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Episode 38: Interview with Nicole Raymondi- Mindset Coach & Founder of Self by Design

2021/7/7
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Nicole Raymondi: 我是一位思维模式教练,神经语言程序设计 (NLP) 实践者,也是 Self by Design 的创始人。Self by Design 是一种结合了神经科学、心理学和灵性的新时代思维模式方法,旨在帮助人们通过发挥头脑的力量来重新设计自我。我的工作重点是潜意识,因为它控制着人们的习惯、行为和情绪。我帮助数百名有意识的企业家、创意人士和领导者驾驭潜意识的力量,从而获得情绪自由、清晰的头脑以及蓬勃发展的各种人际关系、事业和健康。我克服了长期的身体和精神健康问题,这促使我深入研究思维模式,并最终取得了显著的进步。我的方法包括三个步骤:意识、重新设计和重复。首先,要意识到限制性信念的存在及其负面影响;然后,用新的、积极的信念来取代旧的、消极的信念;最后,重复新的信念,直到它成为习惯。在解开限制性信念并建立支持性信念时,要问自己一些关键问题,例如:当前的信念是什么?它带来了什么情绪和行为?它是否有益于我?我想用什么新的信念来代替它?我的父亲给我的最好的建议是:以平静的自信去面对挑战,并享受过程。 Sarah Kane: 本播客旨在激励人们过上最好的生活,涵盖健身、跑步、职业和生活技巧。Nicole Raymondi 的访谈探讨了她成为思维模式教练的历程,她新推出的“First Mind Talks”活动,克服限制性信念的三步公式,以及她对“追寻生活”的理解。我与Nicole Raymondi 的对话中,我们还探讨了社交媒体对当今社会中自我认知的影响,以及如何通过积极的日常习惯来提升生活质量。

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Nicole introduces herself as a mindset coach and founder of Self by Design, discussing her background, hobbies, and family life.

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Welcome to Chasing Life podcast where we talk about fitness, running, career, and life tips to inspire you to live your best life. I'm your host Sarah Kane and I hope you enjoy today's episode. It's just really just coming home to you and your path and what you're meant to be doing and how your journey is going to be different and look different than everyone else's. Welcome to another episode of Chasing Life. I'm your host Sarah Kane and today's guest is Nicole Ramondi.

Nicole is a mindset coach, neuro-linguistic programming practitioner, and founder of Self by Design, a new age mindset method that combines neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality to show you that you can redesign yourself with the power of your mind.

Her work has helped hundreds of conscious entrepreneurs, creatives, and leaders to harness the power of their subconscious minds and redesign their limitations to achieve emotional freedom, mental clarity, and thriving relationships, careers, and health in all areas of life. I've been hearing about Nicole's work for a few years now through her brother, who was one of my closest friends. During this episode, we talk about what inspired and led Nicole to become a mindset coach, all about her new meetup, First Mind Talks, three steps to overcoming limiting beliefs,

beliefs the best advice she has ever received and of course what chasing life means to her I hope you enjoy our conversation as much as we did welcome Nicole to chasing life podcast I'm excited to talk with you today thanks yeah I'm excited to be here

So why don't you tell everyone who is Nicole? I am a mindset coach and I'm a certified neuro-linguistic programmer and I'm the founder of Self by Design, which is a mindset method that's rooted in neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality. So I talk about kind of combining those disciplines to understand your mind and improve yourself. And then I focus heavily on the subconscious mind. So the mind that's below your conscious awareness is really running a

all of your habits and behaviors and emotions. So that's a big piece of my work and how I support my clients and what I talk about at my events and in my videos and all those different pieces. So we'll dive a lot more into each of those rounds as we go through this podcast. How about you as

a person, what do you do for fun? What's your family like life? Where do you live? Anything you want to share your hobbies, things like that. Yeah, I live in the Bay Area in Oakland, California. So sunny California. And I love to hike, which has definitely become a really big passion of mine, especially during the pandemic. It was really supportive of me. I do a lot of writing to support

um just like my own mental health and just my own creativity and love having that kind of practice to come home to i i love design so kind of like this is my introverted like nerdy side i love um yeah just doing like different like graphic design and just even designing websites i used to do a lot of user experience design and worked as a graphic designer for many years so um that's still kind of a hobby and a passion of mine even though i'm not doing it now as a career path

And what else family wise, I have a twin brother, as you know, you guys are good friends and my younger brother. And then I have my father and his wife in Raleigh. So they're on the other side of the country. And then my twin brother is actually living here now in San Francisco. So.

I'm excited to have him here. Yeah, I guess that's me in a nutshell. I just love to kind of, I have a very like introverted kind of creative side that I love to tap into. And then I have my very extroverted social side that I just like to, I think we were just talking about it. Like I went out last night and like saw friends and kind of back to life. And I really did kind of miss that balance over the last year. And it's really supportive of me to have that back now and just

really lean into that. So both sides. Yeah, I think that's pretty great that you recognize that while you're an introvert and that you need that time kind of alone to recoup your energy, you also enjoy the social aspect and being around people whose company that you enjoy or activities that you go out and enjoy. And yeah, the fun fact is you mentioned your twin brother and him and I are good friends.

