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Hello, my beautiful people, and welcome back to the Moments Podcast. It has been such a long week, like the coolest week ever. A week ago, I was laying in bed, basically miserable because I had this stomach bug. And today, I was in Colombia for five days, the past five days, and it was like the most awesome freaking trip of all time. And it kind of gave me the inspiration to do this.

This podcast episode because I've been wanting to use this as a title and talk about this for a while. I just haven't really had the inspiration to do so. But this episode is going to be called moments in perspective or moments about perspective moments changing your perspective. Of course, I haven't gotten that far yet, but

There is so much I want to talk about when it comes to this. And the first time I ever really understood anything about perspective or really thought about what it was or how it was affecting my life or how it was affecting other people's lives was from my teacher.

my sophomore year of high school, who totally changed my life. He's like my favorite person ever. I'm going to give him a shout out in just a second. But I actually made a full outline for this episode. I watched TED Talks. I read articles. I did the whole shebang. So I have a bunch of stuff that I'm going to be reading off of my little notepad and my little paper. And I just want to share it with you because this is one of those things that can absolutely change the direction of your life, the way that you view yourself, the way that you view situations, the way that you view other people, and just...

So many things and before I get into it, I guess I'll catch you guys up on my life Even though I kind of just did I was in Colombia. I went with my family and it was the most

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If you listened to last week's episode and you knew that I had, like, this stomach bug, well, it really hasn't gone away. My stomach doesn't hurt anymore, except at night. It goes into so much pain, and I don't really know what's up. I hate medicine. I hate antibiotics. But Lisette's mom is a nurse practitioner. She's so...

She can prescribe me with stuff and I was talking to her about it. She's like, just try it. If it doesn't hurt, like it's been a week of this issue, we should probably figure it out. And I was like, okay, you know what? You're right. I'll let go of my hate for medicine and try it. So we'll see how that goes. I'm going to pick up my prescription after this. I'm also going to drop off film from Columbia, but...

Also, I'm going to New York City Friday and Saturday with my mom because I have a business meeting, which is so exciting. I'm going to meet with my team, and we're going to be talking about some work moves, some business stuff like merch and a guided journal. It's all in the works. It's all happening. I just have to remind myself to be patient because the best things in life take time. And you guys know, if you've been listening for a while, I've been talking about a guided journal since...

last year at some point probably in like October and it's really just starting to get started so take that as a sign in your life be patient with things eventually they will all come to fruition patience is key it's a huge huge thing to value in your life and to pay attention to in your life because without patience you won't feel reward if that makes any sense I don't know if it does I'm sure I have other episodes where I talk about it even more let's just get into it

perspective is the same as shifting your mindset. It's just a different word for it. It's a different way to think about it. I personally am obsessed with shifting your perspective. My therapist talks to me about it. My old teachers used to talk to me about it. And now I just constantly think about it when I do find myself in like this weird mindset or anything really. And I'll talk to you about how to do that, why it's important as we keep going. But

I think I need to tell you guys this story that originally introduced me to shifting my perspective. And I can't tell it the way that my teacher did. I wish that I could have him on here and tell because I remember sitting in class. It was the first day he ever came into our class because we had a different teacher and then she was pregnant and she had her kids so we had to have a fill-in teacher come in and we were all like, oh great. We loved our teacher so we were bummed. And this guy, Mr. Davis walks in. He's like this young teacher who's

And he tells the story and he tells it with so much like passion. And you know, the teachers who just really get into what they're talking about and what they're teaching. Yeah. Those tend to be the best ones that you learn the most from. So I passed that exam with like an A plus. I remember everything from ACE international history. I know you guys don't have ACE all around the country. So if you don't have ACE, it's basically like AP, but it's only applied in Florida. And I think a couple other states anyways, that literally is so besides the point, but

