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Hello and welcome to the Claim Your Power podcast, the ultimate show for all things self-love, spirituality, and personal growth. I'm your host, Kim Peretz. I'm a three-time author, content creator, avid traveler, entrepreneur, and matcha enthusiast. You are at the right place if you're ready to rediscover the love within, align with your purpose, and unleash your highest potential. It's time to claim your power.

Hello, my friends, and welcome back to another episode of Claim Your Power podcast. If you're new here, my name is Kim Peretz, and let's get into it, baby, because today we are talking how to radiate main character energy. Today I'm going to be teaching you step-by-step how to radiate main character energy.

how to step into your main character era, how to stop being the side character and how to put your life on the pedestal, how to realize your worth and how to finally be the person that you were always destined to be. So there are so many things I'm going to cover today, how to really radiate that energy from inside of you because the first thing that you have to realize about being the main character of your life is that it has to do nothing with anyone else.

Every single person out there has the potential to align with this energy. No one is quote-by-quote special. Everyone is special, which means no one is special, which means that you have the power to be the main character of your life if you align with that energy. Life is all about confidence. No one has anything in their life figured out. People who think they have their life figured out

still don't have their life figured out. So the first thing that you have to realize is this big mentality shift of, I don't have to have everything figured out and I'm going to be okay regardless. Because the truth is, you have to fake it till you make it. It's called being delusional. And I'm here to tell you that being delusional works.

Being delusional gets you from point A to point B because you stop letting other people's opinions, thoughts, validation dictate how you're going to live your life. Because the truth is, everything in life is mindset. There could be two people that look exactly the same, have the exact same upbringing, the exact same background, they have the exact same life, but one has one mindset, which is a growth mindset, and the other has a growth mindset,

and one has a victim mindset. You know who's gonna be that main character? The one with the growth mindset. If you're gonna be living in a fixed mindset of everything happens to me, not for me, everything is other people's fault, I take no responsibility for my life, then how can you be the main character? Because you're constantly giving up your power away to everyone else outside of you. The first step to being the main character of your life is to take responsibility for your life.

Maybe you didn't create the wounds in your life, but you are responsible for your healing. You are responsible for every single aspect of your life. You are responsible for your emotions, for your mindset, for your mentality, for your health. You are responsible for all these things. And the second that you stop giving your power away and stop giving the blame and looking for attention in other people and you bring it into yourself,

is the second that you will see a massive shift in your life. Now, it's a lot easier said than done, but something that you have to realize is in life, you have to pick your heart because being a victim is just as hard as taking responsibility for your life.

And so pick your heart, you know, working out is hard, but also staying unhealthy and lazy is hard. Working towards your goals and investing in yourself is hard, but being broke and not taking your actions and not following your dreams is hard. Communicating is hard, not communicating is hard. So you have to start picking your heart in life. And if you want to be that main character, the heart that you pick is the path that leads you to growth. Because I truly believe that

you can say anything in life is hard. Like if you are not committed to your path, then your mind will come up with a million excuses to why you shouldn't do the thing that you actually want to do. So the first step that you have to realize when you want to be the main character is you have to take responsibility for your life, for your mindset and for your mentality. And you have to say enough is enough.

I'm taking back my power and I'm taking responsibility for my life in every single area and every single aspect. Tip number two, and this is very random but it's such a good one, is when you walk into a room, into an outing, into a meeting, whatever it is, you have to start walking with your head up, don't let the crown fall, with your shoulders open. Don't be going on your phone when you walk into a room and scrolling. Do you see people do that in movies?

Do you see the main character walking into a restaurant or a party looking down at their phone? No, the main character walks with their chest open, their heart open, knowing that they are meant to be in that room. So you have to start asking yourself, if you were going to live right now in a movie where you were the highest, best, most abundant version of yourself, how would you start acting?

How would you dress? How would you carry yourself? Because my life changed when I started asking myself these questions. I used to dress in a very different way than I do now. I used to dress in a way that...

that kept me insecure, that didn't align with the energy that I wanted to create. And the second that I started dressing like the woman that I wanted to become, the second that I started carrying myself and speaking and acting and behaving in the way that I wanted to grow into, the woman that I wanted to be and that has the life that I wanted to create for myself,

is the second everything shifted. So you have to start taking external actions on your life, small actions that don't require too much energy, but will allow you to make that shift. So it can be as small things as like the way you dress, the way you stand up, and the way you hold up your posture, the way you speak. All of these things influence your energy. Now I'm not telling you to change yourself at all. And this is why I'm not telling you you should dress a certain way or speak a certain way or carry yourself a certain way.

