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Hello my best friends, welcome back to the moments podcast. It is the day after I recorded the last advice session we did which came out last Monday and I recognize little old me takes 50 million years to just you know Give one tiny little piece of advice that I could probably probably condense down into one minute of speaking It takes me 13
I like it though. It's thorough. You know, for my girls who need a thorough explanation and thorough reasoning in every little detail explained, it's great for them. I feel like the one minute...
Brief version, this is probably not the place to be, but you could stick around if you want. I realized we should do another little advice session. Not that my advice is valuable to everyone, not that it works for everybody, not that it applies to everyone. Every single one of us has a different life, a million different situations, but I do strongly believe there's something to learn from everyone and that
Maybe that's something I have to say you can apply to your life, you know, maybe not maybe so Let's see. I asked my instagram story things you wanted advice on from a 23 year old girl and there was a Overwhelming amount of things a lot of the same things a lot of the same questions, which is always a comforting reminder I wish I could share every single one of these with you But since they're not anonymous, it would be hard to do like if I just posted a screen recording uh
Here comes the yawning. I swear, guys, I'm not even tired when I record these episodes. It's just something. You do it to me. You just make me feel... You know you yawn when you're, like, peaceful and you're comforted and you feel safe? So, you guys are just my safe place. That's the excuse we're going to rock and roll with. But, what was I saying? I couldn't post all the answers without showing everybody's names, but so many of us are going through...
These same exact things. And we live in all different parts of the world. I promise you, we're all ages apart. We're five years apart, ten years apart. And living completely different lives. We could be having anxiety about a boy. One of those people who left that comment could be 12 years old, dealing with their first crush. And another person could be having the same kind of anxiety at 50, going through a divorce. Right?
We have so many ways that we are tied together emotionally, so many more than we realize. And I just always love to think about that.
Because it brings me a lot of comfort. And as we know, the main goal of this podcast, the main thing I want you to take away from it every time you listen, is that you are never alone in the things that you feel, the things that you go through, the emotions you struggle with. We're all in it together. In completely different lives, we're still facing all the same feelings. So let's just go ahead and get down to it. I want to do...
an entire episode because there's so many questions about relationships and situationships and all of that jazz. So I think next week's episode is going to be titled something along the lines of what the F is a situationship because it's a confusing dating world out there. And I really, really have strong opinions when it comes to
our relationships and how we let people treat us and how we treat other people and what love is supposed to look like and feel like and I do feel very passionately about those conversations and that is one thing I do feel confident in the advice that I give out on.
Was that a sentence? I'm not exactly sure. I'm also fighting a cold. I'm not sure if I said that yesterday, but it's only gotten worse. One of those where you wake up and you don't think you're going to make it out of bed and you go to bed and you're like dreading trying to fall asleep. Yeah, it's like that, but it's a good week to have it. I'm home. I'm on my grind. At least I'm not traveling because that would not be ideal. Let's get to the point. Lexi, shut up. Four minutes of ramble, ramble, ramble. Here we go.
First one is all about body confidence. There's two different things. They were very repetitive in our little advice boxes. How to be confident in your own body and how to not let food control your life. So one thing I kind of realized, and this is going to get a little bit vulnerable on a way that I'd like to do a whole episode about it, but it's very important to share because for me, this was kind of a very eye-opening experience that I didn't intend on having because
Since about the new year, I have not worked out once. Like genuinely, I've maybe gone on a couple of walks. I've done a couple of hikes when I travel. But previously, before that, it was very important to me to go to the gym. I revolved most of my days around walking.
when I would be able to be work when I would be able to go to the gym to do a workout to even go for a walk I was trying to train for a half marathon and mind you all of this was for the right reasons my intention around working out has almost always been to feel good at least that's what I've said to myself that's what I've told myself but I do think that
that deep down, like many of us, there were parts of me where subconsciously I was working out to look good, you know, to look a certain way, to look slim, to look tone, to look whatever it is society was making me feel was beautiful. And...
I was like I was on my grind. It worked out a lot and I I loved it. I truly enjoyed it I wasn't working out and hating it. That is Never something that I allowed myself to do But I forced myself to go to the gym once in a while because I was just lacking the motivation Yeah, but I also did a decent job At listening to my body and I wasn't gonna work out when I was exhausted just because I wanted to wake up lighter You know, I'm really grateful for that but
I noticed that once this new year came around, life got really busy. You guys know I've been in a million places at once. My head is spiraling in the best possible way. Then again, if you've been listening to this podcast long enough, English, long enough, you know, it always is. It's just how I function, how I roll.
