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Dating is not a game, but a process of discovery. Be open, be yourself, and let the journey unfold naturally.

约会不是游戏，而是一个探索的过程。保持开放，做真实的自己，让旅程自然展开。

（8:20 完整英语的访谈｜English Interview starts at 8:20）

How important is having a great conversation in a date? Well, I think it's very important. You know, everybody's different and everybody has different chemistry and different ways. But one of the best ways to build rapport with somebody is through conversation and through asking about them and their life and what they care about. And it's, at least in Western culture, I've heard that generally speaking you should try to ask ask... the conversation split should be 70-30. So you should be asking... you should be talking 30% of the time and your date should be talking 70% of the time. Seriously? There's a law. Well, it's not really a law, but it's... Do you follow that as well? I try to. I mean, if you find yourself talking most of the date, it's probably not going well. Because that means you're mostly just talking about yourself and not really learning about them. So if I find myself in a situation where I feel like I've been doing most of the talking, I try to just start asking them questions to learn more about them.

在约会中进行愉快的交谈有多重要？嗯，我认为这很重要。你知道，每个人都是不同的，每个人都有不同的化学反应和不同的方式。但与某人建立融洽关系的最佳方式之一是通过交谈并询问他们和他们的生活以及他们关心的事情。而且，至少在西方文化中，我听说一般来说你应该试着问问……谈话的比例应该是 70-30。所以你应该问……你应该有 30% 的时间在说话，而你的约会对象应该有 70% 的时间在说话。严重地？有一条法律。嗯，这不是真正的法律，但它是......你也遵守吗？我试着。我的意思是，如果你发现自己在约会的大部分时间里都在说话，那可能进展不顺利。因为这意味着你主要只是在谈论你自己，而不是真正了解他们。因此，如果我发现自己处在一种感觉大部分时间都是我在说话的情况下，我会试着开始向他们提问，以了解更多关于他们的信息。

1.Chemistry 化学反应

2.Rapport 融洽关系

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1497 约会不是一场游戏，而是一个探索自己的过程｜和美国人约会