As well as the fact that you and I actually go way back because we grew up in the same area and our moms used to be in a mothers of twins group. Oh, that's right. Oh my God, I forgot about that. Oh my gosh. So we've been connected for many, many years. I know, literally. Like, wow, that is wild. Yeah.

Yeah, it's so true. And even just speaking to like the introversion and extroversion, it took me a long time to come home to that and really accept that because just speaking of my twin brother, he is very extroverted and he is filled up by that. Right. And he wants more of that or needs more of that in his life. And so I think in our society, we're a little more culturally kind of set up to be more extroverted or at least maybe a little more appreciated. And I

I didn't realize that I needed that alone time to really like be able to show up fully in a social setting and just really enjoy myself and yeah, and just be fully me. So it was definitely a journey to figure out, oh, wait, I need this time to myself and I can take this time to myself. Yeah, I'm sure you're not alone in that feeling too of

enjoying or kind of having that mix of introversion and extroversion depending on what the situation is. So thank you for sharing that. Yeah. What I find really interesting about you is that you are a mindset coach. How did you get into that field? Yeah, never an easy answer. So I think it's a combination of my own personal journey, which, and then that led me into really setting the mind, but I was

unwell for a lot of years, probably over like 15 years or at least a decade, especially through college and after college, I had a lot of physical symptoms. And then of course, that also includes a lot of mental health symptoms and emotional health. And I just really

really got to a place where I wasn't sure how I could work through these problems anymore, because I had gone to all the traditional medicine doctors, I had gone to the holistic route, and then really focused on the body, and hadn't made a ton of progress. And then I finally actually found nutrition and fitness. And again, like, I know, that's very supportive of you. And I

That made me realize that, okay, there's something here. I made some steps, but I still maybe got 20% better and was really just like, what's missing for me? Like, why am I not able to completely move through this? Yeah. And progress and grow and, and, uh, just, um,

kind of solve this problem for myself. And it took me really getting to a low place. I was living in New York City at the time, I got very depressed and just kind of removed from my life and just unsure of things. And I remember I just made a huge move and I took

pretty much my whole life. And I was like, okay, I'm just going to leave New York, uproot myself and go to Los Angeles. And when I got to LA, I really had the quiet time in the space to introvert. Like we talked about in the beginning and really just journal and do long walks on the beach as romantic as that sounds. And I didn't, I took myself on long walks, long walks on the beach and, um, hikes and yeah, just found the space for myself. And then also reached out for support, which was another thing that was holding back another limiting belief.

And I got some support with a therapist. And that is, I would say, probably my first foray into realizing that this is very much in my mind. And this is very much psychologically created. And once I opened that door, I

I got, I would say, 80, 90% better in like less than a year when it had taken me 10 years to even come to that point. And so that's when I realized like, oh, something's here. And I realized a lot of other people were also struggling with similar negative belief systems or self-talk or things that were really holding me back.

And so I went back to, I went to school at Stanford when I moved here, took a bunch of classes, like a bunch of semesters on neuroscience, cognitive science and cognitive behavioral therapy and took the neuro-linguistic programming classes, got the certification there and then got into coaching. And it just kind of became an obsession of mine. So that's, that's how I got to, to where I am today. Just, and now I'm, I just love, I feel

I feel like it's a never ending process of discovery. There's just so much to know about the mind and ourselves and

just the world's around us. Like it all is the same, right? Like the more you learn about yourself, the more you learn about others. And then the more that just kind of creates this loop of progression and growth. And so I'm just, I'm in it now. And now you're sharing it with others. You recently had a first mind talks. Can you tell us about that event? What inspired you to do that? And how did your most recent event go? Yeah, that was so much fun. So we're

And yeah, I think then that was just me really feeling inspired to share a lot of this. Obviously, I do it through my coaching and my videos, but I really felt like I was missing that in person. Of course, a lot of us miss that over the pandemic, but that in-person connection of just me connecting with others, but then also bringing others together to connect about that.

the mind and we talk about neuroscience and psychology and even some spirituality and mindfulness. What else? We just have to like nerd out about like quantum physics and epigenetics and all that, all that fun stuff, Bay area stuff. No, but yeah, I just wanted to really create a space for people to come together and talk about those things because often we don't have the opportunity to dive into those topics. And I

I really feel like at least the way that even we were raised and probably still in society, I know it's, it's improving, but we all have a mind and even this hardware that we're working with, like the brain and the neuroscience behind it. And there's so much that we don't understand about it and that we're not taught about it in school or that we don't learn from our peers. And me just having that understanding of how my mind works and how my neurology works and

And even my psychology that has allowed me to really navigate life much easier and much more enjoyably. And I think that that was the reason why I created the event is to allow others to kind of foster that awareness and then learn about these principles that I've learned about and apply them to their own lives.

