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On Porn: How To Quit Relapsing

2025/4/24
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Connor Beaton: 戒除色情是一个漫长而充满挑战的过程,复发很常见,会带来羞耻和挫败感。但我们可以通过以下方法来应对: 首先,要明确戒除色情的理由,例如提升自尊,成为更好的自己。这个理由需要在面对诱惑时不断强化。我戒除色情是为了提升自尊,成为一个更值得敬佩的人。 其次,要了解色情成瘾的诱因,主要包括无聊、重复性和负面情绪。无聊时,容易因为色情易于获取而沉迷;重复性的行为会改变情绪状态,大脑倾向于重复;负面情绪(孤独、沮丧、焦虑、愤怒等)时,更容易产生观看色情的冲动。 当出现观看色情的冲动时,要设置计时器并中断行为模式,反思当前情绪和需求。这有助于打破习惯性行为模式。 第三,要建立人生目标和意义,让生活充满活力和动力,减少对色情的依赖。建立目标可以是健身、学习艺术、发展事业等。 第四,要将观看色情的能量转移到更有益的活动中,例如冥想、运动、与朋友相处等。这需要将色情成瘾的习惯替换成更有益的习惯。 最后,要理解色情是一种伪关系,满足了人们对关系的需求。建立强健的人际关系是克服色情成瘾的关键。缺乏强健的人际关系会加剧对色情的依赖,因此要积极发展人际关系。 在复发时,要积极处理情绪,并与他人沟通,寻求支持。不要独自面对这个问题。

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This chapter emphasizes the importance of identifying your reasons for quitting porn and reinforcing that decision when faced with urges. It highlights building self-respect and becoming someone you admire as key motivators. The author shares his personal experience and emphasizes the long-term benefits of quitting.
  • Reinforce your decision to quit porn by focusing on your reasons (self-respect, more energy, better relationships).
  • Acknowledge the positive changes you've made and how your past self would admire your progress.
  • Understand your personal reasons for quitting and use them to overcome urges.

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Talking points: mindset, addiction, porn

It's a serious challenge. You're doing well, you think you've broken free—and suddenly you're back. This week, I dig into practical ways you can reinforce and reenergize your commitment. For more helpful info, check out my free guide here: https://training.mantalks.com/Quit)

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the first step

(00:04:13) - Get to the bottom of what’s driving the urge

(00:08:56) - Purpose beats porn

(00:11:15) - Redirect AND replace

(00:14:05) - Understand porn as a “pseudo-attachment”


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