73: You’re a human being, not a human doing
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Hello, my beautiful people. Long time no talk, or at least I feel like it's been a long time since I've recorded an episode by myself because last week's episode was with my therapist. If you missed that episode, I think that everyone and their mothers and their mothers should go listen to it. It's with my therapist again, my queen, my angel, Dr. Leon, and we talk a lot about body image and

And not just like, oh, you know, work on loving yourself. She kind of goes into detail on why our mind does the things that it does. So it takes a little bit more of a scientific point of view or take, which I think is cool because it helps me understand my thoughts even more because sometimes when they're so unexplainable and I can't seem to turn them off, it's much harder.

But when I can understand why my brain is creating those thoughts, it helps me turn them off. So give it a listen if you want, if you've ever struggled with your body image or your relationship with food, whatever it may be. I think it's something we've all struggled with. Comparison, jealousy, wishing we had something that we don't, plastic surgery, anything along those lines. Go give it a listen, okay?

I think it's a really good one. And I definitely want to do more episodes with my therapist. So if you guys have any other ideas of things I should talk to her about or we should talk in detail about, you know, shoot me a DM. Go to the website and go to the diary entry. You can submit it there. Like, whatever you want, let me know. I have so many freaking life updates. Some life updates I can't tell you anything about. Some life updates I wish that I could just pour my heart out about right now. But...

I don't even know where to start. Let's start with the basics. Today is the launch of Collection 3 and Collection 3's meaning or purpose, if you guys don't know, every collection I do has a purpose. And first collection was all about starting now and taking action like on your dreams and your goals and like not being afraid of what could go wrong and instead looking towards like what could go right and taking a jump and just going for it.

which was super cool. Crazy that that was in August of 2022, I think. I don't know. My days and dates were all kinds of messed up. But collection two is all about passion, which is making sure you prioritize your passion project and you don't get sucked into this trap of doing something that you don't want to do and something that doesn't make you happy because your number one priority should always be keeping yourself happy and making sure you're doing what you love in a world where we're almost forced to do things that we don't love to make money and do all that jazz.

the idea was to just remind you to keep following your passion projects and never give up on your dreams so they all kind of tie together in some way shape or form but

The purpose and the word for collection three is being. And that simply means allowing yourself to appreciate the moment that you're in and getting connected with nature and going outside and prioritizing time for yourself and just prioritizing you in general. And it was huge for me because I spent the beginning of this year away from traveling. I mean, I've still gone on a few trips, but for the most part,

2022 for me was a big travel year and I don't regret anything. I had the time of my life made memories to last a lifetime and I'm so grateful for the opportunity that I got to go so many places and do so many things with so many different people. But ultimately that can make someone burn out. Like I don't have a huge social battery. I was drained by the time the new year came around and I was so excited to just be home and be still, which is odd for me with my ADD brain and my go, go, go personality. And like, I don't know, I call it my squirrel brain.

I was so used to always wanting to be somewhere doing something new. And for me to find enjoyment and happiness and being still was just a huge, like, I don't know, it might sound silly, but like a really big thing for me to overcome. And it just led me to starting all the ideas behind this collection to just take it slow and to just sit down and to just understand that you don't have to be chasing something constantly. And I think the biggest lesson I've learned in the past couple months is that when you're constantly chasing something,

Well, I guess this is a lesson I learned last year, but I understood it this year, if that makes any sense. Like I learned that if you keep chasing something, you are never, ever, ever going to feel fulfilled in any way. Like you are always going to be looking for what's next. Like what accomplishment can I do next? Like what can I, what money can I make? And I don't know.

You're never going to feel satisfied if you don't appreciate all the things that are in front of you. And I'll go more into detail on what this collection means and how I want it to be interpreted and what I want you to take away from it because I am just going to title this episode. I don't know what I'm going to title it. Something along the lines of the collection. But that goes live. I don't know when you're listening to this, but at 3.23 p.m.