It sounds like you met a bunch of like-minded people and just got to discuss all the things that you love. So that's pretty cool. Yeah. Right. That's always, always the best way to do it. Just get a bunch of people that want to hang out and talk about fun stuff that you enjoy. So what was the setting like and approximately how many people came?

Yeah, it was small for our first event. So I think we had, well, I put the event live on meetup and there was like 75 people or something that joined the group. And I was like, well, I didn't advertise it or anything. Cause I was like, I want to keep it small and just have this really intimate conversation. I was going to do a presentation on how to make better decisions. And so just really like get into that and talk to people.

about that specifically. And then we had, I think like 30 RSVPs and then we had about 10 people show up, which it was still obviously here. Things are pretty much closed up still and they're opening up now, but it was, yeah, I think in another couple of weeks, it'll be a little bit bigger, but it was just 10 of us. But honestly, it was great just because I gave the presentation. We all got to meet each other. And then, um,

It's just, there's so much to learn, but there's so much that people have to share as well. And so many insights that came out of it. And so many stories of people, like we had a cognitive science major, and then we had a guy that had like traveled the world doing like

Zen Buddhist like meditations and you know and then we had just there was just all different types of people there that had so much background and yeah just so much experience and knowledge to share that it was so interesting because they would ask me a lot of great questions and I would answer them and they just kind of open it up to whoever is there like does anybody else have anything to contribute or a story or.

Anything that, do you disagree? Any of the above? And we just really got deep into conversation and we ended up, I think I had the event scheduled for just an hour because I was just going to present for 30 minutes and then we were going to chat. And we ended up staying for like three hours. Oh my gosh. Yeah.

I would call that a very successful event. Yeah, so I think it was good. So I like, yeah, I just kind of wanted that small like intimate setting but I think even for the next one, I can already tell that it's going to be bigger so we'll have to manage that and see how we can keep it still like those kind of those conversations to start happening and continue happening so.

Yeah, that's great. I think it sounds like the small setting suited the conversation very well, as well as, you know, what I thought of is someone who may be hesitant to create a meetup event and

Because they think, one, maybe no one will come or that the topic might be very specific. But I want to encourage people who are listening is that there are probably other people out there who want to discuss the things you want to discuss. And so they just need someone to have the courage to put an event out there so that they can come and talk to other like-minded people so they're not driving their friends and family nuts about a topic. Maybe.

their friends and family don't have an interest in, but other people do. So yes, it's so true. I mean, there is always people they're going to share your interests. It's just having the courage to kind of say, Oh, Hey, this is me. And then finding your tribe, right? It's like,

people have the wildest interest. And if you look just like the little niche communities anywhere in the world, you're like, wow, that is fascinating. I can't believe there's a whole group dedicated to like people that collect old stamps. Like, I don't know, like something that's so niche. I'm sure we can come with a better example, but I think you can really create a meetup and just a community around anything. And I think people are really looking for that because that's a part of you that wants to be expressed. And if you don't have that, uh,

kind of connection with your family and friends to express that, then that's fine. Maybe you talk about other things with friends and family, right? Maybe you talk about like you take trips together or yeah, you like go out together or whatever. You have different topics that you cover. But if that is an interest of yours, you want to find that community and that outlet to share that part of yourself and learn from others too. So I agree with that.

So speaking of, I guess, having the courage to pursue something, what's a current goal or intention that you are working toward? Ooh, yeah. Let's see. Well, I guess like there's one that I've been working on probably since the beginning of the pandemic.

I think I set the intention at the beginning of 2020 and I, and going into 2021, I still wanted to keep that as an intention of mine. And it was really just trusting more and just building more trust in myself and my capabilities, trusting others. Cause I think I just mentioned earlier, that was a big thing for me is I didn't really want to reach out for support because there was a part of me that maybe just didn't trust that they could show up for me fully or, or

whatever that was. So really just trusting that other people can and want to support you and then just trusting in your path and in your future. And when things just feel really kind of grim or misaligned or whatever, that you're exactly where you need to be and trusting that. And that is just a continual practice for me because my default is to be like, what? Yeah, I have to do something, you know? Like I just kind of throw it all at the wall.

and kind of panic in that way. But I've been really, yeah, I would say in the last year and a half, just coming home to, okay, you can trust that this is all working for you and it's not working against you. And there's a lot of things that you can't see right now because you're only able, even just, we talk about the power of the mind, there's only so much information that we can take in. And there's just so many other factors and so much other

you know, energy and different forces that are happening that we are unaware of. So you have to trust that it is working for you and you just can't see it right now. And in the future, that will become much clearer to you and just trusting that you're in the right place. It's a practice. Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. That reminds me, I haven't read this book yet, but I feel like I need to, it's called the universe has your back. So it sounds Gabby Bernstein. Yeah. Have you read it?