But because of that, working out kind of went on the back burner. It was not something that was a priority for me. I accidentally went like a week without working out and I was looking in the mirror and I felt kind of the same. I felt like, huh, it's not the end of the world. It's not the end of the world. My body didn't completely change or do a 180 because I haven't been to the gym in a week. And then one week kind of turned into two weeks and two into three and
Three into four. And interestingly enough, I couldn't explain the science to you behind it, but I've actually never felt better. And in some way, not working out for a month has completely, I don't want to say completely because I'm still a human and I still want to feel good in outfits and I want to look good and I want to get some abs and be able to feel strong. This is all true. Not that it's important. I know that my body and the way that it looks is the least important thing about me.
I'm very, very sure of that. But I still want to feel good. You know, everybody wants to feel good and confident. And I want to take care of my body. But I have never felt better. And I have not touched a weight. I have not been to the gym. I have not gone for a run in nearly two months.
Just think it's fascinating because it is also healed my relationship with food in a way that I didn't I didn't know I needed to heal my relationship with food like I thought and I did I've had a very healthy relationship with food for all of my life. I'm a foodie. I love it I eat whatever I want, but I still try to make sure I'm Incorporating good things, you know more of an add things into my diet before I take things away from my diet but I
When I wasn't working out, I wasn't really thinking about what I was eating as much. I wasn't thinking about protein shakes or smoothies or grilled chicken nuggets instead of fried chicken nuggets. I was just eating. Literally just eating. No pressure. No thoughts. And I haven't had second thoughts about it. Like, I think a way to explain it is in the past, if I would...
working out consistently and then I had ice cream in the middle of the day or even at night and I had like a lot of it in my head I would think that my workout was a waste it was a wash it was like why did I do that but without that workout that thought didn't go through my brain and suddenly I have a much better relationship with food and it's also kind of helped that I haven't had much of a kitchen to cook in for the past few weeks now I've been forced to eat out and eat junk and
I eat at my parents' house and my parents don't eat healthy. And yes, I can eat out and eat quote unquote healthy, but it's very expensive to do that. I'd much rather get a McDonald's full meal for under $10 versus an acai bowl that cost me $25 plus tip, you know? So I've been trying to do that and I'm like, damn, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. I don't feel that different. I don't feel horrible. I don't have to hate myself just because I didn't
perfectly follow all of these fake rules and standards that I'm putting in my brain. The world doesn't end because I eat some junk food. The world doesn't end because I'm not working out. It keeps going and I can prioritize other things in my life. And it was just very cool that it took me really taking a step back and really taking a step away to heal from something I didn't even know was hurting me.
Now that's not to say I don't want to Dip my toes back into working out. I do I want to get strong again Like there's still parts of me that are like, hmm Wish I could do a handstand push-up or a pull-up and I want to start, you know Once I have a kitchen start eating healthier foods again and cooking again Sorry, if you guys can hear that very loud car driving by again, we're still Working on no mics just sitting in the living room On the floor chatting with y'all. It's it's real in here. I'm telling you um
the heck was i saying it's crazy it's it's still it's still going to be something that i incorporate back in as healthy foods and going to the gym but maybe and just maybe this is not everybody's situation of course you can heal your relationship with your body and with your workout schedule and with the things that you eat by just stepping away from it for a week and see how it makes you feel it might not be the end of the world you might just feel better than you did before
And listen, I know that advice might not apply to everybody, but it was very, very cool for me to watch that happen. And just some other advice when it comes to loving your body. And this is probably the most important thing that I want you to take away from this. And I need to take away from this too. Remember, not the best at practicing what I preach, but I always preach what I know I need to practice in every aspect of our life, but especially our self-love and our body image.
comparison is the thief of joy she will always be the thief of joy there is always going to be it doesn't matter who you are i'm sorry but it doesn't somebody everybody wants what they can't have
Okay, you might absolutely hate your body or your boobs. You might hate your boobs for whatever reason. You have no boobs, you hate them. You're mad about it. There's somebody out there with crazy boobs who wishes they had nothing to deal with. They wish they didn't have back pain. They wish they didn't have to be objectified by men all the time. Like you always want what you can't have.
