?

Well, I could try, but I'm not very good at it, Jake. I'm sure you're great at it. Are you kidding me? All right. You know what? You dealt with Gareth your whole life. I'm sure you gave him great advice. Okay. All right. So great to see you, Mom. Not really why we had you on, but...

Great to see you, Pam. I hope you're going to please come with us and do some advice one of these days. It'd be really fun to do it. I will. I will. And I want you to notice that I've got all my lights on, but it looks very dark still. We're starting to get into stuff that's maybe not going to work for an audio format. Not going to work. No, I agree. I think it would work. Of course. Great to see you, Pam. All right. Love you. Could you say without further ado, enjoy the show.

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Hello. Hi there. You sound like you have great energy. Welcome to the podcast. We're here to help. You're on with Jake and Gareth. Can we get your name, your age, and where you're calling from, please? Yes. So I'm actually going to change my name. You'll understand why after you hear the story. I might change mine just so you know, but go ahead. Okay. Okay.

So I'm going to go by Nicole. I'm 24 and I am from a hurricane prone area in the south. Okay. Interesting. Interesting start, Nicole. A lot of mystery, Nicole. Yeah, there's a lot of breadcrumbs to this one, Nicole. Yeah.

OK, well, we're not going to the point of this is not to figure out who you are and where you are. The point of this is to that's a different show. An interesting show, but a different side show, side show where to help could be. I'm just we'll we'll sidebar in that after this. Where to help it's.

Well, where are you? It's a mystery show. Where are you and who are you? Not where to help. Let's sidebar because I really feel like- Nicole, can we ask you a question? Why did you call in today? What can we do for you? Side note, Gareth is genuinely wet on Zoom right now. Damn. Damn. Not wet. Nobody knows why his face is wet. I'm in a hurricane area in the South, buddy. You wouldn't understand, right, Nicole? You and I get it. I get it. All right, Nicole, what's up?

Okay, so here in the South, when hurricanes come, we usually get together and we have hurricane parties. Wow. I went to one of these last week. I know, Gareth, you said you were driving through the hurricane. You had to take some weird route. So while you were doing that, this is happening. Okay. So I go to this party. There's obviously drinks, lots of vodka.

And so me and one of my friends there, we're all friends from like high school. So me and one of my friends sneak off to hook up. And we finished doing that. We come back out. I'm on my phone and I'm laughing at it. And he grabs my phone out of my hands to try to start reading my messages, like see what I'm laughing at.

I am pleading with him to give me the phone back. I'm like grabbing his face, grabbing his body, like jumping on him, trying to get my phone back. But he's obviously bigger than me and stronger than me. So he won that fight. So he starts reading my messages and. Hey, Nicole. Yeah. Nicole, before is your phone available to you? Okay. I'm almost there. Okay, great. And quickly about him as you're getting there. Had you ever hooked up with him before?

No. What's his name? Fake name, Nicole? Doesn't matter? His fake name, let's make it Trey. You said Chris? Sure, Chris. What was the fake name you said? Did you just make up a sound? Did you say Trey? I said Trey.

Trey. Super cool fake name, by the way. We'll go with Trey. I literally thought she made up a sound. I thought you guys said make up a name. I thought you said Bray. It's a bird. It was a bird. Also, just a quick note while you look for that. It's a travesty that at a hurricane party, you're not drinking hurricanes. But I'll, you know, I'm not going to. I'm a bit on the nose now. No, not a bit on the nose. Yeah, I'm a bit on the nose.

It would be nice there. Yeah. If I went to a hurricane party and they got you on a hurricane, I'd be like, fuck off. Well, then just don't come to mind then. Cause as you can see by the moisture upon me, it's closing in.

Okay, Nicole, so why don't you walk us through what he saw? First of all, I think Jake's body language said it all. We do not like the behavior of this person so far, but let's hear what he's reading. Yeah, yeah, agreed. Okay, right? Like, why are you taking my phone? But this is what he wrote. They're crazy.

