Faith, friends and lessons learned with Meredith Good (Part 2)
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Hello, my beautiful people. Welcome back to the Moments Podcast. I have a very special guest. I'm here with Meredith Joy Good. What else? Let's see what else I have written down. We've kind of gone over a lot of these. Okay, I like this one. How do you like to spend your alone time? Like what is everybody has a different thing? Because I feel like you used to not necessarily...

love alone time or what you used to I used to like alone time but now because I was with people for two and a half months like straight I realized I I am more extroverted than I think that I am and I get a lot of energy from being around people but when I'm by myself if I'm by myself too long like that's turned into a spiral because I'll I'll start thinking and I don't like to do all that yeah you're like I don't like to think too much when I'm in my alone time I really like to just sit and like

read my Bible. Lately, when I'm at home, I've been, like, painting, which is a new, it's a new thing for me to pick up because I don't normally do that. We should have a painting night. But it's so, like, therapeutic and it's so fun because it's, like, you don't have to be good at it, but it's just, like, quiet and, like,

But still doing an activity. Yeah. I like that. So I think it's, like, fun because it's... I'm just, like... I like finding new ways to spend time with the Lord. And it's, like, painting is... It's one of them. You know, that's a good way to put it, too. If you are somebody who struggles with alone time, like, you have to... I feel like it could be helpful to recognize you don't have to be alone if you don't want to be. Yeah. Like, you don't have to look at it like that. But I also...

used to not like alone time now I love it like I thrive I thrive in my alone time I used to think I was an extrovert like I always wanted to be around people no we did a full swap like Meredith and I anybody who knows Meredith and I knows this story but Meredith wouldn't share a chapstick with anybody she wouldn't share a water with anybody like she was just the most like clean I was a germaphobe

Dermaphobe. Oh, so I'm dirty now. Yeah, now she's dirty. Now she stinks. No, but for real. Like, I'm just kidding. I don't stink. I sprayed Glossier today. No, I'm just kidding. But, like, we...

Really, and I say this often, like brought each other out of our shells. And now look at us. We've swapped. But I got her to share ChapStick with me. And that's when I knew we were going to be best friends forever and ever and ever. No, I owe everything to Lexi because she literally got me to do all the things I'm scared of. Like I swam with sharks, which I would never do that. I did make her swim with sharks. I climbed mountains, which is now one of my like, I love to do that. I now share ChapStick, which has saved my lips from being chapped.

So I saved her life, basically. She's shown me the, like, foods that I don't like, but I like them now. Honestly, that's so true. So... Yeah, I think we just really pull each other out of our comfort zones in, like, different ways. But I was going somewhere with that. You're an introvert. So, okay, yeah. So I used to think I was an extrovert. And now I've learned I'm an extroverted introvert. I get my energy from my alone time. Like, I would...

I love to be alone, but I can play a really good job at being an extrovert. Like, if you put me in a setting with a bunch of people, you would think I'm an extrovert because I play the role very well. Yeah. That makes sense. Yeah. But, like, alone time for me, I guess I also now have it less often enough to really get to the point where I'm thinking and I'm stuck with my thoughts. But basically, before I started dating Gabe, I'd say, like, all of...

2022 is it was my first year living alone I absolutely thrived in my alone time like and I really understood my thoughts and who I was and I think that that's why I got to a point where I did fall in love because I was so sure of who I was and you can't properly learn who you are until you spent enough time alone that's I think yeah and that was something I learned in that time but now that I've been with Gabe for so long and we've lived together for what seven months like I spend I

a lot less time alone. And now I find myself when I am alone for too long of a stretch, I start to go really crazy in my mind and with my thoughts. So I think it's just in every period of life, alone time looks different, but it should always be

a priority. Yeah. Yeah. It's definitely, it's definitely important. I think that a long time, it's so easy to say like, Oh, I know myself and I'm myself because of my friends and my friends make up who I am. But like, if you genuinely haven't ever spent enough time alone with yourself to be like, is this what I love? Or is this just what my friends love? But I love it because they love it. You know, like it's so easy to

To morph into other people. And like pick up on other people's values. It's the same way like when you have a crush when you're young. You just convince yourself to like everything that they like. Like it's something that we've all done. And something that we all still do. But there's a difference between liking things because other people like them. Because you want to be liked. And liking things for other people because you love them. Like with Gabe and I. I've learned to love Star Wars. But I didn't like Star Wars so that he would like me.