And if you sit here and constantly compare what people have and you don't, you are never going to be satisfied and you are never going to be happy with who you are and the way that you were created. One of a kind, by the man above, by whoever it is you want to believe in it. But also, you are a collection of all of the people who came before you. And this is one of my favorite ways to think about it and one of my favorite reminders of
I am beautiful because I came from my great-grandma, my great-great-grandma, and great-great-great-great-great. Like this goes all the way back, all the way back. I came from someone and there is a part of history living inside of me that I get to carry on to my kids, to my future. And that is one thing that stops me from wanting to fall into the trap of changing my body because it seems the internet tells me to do so.
It is very very easy to get distracted and to get carried away and like think about it There are still things that I do that I never would have done had I not seen it on the internet I got a lip flip which is where they put a little bit of Botox in your lip just so that when you smile your lip doesn't go away and it doesn't show my gums and Had I not known about that. I never would have touched it I never would have even thought that my gums showing in my smile is something to be insecure about but I
I blame the internet for doing that to me. And now, I love my lip flip and it does make me feel beautiful. And I haven't had it in a while and I was kind of going back and forth if I should get it or not. I still haven't decided. So, I will continue to preach that we need to love ourselves, but I know that it's hard in a world. Trust me, I know that it is hard. But that's because we are constantly comparing. We have to just...
Learn to love ourselves learn to love our flaws learn to love the things that make us us because we are one of a kind and there's somebody out there who is going to Love and respect every single part of you even the parts of you that you yourself haven't learned to love that was one of the things that I was so afraid to get into a relationship because of and it pushed me back from I think so many things that could have been in the past grateful now because that was God's plan, but I
I was really afraid to show somebody the parts of myself that I didn't even love and I knew that in a relationship I would have to if this was a long-term relationship and it turns out those fears were for nothing because there is somebody who's going to love you and help you love yourself and that's not saying like go to somebody to fill the holes that you need to fill in your heart or fill those parts with somebody else's validation but
It is really cool. It's comforting to know that that person out there exists who is going to love you at your worst and love you at your best and love you everywhere in between with respect. And it's powerful. But last note on that, okay, your body is a gift. It does so much more for you than you will ever even recognize. And I know you've heard it before, but you deserve to love your body. And you deserve to fuel it with good things. And you deserve...
You should not deprive yourself of what it needs, of what it wants. Eat ice cream, eat mac and cheese, eat for the soul. And like I said before, add in good things. Add in some protein and some greens and some vegetables when you can. But the less pressure you put on it, I swear to you, I swear to you, the better you will feel. It is proven, proven by me with no expertise except experience. So seriously,
Less pressure makes a world of a difference. And also remember, we do not compare. Remember, remember, remember. Comparison, what is she? What is she? She is the thief of joy in every aspect of your life, but especially with our bodies. And the reason I'm so heavy on that is because I know what it feels like.
I know what it feels like to compare yourself, especially to people on the internet, to people in school, to people we go to parties with. When you have to be in a bikini around everybody, I get it. Like, I'm not going to sit here and be like, yeah, no, I've never compared myself. I've never felt da-da-da-da-da. I've always been a self-confident queen. That would be a lie. I am a human. I was in high school once. I was in college once. And I still just went on this brand trip to Costa Rica. And I was like...
My god, that's what they look like. It's never goes away really, but we do have to gain that awareness and that that realization that We're all meant to look different and we are all beautiful in our own damn way and and it's incredible Just know yourself. Okay, love yourself one step at a time another thing I like is to Remember that there is nobody else like me there is
There's so many times where I want to look like everybody else or fit in with everybody else because I think that, you know, that's a category that you can be in. But the truth about it is there is no everybody else. All of us are. There's no one that is one another. There's people that can look the same. They can act the same. There's two completely different people. And no matter how much you change about yourself, you will never be the
Someone else does that make any sense? I'm just gonna shut up on this topic and we're gonna move on but I just I hope that you were able to take something away from that and
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I think that when it comes to working out, well, as of now, not sure what advice I can give here, but what I would have said when I was moving my body more and had the time to do so, just move your body as it feels good. Maybe that's walking. I love to encourage people to try new things. Like I tried Pilates before I took my workout hiatus. I was going to train for a marathon. I tried running. I did yoga. I did weightlifting. Like just walking.