Well, if you're not listening to it today, it comes out on March 23rd at 3.23 p.m. Eastern Time. And with these collections, I do a limited inventory because ideally I want them to sell out. I don't want to have to be stressed that I have all this inventory. So we do a limited number of hoodies, a limited number of t-shirts, crewnecks, not crewnecks, long sleeves, t-shirts.

whatever it is I'm selling in the collection. And once it sells out, you will not be able to get it again. I know the last two collections we did like a restock because everything sold out so quick, but this time we increased the numbers a little bit with the idea in the back of our minds that we are not doing a restock. So go shop now if you're listening to this anytime before then.

And after it, if it's still available, which I want to say hopefully it's not because I want it to sell out because it's so freaking cool when that happens. There's nothing that gets me more excited than seeing when you guys tag the Moments podcast or me in your pictures wearing any of the collections. It actually makes me cry every single time. And I'm not an emotional girl like that.

But it's just crazy. Like, it just makes me realize that through all this social media stuff, like, we can be so much more connected than we realize. And I've also seen a couple TikToks lately. I'm getting myself off track. But it's, like, to that sound. And it's a couple where, like, me thinking Lexi Dog is my best friend when really, like, 2 million other people also think the same thing. Like, I just want you to know you are my best friends. Like, each of you individually have made such an impact in my life bigger than you will ever understand. And I...

I don't think of anything that I do as like a number. I don't know how to explain it, but like I think of you guys individually and how grateful I am and lucky to know every single one of you. And when I meet you guys in person, like you make my heart explode. And I don't think I'm ever going to comprehend the fact that I can have these friends online and then just like randomly meet people in the Washington airport or the Baltimore airport, like random freaking places, like in the bathroom at a Taylor Swift concert. I don't know.

It's so cool to me and I'm so lucky to have you all and I'm not going to spend the whole podcast talking about that, but I definitely could. Anyways, the collection is out and it's coming. It's going to be live today and go shop. The next thing I want to talk about is the fact that I'm finally teaching yoga again. Like we're starting small and slow, but we're doing it. I'm hosting a virtual yoga class on March 26th at I believe 6 p.m.

And the tickets for that you can get in my bio. And then also after the yoga class, like I'm going to do this thing called an after party. This is all super new for me. I'm working with this company called Moment, which is so fitting, you know, considering the podcast is Moments and all that jazz. It's like the universe aligning things in ways I didn't know it could. But I'm going to do this after party where I'll be live for I think it's like 10 minutes and you guys can just ask questions and we can talk. And yeah, you can get tickets for that.

With the link in my bio, it's a very beginner yoga class. It's about an hour long. You can do it from wherever you want. You can download the yoga class if you can't do it like right when it goes live. You can save it for seven days and do it at any point. And yeah, I think it's going to be really freaking cool and I'm really excited to be doing something like this. So if you want to go buy a ticket, please do so. And hopefully this is a good start for me to get myself back connected to yoga and get to doing it even more and get comfortable with teaching again.

Huge step out of my comfort zone to film myself teaching. It's just been a long time, but it felt good. And when I get in my zone, it really does come somewhat naturally to me because it is kind of muscle memory and I spent so many years of my life doing it.

But we're back, okay? I'm getting back on my yoga wave because it is single-handedly the thing that changed my life and my mindset. And honestly, I believe is the reason I am the person that I am today. There's no way, shape, or form I'd be doing any of this if it weren't for yoga. So thank you, yoga. And yeah, go check that out. The link is in my bio, on my Instagram, or my TikTok. I think those are the two places. I'll also put the link in the description of this podcast.

If you want. Okay. What do I have next? There's so many things. I was in California for the past week doing... I'm so sorry. This is going to be like probably a 15-minute life update, but there's just so many things I want to tell you and it's so hard to do it through like TikTok and Instagram. It's so much easier when I can just sit here and talk to you guys. But then we'll get into the good stuff. I was in California for the past week with my two best friends, with Meredith and Lissette and my mom, my third best friend or my first, whatever. They're all my best friends equally in my heart. And...

I was shooting for a top secret collection that's coming out in May and I cannot wait to share with you everything from this week. Like it is the coolest freaking stuff. The coolest set. Oh, it's going to be incredible. And I wish I, I have to keep my mouth shut or else I would just sit here and spill everything, but I'm looking forward to it and you should too. And all that being said,

Oh, let me tell you about the Taylor Swift concert really quick because if you remember in the beginning, I probably talked about it on podcast episodes in the past. Like I tried for days and days and days to get tickets. Like I cried when I couldn't get tickets the first time and then the second time.