I'm encouraging you to make a list with yourself of who is that future highest version of you and how would they act? And then how can you take those actions accordingly to align with that version of you? So there's no one way to do it. There's not one solution. Everyone is on their own path. And I'm encouraging you to find that own path and forge it for yourself. Another thing that you have to realize is that main characters also have conflict.

That's what the rising action is. Like if you are right now in a season of your life where you're not feeling like your best self, you feel like there's a lot of life lessons, you're getting triggered a lot, you're going through a lot of emotions, that's part of being the main character. Nothing in nature blooms all year round.

we have moments and parts and chapters in life where we feel low. That's the rising action. That's also part of storytelling. That's part of being the main character. When do you see your main characters in movies not go through certain conflicts or certain struggles? It is part of life. And when you give yourself that grace of, okay, maybe this is for the plot. Like,

This is part of my main character energy. Whatever you're going through right now, whatever breakdown, rejection, hurt, abandonment, whatever it is that you are going through, realize that this is part of your path. It is part of your main character journey and it's strengthening you and it's helping you become the person that you are meant to be. Another tip if you want to become the main character of your life is you actually have to create a life for yourself that you genuinely love and you are genuinely proud of.

Like stop being the side character in everybody else's life and start building your own life.

And the way that you do that is you start asking yourself, what lights me up? What are my passions? What are my purpose? What are small habits and actions I can start taking in my own life that help me align with the life that I want to create? Because if you spend all your time being so concerned with other people's life and being the side character in other people's life, then you're taking the power away from you becoming the main character of your life.

So create and fill your life with things that light you up and things that you love and put your energy into that place. Because the thing is, people are auditioning to be part of your life. Now, I'm not saying that in like a conceited way of you're better, you're on a pedestal, you're above them. It's just you're

You have a life for yourself that you genuinely love. So if anyone wants to come into your life, they have to match that energy. You're not auditioning to be part of other people's life as a side character. You're the main character of your life. Other people are the main character of their life. And if you match that energy, that's great. But stop dimming yourself down. Stop chasing people. Stop trying to fit yourself into other people's life when you can just forge your own path.

Also, don't be afraid to take up space. A lot of women especially feel like it's bad to take up space. This is actually something that I really struggled with for a long time and I had gone to a women's retreat where we did a lot of inner child healing and we had to bring a photo of ourselves when we were a child and I brought this photo of myself and I literally have goosebumps as I'm talking about this but I was looking at this picture of myself when I was like eight and

and it was so pure and I was so silly and goofy and I was loud and I liked to have fun. And then I had gone through so many things growing up and in my childhood and just, I had dimmed myself down so much and I had completely detached from that version of myself because of so many things that I went through. I ended up thinking I was too sensitive and that I was too loud and that I needed to dim myself down and I shouldn't have taken up space and I needed to be quiet and toughen up. And I had just dimmed myself down for so long in my life

that it caused me to actually be afraid to take up space. And this is why for so long, for instance, when I started the podcast, for a year, I did not tell anyone that I had a podcast because I was afraid to be seen. I was afraid to take up space. And what I have learned throughout my journey and throughout my path of reconnecting to my inner self is that it is healthy and it is more than okay to take up space.

Because when you take up space, you're not doing it by doing it at the expense of somebody else or by bringing somebody else down. If you're someone who has to bring somebody else down to bring yourself up, then you're not taking up space. You're just bringing other people down. Someone who takes up space in a confident manner is someone that also inspires other people around them to do the same. So if you want to radiate that main character energy, you're going to have to be okay with taking up space. Start speaking your mind.

Start talking. Start dancing. Start really being yourself. Really connect to that part of you that knows how to be themselves and take up space because there is nothing wrong with taking up space. I feel like I need to say that constantly to people right now because so many women struggle with this. We have this fear. We think that, oh, if we dress a certain way or we say our opinion or we go after our dreams or,

you know we're just our authentic self then we're seeking attention and that's literally the opposite like someone who is confident someone who goes after her dreams and someone who can speak her mind and be open is someone that is so radiant and someone that helps other people do the same so don't be afraid to take up space when you walk into a room and someone asks you what your name is don't be like my name is no my name is kim peretz what's up and not like wow i said that so aggressively

Don't be aggressive. Like that came out aggressively because I'm on my period. But don't say it like I'm better than you. I'm conceited, but more like this is my name. This is who I am. What's up? Nice to meet you. Take up space. Don't be afraid to tell people who you are. Don't be afraid to show your personality because the right people in your life will recognize that and love you for that.