- Yes, I read that. I read like two or three of her, "Spirit Junkie," that one, and then "The Judgment Detox." I love her. - Do you have any takeaways from any of those books?

I mean, I would say that she is a great go-to if you're really just getting into like personal development and spirituality. Like she, she's definitely where I started and kind of like cracked the door open for me. Like, wow. Okay. There's a lot here that I've been missing. And yeah, she does a beautiful job of just really laying it out. I'm trying to think like where, um,

I know her principles go back to a lot of like Marianne Williamson and the, what is it called? Oh, course in miracles. Did you ever read that? It's a, it's more, it's almost like a Bible in a way, but it is, it's a lot about trusting and just learning about the laws of the universe and, um,

just, yeah, applying those principles to kind of this reality in this life, because so many of us are operating on, yeah, just like old conditioned beliefs or cultural beliefs that maybe are not our truth. And so she talks a lot about that and just learning to kind of tap into that authenticity and that higher source and force. So yeah, she's great.

Something I've been trying to work on my mindset and trying to design my life a little bit more to feel in line with my values or like some areas of my life are feeling a little stale. So this sounds like a book that I'll want to check out and maybe that'll help to trigger something to jumpstart me to, you know, take a different path or have the courage to start a different path.

Yeah, you definitely should. I like that. I mean, that's great that you're just open to it because I think that's a big piece for anyone, right? It's like, okay, there's something that I want to work on. There's something here. And then you just kind of stay open to like, Hey, I heard about this new book or listen to this new podcast. And just having that kind of intention allows that information to come in. Right. And then you're like, Oh, I didn't even think about it that way. Or, Oh, I can do this instead. And then that's where the growth and the change happens. Just kind of allowing yourself to like receive that. And then,

put it into action. Yeah. And just kind of trusting that things will align as well. That, you know, one thing that you maybe couldn't have thought of six months ago leads to another path and leads to another path, right? That's all just the universal lining to bring you, but you've got to put that intention out there. The law of attraction kind of feeds into that and the universe having your back to make sure that things all align. So it all kind of circles together. It's so well said. Yeah. She speaks a lot about the law of attraction too.

And yeah, it's just a practice, right? Because we always want things to happen on our timeline and just with more control than we probably have, right? So again, it's back to that trust and knowing that if you can stay in alignment and just, yeah, come back to yourself, come home and center yourself, that you are going to be able to move forward with whatever's coming up. And maybe it's just going to be at a later time, but it's going to work out for you in the end. So, yeah. Yeah.

Thank you for that. One of the things I wanted to dive into with you is talking about limiting beliefs. Now, as a mindset coach is probably one of your biggest topics. What are three steps of the belief change formula? Can you talk about that and share that with our listeners? Yeah, for sure. So yeah, this is something that obviously is a big part of my work. And I

Trying to think like where to start to kind of disassemble it, but I really believe that a lot of the behavior change we're trying to make, and I'm guilty of this as well. And I think many people are, is we start at kind of the lower rungs of things like we're working on kind of an external level or a behavioral level. And it's really hard to make change that way and can take a long time and just a lot of willpower and a lot of discipline and

And what I figured out with myself and my coaching is starting at, it's more like a higher level. They teach it in neuro-linguistic programming of kind of your psychology, starting at that belief level and at your identity level, and then letting that kind of cascade down to your emotions, behaviors, and then your outward reality environment is much more powerful and much more sustainable than doing it the other way around. So yeah, I created...

There's, I did a lot of research on this and obviously, you know, tried a lot of different practices with clients, with myself, and I kind of created this little formula and it's super simple, but has been really supportive of myself when I have new things arise. And then also with clients or any other individual that has these kind of limiting beliefs or something that they feel is not supporting them anymore. And obviously we all have them. And even, especially as you're moving up in life and, you

yeah, just going to new levels, you are discovering new beliefs that are holding back. Or maybe you created one that was supportive of you for years or a period of time while you like built that business or started a family or something. And now you have to kind of disassemble that again and create a new one that's supportive of you in a different environment, in different contexts. So yeah, to kind of break it down, the three steps, and I'll go through each one, are awareness is the first

step and then redesign and repetition. So awareness is honestly just cultivating that mindfulness that this

belief is coming up for you again and just recognizing that it's not serving you so when you feel a negative emotion arise or you're in a situation again where you just notice like okay here it is again I'm back at this place and I'm trying to think I usually feel like it's more supportive to give an example I know a lot of your audience is runners right so yeah let's say like you're

trying to get into running and start running. So you are like tomorrow morning, I'm going to get up and I'm going to run whatever, three miles or five miles to get started. And then you don't do it, right? You just, you know, you science the alarm and you stay in bed. And so that

is going to bring up that negative belief or that emotion for you. And just having that awareness, like, okay, here I am again, instead of beating yourself up and going into that kind of self sabotage and anger and frustration, like, here I am again, what's coming up for me noticing those feelings, and then what behavior follows because of that, maybe you stay in bed even longer, or maybe you eat a really bad breakfast or something and just kind of, you know, sulk a bit. And then,