Play around. There's no part of you that has to be consistent in your workouts. Like, you can just keep trying new things. And that's one thing that was fun for me. If I do something for too long, you guys know my ADHD brain. I'm sick of it. I'm done with it. I'm moving on to something new. I'm trying something new. And that's my workout advice. Okay, I'm scrolling. I'm scrolling. I'm reading more things. Advice I'd give to my 18-year-old self. It's crazy how...
Much different my brain works than it did when I was 18, you know 18. I was a senior in high school I was going to college my priorities were to Make money get drunk and have a good freaking time. Now. I know that's not everybody's life at 18, but as a Florida girl, that's what it was. That's what most of our mindsets were. That's what we thought about and It's crazy to think about the worries that I had when I was 18 my worries were
How good my butt looked in my going out jeans. Or if my jeans were long enough to wear with what pair of booties. If my shirts, like, made my boobs look good. If I looked... If I looked... If I looked good. If my makeup looked good in the club lighting. If the boys were gonna like me. If I was gonna kiss anyone. If I was gonna get in without having to tip the bouncer. If my fake ID was gonna work. And, like, this isn't supposed to be bad advice. I don't want to encourage any... If you're 18 and you don't have a fake ID, please, keep it that way. Like, I would never...
want to encourage somebody to join that side of life. But if you are someone who's there, like we all were at one point and it is what it is. It's fun. It's college. But that's what my thoughts were based around. And my thoughts were if I was going to pass this class so that I could go to this party or whatever it may be, if I could finish my homework, that way I could go to Sunday Funday and
The things you think about in life are going to change a lot from the time that you're 18 to the time that you're 23. No matter, you know, what kind of college student or non-college student you are. What you think about is going to change in five years. And it's going to change dramatically each and every year. So my advice to her would just be to keep enjoying it. To have the fun. To let those be my thoughts and my worries and my fears because...
Not that it gets bad, not that it gets scary, but it gets different. Like now my fears are if my washing machine is going to fit in the laundry room or if I ordered the wrong size or if we're going to be able to install the cooktop because we have the electrical lines going in the right spot or I don't know. Those are just two things on the top of my mind right now.
But the things you think about are going to change. And I think that my advice to any version of my younger self really is to just enjoy where you're at. And I know that 27-year-old me is going to look back at 23-year-old me having these worries and tell her to just enjoy them and appreciate them because life is moving, changing, and it's going quickly. And if we could just soak in each and every moment, that's probably the way that we should do it. So let 18 be fun. Let 18 be fun.
Worryless you don't need to worry and know exactly what you're gonna do and who you're gonna be because damn We're never gonna figure it out. My mom says this and I've reiterated it on many episodes of moments She's 45 and she's still figuring it out every day. Okay, like we got time find something you love and
And do it when you can but don't put all the pressure on yourself to take over the world Because as long as you're doing what you love and you have good intentions in the way that you live You are probably already changing the world That's not to say don't have goals and don't have dreams at 18, but it is to say give yourself a break You're a kid. You're supposed to be a kid. I'm a kid. You're a kid. We're 40 and we're still kids We're just gonna keep figuring it out. Okay, and that's that's what I would say Okay
How to save money for trips I want to go on. So I used to have a piggy bank. I am in a really blessed position right now to travel the way that I do. But growing up, it was not like this. My family barely went on one trip a year. And it was a lot of the times just a road trip somewhere we could drive. We couldn't afford to fly. We would get in a hotel room and all of us, all five of us would squeeze and some of us would have to sleep on the floor. Like we would always fight for who got the floor bed. Half the time we made my dad go in there. But
I kept a piggy bank when I first went to high school and to college I babysat all the time college. I was working five different jobs. I Worked in a catering job. I nannied for multiple families and I had an internship and I can never remember the other thing that I did I think I just nannied for a bunch of families but all of that money I would get so excited because I paid partially most of my rent in college and I
I'd Florida prepaid so I didn't have to pay for my classes, which I'm super lucky, but I paid to go out. I paid for all my drinks. I paid for all my food. I paid for all my groceries, but I still kept a piggy bank because I knew deep down that I wanted to travel and I wanted to see the world. So I would take a percentage, never like an exact percentage of what I made, but I would put it into a physical piggy bank. I kept a jar of cash and I saved up like $3,000 in there. And at that time, like in my life,
That was a crazy amount of money and I was so proud of myself. And honestly, it still is. $3,000 is a lot of money. It doesn't matter how you put it, where you put it. So that's my tip. If you're working a job, take a chunk of that and save it for something. You don't even have to know what the trip is going to be, but just save it. I'm big on saving my money less now. I need to get better at it because I don't know. I could just get much better at it. But moving on.