I like Star Wars because I love him. Yes. Does that make sense? Yes, that's so good. That's so true. So going back to like the crushes thing and like the boys thing and the relationships thing, like that's something that's so big. You have to know yourself. Yeah. Deeply. Yes. Before you're going to find the right person. Otherwise, you're going to subconsciously morph into that person so that you're liked. Yeah, exactly. Okay. Okay.

How did we get to that one? I don't know. Because you said alone time. Alone time. Oh, okay. FOMO. FOMO from alone time. Alone time to FOMO. Anyways, I think that I forget the context of what this was being asked. And it was more so like, do we get FOMO of each other, of each other's like life? And I feel like the answer maybe at a certain point would have been yes. Like maybe when we went from living together for...

so long to like first being separated. Yeah. But like now we're at a point where not really. No, no. Cause it's like, you're like, no, I don't want anything. Nope. No, I think it's like more formal because I wish that we were experiencing things together. Like when I was traveling, I'm like, dang, like I wish Lexi was here or like, I wish she was here to like

try this food or like see this but I'm like okay we'll go like we gotta there's there's time so I think that's the only like FOMO that I would have is like I wish we were experiencing it together but I'm not like oh this is gonna bring our friendship down because we're not like it's not it's a very different kind of FOMO it's more of like a wish you were here yes which is such a beautiful thing I think to get to in life and I feel like in friendships

Especially younger, like high school and college and even like post-college when we were living in Hawaii. Like FOMO was more surface level. It was like, oh, I didn't get invited. Like I wish I was there. Or like I can't go. Like I wish I could be there. You just wanted to be there for the sake of being there. Yeah. To say that you were there. Not because you actually wanted to be there. Yeah. But I think that you get to a point where, again, I think so much of this comes back to like knowing yourself and being present in your own life that you have less desire to...

This is... The phrasing I was going to say was, like, you have less desire to be a part of other people's life constantly. Sounds wrong. Do you get what I'm trying to say? Yeah, yeah. I think it's, like... Like, this goes along with alone time. When you spend a lot of time with yourself, I think you become more secure in who you are. And, like, you build, like, a new form of, like, friendship with yourself, kind of. Like, you're very, like, this is who I am. This is what I like to do. And so when...

You see people, like, other people doing, like, everything, and you don't have that desire to be with them, not because you don't love them, but because you're secure and, like, that's not for me. Yeah, well, I used to get a lot of FOMO when, like, let's use Lissette, for example. If you guys don't know, Lissette's, like, my best friend since I was five. We have completely different lifestyles. Like, she's an accountant. I...

I never know what I'm doing with my day. Like it's, it's, we're so opposite, but we work so well together and we've been inseparable since six years old, five years old, whatever it was. But when we first moved apart from each other, I would get so much FOMO of like seeing her go out with her friends and like go, you know,

Like, whatever it may be, whatever she was doing, I wanted to be there. And it took me, like, some time to really recognize, like, yeah, I want to be with Lissette, but I don't want to be at the club. Like, if I was there, I wouldn't want to be there. Like, separating and just recognizing that not every experience needs to be a part of your life. Like, especially with me, like, I feel like I used to get so much fun over people going out when I knew deep down I never even liked going out. Well, and that goes along, like, with what... Oh, my gosh. I...