And just, yeah, asking yourself, like, is this serving me? Like, is this helping me be a better runner? Right. Because obviously if you have that pattern running over and over again, it's going to be super tough to get into running and really become a good runner. So what we want to do is come home to the awareness and then redesign it. So now you want to put a new pattern.

a belief in place or a new even kind of identity for yourself that you're setting out to prove. So you would replace that with that you are a runner and maybe you're not an Olympic runner at this level or whatever the highest level, but you you're a runner because you own a pair of running shoes and you would look for evidence on that, right? Like I own a pair of running shoes. I have a

a pair of running shorts and I have whatever, an Apple watch because I'm going to start timing my runs, right? So you're a runner. There's a lot of people that don't have those things and they're not going to show up as a runner like you are. And so coming home to that creates that new belief that you're setting out to prove instead, instead of that old thought pattern that you continually keep coming back to, even though you might not be aware of it. Now you have that awareness.

And then the last piece is just repetition. So now that you are a runner, how does that person show up in their life every day? And again, it could be starting small. It could be, all right, I'm just going to do one mile today. Literally. Like if I was starting to run, like I used to actually run, but I don't anymore. I would probably start at like two miles. You're probably like, wow, that's nothing. But literally you start small, right? I'm sure you can attest this in your own journey. You start really small.

And how does that person show up? Okay. They're going to do two miles because they are a runner, then three miles and then move from there. And that repetition does really solidify those new neural networks, right. And creates those new patterns and those new habits. And then because you're showing up as that person with that new belief, you've shifted your identity kind of

before you've even become it, right? So you actually have become it in your mind and now you're just practicing it and repeating it until you literally become it. And the beauty of that is it's gonna move from your conscious mind. So instead of conscious of thinking like, I gotta get up tomorrow morning, I have to run, I have to do my two miles, it's gonna move to your subconscious mind and become a habit again. There's a quote that I thought of and I'm gonna take a second to look it up so that I can quote it correctly. I love quotes, as you know. I only created a whole app about quotes.

I know so many quotes, but I love that you love that too. I know you're in all of your content is super inspirational. Jonathan always shows me stuff. He's like, look what Sarah did. Oh yeah, here it is. Okay. Says you must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be. And so it's just like putting yourself in that mindset of like, would a runner who's training for their first 5k or 10k or Boston qualifying time, whatever it is that your goal is,

Is this the type of person who would make these choices and skip getting out of bed or have the meal that maybe isn't the best for them or stay up too late or any of those choices that may be self-sabotaging you right now? Exactly. A lot of what you said makes complete sense and just you explained it in a very clear, understandable manner. So thank you for that.

Yeah. What are some powerful questions that you ask yourself when unraveling a limited belief and installing a supportive one? Yeah, I think it's honestly, yeah, I just touched on them a little bit, but just kind of having that awareness because the first step is really just creating that space for yourself and that pause, like, okay, what is coming up for me right now? What is this belief? Because it's identifying it and kind of calling it out and solidifying it is like, okay, now this is real. And then what,

kind of emotions are rising? Like, how do I feel? Right. And then what behaviors follow it. And then you can just ask yourself to really make it like crystal clear. Is this serving me or not? And then from there, what new belief do I want to put in place instead? Because that is, you've taken back your power of choice now. So now, you know, I have a new

I have a new space. I have a new, I've created that pause. Now I can install something different. And so what would I like instead? And just like you said, I am a runner. I am going to run that 15K, whatever, 30K. No, I don't know. That's a lot.

So, yeah, just putting that in place. And then that repetition is just how does that person show up every day in their life as that runner, right? And so just what you were speaking to, you're going to make different decisions because now you have this filter to pull everything through. So you're going to eat a healthy breakfast. You're going to get to bed on time. You know, you're going to.

whatever, just do anything to support yourself as a runner that if you weren't a runner, didn't see yourself that way, you might just forego those things and be like, oh, whatever. Like I'm not any good anyways, or I'm never really going to be a great runner. So I'll just stay out late and whatever, skip breakfast. Yeah.

And I want to say, too, that even though we're using the example of running, these principles can be applied to many different areas in your life and your career and your family and, you know, whatever you want to make a change on or whatever you have a limiting belief about, these principles can be applied there. Yeah.

