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Warning you now, if I sound like winded or out of breath in this episode, it's because I'm recording in the van. And if you're watching, you can see that right now. And if you're not watching, just know that since I don't have like the right mic right now, since my thing keeps breaking on me, I have to record with like the little stereo piece and I need as little noise as possible. So if I'm recording in a car, I can't have the air on. And I live in Florida, so it's like...
85 degrees right now and the sun is definitely shining but you know what I'm happy to be here and it's basically like sitting in a sauna and getting a workout but I'm literally just sitting here and talking to you guys and I'm excited for this episode I'm not gonna lie to you I've been avoiding it all day I like did not want to record and that's because I woke up
extremely anxious. I don't really know why I was anxious. There's nothing that I should be super anxious about. Like, I'm pretty caught up on work. I'm ahead of schedule, more ahead of schedule than I normally am. But yet, I was just like...
Like stomach eating anxiousness, you know, where you feel like something's going to go wrong or something bad's about to happen. Like it's a really weird feeling. And my anxiety girls out there, you know what this feels like. And I'm not feeling so much like that anymore, which is really good. But it kind of is what made me have the idea of what today's episode is called anyways, which is moments trying your best.
And also I do want to tell you guys why I am no longer so anxious because I got this package in the mail, right? And I knew it was coming, but I literally...
My mom goes, she comes to my room and she goes, there's a box for you. And I was like, no way. I know what it is. And I opened it and it's literally Converse roller skates, you guys. Like yellow Converse that have roller skates attached to them. And I think I just, I found my new hobby and I'm determined to get really, really good at roller skating. So if you guys see roller skating videos, just get ready because there's definitely going to be a lot of them.
But yeah, that's what put me in a better mood. And also today I tried to not dye my hair, but like I tried to put this hair, temporary hair stuff. Okay, what am I saying? I'm a little delusional as usual, but anyways, the hair dye didn't even work, but I like diffused my hair so that I could make it curly. And I put these little braids in with these little beads, which also made me super excited because I'm going on a trip on Friday and I can't tell you guys about... Oh, actually...
If you're listening, this comes out on Monday, so I can tell you. I'm going to Turks and Caicos this weekend because Gray Bandit is doing a collab with Anna. They designed bikinis together. So if you guys need new bikinis, go shop Gray Bandit because you know I love Anna. You know I love Gray Bandit. And the bikinis are so freaking cute. You'll see them all over my Instagram. Probably not my TikTok because if I posted a bikini, I will get banned.
But anyways, let's just get into the actual podcast. I have a feeling this isn't going to be too long of an episode. I made an outline for it, but as I was writing the outline, I was like, I never even look at these anyways, so what is the point? I don't know. But I'm going to try to go off of it, otherwise I'm going to get very lost because my brain is scrambled today, but I'm doing my best. And that's what today's episode is all about, is moments trying your best, because I'm
Dude, it's hard to try your best sometimes. And if there's one thing I want to start out with, it's literally that your best is going to look different every single day, no matter what. Like, there's going to be days when you can only give 30%, but the goal is for you to give 100% of that 30%. Like, there's days when I will wake up and feel like I can take over the world. Like, I'm up at sunrise, I watch the sunrise, I work out, I make these elaborate meals, and I get so ahead on work, and I...
and productive and I have good energy and high energy and I want to like go for walks and talk to people and like just do stuff and there's other days I'll wake up and I literally feel like I can't do anything. I mean today is a great example of that. Like I tried to wake up at 8 a.m. just because I wanted to go to the gym at 9 and I because I had a lot of things to do today. Like I had to work and I had to record this episode and I had to get ahead on stuff since I'm going out of town but I
After I woke up at 8, I literally fell back asleep until 11. And that's not something that I'm really proud of, but it's something that I used to be super embarrassed about. Like, the fact that I, like, slept in. Like, I always wanted to wake up early because I wanted to be that girl, you know, who has her crap together, who's productive, who watches the sunrise every single day, and...
I would get so upset with myself when I would sleep in. And now there's something I'm learning about myself is that I need sleep. I like to sleep. Like that's a whole mindset shift that I've had recently in the past like few months. I don't really get so upset with myself now when I do need to sleep because what happens is I'll go to bed at 3 a.m. I can't expect myself to just wake up at 6 a.m. And I don't know, I guess what I'm really trying to say with all of that is that
What you see online, like, when you see people or TikToks of people who wake up at, like, 5 a.m., honestly, there probably are a lot of people who do that every single day, and props to them, and there's people who have to get up who, oh, I'm glitching, who have to get up that early every single day for work and stuff like that, and honestly, props to those people, but...