No, that goes along with, like, oh, my gosh, what was it? What was I going to say? I think it was fire. I think it was fire. Okay. Oh, yeah. There it is. See? It's, like, when you, like, do things to make other people like you. Like, not because you like to do it, but because you just want to be, like, liked by them. And not even, like, well, that's a different story. Like, you guys are best friends. Yeah, but this goes beyond that. Friends that you aren't, like, super close with, you, like, would FOMO because you're, like, oh, I need to...

go there and I make my mark yeah yes like you just you crave like the liking of feedback more than like oh this would be a fun activity to do yeah and I think that for so long and for so many of us we're constantly trying so hard to be liked by people and if you spend your whole life doing that you'll never feel liked enough yeah if you just want people to I'm like true

Where'd that come from? Dang, write that down. What? Put that on a t-shirt. No, but it's so true. It's like the same idea of you're constantly chasing something, whether that may be success or love. You're never going to find the real version of it, you know, because it's already right in front of us in so many different aspects of our life. Like when you, like yourself...

You attract the people who are like-minded to you. That's not to say that people are just going to appear at your front door that are going to be your best friends. Like there's still going to be friendships that don't work out. There's still going to be people that drift. You're still going to have to put the work in to create friendships and, and go places to meet the right people. But yeah,

you should be going places to meet people that you would naturally go whether it was for people or not, you know? Like if I, I'm not going to make my best friends at the club if I don't like the club, you know? Like it's just, you're going to have different interests. But then there's also friends that you grow up with where me and Lissette, for example, we have a different idea of fun, but we meet each other in the middle and it works perfectly. But I'm talking more so I guess for new friendships that you're creating. Sometimes you get older. Yeah. Well,

Well, because as you get older, friendships are harder because we're all in such different stages of life. And I feel like we're at an age now where, like, some people have boyfriends or some people are married or some people live across the world. Like, you have to be more intentional with the friendships that you pour into. Yeah. Because otherwise, don't waste your time. Yeah. That's been the craziest thing about, like, just, like, I feel like we're just...

Starting our adult years. It's so crazy. It's so weird to me right now because literally all of my friends are like, some are engaged, some have houses, some have real big girl jobs. It's so easy to feel left out from your friendships, but you have to know it's life. It's a beautiful thing to grow up. I still have gotten to the point where in my head, I've accepted a lot of things and I now see things differently.

well but like growing up for me that one hasn't really clicked in my brain like I don't I'm not at a point where I'm like no growing up is wonderful it's so awesome living far away from your best friends and having to pay bills and stuff like that like I'm not at that mindset yet but I do recognize that it's like what we were saying before I'm in the moment

Where I want to be in a different moment or I want to be somewhere else because it was so much better. But like everything is going to be so much better than the moment you're in if you're only remembering the good parts of the past moments, which is a good thing. Like you should only remember the good things. You don't need to torture yourself with trauma from the past. Right. But...

It's true. It's like going in the drone, looking at the bird's eye view. Like this life right now, this is a moment I'm going to want to get back when I have kids or something. I'm going to be like, oh, life when I didn't have kids. You'll always be wanting to. There's always something better if you're looking for something better. You know? That's so good. So good. Lexi the other day was like, don't grow up. It's just not fun. And I was like, yeah, grow up. It's so fun. And then I was like, I'm the one that is literally living at home with my parents and

I don't do anything. I'm like, like say I was like a full blown like house dog boyfriend, like everything. It's actually crazy. This all happened in like a year too. Like, I mean, I guess I got the dog and the boyfriend a year ago, but this all happened so quick. Like I was so...

The opposite. Like, I never in my life would have thought. When people would ask, like, who's getting married first, I'd be like, not me. I'll be like, never married. Forget about that. I want to be single for life. Girl, no. But Mary's like, please. Girl, tell me what I don't want this. It's what they always say. It comes when you least expect it. Cliche as it gets, Meredith is like, okay. I go, I'm not expecting anything. You're like, I don't. I swear. I'm not expecting nothing. Where is it at, though?

No, truly though. The right person will come into her. People also ask like who I see you with. But when I say people, I think there was only like one. It was me. It was me. I actually added that one in. No, but Meredith deserves. And I've said anybody who asks me about Meredith and Lissette, I say the same things about them both. Like they, my bar for them, like my standards for them are...

are so high, it's actually absurd. Like, they both deserve the most pure, intentional love that ever exists. So, like... Amen. I just know that once you guys start, when there's a new boy in the picture or whatever it may be, I'm going to be, like, so hard on them. As you should. So tell me, what are your plans for the future? What kind of person are you? Like, I want to know everything because...