You gotta quit playing small and you gotta start dreaming bigger and shooting bigger. Your goals have to be so big for yourself and your dreams have to be so big that they require a completely different version of you. The main character version of you. Now, everyone has different dreams. Like if you're a dream, like me, I'm doing all these things. I'm helping so many people. I love what I'm doing. But you guys know what my biggest dream is? My biggest dream is to get married and have a farm with chicken and horses and raise my children.

that's a big dream. So when I say big dreams, I don't mean like you have to be like the CEO of a company. Like if you wanna do that, go ahead, that's amazing. But when I say dream bigger, just realign with your bigger vision for your life and stop playing small. Stop dimming yourself down to make other people comfortable because your job is to be yourself. And I promise you that if you're someone who has a kind heart and is confident and knows who they are when they walk into a room, then people will recognize that

And it will light up other people's potential too. Now, you're going to trigger some people too when you start radiating main character energy. And that's something you have to realize and make peace with. And this leads me to another tip. And that is main character energy people invest in their transformation. They invest their time, their money, their energy into transforming into a higher version of themselves.

Someone who radiates main character energy is someone who's willing to take action into their growth. It's someone that takes responsibility and doesn't want to stay stuck and stagnant. They want to grow. They want to evolve. So they invest their time and money and energy into those places.

Also, if you want to be the main character of your life, you're going to have to stop talking down on yourself and you're going to have to start embracing who you are because how you were born, the amazing traits and gifts and qualities and the way that you look and your radiance and your energy and your aura, it was given to you for a reason. Stop trying to be a cookie cutter version of somebody else. Stop comparing yourself to other people because you're taking away from your own light when you do that.

Do you guys know that if I showed you guys a photo of myself three years ago, I look completely different. When you start radiating main character energy and you start investing in yourself, you physically shift too. So if you're someone who doesn't like the way that you look right now and you don't love yourself when you look in the mirror, I really, really encourage you to start working on yourself from the inside. Start loving yourself from the inside because if you love yourself from the inside, you start radiating that energy outwards.

If you looked at me three years ago, I hated myself. I was so insecure. I was depressed. I was battling so many health issues. If you looked at a photo of me three years ago,

You would be like, who is this? She does not look like that. I look like a completely different version. And when I started radiating main character energy, I started doing the inner work. I started healing. I actually started to shift physically too and have a physical glow up. Now, I'm not here to tell you that you need to change yourself because you don't. I'm actually trying to tell you the opposite. Love yourself for who you are now. And so if you don't like who you are now and you start loving yourself for who you are now, then you start to shift because you cannot

hate yourself out of your old life. You cannot hate your old version of yourself and create a new version of yourself. You have to bring love into the space now and that's how you make a shift. My last tip to radiating main character energy is you have to start romanticizing your life.

Buy yourself the flowers. Buy yourself the gifts. Go on a walk. Go see the sunset. Take pretty pictures. Romanticize your life because honestly, there are so many beautiful moments in our lives that we take for granted. Romanticize the mundane. Do you know how much my life changed when I started romanticizing the mundane small moments in my life?

When I hear birds chirping outside my window, when I see a beautiful butterfly, when someone gives me a compliment, like these are things that we take for granted. And if you start romanticizing those moments, you will start feeling like a main character. When you start feeling like something, you become something. Ooh, and last thing that I wanted to share, I've totally forgot to mention this, but if you want to start being that main character of your life, you're going to have to stop taking everything so personally.

Now, I know everything is that I just said, like it's easier said than done. But when you stop taking what other people say to you and how other people treat you personally, your life changes. Because you realize that everyone is projecting their own things onto you. So if someone is treating you unkindly, if someone doesn't recognize your value, someone's trying to bring you down, recognize that that doesn't have to do with you. And instead, send that person love.

How sad is it that that person is so insecure that they're trying to bring you down? Don't let it overshadow you and take you down from the main character energy. When you are the main character, you are the opposite of that type of person. You project love and peace and kindness into other people.

So don't take everything so personally. When you stop taking things so personally, you start taking responsibility for your life and you realize everyone is just constantly projecting and reflecting their own stuff onto you. So be able to recognize what's yours to take and what's yours to absorb and what's yours just to observe in that moment.

Thank you guys so much for listening to this podcast. I hope you guys love this episode. Make sure to rate the podcast on Spotify and on Apple Music because it really helps your girl out. And tag me in your stories if you're listening to this episode. I love to see them. I love to repost them. I'm sending you a big hug. So much good energy. Let's start reading that main character energy right now. You got this. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. I

As always, I will talk to you next week. Bye!