This teacher comes in on the first day and he starts out by telling us how the Titanic was a miracle for the lobsters. And we're like, what the, like, what is this guy talking about? What, what is he on? Like, this is going to suck. We're not going to learn anything from him. And he proceeds to talk about how the Titanic was a tragedy for so many people for so, so, so many people. And he's like, but the lobsters in the kitchen,

it was a miracle for them they got to survive you know they got to go hang out with their friends and then you just continue to talk about perspective and how it's so important

to our lives. And of course, that kind of just changed the way I saw things. Like from then on out, I even have another friend of mine who I was in high school with. She's still a super close friend of mine. She got perspective tattooed on her side, like on her ribs in cursive, all because of the speech that Mr. Davis taught us. And I don't know, Mr. Davis definitely isn't listening to this, but if he is, he was like one of the reasons I feel like I made it through high school. Like he always just got me through whatever I was going through. I told him everything that happened in my life. And I

Yeah, I think he's doing well. He's still teaching. If you guys go to school in Florida and you have Mr. Davis as your teacher, give him the shout out. Tell him I love him and he's the best. But let's continue. This isn't an episode about Mr. Davis. It's an episode about perspective. Anyways, I constantly am talking about how there are so many things that are in your control. And this is one of them. Obviously, life has shit that happens that is out of your control. But the way you react to things, the way you perceive things, that all is in your control.

Now, specifically, perspective, like the definition of perspective is a particular attitude toward or a way of regarding something, basically just a point of view. Now, when I watched all these TED Talks, one of the first things that I took away from them was that whatever it is that you keep telling yourself about yourself, know that you're listening.

Whether it's destructive or it's productive or it's motivating, inspiring or it's degrading, you're always listening. You are constantly listening to your thoughts. You are constantly listening to the words that you speak and the energy that you put out. And whether you believe that or not, it's true. There's studies done. There's all this stuff. You can choose to be like, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter. Or you can choose to believe that it does. And you can choose to talk to yourself in a way of empowerment, with a way of kindness and the same thing for others.

And when it comes to perspective, I don't only want to talk about how this can affect you personally, but also how it can affect the people around you.

Another thing, this feels like I'm doing a literal presentation in school right now because I'm like reading my notes from my notebook, but another thing that was talked about in one of these TED Talks, and this one is just one that popped up like after I watched the one that I wanted to watch and I kept watching, and it talks about locus of control, which is just a degree to which people believe they have control over the outcomes in their lives. And I think that there's a quiz that you can do online. I haven't looked into that yet, but

There definitely is. And there's two sides of the scale. It's basically just this scale. And if you lean towards the internal side of the scale, you believe that you are in control and that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life and what you do with your life. However, if you're on the external side, you blame a lot more outside factors and you blame other people and you blame yourself.

external things for what happens with your life and what you do with your life. Now, there's a lot of people on either side of the spectrum, but there's also a lot of people somewhere in the middle. And after doing a little bit more research about everything that I was reading, I

I realized that being more internal on the scale is much more powerful and much more beneficial for you. And I encourage all of us to work on being a little bit more internal. Now, an example of someone who's more internal on the scale would be, say, for example, I think they use this one in the TED Talk, you fail an exam.

An internal person, someone who leans more internally on the scale would be like, oh, I failed because I didn't study hard enough and I could have put in more effort to study harder. And someone on the external side of the scale would be like, well, I hated my professor. My professor sucks. I didn't wear my lucky shirt. She graded it badly, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. They would blame every outside factor for why they failed. And now if they take that test again, that person who is focused on internal

would more likely do better on the exam because she or he studied for it. Studied harder because she understood that she was in control of what she would get on this exam. Now, the external person would maybe just wear their lucky shirt and notice that nothing really changes in their grades. And again, there's a bunch of studies done on this. And it's true. It's real. Lean towards being more internal. And the reason why I think that we all need to do that is, one, because...

It allows you to feel more in control of your life. And there is nothing personally that feels as good as feeling in control of my life. When I feel like I have control over what I'm doing, who I'm hanging out with, what I'm spending my time and energy doing, it feels good and it motivates me.

Which leads to the next reason why we all need to be a little bit more internal. It's going to increase your motivation. It's going to help teach you self-discipline. Because when bad things happen to you, you learn your lesson and you don't do it again. And it's just a cycle that helps you grow and evolve. And personally, I've noticed that it allows me to increase my motivation.