I don't know. I guess anybody with a best friend probably feels the same way. But I'm like, you deserve it all. So I see Meredith with a very, very kind-hearted, God-loving, awesome, awesome person. Moral of the story.

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I'm looking at my list right now. A lot of people ask about social media and like starting on it and staying consistent with it. And like Meredith does a lot of YouTube. I do a lot of TikTok, Instagram. We kind of all do all of it. But your focus is YouTube. Mine's more so TikTok. So. YouTube. YouTube. And she's been trying to convince me to get on the YouTube grind. And I just. She should. I should. But I haven't yet. I haven't. It's a skill. It's a talent. I like YouTube more in person. Yeah. So that's.

Well, YouTube's fun and it's intimate and I feel like it's a special connection, you know? Yeah. And you can pour more of your heart into it and you can be creative with it in so many ways because it's such long content. But anyways, starting on social media, tips. Tips? Girl, I don't know. Yeah.

You're like, girl, no. I'm still figuring it out. I think the same thing. It all goes back into what we've talked about like this whole entire episode is just knowing yourself and being yourself. And I think that with social media, it's really easy to get caught up in the fact that it's very saturated. There's a lot of people on the internet posting a lot of different things that it never feels like there's room for you. But if you have gotten yourself to a point where you are sure of yourself and you love yourself and you know yourself, there is always room. Like,

My biggest tip is to just start posting and keep being yourself and do things that are you, not things that are working for other people. Yeah. And, like, post, like, stuff that you would want to watch. Like, instead of, like, copying other people, like, what would you want to see? Like, if there was, I don't know. Well, it's the same way, like, don't go expect to make friends in a place that you would never go. Right. That's true. Create.

That's true. In the world that you would want to be. Yeah. Like, when I'm making, like, YouTube videos especially, like, this has been, like, a learning curve because you see so much on YouTube and you're like, oh, like, I want to make videos like this or I want to do stuff like that. But it's like, what do I want to see that doesn't, like, exist, I guess, and create something?

But it's so hard. And that's also, like, so hard to do sometimes because of how much we consume. So, like, something I like to do once in a while. And by once in a while, I mean I do this maybe twice a year. Like, I can't act like I do this every month. But I'll take a few days off.

And I know a few days sounds like a very short time period, but when I'm on the internet, like chronically online as a career, like it's, I promise it's a while, but I will like turn, I won't scroll on Instagram. I won't scroll on TikTok. I won't scroll on YouTube. I won't scroll anywhere. Even Pinterest for like a week to just really get back into my own mind, like my own creative brain. Like, yes, you know, you're going to get inspiration from people that you watch and things that you see, but like,

I think the biggest way to grow on social media now and the biggest way to pour into it is to have your own unique thing about it. And to not compare yourself. Like, comparison in any aspect of life will literally kill you. 100%. That is, like, the biggest killer. Comparison is the thief of joy. That's what they say. And they mean it. It is. And I have a sticker that was on my old laptop cover. Not my new one. But it's true. I go write it on there. You go grab a Sharpie. It's so true. Comparison will literally lead you down to, like...

In every terrible life crippling thing. In every aspect of life and in what we look like and how we act and who we are in our careers, in our relationships, in our friendships, like everything.

Yeah. And it's hard because the thing is, and something that I've had to recognize a lot, especially, I don't know if I've talked about this on the podcast, but I'm sure I have. Like in my relationship, this was such a big learning curve for me because so many people post like all of the highlights of their relationship and all of the things that their partner does for them or that they do for their partner that maybe like I don't do for Gabe or Gabe and I don't do for each other. But

That's all that we see. And I'm like, oh, well, oh, no. Like, that's not something that we have. But then I, like, really, again, bird's eye view, I step back and I'm like, okay, but look at all the things that we do for each other and look where we meet each other with each other's needs. And, like, that's not even something that would make me feel loved. It's just cool because it's something that they have. Or same thing with people's beauty. Like, oh, this person has this and this and that. And I don't have any of that. But I'm like, look what I do have. And look what gifts I do bring. So, yeah.