And I was just an emotional wreck that I wasn't going to be able to see Taylor Swift because I have been a Taylor Swift girl since the day I could walk, since I don't even know when. Like, I wrote essays about her in high school and kind of fell off for a little while, like, just forgot she existed for a second, which sounds horrible, I know. But...

Past couple years, definitely found my girl again. And I wanted to go to this concert so badly, couldn't get tickets, got so angry that I couldn't get tickets, so I just gave up on it. I was like, forget it. I'm over it. Like, I'll see enough of it on TikTok. And then we landed in California last Sunday, and we went out to lunch with my manager. And she was like, oh, I'm going to Taylor Swift tomorrow for opening night or whatever day. And I was like, no way. That's so sick. And then she proceeds to say, oh, you guys should go on Saturday after you finish shooting the thing it is, the top secret mission that you're doing.

I was like, no way we can swing that. Arizona was like a five-hour drive. But then, of course, she got me to thinking. And we all know, you know, I'm very impulsive sometimes. I'm very last minute. So we were in the car driving to just some, I don't even know where we were going. I'm looking at the tickets. I find tickets for such a good price. Obviously, still so expensive. But, you know, I was going to spend the check anyways. And I was like, you know what? I really want to spoil my friends and I want to spoil myself. And I want to do something like this. I want to go crazy.

have fun and celebrate and do something crazy. So I booked the tickets. Um, and I use TickPick. So there's like no service fees on there. This isn't an ad, but I wish it was because I freaking love TickPick. I use it to go like for every event that I ever go to because the no service fees makes such a big difference. Anyways, I booked the tickets. So,

Somehow. I didn't know I could use Apple Pay, and then I thought it was going to need to verify my Apple Pay. It didn't. So all of a sudden, the tickets were booked. And then on Saturday morning, we had to shoot all morning. So we didn't finish shooting. We didn't wrap on the photo shoot until 3 p.m. Note the concert starts at 6.30. We are four and a half to five hours away.

We book it. We get in the car. We are zooming to Arizona. Like no time for nothing. We stop at Jack in the Box, eat a bunch of mini tacos, get a box of high noons at the gas station. Me and Lisette are there like drinking a high noon in the backseat. My mom's driving us. We get there at 730, right? Taylor Swift. So we miss the opening apps. Taylor Swift comes out at 8 p.m.

My mom sees the parking guy and the parking guy's like, dude, I'm so sorry, but this lot is full. You're going to have to get on the highway and you're going to have to drive to our employee lot. And then you're going to have to like Uber back or something. We're like, absolutely no shot that we have time for that. We are not missing Taylor Swift come out. So my mom's like, she's being super nice to the guy. She's like, can we please just try to get in there? Like we have a Jeep, we can park on the curb and he lets us go.

He lets us go into this parking lot that's full and we start moving the fence and this other security guard guy comes up while I'm moving the fence. I'm like, oh no, we're getting in trouble. Like the only reason I was breaking rules like this is because I would do anything for Blondie and I was not going to miss her coming out after everything it took to get there. And he helps me move the fence and I was like, God is good. God is so good today.

So we parked the car in the main lot. We are walking in and we find this random bathroom. There's no one in line. There's no one there. We go pee. We walk in the stadium. The bathroom lines are like wrapped around the building. And we're like, thank God again. Like if we didn't pee when we did, we would not have seen Taylor Swift come out. We get to our seats. Taylor Swift comes on. She performs for like three hours and 10 minutes. And it was the best thing in my whole entire life. Like my inner child,

felt so healed and me and Meredith together screaming Taylor Swift was like the most full circle moment ever because when we were living together in Hawaii we would scream it in the car we would sit there and listen to all the sad songs annotate the lyrics and just like I don't know it was so for lack of better words it was so fucking cool and it was something that I'm going to remember for the rest of my life and it made everything so worth it and yeah

That's my Taylor Swift story. But anyways, after that, the next morning, we had to drive six hours to the LA airport, get on a flight, a red-eye flight, and then land in Florida at like 8 a.m. And it was so draining. It took me a second to get my life back together and regrouped, which is why this episode is coming out on a Thursday instead of Monday because one, I thought I was going to record an episode while I was in California. I don't know when I thought I was going to have the time or the energy for that because I definitely didn't.