Let me figure out how to word this. It allows you to set more goals and bigger goals, and it helps you release the need for comparison. When you're focused on yourself and thinking about how you have control over your own personal life,

You don't need to compare your own personal life to so many other people's lives. And I think I'll get into that more later. Who knows where my brain will go. But allow yourself to believe that you are in control with every little thing in life. Of course, stuff is still going to happen. But you're still...

control for the most part and it's just in my mind so much healthier than blaming other people and other things constantly for why you feel the way that you feel or why bad things are happening to you sometimes you have to be willing to admit that you did something wrong or that you didn't learn your lesson and when you're so external you're never going to believe that you have room to improve and

It also goes in the opposite way, in a good way. If you're internal, when good things happen to you, you will be able to be proud of yourself. You will be able to experience fulfillment and rewardingness versus being external. And this is something that I struggle with. When I accomplish things...

I'm a little bit external because I'm like, oh, well, good. That was supposed to happen. Like, thank gosh that finally happened instead of being like, oh, you know what? I worked really hard for that. I'm so glad that this finally happened for me. And I don't really know if that made sense the way that I said it, but I hope it did because...

Learning about that little locus of control scale was really cool, and I want you guys to all go take the quiz I'm gonna take the quiz after I record this just because now I'm so curious I think I'm more internal, but I think other factors in my life make me external Let me know if you do the test DM me what you got and let's I kind of want to dive deeper into that whole scale but all besides the point

Being internal is something that's taught. So you have the power to teach yourself how to be internal. And you can also help teach other people to be internal.

Especially young people. Again, since it's something that's taught. If you spend a lot of time babysitting or you have younger siblings. This was an example that they used in the TED Talk and I can't really think of another one so I'm going to use it. Say like you have a kid or you're babysitting a kid who does good on a test or something. Instead of being like, oh, you're so smart. It's way more important and beneficial for that kid to hear you're so hardworking because...

Being hardworking is something that they have control over and being smart isn't necessarily something that they have control over. And I think that there's a lot of different ways we can apply that to our own lives. So let's all do that. Let's all work on teaching people how to be a little bit more internal because I think that that is such a huge shift in perspective that we all would benefit from.

Anyways, moving on. I want to share with you guys a few of the ways that I learned that we can shift our perspective.

Because obviously it's easier said than done. You know, we all want to believe that everything happens for a reason and only good things are happening to us. And we want to find the positives of getting a flat tire in the middle of the highway at night, you know, but that's not always so easy. So these are some of the things that I've applied to my own life that just like over the years that I've written down in my notes or things that I've read from articles. But the first one is you've definitely heard this one before. It's so cheesy, but say I get to instead of I have to.

And this one is something that like I will, I will apply to my life for a while and then I'll forget about it. And then all of a sudden I'll catch myself just complaining about stuff again, being like, oh, I have to go drop off film.

But you know what? I get to go drop off film. I get to go drop off film 30 minutes away to get the pictures back from the coolest trip that I ever went on. And when I choose to view it that way, it doesn't feel so much like a chore. It's more something that I'm excited for. And a huge one with school, I have to go to school. I have to do my homework. No, I get to get an education. I get to accomplish like really cool things and learn really cool things. And, um,

When you do that with all the little things in your life, you'll start to notice that you just have a little bit more gratitude towards everything that you do. And I'll say this again, but gratitude is the most important thing and the most...

like valuable thing to apply to your life because when you focus on gratitude all of these other little things just become easier to do because all of a sudden you're thankful for everything that you have you're not comparing everything all the time like you're just a better person when you're grateful and like I don't really mean for that to sound harsh but like if you're not grateful you're not a good person so start being grateful for everything that you have in your life because this is a big one for me

I struggled with gratitude for a while I was always grateful for like things but I wasn't so I don't know how to explain it I don't really know where I'm going with this but when I was in Colombia this really shifted my perspective a lot of times we complain about what we don't have or how like everyone else can go buy a bunch of like Lululemon stuff and you're not allowed like that was one thing for me in high school my mom never let me shop at Lululemon all my friends could have it and I was like that's not fair you suck like blah blah blah and I would always compare that

people had more money than me or that they could do more things than me and I automatically told myself it made them better than me. Now, the perspective shift really, really clicked for me a long time ago, but again recently when I was in Colombia and you just kind of see the way the world is different than the way that we have it now. Like if you're here and you are capable of listening to this on your phone, on your computer, on your iPad, in your car,

You are lucky. We are so much more blessed than we even realize. And I'm sure a lot of people do realize this, but I know just as many don't. We don't often take the time to think about how lucky we are to have what we have. The fact that we have running water and a toilet and a place that we can go to the bathroom. We are blessed. And you don't need the newest, nicest car. You don't need...