- So true, yeah. And that's kind of why I created that formula. 'Cause even for me, I literally, it sounds so simple, but it's so powerful. Like I will sit down, especially when I notice myself waking up and having similar thoughts or even, yeah, I'm out in a social situation, I'm having similar thoughts. I will sit down and journal on it and just run through those questions and be like, okay, what happens like in this situation, even if I'm going back to it? Like, what did I think at that point? And then was that serving me? And then disassemble it from there. What can I do next time that's better

that's going to feel better, be more supportive of me. And then how can I practice that either before the situation happens or in the situation itself? Yeah. I love that idea. Drilling has been something that's been a

a part of my life off and on for many years, but more consistently over the last two years or so. And I think the practice of keeping these questions in mind and reflecting on your day. And if something didn't go the way that you wanted to taking that time to address the questions and if you want to change the outcome in the future and by recognizing that, I mean, there's a quote of like awareness is the first step too. So whatever it is that you,

you maybe felt uncomfortable about in the day, write it down in a journal. And then that way you're more aware of it in the future. And that's how change happens. Yes. Yeah. Beautifully said. And I feel like that way too, because I definitely was guilty of this and I still do it. Sometimes you're not ruminating over it.

Right. You're not just like running it through your mind over and you're like, oh, I shouldn't have said that. I shouldn't have done that or should have done this. And then it just keeps looping. Like if you give yourself that time in the morning to just sit down and say, OK, I'm going to take 10 minutes. What happened in the situation? What arose for me? I have that awareness. And then what can I do differently next time and kind of externalize it? And then you're prepared to practice that and you have that new belief or be or leads down to that behavior installed for the future. Yeah.

Yeah, I think that's a great point. I am guilty of overthinking things. So I'll think of an incident from four years ago and I'll run through the conversation or the incident or whatever. And I'm like,

Like, why did I do that? Why did, but when you journal it out and just, it's a source of just letting it go and saying, okay, you know, it's not serving me anymore to think about something that happened in the past. It's exactly how is that helping me now? But if I can reflect on it and make a change as a result of it, then that's, what's going to help me. Exactly. Cause your mind thinks if it keeps revisiting it.

It's almost like, yeah, it can make a change or awareness. And it's like the first kind of step in the right direction, but it's not necessarily the whole piece, right? It's just like, it's just like you keep making the first step and like running that same loop, but you're not completing it. And by completing it, you're like, okay,

here that I went back to even that conversation four years ago or that situation. But now I have the opportunity to rewrite it. So what do I want instead, instead of just rerunning back to it and saying like, oh, it shouldn't have happened, shouldn't have done that. And, you know, that was too bad that things went this way. And that's where the rumination and the loop kind of gets created and where we get stuck. So, yeah, absolutely. And, you know, I feel like you get the most out of life when you can learn and grow and just,

try to continue to better yourself. That's one of my, I guess that's a connection with chasing life, which we'll get to that question at the end of the show, but I love the name of your podcast. Oh, thank you. It's so representative of you and perspectives and it's very inspiring. Oh, thank you.

So I want to switch gears a little bit for, with some fun questions. Well, this one, I guess maybe even kind of ties into what we were just talking about. What's the best piece of advice you have ever given or received? Okay. Let me see. Well, I feel like for advice, I always think of my father first. So he was my first and greatest mentor and he's a business owner himself. So it was, it's been really amazing having him in my life. And yeah,

I think for me, whenever I have, when I'm stepping into kind of a new arena and trying something new or going to a big event or an interview, just anything where I'm starting to doubt myself,

He always said, just go in with a calm confidence. So, and I'd love to say even the way it sounds like calm confidence is so easy to say and remember. So he would say, just go into it with that confidence that you are meant to be here and

You know, you are right, like where you need to be and you have the capabilities and the expertise and just the value to provide and be in that situation. So I come home to that often, especially now as I'm growing the business and growing myself, just practicing that calm confidence.

And then he would always end with, and then just have fun with it. Like he would just be like, just have fun. Like you just enjoy yourself and laugh, you know? And that would always take the pressure off. And it's always, I feel like he would always say at the right time when I was just about to take things way too seriously. I'm like, oh, but it's, yeah, it's tough or, you know, I'm nervous or something. And then he would take the pressure off with that. And I would remind myself that life is just,

It used to be taken seriously to some extent, but not too seriously, right? It's a balance. And so that always just helped me kind of relax and go in and just have fun and be playful with it. And I take that

into my life. And I take that into my work and then, yeah, just into any situation that I really show up at now. I feel like that's a really good piece of advice and something that I can connect with because I, I'm often told that I take things way too seriously. So, but at the same time, I recognize like, I feel the best about myself when I have playful moments or can joke or just laugh at people. So just having that reminder, but something you also said about the calm confidence, I

I feel like also connects to, it helps to offset any feelings around imposter syndrome that people might have when they go to a conference or they're presenting in something or they have a meetup and they're the presenter and they're like, who am I to do this?