So I told them, because like my friends know him, so I told them that I had, that I hooked up with him. And my friends were like, oh my God, how was it? We need all the details. So of course I just gave my honest off the rip observation. And what he read was, I'm not trying to be mean, not the best, but it's cool.

sex is fun, you know? And they were like, no, no, no. I need more details. Why wasn't it great? I said, just not a big dick, kind of small and skinny. Hate to be mean. And he read that. Oh my God. Oh, Oh God. Oh, hold on. We got to need, give us a second here. I mean, I was thinking it might be about another guy. Me too. I thought it was going to be something about like, you know, he got panty or he was, yeah,

Oh, Nicole. He's got panties. Not great either, but I didn't think you were going to say his dick is small. Oh, yes. Can you, yeah. Can you just read us the dick scription one more time as I'd like to call it? Yes. So this is exactly what I said. I,

I said, just not a dick, kind of small and skinny. I hate to be mean. Kind of small and skinny. Like a kid trying out for the basketball team who's going to end up handing out towels. Now, Nicole, while you were having sex, was Trey's vibe the vibe of a guy with a small dick that's kind of skinny? Or was he running the show like, I don't know, maybe he's King Kong down there.

He was running the show. Like he had some good motion in the ocean. Okay. So it's just a hurricane. It had some good motion in the ocean. There's just the wave wasn't big enough. Yes. And so I wasn't complaining, but they asked for my honest opinion and I was drunk. So I just did it. And then I was laughing and then he stole my credit. So I got a question, Nicole, this has been in a debate that's been going on for a long time. So for you, size really does matter.

Oh, for me. Yeah. I know some girls, it doesn't matter, but for me, I would say a hundred percent. Really quick. Uh, Nicole, what, what inch length are we talking? Uh, all jokes aside, because I'm doing a project in here. I have a ruler. Oh my God. Jake can be very helpful. I,

I would say like three or four. Three or four inches. Wow. All right. That's going to make a lot of people feel better on this call. A lot of Kevin just got confident. Kevin's smoking a cigarette right now. Our producer was quiet and pasty, and then you said three or four, and he started doing like the big shoulders. Yeah. Murdering Trey. Do you see him pound his chest like an animal? That was strange. I'm a little less sweaty after that news. That's good. So you have sex with Trey at a hurricane party.

He's got a small skinny penis. The sex, you liked having sex with him, but it just wasn't great. He reads your text, uh, obviously gets offended. Uh, what's the question today? Where are we at? Like from a guy's perspective, is there any way that,

we can still be friends and not have it be awkward. We're literally going to a concert together in two weeks and we're like driving there with a bunch of people, but it's just him and I in our seats at the concert. And like, we've been friends for forever. I don't want us to not be friends anymore, but I just feel like. Yeah, that's a big question. Thank you for phrasing an interesting question on this, because if you just said, well, what do I do now? I'd say like, I don't know.

But that's an interesting turn. Can you maintain a friendship with somebody after a situation like this? Gareth, what do you think?

It's not easy. It really isn't. I think, well, okay. So how many friends did you tell this about his skinny noodle penis? It doesn't matter. It's going to spread like wildfire in this group of friends. If she told one of her friends. Do you think it has spread? Not you, Jane. I know it has. I'm answering for her. No, no, no. Nicole. The friends that I told, it was a group message. But it was four girls, and they're not- Four equals 60. Sorry.

I wish it was the same with inches. Those friends don't really cross pollinate a lot, though. Oh, that's interesting. Well, that's good and horrible in a way, because that means maybe you've started four separate fires. Yeah, but in his group, in that extended group you have,

Are these girls going to spread it around to other girls? Is this going to be something that within this group of friends, Trey's going to have to deal with the fact that he had sex at a fucking hurricane party and the girl he did texted everybody. He's got a skinny, small dick. And now the next four years of his life are just kind of a drag. Or is this going to just be in this small group and move on?

Yeah, it's definitely just a small little group and it's not going anywhere. I mean, we don't, it's, it's not going to spread. Okay. That's interesting. So then I've got a question for you. Are you ever going to sleep with them again? Yeah. I mean, I would. Well, there's a way to save the friendship because I'm going to tell you why. If you go, I know what I said. And I hope I didn't offend you as proof that I liked the car that I purchased.

I would like to purchase it again. Now, if you say like, that's a red small was small. His dick was small and shrimpy. And he's like, and then you're like, but it's great. And he goes, well, you want to take it for another test ride? And you're like, not a chance. I barely felt you. Then he's going to go. Your words mean nothing. But if your actions are saying, I'll go around to with you, then he knows what he's got packing in his underpants. But if I do that and he rejects me because he's mad.

Well, then you've already made that. Now it's on him. That's actually great. Dare I call that maybe your best case scenario? Because, look, you've already kind of put the black flag in his sands at this point. So this is a way for him to have some sort of redemption. He can feel like a little bit of a comeback, and it really is no skin off you. Do you want to see him in any way? Do you have any romantic interest? Or were you just thinking of this as kind of a...

You don't marry the small dick, Garth. Not marry. You might take some milk from this cow. You don't bring it home. I'm going to throw up.