All the materialistic things like you don't need the name brands because I promise you there's someone out there. There's so many people out there who would who would do anything for just a sip of water. And when you really start to think about that and you really recognize that.

It just makes you grateful for what you have right now. And honestly, don't really know where I was going with that, but I think it's just an important eye-opener and reminder for all of us to think about sometimes whenever we do catch ourselves complaining or just being a little bit bratty because it happens to all of us, like all of us. And there's nothing wrong with admitting that. Just be willing to notice it and be willing to change the way that you're thinking.

And I'm sure there's going to be other people in your life who aren't going to recognize that. They're going to be like, oh, so you don't have the newest 2023 blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. They're going to be like, that's stupid. You suck. That doesn't matter. They're at a different level than you are. They don't have to recognize everything yet. And it's not your job to make them recognize it.

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But the next one is to change the little things. If you have a problem or you don't really like the way that you feel, find a new food to try. Find a different route to take to work because all of these things are going to start to change the way that you feel in general. You try a new food that you like, you're going to feel joy and it doesn't have to directly relate to what you're trying to change or relate to the problem. But eventually it'll open your mind enough to find solutions for the actual problem.

Having an open mind is the key to this. And the key to having an open mind is by starting to try new things or starting to do things differently. And the next one is using a quote. What I like about it is, and I saw this one online. I feel like you could use a bunch of different quotes, but the way that I, like, what's the word I'm thinking of? Dissected this was basically like when life goes to shit sometimes because it's going to, the goal is to always find one thing at least that you did like about it.

Now, again, it's something that's easier said than done. But if you choose to find one thing that was good that happened in a bad day, you're slowly going to, if you do this over time, recognize that there's more good in your day than you realize. So always find something good.

Even in the bad. And eventually, you'll be finding more good than you will be bad. And it's a long process. It takes time. Like, shifting your perspective, if you do find yourself in a really, really negative state, it's not going to happen overnight. And a lot of the times, you're going to be telling yourself, like, when I'm going through it,

And I have to like force feed myself affirmations. Like it doesn't feel like it's helping anything until all of a sudden a couple of weeks go by and I'm like, wow, I actually feel better. And I actually believe these things. Like it's the placebo effect until it actually works. And yeah,

I just want you guys to remember that and to think about that. And the next one is consider someone else's perspective. Say you're surrounding yourself with a bunch of neat... Not surrounding yourself. Say you encounter... You have like a situation... I'm glitching. A situation with someone that sucks. Like a terrible, mean person. And...

They just completely ruin your day. You could choose to focus on how bad of a person they were or you can maybe think about it in a way like, okay, maybe they had a bad day. Maybe I can show them some sympathy and try to make them feel better. And if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. But I know that that wasn't on me. And I know that the way they feel has nothing to do with me and I don't need to take it personally. I can literally just brush it off my shoulders and move on with my day. Does that make sense?

Think about someone else's perspective before you just like label them as a mean, terrible person. Maybe they had a bad day. And again, honestly, all of these are easier said than done. But they are very important things to think about.

And a lot of us are the kind of people where we feel happiness when we make other people happy. So if you're dealing with a negative person and you can make them smile in any way, it's going to make you happier. And it's going to make you nicer to the next person that you encounter. And it's going to make them nicer to the next person that you encounter. It's just making everyone a little bit nicer. And that's so important. The next one is that you need to allow...

time for yourself to think things through more deeply. And this is a huge factor or a huge thing that I have tried to do in my life. I wouldn't necessarily say I've been successful.

But give yourself time to think before you react. If you're upset with someone or you're angry at a situation, you could choose to react in the moment. And if you do that, you'll realize you react with a lot of anger, a lot of frustration, a lot of resentment. Or you can take time to give yourself space to really evaluate what you're feeling and why you're feeling it. Because a lot of times when we react immediately to anger, we suddenly want to put all the blame on the other person.

