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I planned on making a whole outline for this episode, and then I realized I don't even know what I want this episode to be about. So we're just going to talk through it together. We're going to see what's in my mind. We're going to see what's been heavy on my heart. We're going to see what my journal says. We're going to look at my notes app, and we're just going to take it one step at a time. And I will say the one thing that's been really heavy on my mind lately is...
just becoming aware. Becoming aware of a situation, becoming aware of what you can't control, becoming aware of what you can't control, and just kind of seeing things from more than one perspective. If you're watching on YouTube,
You will notice that I just got new chairs in my room. And if you're not watching on YouTube, well, I just got new chairs in the podcast room. And I just ordered this neon light. Like, you know those... They were, like, trending for a while. Like, the neon lights. But it's in the logo for the podcast, which you guys haven't seen yet because that is coming. And honestly...
I think that's been another thing on my mind. I'm constantly talking about how I want to take this podcast to the next level and do all these things and I get really upset with myself and I'm really hard on myself when I don't because the thing is with social media, there's constantly a way to be doing something or working on the next thing or figuring out how to grow because
social media algorithms. They're changing every single day. And ideally I want to be posting on the moments, tick tock. I want to be posting on the moments Instagram, but with that comes a lot of behind the scenes work, like just to post on the Instagram page,
it's having to go through all my old photos, design graphics and sit there and draw them for like hours at a time, go through Pinterest to find new things to post on there. And that's just the Instagram, which I love. And that doesn't even include Instagram stories where I could be promoing each new episode or like what they're about. And then there's the TikTok, which is having to go find audio files from past episodes and upload them to old videos and then, and then make sure the timing's right and add the text and then
Long story short, it's just very time consuming. And I am just really doing my best to be patient with myself and be patient with this podcast and allow it to grow at the rate that it's naturally going to grow versus jumping onto trends and algorithms just to get more people to listen right away. What I'm trying to build, obviously, is like a really safe community for all of us and for
I've kind of just been having to remind myself that that's not going to happen whether I post a TikTok or not. Like, you guys who are here and who have been here and are riding with me, you guys know, um...
don't know where I was going with that. You guys just are the best and I appreciate you and I know that you're here for all the right reasons and I feel like anything that I bring in from a TikTok is maybe just people for like the wrong reasons or I don't know like why am I still rambling about this? I just drank a coffee. I'm still in the process of drinking that coffee actually but another thing I wanted to share with you guys before I get into like the nitty-gritty even though this is kind of just an episode of us totally catching up um
I am getting two tattoos tonight, and by the time this episode comes out, I'll already have them, so we'll see if I actually went through with it, because I was going to get these tattoos last Sunday, on Father's Day, because my mom is actually getting one today.
For my grandpa. And if you guys like actually know what I look like or follow me on something besides the podcast, I have the always smiling tattoo on my forearm and that one's in my grandpa's handwriting and my mom has wanted one too, but she's just been kind of waiting for the right time and like when it felt right.
So now is when she's doing that. So I'm getting mine. And guess what I'm getting tattooed on my body? You guys are never going to guess. Moments. I'm going to get it on the side of my foot. And not just because Moments is the name of my podcast, but a lot of the reasoning is just because every experience in life is just a passing moment. It can be a beautiful moment, a tragic moment. Life is a collection of moments. And that's always resonated really well with me. And...
I just, again, have so many goals for this podcast and it's such a passion project and I know it's going to take time, but moments is going to turn into so much more than a podcast and it is a work in progress. Like I know I've been telling you guys for so long that there's a journal coming and that there's merch coming. But again, the behind the scenes stuff takes so much more time than I ever could have realized. Like I've never had such an appreciation for people who start their own business or people who do come out with merch because they're
Dang, it is a lot of work between the designing and figuring. It's just time consuming. And I am so grateful that you guys have been so patient with me. And I promise you when this does come and when it does happen, it's going to be real. And I'm going to be so excited for it. So if you guys are going to want to buy anything, please do. Because it will make me so happy. For more reasons just than it being a business. Just because, I don't know, you guys are the best. Let's move on.