And two, because it took me a few days to just recuperate and get my life back on track. And now we're here. And I do feel at peace. And this all leads me into what it is that I actually want to talk about in this week's episode. Which is how to be a human being and less of a human doing. I've had a couple people ask me, like my brother, and just specifically males in my life. They're like, what does that even mean? Well, if you don't know what that means, it simply means...

That society has taught, and I've definitely touched on this before many times, society has taught us that we have to be go, go, go, and do, do, do. And if we're not doing, we're failing. And if we're not chasing the next goal or accomplishment, we're failing at life. And when we're convinced that that's how it's supposed to be for a really long time, it fucks with our mind. I'm sorry for cursing so much in this episode, but this is a heavy topic for me.

It destroyed my mindset at least for a very long time. I mean since I was 13 is when I first got certified to teach yoga and then when I was 15 I was doing pageants and I was constantly chasing a goal with that and I was always just being told that I could do so much but I never really had the energy to do so but I spent so much time trying to find that motivation and that inspiration, um

And just chasing something. And I didn't know what it was. I just always knew there was more and I needed to be doing more or I would never feel successful in my life. And I spent a lot of years feeling like that. And I can't even say I've completely healed from that thought process or that mindset because I haven't. Like I'm still a human living in this society. I'm still always...

wanting to chase my goals and my dreams and I do think that wanting to chase your goals and your dreams is different than feeling like you have to chase your goals and your dreams if that makes any sense right society has just told us keep going keep going keep going or fail um there's no room for breaks there's no room to take time for yourself there's no room for fun and if you're having too much fun you're not succeeding right and that is gonna mess with all of us

So in this past month, or not past month, I guess this past year, the past three months, it's March. Somehow, holy crap, it's March. Anyways, it's been three months of me really prioritizing the opposite of that mindset, right? Like I've been, sorry, I keep saying right. I don't know where I got that from. Actually, I know exactly who I got that from. In Mexico with Victoria Paris, every time I talked to her, she'd always like say right, and I loved it. And I guess it just kind of,

incorporated itself into my vocabulary. Isn't that so cool when you just like realize where you got something from and realize it came from a person and then that person probably got it from a person. Anyways, love how life does that. Back to the point. I've been trying to turn off the mindset that I have to be constantly going.

And it's brought me a lot of peace. Like I've spent a lot more time in my life doing things that are specifically for me that no one else is going to benefit from. So I've been going to yoga. I've been prioritizing my working out, my walking, my phone time, my just going out with my friends and having fun, but without this pressure that I should be doing something else. Another thing that my therapist taught me a long time ago was,

was to, whoa, I don't know if you guys just heard my stomach rumble, but it did. She told me to delete the word should from my vocabulary or at least work on deleting it because when you're constantly saying I should, should, should, should, again, you're never going to feel fulfilled or satisfied or happy with where you're at or okay with the decision that you made.

And instead, I have just been prioritizing the fact that it's okay to have fun. It's okay to be at peace. It's okay to just chill out and have days where I sleep in or I go to bed super late or super early or I take the time to watch a movie like my day.

of this go, go, go mindset has been really heavy on me for so long that I didn't even believe that I had time to sit down and watch a movie or to scroll on TikTok. And anytime it was, I was just killing myself with my thoughts and saying, no, like you don't have time for this. You don't have room for this because I'm,

You're not going to succeed if you watch a movie. And like how stupid does that sound, right? I know it sounds stupid, but I couldn't get it out of my head until recently. So that's really what I'm trying to tell you is that changing this mindset is going to take time and it's going to take training and you're going to have to do it slowly but surely and it doesn't happen overnight. But I just want you to know that it's okay to be, okay? It's okay to...

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We are also women, right? We are on this 28-day cycle where everything is going to be out of whack on certain days. Like our hormones are changing every single day and that's why there's certain days in the month where we have no motivation, no energy to do anything. We just feel like we need to lay down all day.

