Xiao Ma faced significant challenges after giving birth, including physical changes, psychological adjustments, and environmental shifts. She struggled with adapting to her new role as a mother, especially since she wasn't particularly fond of children. The demands of breastfeeding, diaper changes, and the loss of personal freedom added to her stress. Additionally, the transition from a couple's world to a family environment with parents involved created further complications, leading to feelings of isolation and depression.
Xiao Ma noticed a significant change in her relationship with her husband after childbirth. Small gestures of affection, like him offering her the first bite of food or holding her hand while walking, ceased. These changes, though seemingly minor, accumulated and contributed to her feelings of neglect and loneliness. The shift in attention from her to their child, while understandable, created a sense of loss and emotional distance in their relationship.
Xiao Ma coped with her postpartum depression by seeking positive feedback and engaging in activities that promoted her well-being, such as yoga and Pilates. She emphasized the importance of self-care and decided to focus on her own health and happiness, setting goals like learning to swim and becoming financially independent. Xiao Ma also found solace in expressing her feelings to friends who provided supportive and understanding responses, which helped her navigate through her emotional struggles.
Xiao Ma realized that her emotional needs were not being fully met in her current relationships, particularly with her husband. She acknowledged that while her husband was responsible and caring, there was a lack of deep emotional connection and understanding. This realization led her to prioritize her own well-being and independence, understanding that she needed to be strong and self-reliant to navigate her life and relationships effectively.
The podcast host related to Xiao Ma's experiences by reflecting on their own journey of personal growth and the challenges of maintaining relationships over time. They shared a sense of understanding and empathy towards Xiao Ma's struggles, recognizing the importance of time, patience, and self-acceptance in overcoming life's hurdles. The host also appreciated the depth of Xiao Ma's storytelling and the emotional honesty she brought to their conversation, which mirrored their own experiences with content creation and personal expression.
发生在无数次沟通都难以触达之后。
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00:09 Intro
PART 01
02:18 「处境」
08:27 凝视深渊
17:27 真正的关于「自己」
PART 02
23:20 时间 - 耐心 - 确定性
24:58 情绪和感受,作为困顿时刻的解题思路和答案。
27:40 彼此间无聊的废话为什么重要?—— 爱欲的延伸。
28:55 解除「刻板印象」才能真正的触达。
30:00 情感是流动的、变化和成长的,接受这一点,是一种松绑。
31:17 终将:爱神再次降临。(“只是爱就完全可以”)
31:33 Outro
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电影《Hors-saison(法国 / 2023)》插曲
《只是爱就完全可以》- 文兆杰 - 专辑:《爱神》/ 2022
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