Nicole, but that is a good question from Gareth. Would you be interested in dating Trey? No, no. We're just good friends. Okay, but you would be interested in maybe... Another round. Another round. Yeah, maybe. You know, we're going to this concert together. I don't know. We're going to be drinking. I think if you are, you know, if you're open to another round, then...

I would float it out there and see. I mean, in no way do that because you want him to feel better necessarily. But if you're open to that, that's probably a good way to maybe...

make it feel a little bit better for him. I'm actually going to guess. Go ahead, Gareth. Well, I also think, like, you know, you can just fucking apologize, you know, and just be like, whatever. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. No, I did. I did apologize. I've apologized like seven times. Apologizing will make this worse. Oh, my God. All right, you go, Jake. Take the time. But it will. Imagine, Gareth, if you were with a girl and afterwards... Yeah, you don't want to hear about it again. She texted...

It was really fun. I slept with that guy, Gareth Reynolds. And then they go, how was the sex? And they said, well, he's got a small shrimpy dick. And then you, Gareth, go, I know that I have a small shrimpy dick. Jake, stop it. It hurts to hear her say that. And then she said, hey, Gareth, I really apologize for telling everybody that Gareth Reynolds has a small shrimpy penis. Why do you have to keep saying my full name after small and shrimpy penis? Because I'm giving an example to connect it to Nicole.

Because I sort of Nicole, this is the way. Can we go back to Nicole, please? I would love to. But you just said that I have a small shrimpy dick five times and that could easily be a clip for Instagram. Kevin, could you cut the thing that he just said? Just him, not me in it and put that on Instagram. God damn it. That's what I was worried about. Hey, Nicole, I definitely wouldn't do the apology. I think it makes it worse.

Okay. What I would, what I would do if I were you and you were comfortable with it the night of the concert, if you're drinking and it's feeling right, I would try to hook up with him again. And if he rejects you, now you guys are back to being friends. You embarrassed him. He embarrassed you. If you hook up again.

Just imagine if that little lightweight fighter knocks out the heavyweight and he wins. And let's say that little three-incher gets the job done. And maybe there's a lesson here that sometimes it's not the size of the hurricane wave. It's the motion of the ocean. Thank you, Gareth.

Cause maybe there's going to be a win in this on that second time. And you go, I don't know what happened. You text those same girls and you go, what concert are you going to see by the way? Drake. Drake. Interesting. You go, we all saw Drake. It was great. And then I had the best sex of my life with Trey. I mean, listen, I'm down for it. I'll try it. And I'll let you guys know. Will you follow up with us? Yes, please. I'll follow up. All right.

All right. Yeah. We want to hear what happens with this. We wish you the best and we wish Trey the best. Let's be honest. All right. Thank you for a guy's perspective. And I'm a big, me and my girls are all huge. New girl fans. Love Brian, the security guard. Love Nick Miller. So shout out Brian, Nicole. It's so nice to hear that because a lot of times people forget about Brian, but he is a staple of that show. So thank you, Nicole. That's awesome. You're welcome. Thanks for having me guys. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye.

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Hi. Hi there. Who are we talking to? What's your name? My name's Megan with two G's. M-E-G-G-A-N? You got it. Got a little G happy in the name. What's the back story with mom and dad on that spelling of Megan? It's not as exciting as it should be, but my mom really liked to do calligraphy when she was pregnant with me and G's were her favorite.

Amazing. Okay. God bless mom. That's cool. So it was like, it was Molly or Megan. And I'm glad they picked Megan because I know a lot of mean Molly. I think you could use a third G. We'll get into it a little. I think a third G would be fine with me at this point. Let's go for it. I totally agree. I'm ready. What's your age, Megan? And where are you calling from? I'm 42. I'm calling from Virginia. Well, what's going on? We aim to please. What's happening?

Well, I wrote in my email about how I'm 42. I'm almost 43. Pretty happy person. You know, I own my own home, got a good job. But I'm really, really into fostering animals. And I'm just really like animals a lot. So I have two dogs, I have six cats, and then I have a lot of foster kittens, depending on the time of year. So I'm like, have I just sealed the deal of being single for the rest of my life with my like extracurricular activity?

of being obsessed with animals interesting megan i'm relating so hard to this question and then on the one hand i'm like do i care but i don't know i've been single a long time and i'm like well you know i should i should okay so we got two dogs we've got six cats when you say you foster a lot of kittens what's the most you've ever fostered at once what are we talking here

like i think fourth of july weekend of last year was pretty hectic and i maybe had like 15 15 cats holy shit but we're talking i thought two g's was a lot but like we're talking like five i'll have five kittens that are like you know like we're talking like baby baby cat okay so the kittens don't do much they're just sitting in a little box no yeah and like i my house is like