And the truth is we have to be willing to admit that sometimes they aren't the only one in the wrong. And this has happened for me in friendships before where I... And it still does. I'm so quick to blame the other person for making me feel a certain way until I really sit within and I really think about how I didn't have to let the way that they acted affect me in the way that it did. And...

I don't have to make myself the victim. Obviously, if it's a person that I still need space from and they're only bringing negative energy into my life, I'm going to take a step away from it. But I'm not just going to immediately react with anger and blame this person for everything. Because again, going back to the one we just talked about, who knows what they're going through. It's usually not personal. It's never really personal. And we don't have to take things personally. But anyways, the point is, react before... No.

think before you react and notice how it makes a difference in your life. I mean, even with like the little things, if I get mad at my siblings, half the time, it's just because I was in a bad mood. They literally didn't do anything wrong. But if I just like let it happen instead of getting mad so quickly, it's easier to just let it go. Um, and some, some other like perspective shifts that I think will change your life that I wrote down, um,

is number one, I kind of just talked about this, is that other people's opinions of you are none of your business at all. Like what people think of you has nothing to do with you. Biggest takeaway I've learned in my life in the past two years is again, take nothing personally. Nothing's personal. Everything is projection. Everyone reacts like they're a mirror. Like you are

Don't even recognize that 99% of the time, if anyone has anything to say about your life or what you're doing, it's just because it's coming from their own insecurity or whatever it is. It's not personal.

Now, recognize that you are the only one that can sustain deep changes in your life. And you are the only one that knows if you're living in alignment with your values and your goals and your dreams and your passion. Therefore, your opinion is the only opinion that should have any effect on you. It is the only one that matters. Other people aren't you. They aren't living your life. They don't know what you're doing. They don't know what you're going through. They don't know crap.

Okay, so their opinion literally doesn't matter. It's your life that you have control of. So don't take shit from people, especially people that don't mean shit to you. And this is one that I struggle with sometimes when it comes to TikTok, honestly.

Because I put my whole life out on the internet, right? You would think it's my whole life. I post a lot of crap on the internet, but obviously there's still things that I keep private. All of the work I do most of the time is behind the scenes. People always have something to say about what I'm doing to every little nitpicky thing. Like I don't even know people will say anything. And sometimes I'll let those comments get to my head. And then I'm like,

You guys don't know crap about my life. Like, I'm not going to let you affect the way that I feel because of a comment that took you two seconds to make that probably came from your own projection. How am I going to let that ruin my whole entire day? You know? Or sometimes even longer than that. Like, my opinion matters, not yours. If I like my hair to look like a messy rat's nest, then I like it, okay? I don't give two craps whether you like it or not. So...

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The next one is, and this kind of affects a lot more than we realize in our life, is actually listen to people. A lot of us think that we have an open mind, but we really don't because when we conversate with people or we have conversations, we are always waiting for our turn to talk or always thinking about what we're going to say next instead of actually listening to people. And it's a really powerful thing. When you listen to people, you can hear someone else's view. You can learn from them. You can learn things.

A lot of us don't want to believe that. A lot of us are naturally a little bit selfish. We're human. We've been trained and conditioned to be the way that we are. So you have room to change the way that you act. And when you talk to people, listen to people. It's going to make conversations better. It's going to make your life better. It's going to make you a more, what's the word? It's just going to make you a better person. And I think that we can all do that. And everyone needs a reminder every once in a while to make sure that you're actually listening to people when you talk to them.

The next one is, and this kind of lines up with that quote that I said right when I started this episode.

But view yourself as empowered. Okay? We rely on a lot of outside validation. And by we, I definitely mean I do too. I think this is just because... I don't really know why I do this, but I do it badly. I will only feel proud of myself and I will only recognize the work that I've put in when other people give me like a boost. They're like, I'm so proud of you or you did so good. And while obviously that doesn't hurt, that is always going to feel good, it's important for us to...

Learn how to do that for ourselves and actually believe it. And this kind of goes back to affirmations and faking it till you make it. Tell yourself you're worthy. Tell yourself you're proud of yourself because if you're not doing that, you're never going to actually feel it. The way that you talk to yourself is the way that you are going to feel. It doesn't matter what anyone else has to say.