And so I like that reminder of having calm confidence and that you're meant to be there and, you know, you belong there. So thank you for that. Yeah. Imposter syndrome is huge. That's something I definitely encounter a lot in coaching. I feel like almost every person I work with, it's coming up in some way. It's definitely manifesting in different ways and everybody, but it's always there, especially as you're growing a business or your career or whatever.

even a new relationship or whatever. It's like, as soon as you're trying something new, which is what people are doing when they're working with a coach or yeah, even just their own personal growth, that little like nagging voice is going to come up. Right. And say, this isn't you, and this is where you're meant to be and you're not enough. And yeah,

you didn't prepare enough or whatever that is. And yeah, that imposter syndrome just becomes even louder if we don't, like we said, address it and then kind of disassemble it and put those new pieces in place instead and just really work through that. So-

I bet we could probably have a whole another episode about imposter syndrome, talking about that, how to overcome it. Yeah. Stuff. But yeah. But I also feel like, and, you know, give me your thoughts on this on with social media and imposter syndrome. Do you feel like maybe that's made things, I mean, we don't know a life really without social media, but you know, maybe 20 years ago, imposter syndrome wasn't as prevalent or wasn't talked about as much because we,

It was less likely that you would know something of what's going on with someone who's across the country who or someone who you went to high school with and now they're off doing some super successful thing, but you wouldn't know about it 20 years ago, but now we can hear about it in an instant with social media and so do you think that that maybe kind of feeds into things a little bit more in today's society.

Yeah, for sure. I like social media is obviously a very powerful tool. So it's going to have, it's very positive sides and then it's very negative sides. And I agree that that can be a big negative where, um,

now, yeah, we just have access to such a wide range of people and places and just the world, which is great in one way, but another way we never had that even think about it, like us growing up, right? Like you knew our little hometown and you knew the people that were in your environment and that was it. That's all you knew. And so maybe you're going to

Compare yourself to like the girls on your soccer team or whatever, the girls at school or something, but it's still small enough where you can kind of get a good judge yourself. And that's just human behavior and social behavior. But if you open that up to whatever people in Australia and China and all over, and then you're comparing yourself to this person.

extremely large demographic of people, then yeah, of course those feelings are going to arise much stronger. And that's definitely something that we're dealing with culturally now. And I think it's just really just coming home to you and your path and what you're meant to be doing and how your journey is going to be different and look different than everyone else's. And just trusting that when you fall, when you start to fall into that comparison trap, like, Oh, they have this, or they're doing that, or things are so much better for them. It's,

definitely a problem, but it's, it's something that I think we can build that awareness about. And we are, I think it's a message that's coming out a lot in social media and we can start to, to shift that narrative and come home to ourselves and yeah, our own path and our own worth. Yeah. Very well said. Thank you. So maybe brighter now, what's something that you are currently obsessed with or loving right now? Okay. Let me think. Well, kind of a new practice. So

I don't know if you've heard me talk about this before, but I do in the morning that the move meditate mindset. So that's my routine every morning. And I have been sticking to that for quite some time. That's really supported me. And I support all my clients with that as well. And I, and I'll be completely honest in the last few months, I just was like waking up and feeling not as motivated to run through it. And I was like, I just need to, I want to stick to that same kind of template. It doesn't have to be rigid. And that's always where I get stuck when I try to like make things too rigid and

but I want to kind of fill that with something new and novel. And so I just started taking walks and I would put my headphones in, which was always kind of like a big, like don't use your phone in the morning, like for that first hour and just do your movement into meditation. But I was like, no, I'm going to go for a walk, put my headphones in. And then what I started listening to and got really obsessed with is listening to Alan Watts. Have you heard anything with Alan Watts yet? I haven't. What's he about? He's this guy.

philosopher and he was a lecturer and he actually lived in the bay area in like the 60s and 70s and he talks a lot about the principles of like buddhism and taoism and hinduism but also just a lot of like you were saying like law of attraction and universal principles and just as a really kind of like holistic way of approaching it but also just very realistic like you can really he has a lot of good examples and he doesn't sound too far out you know you can really relate to him

And I, yeah, I just dove into a lot of his content. A lot of it is on YouTube. Like literally there's,

eight and nine hour long lectures that you can listen to on YouTube. And I actually did hear that for your listeners that they're going to take it down soon, possibly because the Alan Watts foundation that's been created for him, even after his passing, they're going to kind of put it behind like a membership wall, I think. So if people want to listen, they better get in now, but yeah. So I just listened to his content because it's,

He has just a very kind of meditative quip to the way that he speaks. And again, speaks to all these principles and philosophies. And I think it's just been a great way for me to start my day because I'm still kind of fitting that template, but I'm combining the movement with the meditation. So it's not like a walking meditation and I'm listening to him speak about these principles and these perspectives and, you know,

it just kind of primes myself in my mind for the day. And then I also, while I'm listening, try to stay really present and just notice like, oh, like the tree looks beautiful and the sun's shining through as it's coming up in the morning. And, you know, there's flowers that are on the path or just kind of really having those little moments of observation while I'm on the walk and,