My friends are constantly like, you would not know. Okay, so you have a big house. No, it's not big. I just clean it and it's like, you know, I keep up with it. Okay, so it's not a smelly house. Oh yeah. No, I need you guys to know that it smells good in here. When I went to adopt a rescue dog recently, she was in a foster home and I went to the lady's house

I can't remember if she told me if she had 15 or 20 cats, but it smells like she had 15 or 20 cats. And I was like, is this my future? Well, let me just quick sidebar and tell you something that to me I relate it to because I am a cat owner as well. And I relate it to when I used to smoke when I used to smoke. Well, thank you. When I used to smoke cigarettes, I didn't think what's up.

Well, he doesn't because he's a cat and he can't understand. He's right here. He's waving right now. No, he isn't. Why is he waving? I'm watching a video. There's no, but there is a cat behind me. He's like, take me to her house. Yeah. Well, easy, Megan. Okay, Megan. Slow down, Megan.

When you have a cat, you don't think it smells. But when I moved out of my last apartment, the guy when I was talking about the security deposit, he was like, yeah, and then we'll be able to give you like most of it back. But we're going to take like $400 to get the cat smell out of there. And I was like, cat smell? And I think other people can smell what we maybe can't. But...

Fair. Fair.

Yeah. Well, I kind of think my, my question was like, have I blown it for, uh, you know, any average human being? Like, um, like, like I feel pretty normal, you know, like I've done an adequate amount of therapy. I've got friends, I've got like a full life, but like, you know, on paper. Wow. Yeah. So double G, can I ask you a question? Yeah. When was the last big relationship?

A long time. You're talking a decade? I haven't lived with anybody in over a decade. Okay. And...

Like I've dated, but I also, you know, I just don't like relationships end sooner now because I'm not, not 25. So I'm not going to like, be like, it's fine if he's really mean to me when he's having a bad day. You know, like I'm like, Oh no, I'm not going to date this guy. Yeah, no, it's good. Like, I'm like, Oh no, I'm not going to date this guy because he's mean. Right. So you have standards, you've built a life for yourself. You got a good group. You like your life. You like your financial status and you love your cats, but

You also think maybe there could be love, but am I blowing it with these pets? Kind of. But I'm like, I'm also, I don't know if I'm willing to give up the pet. I don't know if you have to. I don't know if you have to. But one other question, Double G.

If you're really honest with yourself, do you want a potentially a 200 pound animal man to be or a woman to be roaming around that house with you? Are you looking for a partner in crime or are you just wondered if the grass is greener? Because it doesn't sound like you have a lonely life. Yeah, I don't.

I don't. My dream would be to have an out-of-town boyfriend that I get to see a couple times a month. Right. So, Double G, I can jump in here a little bit. Okay. Because I think we asked some questions to get a little bit more backstory, and this is becoming crystal clear to me, Double J. And that is two dogs, six cats. I'm a regular single guy in Virginia. I meet Megan.

I view a 42 year old woman as young. I'm a 45 year old guy. We got a nice thing cooking you and me. We go back to your house. I'm not loving the six cats because I'm, I like cats just fine, but six we're getting there. I'm asking questions. I'm saying, is this lady a little bit wacky? If I go there and there's 15 kittens in a box, six cats and two dongs,

There's a lot of red flags, Double G, because I'm just thinking, where do we go? What does that mean? But I'll tell you, if this is 42, what's 65? Let's say we fall in love with each other and we got a nice thing cooking. And all of a sudden I wake up and I got eight dogs, 42 cats and 100 kittens.

I'm not ready to run a zoo. I don't want a shelter. You're entering a world and you're right on the brink. Now going deep into that world might be great, but I feel like you're right on the line.

I know I probably am. I also feel like you may not be a cat man though. So I, but listen, this is coming. This is going to be a tough one because this is going to be this kind of advice to me as you go to a restaurant and you say to the waiter, what should I get? Whenever someone says that I want to slap him in the face because I go, you have different taste buds. A guy like the Garf man, Gareth 50 cats. He's going to go, can I move in tonight?