Think about it this way: if you are constantly telling yourself you're ugly and everyone else is telling you you're beautiful, you're never going to feel beautiful. And if you're constantly telling yourself you're beautiful and everyone else is telling you you're ugly, you're going to feel beautiful. It's a real thing. Trust me. Your self-worth needs to be recognized by you. And at that point, when you finally recognize your own self-worth and you treat yourself the way that you want to be treated,

then other people will do the same. I didn't even realize this is what I wrote down in Acts, but it is. When you choose to value yourself, other people will value you too. People are going to treat you how you allow them to treat you. And this is so key. This is literally so freaking key to apply to your life.

You cannot take crap from people because if you do and if you allow it to happen and you allow it to affect you, people are going to think that they can keep doing it. When you shut it out immediately, people are going to recognize, okay, that's not something we can do. We're not going to do that. We're not going to treat her that way. I noticed that personally in my life. For a while...

I had a situation where I had some friends who would constantly like rip on me and like just make jokes and I can take a joke. Like, don't get me wrong. I love a nice, funny, offensive joke to my, about me. Like every once in a while I can take it, but I was letting it happen so often. And I was just brushing it off and laughing every time. And I didn't realize how deeply it was affecting me until, well, I was like depressed. And obviously these are all things I probably could have used and applied to my life back when this was happening, but I didn't. Um,

And it wasn't until I stopped taking those kind of comments and being like, don't say that to me. Don't say that about me. I don't like it. I don't appreciate it. That's when people stopped. You got to clearly communicate what you do and don't like because sometimes people don't know any better. And even if it's coming from a place of love and humor and laughter, words have energy. Words are powerful. You don't need that. Okay, get it, got it, good. We're moving on to the next one.

The next one is to forgive. You have to forgive yourself. You have to forgive your past. You have to forgive people in your life. I struggle with this. Don't even mean to do it, but I hold a grudge. I will remember what people said to me. I will remember the way that they made me feel. And while...

That's okay. And I think it is important to remember what people did to you and remember the way that people made you feel. It's also important to recognize that you have to be able to forgive it to move on. And that's not saying you have to go right back to this person if they've hurt you. Obviously not. Stay away from that. But if you don't let go of it, you're not going to heal from it ever. It's a gift. Forgiveness is a gift that we get to give ourselves. So just forgive yourself of your past and all of that stuff.

Because you need to move on. The past is not something that you can change. What you can change and what you can focus on is this moment right here, right now. So continue to do that.

And the next one I want to talk about is narrowing your focus to what actually matters to you. If you're focused on everything, obviously you're going to feel overwhelmed, like constantly all the time because that's the human brain. There's only room for so much. I have a lot of personal experience with this. When I put my focus into everything and to what everyone else is doing and to what's going on around the world and to what my friends are doing and to what I'm doing and what I'm not doing enough of or what I'm doing too much of, I am constantly overwhelmed. It's how I burn myself out. But...

Focusing on only what matters to you and only on your goals and only what's important to you It's gonna ground your perspective to what is the most essential thing in your life and this one's powerful like very very powerful What you focus on is what is going to become your reality? seriously, so make a list of your priorities and

Focus on those you don't need to have every detail figured out and you don't need to pay attention to every detail all the time Because you are never gonna feel content if that's what you're doing. There's only so much time in the day There's only so much room in your brain. You don't need to focus on every little detail all the time You need to focus on what's actually important to you and what is actually going to move you forward on evolving yourself and taking the next step and leveling yourself up got it and

That one's important. If you're going to take away anything from this episode, take that away because...

It's powerful. So, so powerful. And there's a couple of quotes that have honestly just changed my perspective in general and like helped me shift it whenever I need it to be shifted. My personal favorite. It's only a problem if I make it a problem. Like it's literally not that deep. Something really bad could happen to me. I'd be like, okay, well, I could choose to learn a lesson from this or I could just make it a problem and make it everyone's business and rub it in everyone's face that this fell apart for me and get all this sympathy.