That's because physically within our body there are changes happening. It's not something that's always in your control and you have to be understanding of that and you have to learn to work with your body and work with your mind and give it grace and compassion and just be. Like I keep going back to that because that's what it is. Like we are human beings. We are here to be. We were put on this earth a long, long time ago to just be human.

animals in a sense to feed ourselves to enjoy our life to relax like that's what we originally were put here to do and you know society does society and we've gotten to a point in life where technology is so advanced i don't even mean to be like so crunchy granola girl when i say all this because i'm not at all i follow the trends of society like i believe in working and making anyways

Our original nature is to be outside, to be outdoors, to talk to the waves and the grass and the trees and the sun. And that's what we were put here to do. And then society came in and gave us technology. It gave us money. It gave us all of these different things. It gave us standards. It gave us expectations. And we all got messed up. And I think that one thing that really helps me go back to being instead of doing is that

getting outside and getting connected with nature. And this is something I touch on so often. And a lot of the things I say on this podcast get repetitive. We know that. But I mean, I don't think it's a bad idea to have these weekly reminders because I'll record these episodes and then I'll go home and I'm like, oh, what did I even talk about? And I'll forget the reminders that I even said. So I don't mind that I repeat it every single week. We need a weekly reminder at least, if not a daily reminder. But I want you to go outside. I want you to

Be a seven-year-old and I want you to use your imagination. I want you to talk to the stars and the sun and the grass and I want you to roll around in the sand and it's almost spring so even if you're in somewhere that's super snowy and cold, it's about that time you can start going outside. I want you to walk in the forest, listen to the wind blow, think with your thoughts, think with your thoughts, that makes no sense, but listen to your thoughts and understand yourself and allow yourself to escape the

All of these expectations and all of these goals for at least a few minutes every day. Start with a few minutes and eventually turn it into an hour or two hours. We have the time. We just don't create the time. And I say that from such a place of personal experience. I have spent so long and I still do saying no, like I don't have the time for this. I don't have time in my schedule for anything. I'm already so busy and stressed and overwhelmed.

And I sit back and realize I'm already so busy, stressed, and overwhelmed because that is the schedule and the life that I've created for myself. And there is room.

There is room. Instead of taking that hour at night that I go on TikTok, I could turn my phone off and I could read a book. Or I could turn my phone off, I could go to bed early and wake up an hour earlier. And when I wake up, I could go outside, I could go to the sunrise. And that's obviously, you guys know the biggest thing that I've changed in my life this year is trying to go watch the sunrise at any given moment that I can. And I haven't had it for the past week and a half. And it's definitely felt really different and weird. I will say that.

And like lately, since I was on California time change, it's been so I've been sleeping in the past couple of days, but since I'm being, and I'm not doing, I am shifting the mindset that I need to wake up early. And I'm just telling myself, well, your body clearly needed to catch up on rest. And when it's ready to get back into the schedule of waking up for sunrise, it will without a doubt. And just being able to make that shift has changed so, so much for me. And another example, because examples help me understand things better is I

Let's talk about this past week, for example. I was in California and I was working the whole week on one specific project. And in my life, I like to have a couple different projects going. It's just how I've always been and I believe how I always will be. But since I was only dedicated to this one specific project, I think a past version of myself would have been so frustrated and angry that I wasn't working out, taking care of my body, paying attention to what goes into my body. I wasn't

staying up to date on the podcast. I wasn't posting multiple TikToks every day, which I know sounds so, so, so silly. Okay. But when it is my job, it is something that I think about it and something that's important to me. And I know that I don't need to explain myself. I know that you guys get it, but I still sound silly in my own brain when I say, anyways, I wasn't posting TikToks. I wasn't posting on Instagram. I wasn't

prioritizing content. I was just prioritizing the project that I was there to focus on and it was the most incredible experience. But that being said, past me would still be so angry at myself and so mad that I wasn't up to every single detail of everything. And I was anyways, I'm getting I'm getting off track. I got distracted. I was looking in the mirror and I have this big anyways, Lexi girl, chill out for a second. Let me regroup my thoughts.

What I chose to focus on instead this week, this is the root of everything, is mindset shifts. We can change every single detail of our life by shifting the way that we think about things, perceive things, and view things, and I will take that to the grave. It simply starts in your mind. It starts in the way that you perceive the world. And without realizing it, we do have the power to focus on different things, and I know that it's hard, and it's one of those fake it till you make it kind of things, but eventually...