What else is new in my life? If you listened to last Monday's episode, gosh. I personally was not able to listen to it back. I didn't even like promo it or post about it or anything just because I was kind of like thinking about what I probably sounded like in that video and I know it was like a story time and number one,
Story time was unnecessary. I think I felt like I really needed to share that story about the boy drama just because it was so consumed in my mind. And I don't know. It's just not what's consuming my mind right now. And I'm looking back on it and thinking, which is going to bring me into how it kind of relates to this week's episode.
What you think about the most is all you're going to be able to talk about. And obviously, there's a lot of situations where it's kind of hard to control what you're thinking about. And that whole situation was one of them. And if you don't know what I'm talking about, it really doesn't matter. It was so stupid. Basically, I just got played and then, like, there were rumors about me going around on the internet, which is never fun. Obviously, that consumed my mind a lot. But...
We're past it. We're moving forward and we're reflecting and we're becoming aware of the fact that that was a situation that was in the past. There is nothing I can do in this moment to change it. I have spoken my piece. I have said my truth, whatever you want to call it. And it is what it is.
It does suck because I'm still seeing tons of comments that are like just calling me nasty things about the whole situation. And I try to not let them affect me personally because I am very aware of who I am to my core and I'm very confident in like my intentions and my morals and my values. It just kind of affects me sometimes because when you choose to do social media as a full-time job, your name is very important. Like your reputation, what people think of you, it matters a lot. And
Word spread like wildfire. So seeing comments saying bad things about me, the first thing I think is like, oh my god, they're going to tell their friends all this and all that, and then eventually the whole world's going to hate me and I'm going to lose everything. And I'm like, Lexi, that's just a little bit absurd. Why don't we move past it? Why don't we let it go? Why don't we use comment fillers or blockers, whatever it is? So that's what I did. I turned my comment filters on because I just did not need to hear certain names anymore. I did not need to hear certain words anymore.
And it's just better for my mental health if I don't see them. What one person thinks of me and what one person thinks of you does not determine who you are. As long as you know, and I say this all the time, as long as you know who you are to your core and you lead your life with the right intentions, I promise people are going to see you for who you are. Same way that like, you know, they always say people's true colors always show.
If you're a good person, your true colors are going to show. If you're a bad person, your true colors are going to show. And there's nothing you can do to control it. It's an energy thing. It's an aura thing. So just stay true to you and you will get past it. This episode of the Moments Podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp.com.
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If you listened to last week's episode, I don't know, maybe I had some words of wisdom up in there talking about boys and drama, but at that point I was very much like, no, boys ain't worth it. Boys ain't shit, you know? And I still am in that mindset. I am in my self-love summer era, my figure myself out and focus on myself time. And that's what I've been doing. And...
I will say, like, since I recorded that last episode, I have been on just these waves. Like, I have been really high. You know, I dyed my hair, if you didn't see that, which I'm super excited about. And that wasn't just because I got heartbroken. That was because I have had it planned for a while, but the timing just couldn't have been more perfect. So, like, when I did that, you know, I'm on top of the world. I'm confident. I'm happy. I was going to the gym. I was listening to my...
My hot girl playlist. And then a couple days after that, a lot of things hit me. Because I'm human and I have emotions and...
It's weird the way I am with emotions. Like, I'm a type 7, so 7s usually run from negative emotion or they find ways to avoid, like, feeling negative emotion, and that's what I do. But this week was just super weird for me. I was feeling super low, and all I wanted to do was cry, like, just break down and bawl my eyes out. And I couldn't get myself to do it. I tried everything. I listened to the saddest songs. I thought of the saddest things possible. No tears, nothing.
I still felt super low and I was in this funk and honestly up until I think this morning I was in this funk. Like I just was trying to get myself to go to the gym and I kid you not two days in a row I walked into the gym and I walked out and obviously this sounds like a lot like I'm just kind of talking about myself here but...
I want it to just remind you that you are a human. Your emotions are going to go up. They're going to go down. It's going to be a roller coaster. You can think that you're past something when you're not. And you're just going to face these waves, these waves that are going to knock you down. They're going to push you underwater. And sometimes the only thing you can do is just become aware of them.