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Yes, it was really scary. This kind of goes back to my 18-year-old self. I technically dropped out of college when I was 20, basically 20. And I'm telling you, the amount of changes that you're going to go through mentally from the age of 18 to 23 is crazy, crazy. There's about a million different lives you live in just those four years or three or five, however many years I said. But when I first left college, it was really scary for me because one, I was like,
Social media still to this day is very frowned upon especially by the older generation and I could see why it's a risky job It's not reliable. I could lose all this in 0.2 seconds I could someone could like make something up about me and I could never ever recover from it even if it was a total lie, so there's that factor and There's also the factor that people are like it's not sustainable. It's not gonna last you forever. Okay, and
I'll figure it out. It's my plan. But when I left college and people were like, you're not going to get a degree. I'm like, okay, maybe I'm not going to get a degree, but I'm never going to stop learning. I've always been passionate about learning, and I'm always going to be. But there was a lot of don't do that, don't do that from the older generation, and to them I just had to say F it.
And I'm also not encouraging anybody to drop out of college. Like, if you're in college and you can do your school, I really do encourage you to get that degree. Just because why not? It's more knowledge. Knowledge is power, and it's beautiful. But for me, school was difficult. It was really difficult. My ADHD is really bad. And...
It was too hard for me. Like, I really did try my best and I couldn't do it, so I had to leave. But I got a whole lot of shit for it. And to this day, like, people will still say, oh, so you don't have a degree. I'm like, it's 2024. You could do anything. You could be anything. And half the time, you don't need a degree. It's not like I'm going to go become a neurologist or an orthopedic surgeon or a dentist. You know, whatever I do, I likely...
Can learn through experience you get what i'm saying? So it was scary but it was worth it because now i'm here and we've built this community and I have plans to do Really incredible things for the future and i'm not So worried about it anymore That's not to say one day I don't want to go back and get my degree because I would love to I just need to figure out how the heck to do school first the next one I like this one. I'm going to make it quick. I feel like i'll never meet a man who loves jesus How do I stay positive so I don't talk too much about faith on the podcast just because
I don't know. I don't. I would love to do another episode on it. But I didn't even realize I was looking for a man who loved Jesus when I found Gabe. And he pulled me so much closer to God than I kind of realized I needed. And I'm forever grateful for that from him. He's just the most...
passionate, loving, and kind human being in the whole wide world. And I didn't really know that about him when we first rekindled our friendship. He barely knew that about himself. Like when we first reconnected, it was when he was rebuilding that relationship with his religion and with Jesus. So it was really cool to kind of do that together. But my point to this, my advice for this, is that you just got to wait for the right person because he will come. And anybody who doesn't want to
Join you or makes you feel bad about your relationship with your faith or how strongly your faith is is kind of a red flag and you should probably just Healthily respectfully take a step back and that's not your person if you feel very strongly about something and somebody Diminishes it or devalues it just walk away. It's very simple Because you're not gonna be able to change those people and if you change yourself for them it's not gonna last because then you lose yourself and
And your relationship with yourself is what? Always the most important. Sorry, I was checking how much time we've been talking. Moving on. We're moving on. I'm scrolling. I'm scrolling. How to overcome overthinking. Girl, I'm working on it. I was never much of an overthinker at all, really, in most aspects of my life. Like, I definitely would think about things, but not to the extent that I do now. I'm not sure where this overthinking came from. Maybe the internet. Maybe people commenting on my life. Maybe...
Who knows? But if you are now an overthinker like me, my reminder that I like to give myself is that why am I making shit up? Half the time when I'm overthinking things, I am just sitting there making things up. Oh, Leia's barking. Leia, who's here? I'm going to pause you guys really quick. Okay, I guess that nobody's here. But when I'm overthinking, I'm quite literally just going through situations and I'm making up scenarios and I'm putting...
