Harry Prince describes himself as a 'spare' because he was born as a backup to the primary heir, his brother William. He felt his role was functional rather than desired, emphasizing his secondary status within the royal family.
The death of his mother, Princess Diana, when he was 12 years old, significantly impacted Harry Prince's childhood. He describes the lack of emotional support and communication from his family following her death.
Harry Prince harbors a deep hatred for the media, which he blames for his mother's death and for constantly invading his privacy. He describes the media as 'vampires' who exploit his life for profit.
Harry Prince served in the military, undergoing rigorous training and facing life-threatening situations. He was involved in active combat, but his presence often put his unit at risk due to media exposure, leading to complex feelings about his role and privilege.
Harry Prince and Meghan decided to leave the royal family due to the intense media scrutiny and the lack of support from the royal institution. They sought a more private life, but the royal family's decision to withdraw their security forced them into a difficult position.
Harry Prince's experience as a child can be described by the psychological term 'unwanted child,' which refers to children who feel a deep sense of emptiness and longing for love and acceptance that is never fulfilled.
Harry Prince's relationship with his father, Prince Charles, is distant and lacks emotional warmth, whereas he felt a deep connection and loyalty to his mother, Princess Diana. He describes his father's love as distant and unexpressed.
The public's reaction to Harry Prince's autobiography was mixed. While some found his honesty refreshing, others, particularly in the UK, viewed it as a betrayal and an act of airing the royal family's dirty laundry.
Harry Prince's experience in the royal family contrasts sharply with his brother William's. While William chose to conform to the royal traditions and expectations, Harry rebelled, identifying more with his mother's struggles and seeking a more personal and authentic life.
Princess Diana played a crucial role in shaping Harry Prince's identity. He describes himself as the most loyal child to his mother, adopting her disdain for the media and her desire for a more human and compassionate approach to life, which ultimately led him to break away from the royal family.
简里里:前段时间鲁豫老师寄给我了她和李尧老师翻译的哈里王子自传《替补》,我认真读完了。这本书写得很诚恳。其中描述的很多细节令我吃惊。 我们有机会从哈里王子的的视角中看待英国王室曾经发生了什么。比如他贵为王子,但是他开篇就描述自己的出生是为了为王室继承人作为替补;他无足轻重。他也描述了他如何被整个系统层层供养和保护,同时他的脆弱也被这个系统暴露和完全地忽略。 精神分析中有一个词语描述这样的孩子:叫 unwanted child. 他们内在会体验非常强烈的空虚感。心理学家 Hartocollis 把这种空虚感形容为:“一种强烈的渴望。但渴望的对象几乎不存在。你体验到无尽的空虚和饥渴。是一种非常绝望的探寻。” 从这个视角来看,就更能够理解哈里王子的所有行为和选择。他在整个家族系统里面,是最忠实于母亲的孩子。他对于媒体的痛恨、对于他身处的王室系统的无助和愤怒、他选择从王室的出走、甚至这本书的发表。是坦诚,是复仇,是对于被爱和被理解的渴望。 我们从这本书中关于王室生活的八卦、对于哈里王子感受的描述,最后聊到了如何养育一个孩子。我们对于究竟如何是正确的:是彻底认同命运给予王子的设定,成为规矩王室中“成熟”的一员 vs 追求个人幸福感,成为一个人并无定论。 最后我们还聊了一点关于“刘小样”。也是个人与系统命运的对抗,但有似乎更带来希望的结果。 祝大家收听愉快,新年快乐!