For those of us who don't necessarily have to be up that early, whether it's like college and you don't have class until the afternoon or you're in a weird phase where like you're working in the afternoon or you guys know what I mean. If by chance you do have the opportunity to sleep in, I want you to not get so upset with yourself for sleeping in because what you're going to see on social media is when people wake up early. Like social media is supposed to be a highlight reel.
And another thing I'm beginning to understand is that like that's okay. Like you can't be upset with people for sharing what they're proud of themselves for doing. Like when I see someone who's posting at 6am, like I think an older version of me would have been like, okay, cool, we get it. Like we can't all do that. But I think the version of me that I'm, I am now and I'm continuing to become is like, oh, that is like good for you. That's awesome. That's inspiring. Like,
But it doesn't take away from me. Like, it doesn't make me value myself at any lower of a level, if that makes any sense. Like, I don't know. I'm going to continue to, like...
talk about this in different ways that probably make more sense, but moral of this first point that I'm trying to make is that every day is going to look different for you. And that's okay, and that's normal, and that is nothing that you need to let ruin your day. Another thing that I do while I'm on the topic is now I don't get so upset with myself for waking up late or sleeping in, but I will still get a little bit
like mad that I have less time in the day to do things now. And that's one of the things that I'm really still working on is being able to like shift that mindset after it happens. And I think I'd say today I did a pretty good job of it. Like at first I woke up, I was like, gosh, darn it. Like I didn't work out. I didn't go to the gym. Now I'm not going to have time to go to the gym. But then I chose to look at it as like, you know what?
Maybe God didn't want me to go to the gym today. Like for whatever reason, like maybe I wasn't supposed to work out today. Maybe my body wanted to rest. I mean, I've been going for the past four days. It's not going to kill me to not go for one day. You know, this episode of the moments podcast is sponsored by better help. Quick
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Okay, you guys I literally just had to pause this because my phone overheated and since I'm filming - I had to go take a break So I put it in an ice chest and now it's back to normal But if it overheats again, we're gonna relocate to my room and honestly, I'm not even completely sure where I left off So I think I'm just gonna move on to like the next point and the next thing that I want to talk about but as far as doing your best
Something that I need you to realize is that there's only so much that you have control over.
things are going to happen in life that aren't in control but what you are in control of is your actions your reactions and the things that you're attached to and this is something i want to go into like when i say things you're attached to i mean the things that you're fixating on and what you're consuming and what you're thinking about and this is an example that i kind of thought about and like i've never really thought about it this way before and now that i have it kind of changed the way that i think about a lot of things
If you, for example, if you're hyper fixated on your body and what you look like, then if you eat like some big, juicy, greasy, yummy, delicious meal, you're going to feel like a failure. And that's if you're hyper fixated on what you look like. However, if you're fixated on what your long-term goals are or like what you want to accomplish, I promise you that that big meal you eat isn't going to make you feel like
like any kind of failure and I guess what I'm trying to say with that is one first of all eat the big meal eat the good food okay I there's so much more to you than what you look like and I did a whole episode on like self-love and body positivity because I know it's like such a hard thing um but that's not the point the point is focus on things that like are actually important
And by that I mean, like, not what you look like or not what people think of you, but, like, more so the best version of yourself. Like, what's she going to accomplish? What does she want to do? Like, focus on those goals. If you have the goals of writing a book, focus on writing a book, not...
making an outfit look good on your body, you know? And I just think that this perspective or this shift could change a lot about how we feel and how we think and what we're focusing on and the way that we react to certain situations. Another example is if I'm fixated on what time I wake up in the morning and wanting to wake up earlier than the rest of the world, of course I'm going to be upset with myself for sleeping in. But if I'm focused on
changing the world one day and recording podcast episodes, I'm not going to be so upset that I slept in and it's not going to affect me so much. Does that make sense? I really do hope that that makes a little bit of sense.
I think it does. I'll continue to think about it and eventually I'll be able to make it make more sense. I've noticed that that's something I do in like every episode. I'm like, oh, I hope this makes sense. But I mean, you guys keep listening, I think. So I hope it makes a little bit of sense. Anyways, moving on. I'm reading this book right now called The Untethered Soul. And when I say I'm reading this book, this is another just reality check for you. I started reading this book in July of 2021.