Your mindset will shift completely and you won't have to think about these other things. Like I think right now I'm in that medium zone where I still struggled with knowing all these things that I wasn't doing and paying attention to all the things I wasn't doing. But I also was appreciative of all of the things I was doing. So I'm kind of in the middle, but I'm working on getting myself to a point in life where I'm only focusing on the things to appreciate and not so much what I didn't do or what I couldn't do.

But instead this week, I focused on the fact that I was doing something so out of my comfort zone and I was giving myself all the credit in the world for doing that because I know how huge it was for me. And I was choosing to appreciate the fact that I was lost in the mountains with my best friends and I was spending money on experiences that are going to last me a lifetime. And that's another thing. Like I...

When it comes to spending money on that Taylor Swift concert, I don't like spending money. I, in the past, have had a problem with spending money. Like, I just spend what I make because, I don't know, I don't like to think about money and I believe you have to spend money to make money besides the point.

The point is that the new year I made it a resolution to prioritize my wants versus my needs or my needs versus my wants. And I know that Taylor Swift concert wasn't a need necessarily, but I chose to focus on the fact that I spent that money to create a core memory that I am definitely, definitely going to tell my kids about. And that also helped heal me from the inside out. Like my inner child was beaming through me and I just feel that little kid energy still shining through me

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It's so cool that this collection is coming out now after all of these recent realizations because I think that when I first started designing the collection, I started understanding the difference between being and doing.

But I wasn't applying it to my life, if that makes any sense. And now I'm about at that point where I am applying it. And it's just as the collection is launching, which I just think is super cool. Universe doing its thing. Once again, everything aligns when it's supposed to, how it's supposed to. And I also have learned from this whole being instead of doing thing that I feel...

almost more inspired than I ever did when I was doing, you know, and we're constantly chasing these dreams and goals and passions. I noticed, and I don't know if this is just a personal thing, but that I would create dreams that weren't really my dreams or my passions. I would just do it because I knew it would work and I knew it would deem me as successful or valuable or accomplished. And they weren't true goals and they weren't true passions. And

When I take more time to be with myself and the people that I really care about in my life, I have such a better understanding of the things that I actually love and the things that I actually want to do. And I feel more inspired to do those things. And I know that if I am doing what I love and what I'm genuinely passionate about, it will work out. And I will end up exactly where I'm supposed to be doing exactly what I'm supposed to be doing. And that's just how the universe works and how God works when you just allow yourself to trust.

And to be. And I don't know how many times I've said being and doing in this whole episode, but it is the most important thing that 2023 has taught me. And I think that we all need to apply it to our lives even more because it has just made such a change in my mental health. And don't get me wrong, there are still days where I am struggling and I feel extremely overwhelmed and I get irritated and agitated, but I'm becoming aware of

Of why those thoughts happen for me and i'm finding ways to shift them For another example yesterday. I was in traffic for an hour and a half. I was already on a time crunch for the day I just had things to do after this little trip not trip this place I had to go to air and I had to run And I was in traffic for an hour and a half for a drive That was only supposed to be 40 minutes and past me would be really really really angry about that and irritated and just like antsy and anxious and and stressed out and

But I told myself, you know, God is saving me from something. He is putting me here for a reason. I can listen to Taylor Swift for longer and I'm just going to do my best to enjoy this traffic. And it sounds so silly and so cringy and cliche, but like those are the little things that are going to simply change your life. If I would have spent an hour and a half being angry, that energy would have carried with me throughout the whole day because that's at least how it goes for me.

