Talking about money is considered gauche and impolite, which keeps us underpaid and overworked because we don't know how much others are making. This taboo makes us feel alone and isolated when we have debt, and it prevents us from having transparent conversations that can lead to better financial decisions.
Women are taught that wanting money is bad, morally corrupt, and wrong. This belief is deeply ingrained, making women feel guilty about financial success. However, money itself is neutral, and its pursuit is not inherently bad. Money provides choices, flexibility, and the ability to stand in one's own power.
Having your own money is crucial for maintaining financial independence and personal power. It allows you to leave a situation if it's not respectful or safe, and it helps you avoid feeling trapped. Even in a committed relationship, it's important to have some of your own money to ensure you always have choices and options.
Capitalism creates pressure for both men and women to work extremely hard to make a stable living, often leaving them with no time for their families or personal lives. Both genders are pushed to the brink, feeling like they can't take a break. This pressure is exacerbated by systemic issues such as sexism and racism, which affect personal financial outcomes.
Money is the number one cause of divorce and separation in the United States. Couples often avoid talking about money until they are already married, which can lead to financial infidelity and hidden debts. Early and transparent conversations about money help build a healthy relationship and ensure both partners are on the same page.
Tori Dunlap started Her First 100K to combat the patriarchy's bullshit and help women master their money. She realized that personal finance is about 20% personal choices and 80% systemic issues, and that financial education is a tool for women to gain confidence, make strategic decisions, and build a life they love.
Automating savings ensures that a portion of your income is saved without you having to think about it. Waiting to save at the end of the month often leaves nothing left. By setting up automatic transfers, you're paying yourself first, which is crucial for building a financial cushion and achieving long-term goals.
Spending money on things that reflect your values brings more joy and satisfaction. Tori Dunlap suggests identifying your value categories—areas in life where you get the most joy—and directing your discretionary spending there. This helps you feel more aligned and content with your financial decisions.
Starting a side hustle can provide additional income and flexibility. It allows women to pursue their passions and gain financial independence without feeling tied to a job that doesn't support their growth or well-being. Entrepreneurship, while challenging, can lead to exponential financial gains and personal empowerment.
Financial independence allows women to choose partners who respect them and their financial status. It enables open and vulnerable conversations about money, eliminating the need to conform to societal norms. Women can decide when and how to split expenses, ensuring the relationship remains equitable and respectful.
They say money can’t buy happiness, but can it buy freedom? In this episode, Krista sits down with Tori Dunlap, internationally-recognized money + career expert, seven-figure entrepreneur, bestselling author, and top podcast host, to unpack the mindset behind financial security.
Ahead, Tori spills the tea on breaking those pesky societal taboos around discussing finances and how to transform money talk into a source of empowerment for women. Tori isn't holding back, pointing out the double standards for men and women when it comes to financial pursuits.
You don't want to miss Tori’s juicy insights on navigating finances in early dating and relationships… and yes, she reveals who she thinks should pay on the first date!! Plus, get your notebooks ready for some invaluable practical + spiritual tips on growing your wealth.
We also talk about:
Dating dynamics when one partner earns more
Financial infidelity + its impact on relationships
How to align your spending with personal values
Tori’s journey from corporate life to financial educator
The importance of financial independence for personal empowerment
The pressures of capitalism + patriarchal standards
The benefits of having an emergency fund
Practical tips for investing + saving
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