I think I got the book in like March 2021. And I would like to let you know that I am on page 45. So if I'm posting and it looks like I'm reading every day, yeah, I might be reading every day, like a single page. It's just another one of those things where social media is a highlight reel. And something I'm learning again is that if I see someone else posting and reading a book every single day,
that doesn't necessarily mean they're reading 50 pages every single day. And if it, even if it does, like that doesn't affect me, that doesn't matter. That doesn't change the fact that at least I'm trying and I'm reading a page or even if I'm not reading a page, like I'm still doing my best. That's all that we can do. And someone else's best might look different than your best because you're at different phases of your life and you're in different stages and you're on different schedules. And I'll get into that more even later, but
What I'm really trying to say is that while I was reading that book, the other day I was laying out in the sun and I was reading and I was having a good morning. You know, one of those productive mornings where I wasn't anxious about anything? Yeah, that wasn't this morning. But it talks a lot about opening your heart and understanding that things in life are going to happen out of your control. There are...
There is shit that's going to happen, whether you try to avoid it or run from it as much as possible. And that's exactly what it talks about, is how you need to be willing to allow these things to happen. And something that we're super conditioned to do as humans is to build up this wall and to live with fear. And when I was reading this, it was one of those like, oh crap, maybe I'm the problem kind of realizations. Because as I was reading this,
I was like, holy cow, I don't have to feel like this. I'm making myself feel like this. And let me elaborate. As humans, we are conditioned to put up this wall of fear where we will avoid things that make us feel fear or pain or suffering, which is okay to an extent. Like, obviously, I'm not going to touch a hot stove if I know that the stove is going to burn my hand. But
In a bigger picture, in a real life scale, life is going to hand us crap that we're going to have to deal with, especially as we get older, like taxes, having kids, like your car running out of gas on the side of the road, like that stuff's going to happen. And if we're constantly trying to avoid it, it's only going to make matters worse. And it's only going to increase the amount of fear that we live with, if that makes sense.
It makes us more avoidant of experiencing real life. And if we do the opposite, if we allow life to just happen as it's supposed to happen, I've talked about this before, but it teaches us this whole new level of gratitude and understanding of why things happen. It teaches us lessons. It teaches us so much. And eventually, we don't live with so much fear anymore.
We live more with just acceptance and we're conscious and we're able to just go with the flow. And that's one thing that a lot of these self-help books have in common is that they all talk about how
You can't avoid everything. You can't run from all your emotions. Things are going to happen. Like, I think that when I started reading self-help books, I thought they were going to teach me how to avoid all my problems. Instead, they're teaching me how to love all of my problems. And they're teaching me how to accept things as lessons or blessings and not have it be that big of a deal. Like, again, I feel like I get so repetitive in this and I literally say this in every episode, but...
When the van got... When I lost way too much money, I could have chosen to make it a huge deal, put all this negative energy into it, or continue to run from it, but instead I just accepted it. And I learned my lesson. And now as I get older, and I'm growing, and I'm evolving, I know that I'm not going to make the same mistakes again. And I actually also, random, was drafting up posts for the moment's Instagram, and I found this one on Pinterest, and it was like, you have to forgive yourself for...
not knowing how to handle something until you've like had to handle it and obviously it's not how it was worded you guys will see it on my Instagram maybe I'll post it on the day that I post this episode but the only way you're gonna learn your lesson is to make the mistake and being able to forgive yourself is something that we should all work on a little bit more and I mean this goes in in every level I'm not talking like huge mistakes like obviously if you're if you like kill someone maybe don't do that like maybe I wouldn't forgive myself if I ever did that like I
Like, I don't know. You know what? I'm gonna stop talking about this. But just forgive yourself for the little things like sleeping in or skipping a workout or eating a big juicy burrito. Like, first of all, nothing wrong with that. That's not a mistake at all. I just am craving a burrito right now, clearly, because I keep bringing it up. Okay, you guys, I can't even make this up, but my phone overheated again. So now we're recording from my room. If you're watching, you know that. If you're listening, you don't. I am not sure where I left off yet again.