Become aware of why you're feeling what you're feeling and then whip out your journal and get it all out of you. Like the things that I've been doing to help me get through this little funk. And it's weird for me to say funk because I think this is the first time in a while where I've been feeling down just because of like one specific situation. Like in the past when I've done podcast episodes about...
being in a funk or feeling down or like getting myself out of like sadness. It's usually just like something that's built up over time and I just let it get really bad. This is one of those where it's like, okay, something shitty happened. How do we get past the feeling shitty part? The things I've kind of been doing to help myself do that is number one,
sauna meditation guys this slaps what you're gonna do is if you have like a local gym or you have access to a sauna I I didn't until recently I literally got a gym membership at the sets gym so I had a sauna I will after my workout but past few times I've done it I haven't even worked out I've gone straight to the sauna you're gonna go on the sauna and you're gonna play a playlist
Any playlist. I personally, if I want to feel it, like I want to feel my emotions and I want to get sad, I'll listen to like Fine Line, Harry Styles, or I'll queue up some sad Taylor Swift. And as you sweat, I just want you to envision yourself. Like envision the sweat droplets to be the negative emotions that you're feeling. And this really works for me because since I have a hard time crying, I kind of envision the sweat like my body crying. And I know that sounds like dramatic, but
But for me it works, and if it works for me, that's all that matters. And then if you want to feel... Okay, I'm glitching again. Sorry, guys.
If you want to just go and feel healed and feel powerful and, like, empower yourself, there's this one artist. His name is Londrell. I think it's spelled L-O-N-D-R-E-L-L-E on Spotify. And he has just these songs that are very – I don't even want to say spiritual. They're kind of just, like, affirmations, and they talk to you. And –
They are so powerful for me. Like, usually, before all this crap happened, when I would do my sauna meditation, I just queue up a few of these songs, and I close my eyes, and I feel them, and I listen to them, and it just, like, takes over my whole body, and it's powerful. Anyways, that was a long ramble about a sauna meditation, but I recommend you try it. And if you don't have access to a sauna, it's summertime. Go outside, baby. Go for a walk. Put on your favorite songs or favorite podcasts. And same thing, just envision the sweat being...
Everything that you need to release. Envision that it's negative energy just leaving your body. And the other thing that I've been doing is journaling. And I love me a good journal entry. The one that I did a couple nights ago, I want to share with you.
Basically, I hadn't journaled about anything that I've kind of been going through this past week until that night. So I caught up my journal, all my people who read my journal, which is literally no one. But I write in my journal like someone's going to read it. And it's so fun. And if anything ever happens to me, like God forbid it does, I'm so glad that someone will read that journal because it's a very safe place in there and I love it. Anyways, I caught the journal up on my situation. And then...
While I was writing, I was just feeling so sad. And I'm like, damn, bro, like get over it. Like literally get over it. And I decided to make a list of everything that was hurting my heart, everything that was heavy on my mind, everything that I felt like was causing me to be so sad. So I wrote that list. And then on the next page, I made a list of everything that I'm looking forward to in my life. And when I did this,
I could get emotional just thinking about it. I really, really began to recognize and became aware of how stupid it was that I was sad over the things that I was sad about because I looked at my list of things I was looking forward to and I was like, wow, there is so much beauty that lies ahead. There's really no reason for me to be dwelling on something that I can no longer change, something that I no longer have control over. And...
It's just such a good reminder for us to sometimes switch up our awareness, like switch up what we're focusing on, like redirect your mind. And I also made a TikTok the other day where I just made it to some random sound that I found. And then what I typed on it was that sometimes all we need is some redirection with like what we're thinking about. We could choose to think about everything that sucks, like what we have going on, or we can choose to focus on the fact that like,
We live at the same time as Colleen Hoover and Taylor Swift and Zendaya. And, like, we got to go watch the new Top Gun Maverick movie. Like, there is a lot of beauty in the things that we don't even recognize. And there is so much to be grateful for. Oh, my gosh. Another thing I want to tell you guys about...
I have this friend. I actually went to prom with him back in my junior year of high school. But, like, we were always just friends. His name is Daylen. His mom's name is Elena. I think that's how I say it. Oh, my gosh. I really hope I'm not butchering that. But what she does is these things called soul sketches. And, basically, she's very spiritual. I don't exactly remember, like, what she calls herself. All I know is that she's literally awesome. And...