A guy like Double J? I'm not doing that. Garfman, go ahead. Here's the only issue. This is what I find problematic about this situation. I think if you've carved out the animal lover life for yourself, that's great. And I think the fact that you're already kind of like,

I'm fulfilled plenty, but there is room for more is good. Your worst case scenario is you're surrounded by, you know, the love of the animals. And again, I think Jake's, I mean, it is a lot of animals. Like I, even I, as an animal lover, I would be like, Oh my God, six is a lot of cats. So, but here's the deal. If, if like, if a man, let's say was obsessed with like sports and

and sports teams and sports players. And, and you went in their house and they had like all their jerseys and like, they were obsessed with all the play. Like I just don't feel like the jerseys aren't alive, Megan. And they don't take shits in boxes in the house. I'm not asking anybody to clean up the boxes. I know, but it's a difference in commitment level. The sports analogy is I get it, but it is like, yeah, like,

Look, I mean, this person will be watching sports, but if they if you're like, hey, let's go out or hey, don't watch sports or hey, just keep it to Sunday. That's awesome. Can I give a connection that might be closer, in my opinion, from sports, Megan? And I want to know what you would think. I do. Yes.

Let's say you met a guy and he said, you know, when I grew up, I was fascinated with the sharper image and I love robotics and little weird toys where you sit down and it massages your back and you go, oh my God, that's so quirky. I'm kind of a cat and dog lady.

and he goes amazing and you go to his house and he has 12 full-size robots and you know they don't really do much they're not like cleaning robots they're just moving through the space but they're a major part of like the living room in the kitchen there's two i want to bang this guy i would say you're gonna think there's a lot of robots my man i

My cat just came in here and she's so offended that you just compared her to a robot. No, you're getting out of it. You understand what I'm saying. It's just a lot of one eye and she is, she's upset. Do you bring up your cat's disability to make Jake feel bad? He didn't know that. So cute. So here's going to be my advice to you on this one. And this is now the real advice.

I think you genuinely sound happy and content with what you're doing. So I wouldn't change a goddamn thing. And if a guy's not into your pets, then he's not the right guy for you because you seem like you love the pets. And there are guys out there and people out there that are going to be just like you. And if you find them great, and if not, you don't need anybody else. He seems like you got a good thing cooking. That's my two cents, Gareth.

All right. That's pretty good. And I'm going to I'm I am on board with all that. But I'm going to say just because you made the call, there's obviously some impulse to, you know, keep that door open. What I would do is I would set up a dating profile on something that's not dog shit, which you're very familiar with.

Um, and I would just put, this is, this is like, you've got food on the boat, but if you get an, if you catch something fantastic and it just says very clearly in the dating app, I have a ton of animals. If that's a problem for you, swipe left. And just that way, you've got a hook in the water just in case. I wouldn't phrase it that way. I would absolutely phrase it right down. Hold on, Jake, write down what I said, because he's going to try to make you forget it.

I have a ton of animals. You either like it or like it or hate it in or out. Yeah. Out. Yeah. Out by the time you're out, then you're out. But then you know that you're not the one for Megan. You're not Megan's one. We're looking for a Roger with two G's to fit into this life. If animals aren't for you, comma, I get it. But then maybe but then maybe swipe left.

Yeah. You don't have to be a fan. But I think we want to I think we also want to give the heads up that there's like a pet store being in the house. So I think you'd be like big animal lover, foster lots of kittens, have a couple of dogs, just a heads up, but excited to meet something like that. So, Megan, we like to call me the cat. Yeah, I actually I had to revisit. I had two outdoor cats.

Interesting. And I love them. I love them. That's interesting. But Megan, in closing, we just like to ask people, what do you think you're going to do? Because this is more about you than us.

I don't know. I guess, I guess maybe I'll, maybe I'll give the dating app to try. You know, it's just not something I've normally done. Cause it seems like a, uh, nightmare situation for a lot of my single friends, but maybe, maybe I will. Maybe I'll just start, maybe I'll just put it out there. So could you do us a favor then Megan, could you try to do the dating app and we're going to have Gareth take the lead here. And could you write something in the app about having the pets and then could you follow up with us and let us know how it went? Yes. All right.

I absolutely will. Thank you so much for this call. We wish you all the best. Thank you, Megan. We're going to buy you a third G. Thank you. You got more Gs than Verizon.

We're Here to Help is hosted by Jake Johnson and Gareth Reynolds. The show is produced and edited by Kevin Bartelt. The theme song is made by Oliver Raleigh, and you can check out all of his work at OliverRaleigh.com. The album artwork is by James Fosdyke. You can find him on Instagram at James underscore Fosdyke. And if you'd like to see me do stand-up on the road, go to GarethReynolds.com. And if you'd like to be on our show, please email us at HelpfulPod at gmail.com.

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