When I think that, when I start to compare myself or get into that cycle, I need to look like this, I need to be doing this, I literally have to cut myself off. This morning I was like,

because every morning this is such a bad habit and you can literally roast me for it I need the roasting I can't I wake up and I scroll and I can't go to bed until I've scrolled yeah and it is literally like it is so bad because I think that it's so like fine but you're subconsciously like feeding yourself in

Like you're literally like, it's so subconscious. Like you're, you're eating it up. Yeah. The more insecure it makes you, the more it makes you doubt yourself, the more it makes you worry, the more you're going to keep scrolling because that is what we are. We're so conditioned to do it, but I am going to roast you for that. No scrolling at night. That is one thing that has been, I still scroll in the morning. Don't I'm, I can't, I cut myself off in the morning. I didn't do it today and I feel lit. It's great. Crazy how much better you feel when you don't,

spend your time just eating at other people eating up other people's lives constantly that's we're not meant to do that we're not meant to do that it's like crazy coming from us as creators but like the truth is you have to have you should there has to be a balance you have to pour into your own life and make room for yeah i'd love to watch other people's life like it can be very much a beautiful thing if you keep it if you keep it healthy but like no i used to scroll i used to be a big total big

She had that scoliosis. I had scoliosis. That's crazy. Someone put that on a t-shirt. That was good. Did you just make that up? No. Is that a thing? No, no. That's a thing. Okay, okay. I mean, I don't know. People have said scoliosis to me. I'm like, okay, I have scoliosis. Or screenager. I've had screenager, yeah. But I really like scoliosis. Anyway. It's a disease. I had a bad case of that at night. And I used to be like, no, but that's when I'm the most creative. And from 10 to 3 a.m., that's when I...

work the best. And that's, that's true. I did make a lot of beautiful content in those hours, but along with that, I would also scroll in those hours and I would just get locked into literally the deadly scroll that will just keep you going and going and going that can be crippling, which sounds crazy. Like anybody who doesn't,

scroll was probably listening to this and is like this is what's wrong with our generation all these people for like but the truth is I feel anybody who's listening to this is probably in the demographic that has struggled with these kind of things so and if you think you're scrolling isn't affecting you it is I can literally confirm it doesn't matter what you're watching the second that you stop scrolling is when you'll recognize that

You're not supposed to consume that much ever, period. But I was scrolling so much at night and it would just... I would go to bed anxious and I would wake up anxious and then I would scroll again thinking that that will help...

my anxious thoughts because it'll distract me. It's temporary distraction, temporary serotonin. Yeah, it all makes things in the long term so much worse. But the second that Gabe and I started dating, obviously when you're first hanging out with a boy you like, you're not going to be scrolling on TikTok when you lay next to each other in bed. Heck no. But that doesn't go away. Gabe does not scroll at night. He doesn't scroll in the morning. This man prays right before he goes to bed, prays right when he wakes up and starts his day. And it's beautiful. But we started doing that at night and it's just...

made such an impact in my life, especially the mornings that I do wake up early with him. I just feel like my days are so much more fulfilled because I, the fulfillment comes from the inside out rather than the outside in, you know?

Like, when I was in Europe, I, like, I barely had time to even breathe. I was not scrolling. Like, I, like, it was also, like, kind of tough, too, because I feel like I wasn't creating. But, like, I wasn't scrolling at all. Like, my nighttime scrolls did not exist. The morning scrolls did not exist. I barely had service. I had no choice, basically. Yeah, you're like, I didn't choose that lifestyle, but it was great. But the way I felt mentally and about myself was, like, unreal. Like, obviously, like, God helped me with that, but...

feeling like insecure like didn't come until I was like scrolling no that's the thing if I'm not looking at other people and this this sounds like physical but it's not it's so much more than that if I'm not looking at other people's success um accomplishments yeah relationships

Things that they're doing and ways that they look. Like, I'm not disappointed in my own. I'm proud of myself. Yeah. But it also is a beautiful place to get inspired in. I'm not a social media hater. Like, there's just a line. Yeah. And there's a way to not teeter that line. Like, you can stay on the right side of it. And I think the first step is, like, literally...