Who wants that? Like, who wants that? I literally just stabbed myself on my cactus. Sorry. That was a little buffer. But what was I saying? That kind of hurt. Yeah, you can get all this sympathy if you want it. But, like, what's that going to do? That's not going to benefit you. That's not going to change crap. Like, you're still going to have a problem. Like, just...

find a solution yourself you're capable and then you don't have to tell everyone that you had all those problems or whatever's going on like just get get over it get through it like tough love but it's only a problem if you make it a problem and then the other one I've seen this one on TikTok so many times it's only embarrassing if you're embarrassed and I still struggle with this one because I do get embarrassed very easily but I'm working on telling myself this and just trying to get embarrassed less I guess like I don't know um

But all of these things are things that I want you to think about in your life and just compare, not compare, think about what you have going on in your life and see where you can apply these things or what different phrases, sentences you want to take away from this episode that really are going to help you change your perspective or notice your perspective at least because words are a form of energy and their vibration has such a high impact on the way that we feel about things.

Seriously, we don't have to believe it. You don't have to believe if you don't want to and I think I just talked about this But words have so much energy they are so powerful to you to other people and to just the way that your life feels and to what's happening in your life and I think that it is so important for us not only to focus on the words that we tell ourselves But the words that we tell other people, um, this is just a reminder because we could all use it every once in a while me included

Treat your friends the way that you want to be treated. Remind your friends that you love them. Be grateful for your friends. Be grateful for people in your life who have helped you, who have benefited you, who have made you feel good. Show them the appreciation that they deserve. I think a lot of times we get so caught up once we're close enough with a person to just, like, just...

I don't know. Maybe just not be grateful because it's like the norm of how a friendship works. I don't really know exactly where I'm going with this. But just remember to be thankful for your friends and to be a good person and to be a kind person and to...

say hi to strangers and to compliment people and to be nice to people no matter how bad they are because you never want to let a bad person turn you bad but what you should do is be a good person and make other people good because eventually it all makes us it makes us all a little bit kinder when we're kind a bunch of negative people aren't going to make a very positive place but a bunch of positive people definitely will and that's just something to remember

Now, the last thing that I want to tell you guys before I go is that repetition is the most empowered in the... I'm glitching. Repetition is the most powerful tool to imprint something into our minds and keep it there. This is why affirmations are so important and the media that we consume is so important. Think about it this way. Like, you might not remember one thing that you learned from your biology class four years ago, but you will always remember what two times two is because of how many times you had to repeat it in elementary school.

This goes with affirmations. If you're constantly telling yourself you suck at something, yeah, obviously that's what you're going to believe. I need you guys to be kind to yourself, be kind to your mind, because...

If you continue to repeat it, you will eventually believe it and you will eventually feel it. And it will all be good energy. Energy, energy, energy. That is the biggest takeaway and so is gratitude. I need you to focus on the energy that you are giving to yourself, the way that you are treating yourself and other people, and also focus on gratitude. Make your gratitude list. I've told you guys this so many times before. I need to update mine. Just make a list in your notes of everything you're grateful for.

Every little thing down to like the minor details. Maybe you really like your toilet paper right now. Be grateful for it. And eventually you'll be a lot more grateful for other things in your life. And when you do that, you just get a little bit kinder. I'm serious. All of these things will change your life and will make you a better person. And I'm working on them just as much too. We all have room to become better people and to shift the way that we see things and to change our perspective because it will change our lives.

It will make us feel like we're on the right track, like we're proud of what we're doing and just make us all better. I keep saying that, but it's true. And I think that Columbia really taught me a lot about that. It just made me kind of recognize that I can be a brat sometimes. Like I don't even realize how blessed I am. And yeah, we're all really blessed. So just be grateful. I love you. I think that's all I got in perspective for now.

definitely do many, many, many parts to this, and I would like to one day. So let me know if you want me to talk more about perspective or what from this episode aligned with you and what you want me to talk about next week because I'm glad to do it. I'm going to go drop off my film and then I have to pack for New York because I leave in the morning. And well, if you're listening to this, I'm already home from New York, but I love you guys and I'm grateful for you. And I

You guys mean a lot to me. I mean it. I really, really do. Okay, don't forget to share the podcast with your friends.

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