She had listened to my podcast one time and she said that she got like a calling to do a soul sketch on me. And basically what those are is that she'll like be looking at a piece of paper and she'll see something on the paper and she'll draw it. But like nothing was ever on the paper before. I don't know if that makes sense. Really where I was going with this is that like she wanted to come talk to me about it and like wanted to show it to me and...
I get anxious about like doing new things and going new places. I've just been very much in my little zone hanging out with my small circle of people. So I kind of like put it off for a little while. I was like, oh, I can't. And I also was actually busy. But one day, like a day that I was actually I had so much going on. I was like, no, I need to go meet with her. I need to go see like what she has to tell me and what she wants to share with me. And I did. I stepped out of my comfort zone to go do it. And it was just the coolest thing ever.
Obviously, I'm not going to get into like the deep personal stuff that we talked about because a lot of it had to do with like family emotions, which are another thing that I've been feeling lately. Obviously, I can't get into that on here, but it's just what am I saying? I've been talking for 17 minutes. I don't think that I've paused this once. So whatever. You guys know me well enough to know by now that like my brain is just going to go all over the place.
Anyways, I go there and I'm talking to her and she just like really helped spark inspiration in me and like creativity and just kind of reminded me to keep chasing my purpose and keep chasing my passion. And that's what I want to do. And I really feel like that's what I'm being called to do right now. And I really feel like I'm being called to just let the situation be the past. And of course, I keep saying that yet. I'm still here talking about it again. That's because we're all human. Like you...
You need to understand that the first step to get past something is to become aware that you need to make the shift. I'm currently reading this book. It's called A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. He has another book called The Power of Now that's supposed to be really, really awesome. I personally started reading it and I have not finished it. I started reading it most likely almost two years ago. So it's on the list to finish, but...
Anyways, I'm reading this book and it talks about how the first step of becoming aware and the first step into stepping into your conscious mind and away from your ego is becoming aware that you are living like through your ego and you're feeding your ego. It's really simply put, the first step is admitting you have a problem.
And not that this is a problem, not that your emotions are a problem or like what you go through is a problem, but like just become aware that you've been thinking about it maybe more than you need to. And become aware that the future is a lot brighter than the past. And we can focus on that and we can lean into that. And...
Yeah, it's a really cool book so far. A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle. I'm only on page 20, so don't hold me to that. But I was also thinking lately, since I'm just like literally mind dumping on you guys, if you buy a self-help book and it takes you a year to read it, I actually had like a realization with this.
That's okay because the universe or God is going to lead you in the direction of reading that book when you're meant to read that book. Like I have started many, many self-help books. I've maybe finished less than 20% of them. But every time I go back to the books that I didn't finish yet or I like had just barely started, what I read that day in that moment is exactly what I needed to read. So if I would have read it a year ago, it wouldn't have resonated with me nearly as much as it did when I ended up reading it.
Obviously, that can be a placebo effect. All of this can be a placebo effect. Like literally, you can call mindset, you can call affirmations, you can call manifest. You can call it all like a placebo effect. And if you're someone who finds it like stupid and useless, then that's you. Like, and that's fine. But whether it's placebo effect or not, it's powerful because you're controlling your mind and you're controlling like the energy that you put out. This episode is brought to you by Shopify. Whether you're selling a little...
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This kind of leads me into the next thing I wanted to bring up with you guys. I was thinking about it a lot last night, but basically, you can't teach people that aren't willing to be taught. You can't love people that aren't willing to be loved. And the list can go on and on and on. But the reality is, if you're trying to...
talk to someone about something and they are a very closed minded person chances are you're never really going to get through to them they're constantly just going to be thinking about how they're going to defend their idea or defend themselves or the truth is they're just not even listening to you and since we're like protecting our energy this summer and we're really really going to become aware of where we're putting our energy
If someone's not willing to listen to you, don't sit there and try to explain it to them. We are all on like a different schedule and on a different path and we are all going to accept things at different times and a lot of people just aren't going to get it. And that's okay because here's the thing, you don't need validation from them. Whatever you're doing, whatever you're at, whatever you believe, that's exactly what you're supposed to be believing. It doesn't matter if they don't think it makes any sense.