No nighttime, no morning scrolling. Like save the scroll for the middle of the day. No, for real. Like we're on the toilet. Like that's when I love to scroll. No, for real, the toilet. And like also just recognizing that you have control over the media that you consume. Yes, that's very true. Like you can literally click not interested. That's very true. You can scroll past something. The problem is that we're conditioned to watch things that even hurt us because half the time we don't realize that they're hurting us. Like I don't know if you guys watch The Social Dilemma. It's true.

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Crazy that we got to this topic from telling people how to start out on social media. Because the two are so intertwined. There's a balance in creating. There's a balance in consuming. There's a balance in all of it. Well, and I think that when you have a good balance, you can create better. Yeah. Because you're not meant to know what everyone's up to. You're not even meant to look at yourself that much. That's... Oh, 100%. Even that alone is insane. So I think once you have...

Once you figure out like a healthy like scroll to... Scroll to creating ratio. To creating ratio. It's like the... Like obviously I'm still working on that. I can't... I got that scroll to do this at night and in the morning. And in the morning. No, but I do notice big time that the content I create is... Again, there's balance. Like if I'm not watching anything, I'm not creating much either. But if I'm...

Being inspired a little bit, I create what I think that I actually love. But the second that I'm just creating what I think is working for other people is the second that my content isn't me anymore. And that's the second you stop growing. And that's when social media isn't as valuable anymore. It loses its...

The cons start to outweigh the pros. Yes. And that goes a long way. Liking things because other people like things. Yes. You can't create other things and like other things because that's all you're seeing. Yeah. So. No. And this all, literally all of this goes back to just knowing yourself. It all goes back. And loving yourself and pouring that time and energy that you are pouring so much into other people and other people's passions, other people's likings, other people that you like. Like the more, all that energy that you pour into outside things, pour into yourself.

right and more things come you know like more things come not more things you know what i mean yeah yeah yeah the right things come the right thing the right things that's true true put that on a t-shirt we're gonna have like six t-shirts from this podcast i know somebody somebody let us know no meredith and i for her birthday wait you got did you get me the first one did i get it for you

You got them both. Yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah. Period. So you're like, I didn't buy you those. Why would I do that? But Meredith's birthday a couple years ago.

we would always say why do bad things happen to good people like anything anytime like if we get a red light on the way to the beach or something and like this is the worst part I thought I made it up like I thought that that was my line I thought it was her line too I was so so so so sure that it was my line and this goes into what you're consuming you will literally eat it up and think it's your own that is from friends Ross said it and I saw that I watched it on like

When I was re-watching it. And Ross said it. And I was like... I paused it. And I was like... You're like, no. I'm a fraud. No. No. Because I believe that she made this up too. And I was... So I didn't. I didn't make it up. Yeah. But still. Ross Geller did. We made it our own. Yes. And we said it all the time. So I put it on a sweatshirt for her. Yes. One year. Yes. And then I made her another one. That says... DreamWorks makes the teamwork. This is going to make me sound like an idiot. It says DreamWorks makes the teamwork. Yeah.

Because I said that. No, it was an accident. I didn't do that purposely. I just said, well, you know what they say, dream work makes the teamwork. And Lexi was like, what? And I was like, dream work makes the teamwork. And she was like, no, it's teamwork makes the teamwork. And I was like, you know what? Maybe dream work does make the teamwork. And the more you think about it, it could. It could make sense both ways. Profound. For real. But anyways, guys, thanks for tuning in. We'll do this again soon. They're like, we've learned nothing from this.

No, I think we gave you some good bits and pieces somewhere in there. Oh my gosh. But we love you very much. Love you. Thanks for coming and tuning in to the Moments Podcast.