吃鸡腿还是吃鸡翅，多孩家庭有没有偏爱困境？
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嗨,大家好,欢迎回来做管,嗨,阿兰。嗨,露露,大家好。我可以提出一个题目吗?当然。可能会有点随意,但是…可能是。最近,在中国的很多现实电视节目中,似乎有一个绘画,在那里,你会看到兄弟姐妹,特别是小孩,

OK

所以今天我们就来聊聊 siblings 就是兄弟姐妹 I mean growing upI always kind of fantasized about having a sibling

OK, well, to be honest, I was the younger brother.Yeah, I know.I had an older sister.

我认为整个年轻的兄弟、年轻的妹妹和年轻的妹妹、年轻的兄弟的运动非常非常不同非常非常不同所以,例如,我的妹妹七岁比我年纪大所以,当我成长时,她有点像...

是我妈妈吗?七年是这么大一个区别吗?是的,是一个很大的区别。我猜到当你生下来时,你姐姐已经够老了,已经懂得很多事情。是的。你的父母告诉你姐姐说:这是你弟弟,你现在要照顾他。不像是我父母把我扔掉,然后他们去假期。

但是,这就有点像这样的,所以我父母告诉我老师,好的,这是你的年轻兄弟,你也要看着他。所以,想起来,当我三岁的时候,她十岁,而当我小时候,她已经在二十岁了。

我只有和姊妹的年龄差距,但姊妹的年龄差距也不太大,因为你没有在同一屋子里生活。你知不知道中国有一个说法叫福蒂摩?不,那是什么意思?好,是一个词,它像是伏特莫,但不是。

It literally is 福地 as in you support your brother more as in you're a fanaticSo this is to describe women older sisters that are really doting on their younger brotherto the point that they put everything they want firstso much to the point that they are jeopardizing their own relationships or their own future

well my sister didn't exactly do that but to be honest my sister still dotes on meit doesn't really matter how old i ami'm still her baby brotherand she will always look at me like thatyeah but do you enjoy itis it like oh i like the fact that she's doting on meor more like i'm a grown up now

我懂事,你不必再把我抱起来。我会说我们的关系变得更加平等。但过去我还挺喜欢她的,因为她会做任何事情,如果我问她做什么,她就会做。所以我对这点有点利益。但是你以为阿兰只是一个人只要做的事。

基于我们之前的聊天我知道你也对你妹妹有点不满哦,是的,是的好的,那么现在我们回到主题的主题了英语上有个词叫做姊妹竞争是的,所以这是兄弟姐姐之间的竞争姊妹竞争是兄弟姐姐之间的竞争你认为姊妹肯定是

有某种对比的相互相反

我说,这个就像我小时候的时候,

Obviously it's a very common thing to compare me to other people's kids.In Chinese we say 别人家的孩子,it's like kids from other people's kids are always better.They always better behave,they got better grades,that sort of thing.But if you have a sibling and your sibling is like a straight A student,then you basically have 别人家的孩子 living in your home.Well, yeah.And I would say it really depends on the parents,how they manage it.So for example,

One of the most common complaints is favoritismOh yeahBut parents don't want to admit itbut they do have favoritesI believe every parent has a favoritefor whatever reasonWell yes and noI would say that

如果有很多孩子,他们可能会觉得更亲近一个孩子因为个人性格。例如,如果他们共同的兴趣,或者同样的看法。或者,你知道,可能是当孩子变老了,尤其是在他们变成年轻人后。我觉得,通常他们会认真地想,我们

不知不覺,是離家的孩子但對於他們的孩子,他們經常會遇到的,或是很常見的,就是他們比較會看見,或是比較會看見他們的壞處。我住在中國,我的父母…你應該是你的父母的金色男子。對,但是因為我住在五千多公里遠,所以我應該不會…你不會讓他們很生氣吧?不,真的不太會。

对,另外一个事情,我想也有关生育的问题。我认为,特别是一个家庭有许多孩子,你的父母只有你和你老师,但那些家庭有三个或更多孩子。我听过这整个事情,第一个孩子,父母很沉默,他们

would take all the pictures, the videos, the first step, the first word. Everything's so exciting. But then the second child, they're like, meh.There is an idea of middle child syndrome.Oh, there's an actual thing.Middle child syndrome, what is that?So middle children may feel like they're left out or overlooked.

因为老人家的注意力很大,因为他们是第一,但再来说,他们也需要多多负责任,所以他们需要帮助看着他们的年轻弟弟。但年轻的孩子,传统上是更坏的。

well the baby girl the baby boy of the familyyeah the baby of the family because they'll have their other siblings looking after them the parents would feel more relaxed by probably the third or fourth childso idea that the baby of the family the last child the youngest child

是有点被淹没但是当然这不是总是这样的现在你认为小弟弟是否影响了你个人的性格

我会说是我当时的小时候,我受到很多关注,我现在的关注还挺好,我喜欢当人们对我关注我会做更多的直播那我知道你会说那

我只能说我和孙子聊天我甚至和很多孩子的家庭聊天例如我和父母聊天他们都是从几个孩子的家庭来的但聊天和人家聊天其实

感觉到在一个多孩子的家庭里面长大感觉到感觉到感觉到感觉到感觉到感觉

是的, психologists have always trying to make generalizations.Yeah, because if you think about it, both from real life experiences, I mean, through other people, or from all the books I've read, or movies or TV shows I've watched, or even including reality shows, you kind of notice that in a multiple children household, the oldest, whether it's a man or a woman, the oldest child seems to be

The responsible, the one that is taking care of everything.Maybe sometimes this person can be the oldest sibling, can be a little bit overbearing, can be a bit bossy.

但他们也是最担任的,就像你说的他们也会比较冷静因为他们有必要的而年轻人,通常是年轻人他们也会被担忧,也会变得反对他们也会做一些事,不想太多思考别人的反应,如何影响别人但中小孩似乎是忘记了的

有一个想法是在中间的,然后再玩第二个小玩意,让他们感觉更重要。但我听过中间的孩子也很会在谈判中,因为他们有父母,有老人。谈判中,这很可怜。你什么特别的技巧?我喜欢谈判中,要回头一步。有时候很有用。

对,我记得我说,我想要一个老兄弟。但是我还看到一些朋友有一个女孩的老兄弟。他们的老兄弟总是像个像素的孩子。他们总是为父母而为。他们在父母的脚步中,他们只做他们父母希望他们做的事。

I

我猜你確實有某種點我現在住在中國,而我可以住在中國的原因是因為我有一個太太,她照顧我的父母,也就是我們的父母

她很亲近他们,她在支持他们,她有自己的家庭,但她还在看着我父母。我听说你对她说话,你也感到很感谢你姐姐的感受吧?我对我姐姐感到非常感谢。

我尝试告诉她我可以的事因为这不是很简单的我无法想象自己是一个孙子而面临这种情况的情况你跟我说说吧是的

Yes

所以,在此,我想说谢谢你,丽莎,我爱你,妹妹。哦,那是很可爱的。我会说,你知道,当你再次看到她时,就…

Treat her to something or just, you know, take care of the responsibilities so that your sister can take a day break, take a day off.I will do.All right. And leave us a comment in the comment section.If you have sibling or wanted a sibling like I did, let us know.And also put in your request for whatever topics that you want us to talk about.So until next time.We'll see you next time.Bye.Bye.

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