Therapy is Making Things Worse
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Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Daniel, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you so much for taking my call. Thank you. What can I help you with? Yeah, I just wanted to start off by saying you are such a lovely lady and I listen to you every day and I love the program and I just wanted to thank you for that.

Thank you. Basically, I wanted to get your opinion. I've been starting these PTSD treatment sessions, and I'm calling from Toronto. Were you in the military? No. Oh, then what do you think gave you PTSD?

So that's the thing. I don't even know if I have PTSD. What do you think gave you PTSD? What do you think? Because you came right on and told me you're in therapy for that. So what happened to you? What's the trauma? My brother passed away two years ago. He took his life. How about you're sad and mad? Why did we go to a diagnosis of PTSD?

Why did we give you a clinical chair? I mean, why? That's a good question. I just feel like that's something that's given out so freely now. And, you know, this is the type of counseling we think you need. You're upset that your brother died and killed himself. Isn't that normal reaction? Why does it need a diagnosis? I don't understand. Help me. Yeah.

Well, that's a good question. I don't even know if that's something that would require a diagnosis. No, I don't think so. I think everybody in the universe who loses somebody by death, whether it was by that hand or someone else's, is going to be terribly upset. And I call that normal, not a disease. Right.

Yeah, and I just like, I think you're right about that. And just the fact that, you know, to constantly sit down and rehash it and go over it and, you know, Hashing and going over it makes things sit in cement. It's ridiculous form of therapy. Ridiculous. Yeah, I mean, I've basically, like I've been trying to tell You don't have to try to tell anybody anything. Why are you in therapy?

Yeah, that's a good question. I didn't know if it would help or not. Help with what? Feeling sad? You're not supposed to get help for feeling sad. You're supposed to feel sad. It's a normal human neurobiological mechanism. Normal.

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You know, it's just something it's one of those things that like I just feel like I'm going to be very impacted by this, you know, for the rest of my life. And well, that's a nice place to hide.

It's a nice place to hide. I suggest that people who have a close family member who kills themselves probably has it in their minds for the rest of their lives, but it doesn't get in the way of them being kind to people, reading books, hiking, doing charity work, working out with weights, that it's in your mind for the rest of your life is part of it. Yet to use that as an excuse to not get on with living. Whoa. Yeah.

I mean, I definitely think that I owe it to him to continue living and doing all of those things. You don't owe anything to him. You don't owe him anything. He's the one who clocked out on his own volition. Didn't get help, didn't go to therapy for 50 years and talk about this.

He terminated himself knowing full well, as anybody does, that you damage everybody you leave behind. You owe him nothing. But you owe the blessing of life to continue living it in a healthy, productive way. You owe life that. You owe everybody in your life who cares about you. You owe them to not sit here and simmer in I'm sad and or pissed. Yeah, I agree with you.

So pay the debt to all the people around you who need you to continue living like a reasonable person. He's dead. He doesn't need your behavior to change. They're all alive. They need you to live with them. Yeah, they definitely do. I mean, I have a nephew. He has a child that's turning five and

I think that, you know, it's important that I, you know, continue to be a good uncle and just, you know, continue to be there for him. So stop with the therapy and start doing your best for everyone else. Yeah. There's nothing stupider than a therapy where you just sit and rehash the same crap again and again because that just fixates it. Right. And especially like if it's PTSD centered and, you know,

It's not PTSD. You know, they're coming up. Yes. That's the newest one. Yeah, I love that one. Nobody's narcissistic anymore. Now everybody's PTSD. You know, my profession, which has turned into a business, just goes in waves. That way they keep the revenue coming in. Yeah.

I think that, you know, I totally get what you're saying in terms of owing it to myself and living and doing all these things that, you know, are good for me. You said but. Do you know in concentration camps? Shush! Shush! Do you know that in concentration camps during the Holocaust, starving, terrified people shared their food?

Yeah, I know from first-hand experience, my grandparents. Well, they shouldn't have been able to do that. Yeah, but they did. That's right. You owe them to do better than you're doing now. You owe them. They not only valued life, they valued the quality of life. They valued compassion in spite of the satanic stuff going on around them. Yeah.

That's your heritage, not your brother. Yeah. Very good point. You have a lot to give, and there are many people who need you. That's how your life has purpose, meaning, and value. And in doing so, you're not going to spend a lot of time being sad because you'll be back into life.

Yeah. Well, thank you for that. I appreciate that. Okay, Sarah, call me anytime you need me to nag you again. You're amazing. Thank you. Thanks for having me. You're very welcome. You're very welcome. My number, 1-800-375-

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