Things I'm making let's use an example like my friend or Gabe. Okay, if I'm overthinking something that Gabe said I'm like me I'm making this guy a bad guy just because my own thoughts which makes me the judgmental person like that just makes me I have no way to further explain it That's just the way that I get rid of my overthinking thoughts. I just remind myself that I'm making why am I wasting my life? Making things up. What is the actual situation happening?
What are the actual things on the table right now? Why am I going to pick up all these extra things and put them on the table that's already cluttered enough? Simple as that. That's how we're going to do it. And of course, I'm still working on it every day. If I could give you better advice, I would. But moving on. Okay, we're scrolling and we're scrolling. We're scrolling. How to not be scared of growing up. I'm still scared of growing up every day, but I'm learning slowly.
One thing that's helped me with my fear of growing up is getting to know my parents better. Because once you get to know your parents, or just people older than you in general, when you can build a relationship with people older than you and you can have real conversations with them that aren't about getting your homework done or going to bed on time or being back before curfew, you learn that your parents are just older versions of you.
You learn that they're actually humans figuring it out and that really they might be 25 years older than you, but they're not like in their heart and in their thoughts. They're the same as us. And for some reason that brings me so much more comfort than I thought it ever would have. Just knowing my parents are human too and that you don't lose all the life inside you the older that you get. And the second that you stop enjoying your life and being young, I think is the day you age a million years. And, um,
That's why for me, it's always so important that I don't really care how old I am. I don't really care if people call me immature for being a goofball once in a while. I don't want to grow up. I don't want to get boring. I don't want to be mature if that's what it is. I'm very mature. I'm emotionally intelligent. I can have confrontation and I can talk to people. I'm mature in that sense. But if I want to go dance in the rain, I'm going to do it and people are going to make fun of me for it and they're going to call it childish and they're going to
I don't know, say a bunch of whack stuff for enjoying life. Those are the people we run from, right? We run from the people who can't appreciate the little things in life and be young about it and be naive and curious and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. I don't even know where I was going with that, how we got to this topic. She's starting to ramble. But moral of the story is to help
be less afraid of the future to help yourself be less afraid of growing up get to know people older than you even elders like your grandparents have more conversations with people older than you and it will bring you a whole lot of comfort in growing up every once in a while it'll freak you out a bit yes but for the most part i think it's going to help you a lot okay again i feel like i only answered two things two things i
Another one that I saw a few times is how to be genuinely happy with your appearance. Can I speak? No. Your appearance. And I think this is kind of similar to what we talked about in the beginning. But one more thing I want to mention is fake it till you make it. I made a goal with myself from when I went on this trip to Costa Rica. I was with a bunch of other influencers and like these girls were confident.
with reason. Every single one of the girls that I was with is hot and sexy. And I am someone who gets really anxious when even my mom has to take pictures of me. Like, I don't want to post up. I don't want to get into it. You know, I want to be all, oh, no, don't take a picture of me. I look bad. Like, girl, shut up. Work it. Okay. So I watched them all do that. And I was so inspired and so empowered that I made it my goal
I'm going to go home and I'm going to be confident in my own skin because I am, I deserve to be okay. I'm not going to be beautiful to everybody. I could be the hottest peach on the tree. People don't like peaches. You know what I'm saying? So you got to own it. You got to own yourself. You got to just look in the mirror and fake it till you make it because you are hot and you are worthy and you deserve to just feel empowered and embody all of the confidence that you possibly can.
And that's step one. We fake it till we make it. I'll keep you updated on my little confidence journey. But so far, it's been pretty good. I got to do this really exciting photo shoot. And I went into it freaking out. And then I had an hour car ride to get there. And in the car, and this was after the trip to Costa Rica with all the sexy ladies, I go, no. No.
I'm going to just be confident today. I'm not going to let my social anxiety win. I'm not going to let my insecurity win. I'm just going to go into this, know my worth, and I'm going to have fun. Am I going to look great in every picture? No. But I had fun doing it, and I felt good doing it, and I was not as afraid as I usually am. If they told me to dance, I danced. Am I a bad dancer? Yes. But only because I think I am.
And I'm just going to leave it at that. Do what you want with that information. Know your worth. Know you're beautiful. Fake it till you make it. I'm proud of you. You inspire me and I love you. And next week, please feel free to DM me questions about love, relationships, boys, situationships, girls, whatever it may be. Love is for everyone. So just bring on over whatever you want to bring over. But we will talk again next Monday. I really appreciate you guys and I love you with my whole entire heart. Bye.