But I didn't allow it to. Oh, and also yesterday, the errand that I was running, guys, I was meeting a puppy. There's this dog. Her name is Mamacita. Well, that's what they're calling her. I'm going to change her name. But she's a pit bull that they found on the streets and she's black and white and she looks like a cow and she's the most

adorable well behaved dog that I've ever ever ever met and I've been going back and forth with getting a dog for probably a few months now like six months and I travel a lot so that was like my main reservation with it I was like I can't do that I'm not I don't have enough you know

Time at home to really take care of this dog. But then my parents kind of got on board and they want to be babysitters. So we'll see. Like I'm still, there's still so many things I need to evaluate. But rescuing pit bulls is something my family first did like eight years ago. We rescued our first pit bull and he changed our lives. And I mean like completely subliminal.

saved our family. It's a whole conversation for another day, but we owe this dog like our lives and he, he changed our lives and losing that dog was like the hardest grief I've ever had to go through. Um, which sounds crazy, but even harder than when I've lost family members, I cried that I lost this dog for,

And our rescue now is like a reincarnation of him. And it's so beautiful and cool to see. And I'm not going to sit here and get deep about rescuing pit bulls. But I will remind you to adopt, don't chop. Because there's so many dogs out there that, you know, need homes. And have just been left and abandoned or abused and...

You know, all these puppies that they sell come from puppy mills, which is like so horrible. Puppy mills are disgusting and they don't care about the dogs. They just force them to have sex and make puppies. And then they sell the puppies for thousands of dollars and completely abuse their parents. You know, a conversation for another day.

I actually do want to do a whole episode on that because there's so much about rescuing dogs that goes unnoticed or untalked about that's super important to me. And like, for example, our shelter, the shelter that I volunteer at just got in 41 puppies from a puppy mill and I can't wait to go meet them. But,

They came in today, so let you know how they are. And I'll post pictures, obviously. Besides all the point, I don't even know where I started that or how I got into that. Oh, yesterday with the traffic. And she's an angel, so we'll keep you updated if I end up with a dog. Just know that's how it happened. And we'll see. We'll see. So many more life updates to tell you about that I just can't tell you about yet. Yeah, just focus on...

appreciating where you are now and enjoying all the little bits of your life even the hardships and the shitty days and just enjoy okay where you are at this point in your life is a point in your life you're never going to get to relive I don't want you to waste this lifetime

thinking about what the future holds. The future is already planned out for us, whether we realize it or not, and every single thing that happens to us is happening for a reason, even when it feels so unexplainable and you can't understand it. And even if it is something that's so drastic... Lissette always yells at me for the way that I say drastic. Drastic. I have a speech impediment when it comes to saying that word. Anyways, just want you to know that even if it is something crazy and it really feels like there is no reason...

You have the power to create a reason for it and create meaning behind it. And like I've said before, and like my therapist always says, 90% of your life is how you make meaning of it. The other 10% is what actually happens. Sometimes life is shit and you have to dig really deep to find the positives in what it is that's going on. And...

When you start with the smaller things, another example, I had to take a shower in Palm Springs before I had to do a shoot, a photo shoot. I had to shave everything, right? I had to wash my hair. I had to wash on my face. I had to do the eight-girl shower. I get in the shower. I start shampooing my hair. The water goes freezing cold. Not just cold. I mean freezing cold, and I still had to finish the whole shower, and I think, you know, a past version of me would have just been pissed. I would have been angry.

But when you start with small things like that, I shifted the mindset to, oh, I just got to take like an ice bath. That's actually really good for you and it's really good for, you know, your heart health and your brain health and yada, yada, yada. I made meaning of something silly like that. When you start making meaning of the silly things like that, you'll start making meaning of the more important things in your life and the bigger things. So...

Just focus on that and prioritize that and just remember that you are a human being and it is okay to relax. It is okay to go take a walk in nature to turn your phone off and I know that these are hard things to do but you deserve to just be at peace, okay? And you deserve to understand that it's all going to work out and as long as you are doing what you love and what makes you happy and, you know, finding a way to make an income from those things, like, you're going to be just fine.

And I believe in you and I support you and I trust you and I know that God has a plan for you or the universe has a plan for you or whatever higher power it is that you believe in has a plan for you specifically. And you just have to trust that and your life will be abundant. And I can promise you that. So I love you. I'm going to end this episode here, but I'm so grateful for you guys always. Don't forget to shop the collection and buy a ticket to come to our yoga moment if you want. Again, links in my bio and yeah,

I love you guys wholeheartedly. I couldn't do any of this without you and I'll talk to you soon. Talk to you next Monday. Also let me know what you guys want me to talk about on the podcast because happy to talk about anything. I love you. Bye.