There's a book I want to tell you about and I think I've talked about it in past episodes, but I'm going to tell you guys about the four agreements. First of all, if you haven't read this book, I think it is a book that everybody and their mothers should read. Like literally, I made my mom read it and I don't think she ever finished it, but I'm going to tell you the basis of it. Obviously, still read it because there's so much more that you can take away from it, but obviously it talks about four different agreements and the first one is
is to be impeccable with your word. And when I get to the end of these agreements, you'll understand how it kind of ties into the title of this episode, but being impeccable with your word basically just means to use your word, like use the things that you think and the things that you say to uplift people and inspire people rather than tearing people down or complaining and
just really thinking through everything that you say. Are you acting like someone that you would want to have around you? And when I started thinking about that, it really kind of changed the way that I acted. Not that I ever acted badly, but I wasn't always acting like someone I would want to have around. And this kind of just goes also into put out the energy that you want to receive because that's what you're going to get. That's what's going to be given back to you. When you act as a version of yourself,
I don't know. It's just a good person with good energy. Then you will start to see that those are the people that are going to come into your life. And I just think that that's pretty cool. And I'm not going to go much further into the first agreement or any of them really. I'm just going to give you a little idea of what they are. The second one is don't take anything personally.
A huge thing right here, how people treat you is a projection of themselves. And an example of this is, say you go to a restaurant, right? And they're serving this dish that has pickles in it. If someone's tasting the dish that hates pickles, obviously they're going to hate the dish and they're going to complain about the dish. However, someone goes in and tries the same dish that loves pickles, they're going to love it, right? Everyone's got different tastes.
Everyone wants different people around, acts different around different people, like are struggling with their own insecurities. Like it's just something that's very cool to think about. People treat you based on how they feel about themselves. And when you realize this, you stop taking things so personally. Like I began to understand this when I really chose my career path and at least the career path that I'm on right now.
with social media and taking some time off of college, when I talk to people who are in college or adults who went to college and were successful through getting their degree,
Everyone's like oh, you're crazy. That's stupid. Like why would you do that? Like that's a waste of your life and I used to take it really personally I'd be like, oh my god, maybe they're right like maybe I need to be on a different path Like am I doing everything wrong? But then I talked to people who were successful without getting a college degree or were successful doing a career path that was maybe like out of the norm and they tell me that what I'm doing is awesome and to keep doing it and I
It just goes to show, okay, you can't please everybody. Someone's always going to be mad at you. Someone's always going to hate what you're doing. And that's okay. That is not something that you do have control over, but something that you... No, wait, what was I going to say? That is something that you don't have control over. But something that you do have control over is how you react to that. And when you just let it be, and when you just understand that you don't need to take it personal because it's just a reflection of them, then you see the whole thing differently.
If you're confident in what you're doing and where you are, you have to stop listening to people's opinions. Trust me. Okay, the next one is don't make assumptions.
And this one's important and this is one that I struggle with often. Like say you're in an argument with someone and you haven't discussed why you're arguing. It's just like this weird tension. So you start to assume this story in your mind. Like you make things up in your mind and then you finally talk to the person and they're like, what dude? Like I wasn't even feeling that way. Like I don't know where you got this from.
I do this a lot. I think it's just because I'm an overthinker. I'll, like, think people are mad at me or I'll think that people don't like me because of, like, one little action or one little thing that they say. And I'll be like, oh, no, like, why did I do that? Like, blah, blah, blah, blah. And I know that a lot of people do this. I've seen so many TikToks about it. So it makes me feel very normal. But...
Just don't make assumptions. If you have to ask someone something, just ask them and communicate it. Or if you don't want to communicate it, at least don't think about it and let it go. And the last agreement is to always do your best. And that's where this all kind of ties into this episode.
And it really just kind of talks about how nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves. And it talks about how there's going to be days when you're trying to do these first three agreements and you can't do them. Like you, you're having a hard time not taking things personally and you're making assumptions or you're not being impeccable with your word, but at least you're doing your best and you can always start over and you can always try again. And there's always room for growth and you have to stop being so hard on yourself about these things.
You are young, evolving, growing. You're going to make mistakes. You're going to have to learn lessons and that's okay as long as you're doing your best. If you are confident that you are trying, you're doing enough. And this goes all the way back to that first thing that I said earlier. There's going to be days when you have a hard time getting out of bed and you're only capable of say giving only 5%.