Again, that just really was what I needed. It just really shifted things for me. So that's my new obsession, Ellen Watson and walks. Well, I think that's great. I think that's an important message too, to, um,

encourage people to have that positive start to their day, whether it's listening to a podcast, a YouTube channel. I get some texts from someone who I've connected with. And so I get like these morning text messages of a motivational speech. It just automatically, I signed up for the text list and I get them every morning and not every

money do I plug into them? But it's like that option is there. It's, you know, 10 to 15 minute YouTube videos. And so I can play it while I'm making my breakfast or, you know, writing in my journal or whatnot. And just, so it's just a much more positive way to start the day versus, you know, scrolling social media or watching the news, which I just feel like can have much more

you know, negative feelings associated with those things versus just, yeah, what you said, priming your mind for the day. So I think that's a great practice. Yeah. That's great that you do that. Yeah. And I think it's just starting your day intentionally because that, what I learned studying the mind and even the neuroscience side of things is that hour right after you wake up and then the hour right before you go to bed is when your brain is

most able in your subconscious mind, most able to receive new information. And it's really just like building those new neural networks and just really open to things coming in. So if you kind of take advantage of that window, when you're moving from, oh, I always mess this up, but I think it's from

Theta to alpha and then beta, which is like when you're like really awake and you're doing your job and you're working, you're kind of in that middle ground moving between those different brainwaves. That's when you're able to prime your mind and just really, yeah, create new habits and new belief systems and the whole piece. So I think and I definitely used to be guilty of this as well. And this is why I'm very motivated to not do it. I would fill that hour with

Like, all right, I'm just going to kind of get up and brush my teeth and then I'm going to sit down and make a bowl of oatmeal and like scroll on social media and then maybe check a few emails. And it just I was kind of not preparing myself for the day and kind of I want to say wasting that hour, but just not using it intentionally.

Yeah, I think that's a good point in that you got to make sure you're taking care of yourself too before you dive into whatever else is going on in the world. Yeah, well said. So the last question that I ask all of my guests is what does chasing life mean to you? Ooh, chasing life. So I guess...

for me it kind of elicits my own philosophy on life is i feel like we create life for ourselves like i know there's kind of the other school of thought which is more about

like finding yourself versus creating yourself. And I really believe, and I like to weigh more heavily on the side that you are creating it and you're kind of co-creating it. Like we spoke of like you're, you're moving with intention, but you're also moving with flow and ease and allowing different kind of, you know, energies, forces, whatever that is to guide you on that path. And you're responsible for creating a vision or a direction.

direction that you want to move in and then also responsible for taking the action steps towards it. But then again, just allowing something or someone else to guide you on that. So I think it's just kind of goes back to my philosophy. And I think it's more about maybe not for me, like chasing life, but like moving together with life. Like you're kind of, you're running with life. Yeah.

Yeah, I like that. Yeah, moving in the same direction instead of, again, working against it because we can think that I think life is working against us and I definitely was in that school of thought for a long time like why me why is this so hard and yeah why didn't I have this and that and just really kind of beat myself up like that but life is

is working for you and you are also working for it. So it's that give and take and you're moving together with it towards that direction that you want to go and towards that vision. I love all that. I actually have a quote right in my office that says, life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself. Oh, really? That's amazing. I knew it. I just knew it. Had a premonition. That's amazing.

you're just reading all these things that yeah we're both huge quote people so it shouldn't be surprising that exactly what you said is hanging in the wall of my office yeah yeah that's beautiful i need to make that my desktop background or something like that yeah i'll send you a picture of what it looks like yeah please do yeah um so nicole i have loved our conversation and i hope that our listeners have as well

Where can people find you and connect with you more? Yeah, I think the easiest place is just my website. So it's Nicole Raimondi, obviously N-I-C-O-L-E and then R-A-Y-M-O-N-D-I.com. And then I'm on Instagram at Nicole.Raimondi.

And, yeah, I think that's the best place to find me and just you can connect with me there. I have coaching. I obviously have a mobile app as well. And I am in the middle of creating my first corporate mindfulness training right now. So I'm going to be running a mindfulness training for organizations. So, yeah, just getting into some new things. But those are what I have to offer and show up and serve in the world.

It's pretty neat about the corporate mindfulness. You know, that must be really exciting to be developing that content with the goal of bringing it and presenting it to many corporate agencies in the future. Yeah, I'm super excited about it. I got asked to do that and basically taking the coaching program that I run, but then reworking it for the corporate training and making it, it's obviously about mindset, but making it a little more focused on mindfulness and that awareness piece and

and presence. So yeah, it's, it's been a lot of fun. It's definitely a new challenge. I'm definitely working through some limiting beliefs there and things that I want to improve, but I'm just super excited about where that's going to lead me and the business and just how that's going to show up in the world and support people through their organizations, which I feel like is a big theme lately, especially after the pandemic, a lot of

companies and organizations are wanting to show up more fully for their employees and support their mental health and support their personal growth. So they're looking for trainings like this and services. That's pretty cool. I'm excited to support you and watch you grow in that endeavor. Well, thank you so much, Nicole. I hope you have a great rest of the day. Thanks, Sarah. Yeah, it was great being here. I really appreciate it.

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