Because who cares literally who cares you are? Floating on a rock the way that my mind works right now like I honestly feel like I don't know I'm just thinking about all sorts of things, but we're floating on a rock in the middle of space and For all we know there's another Earth like planet somewhere else where they have like flying cars who knows Okay literally
I don't know how to make this sound like nice, but it's supposed to be a good thing. Like you're just an aunt. No one gives two craps about you or what you're doing. And I realize now that that does sound bad, but what I'm trying to say is
Is that no one's thinking about you as much as you think they're thinking about you. And that's a beautiful thing because I know that we can get in our heads and we're constantly thinking like, oh, but this person thinks this about me or they think I look like this or I'm insecure about this because I know they're looking at it. They're not. And if they do, it's for a split second and then they're back to focusing on themselves.
This is our time to really, really tap into who we are and who we want to be and how we want to think. And you have control over all of those things. And what I want you to make it your goal, what I want you to make your goal is to do it all for you. Don't do it for anyone else because you are the one that you've got forever.
Now, I'm not even sure what I got into in this episode, but I've been talking for 23 minutes, so I'm just going to give you a few more takeaways, and then we'll leave it at that. We'll keep her nice and short this week. But, oh, also, you guys, guess where I'm going? When I got sad last week, I decided to book a flight to Michigan, so I'm going to Michigan to see Meredith, and unfortunately, Hannah's out of town, which kind of sucks, but I'll see her again soon, I'm sure.
Anyways, I'm going to see Meredith, and we're going to see Rex Orange County, and I really cannot wait. But what that means for you guys, where I was really going with that, is that we are going to record a podcast episode together, so get hype, get excited, DM me what you want us to talk about, and we will definitely talk about it. But...
Some things to take away. Number one, I want you to whip out a journal. And if you don't have a journal or you don't really like writing, go to the notes app on your phone. Write what's on your mind. Do that thing where you write the list of everything that sucks and then make a nice, long, beautiful list of everything good that is coming your way.
Because I promise you there's things. You just have to tap into that side of your mind that wants to focus on the good. You get to choose what you're focused on. And I need this reminder just as much as anyone else. Like, obviously, we're all going to go through the waves. We're all going to feel the motions. We're all going to be hurt sometimes. But the only way to deal with that hurt is to start healing and to start focusing on what there is to look forward to because I promise you there's a whole lot going
Make a gratitude list even. I've told you guys probably so many times about the one that I started in my notes just because I'm always thinking to it and adding to it. But just start it. Like literally write down small things that you're grateful for. Yesterday, I don't remember what I wrote on there. I think it was like Charmin Ultra Song toilet paper because it's so soft. Literally stuff like that, guys. There's a lot to be grateful for. And you're in control of that. So make that gratitude list. And the next one is to just become aware.
Aware of where you're putting your energy, aware of what you're focusing on. It's all in your control. Literally everything that you do and everything that you want to accomplish, you can. It is in your control. Just tap into your awareness and tap into your awareness. Wow, I'm forgetting how to say the word awareness. Tapping into your awareness, even when you're hurting, is super powerful because it can help you understand a lot of why you feel the way you feel.
If you just sit with it and you don't really focus on it, I don't know. You're not going to understand why you're sad. But if you're aware of it, you're going to understand exactly why you're sad and it's going to help you move past it a lot quicker, if that makes sense. And the last thing I want you to take away from this episode is that it is your summer, okay? You are going to do things for you. You're going to focus on you. You're going to evolve for you. And I'm getting repetitive. I can feel it. So I'm going to leave it at that. But each of you...
I don't know if you need to hear this. I don't know if you need the reminder, but you are so uniquely made. There was a one in like four trillion chance that you exist right now. So look at yourself as a miracle because you are one. You deserve to feel loved and you deserve to feel worthy because you are. And I love you in case no one else has told you lately. I love you exactly for who you are. And I mean it. Okay.
Tune in next week because Meredith is going to be here and I feel like by next week I'll have my life together a little bit again. This week has just been a little shit show, excuse my language, for my own personal mind. But we're on to bigger and better things and I'm going to go get a tattoo and then I'm going to eat some bomb pad thai tonight. Also don't forget to fuel yourself in case you needed that reminder too.
I love you. You're amazing. And big things are coming for this podcast. I can't wait for you guys to see the finished little studio room and the merch. I have another call, and I've gotten some more designs back. So you guys don't even care. I'm going to stop rambling, but you'll be excited when it comes out. All right, I love you. You're amazing. Goodbye.