At least you're giving 100% of that 5%. You're still pushing yourself to get out of bed. You're still pushing yourself to go on a walk when you don't really want to, but you also want to. Just keep doing your best. And I know it can be really hard to do your best when something that we're so used to doing is comparing constantly. We compare ourselves to our friends, people we see on social media, people we see in public.
because it's just what we've been conditioned to do and it's not a good thing but it is like the new norm it's it's what we do we're always focusing on what we don't have instead of what we do have and there's a couple cheesy little pinterest quotes that are like on my mind right now and that I wrote down but honestly they help cheesy pinterest code quotes really do make a whole a whole different thought process when it comes to life but think about this one
A sunset is equally as beautiful as a rainbow, but they both look different, don't they? And this challenge just goes to your beauty is not any less beautiful just because someone else is beautiful. If that makes sense. We are the biggest critics of ourselves. And I saw the cutest TikTok audio and it was just something like,
You've been seeing yourself for all of these years. Obviously, you're so much more aware of your flaws, but you've never seen yourself the way that a stranger looks at you. And you don't know how beautiful you look to a stranger. And you don't know how radiant your laugh is or how beautiful your aura is. You don't see these things because you are the biggest critic of yourself. But when other people look at you, they see the way that you laugh. They see the way that your nose scrunches when you get excited or laugh.
The way that you and your best friend giggle over stupid things. They like your jokes. They like who you are. They like the way that your hair dries. It's these kind of things that we don't realize. But there's something really comforting about these thoughts. Just realizing that people see you differently than you see yourself is a beautiful thing. And I just really wanted to throw that out there.
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And another thing, as far as always doing your best, when you pick up a new hobby, for example, you have to start somewhere. Of course, you're not going to be good at it the first time that you do that, but then you see someone who's been doing this for three years, and they're a professional, and they can do tricks. You're not going to compare yourself and wish that you were able to do that right away, you know? You're going to be proud of the journey of getting there, and...
I don't know where I saw this. I think it was on my Explore page one time, but it was don't compare your chapter one to someone else's chapter seven. And I love this because it was just another one of those like comforting things to see like, you know what, you're right. Like I can't be a professional at something right when I started because if that was the case, I wouldn't appreciate it once I was good at it. You know, like we fall apart.
Oh, my book actually talked a lot about this. It said something like the beauty is really in the journey. And we've all heard this before, like the destination isn't that important. But when we really learn and when we really expand the most is when we have the struggles and the hardships. And I just think that's cool. And I think that that helps me compare myself less and more.
I also think that jealousy is something that's so evil. And I used to struggle a lot with it back when I was in middle school. Like, I would always be jealous of what people had and what I didn't have. And what I learned to do back then was to turn that jealousy into inspiration. And I've talked about this also on other episodes. But, like, if you see someone who has something that you want, instead of, like, criticizing them and being like, oh, but they only get to do that because of this...
Or I'm so mad at them because they can do that. Look at it as like, wow, that's so inspiring. Like they can do that. Like I'm going to work on myself so that maybe I could do that one day too. And it just changes a lot. It's just these little shifts in your mindset are what's going to make the difference on the way that you see the world and the way that you feel day to day. It's not something that's going to happen overnight. It's these tiny little shifts and these tiny little reminders that are going to take you to the next level of understanding the world in a different way.
And I don't think I've said this in a while, but your mindset is everything. It is the most powerful tool that you have. And it can change the way that you see everything. Seriously. And the last thing that I'm going to say is that focus so hard on watering your own grass that you don't have time to check and see if your neighbor's is greener than yours is.
Put so much time and effort and energy into growing and evolving yourself that you don't pay attention to other people's. And that's all I've got for this episode. I had to relocate like three times. I had to put my phone in the ice chest twice, but we did it. We recorded. I'm honestly a little bit anxious again, so I think I'm going to go ride my rollerblades around the neighborhood and try to make myself feel a little bit better.
But i'm doing my best and I hope that you're doing your best and if you're listening to this podcast right now You are doing your best you're working on yourself You're evolving yourself and you don't need to be so upset with yourself You're consuming good things and I believe in you and I love you And i'm gonna keep believing in you and i'm gonna keep loving you through it all You're right where you're supposed to be god has you on this path for a reason and You're gonna meet so many new people along this journey that you're on and i'm just very happy for you and proud of you and
That's all I got. So I love you guys, and I will talk to you next Monday after my trip, which I'm so excited to go on and be on, but we will talk soon. Don't forget to download the episodes, listen to the episodes, and, you know, rate them, share them. I don't know. Also, share this episode with someone you love if you think they need it. All right. I love you guys. Thanks for listening to the Moments Podcast. I'll talk to you on Monday. Bye.